一大班人玩,如何防止尷尬出現?冇信心勝任工作,點算?

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Q: Hi! man神 今日想問關於人生QandA。

 

小弟睇左man啲片一段時間,獲益良多,知道要進步就要踏出first step同埋要take action。所以我就喺大學宿舍申請做導師(同時我自己都係大學學生),喺黎緊9月開始工作。

 

呢份職位主要目的係帶動新住hall嘅同學,令佢地多啲參與同投入hall既活動,可以喺hall認識更多朋友,最後有個難忘既hall life。

 

而我作為宿舍導師,就要結合一班各自唔認識既同學(情況有啲似orientation camp既組爸媽)。

 

正因為呢個任務咁有意義,所有我就申請左呢個post,希望可以幫人add value。不過實際上嘅我,都未有信心去勝任呢個post, 所以以下有幾條問題想問:

 

1 因為我冇乜信心,一直擔心黎緊會做得唔好,覺得自己能力未夠。所以想知可以點消除心中恐懼,去做一件自己冇信心勝任嘅任務?

 

===> Every NEW task makes you nervous and doubt yourself.

But you just DO IT despite of fear because then you’ll realize you didn’t die at all.

 

2 我本身係個內向既人,有時同唔識嘅人傾計,會有唔知有咩話題既尷尬情況出現。所以想問可以點對住一大班人進行fun同埋有內容既對話,防止尷尬嘅moment出現?同埋點自然地結合呢班各自唔認識既同學?

===> Don’t take about religion or politics

 

===> Best is Not to just talk, but to engage them with fun GROUP activities.

 

===> Alos, deadair only means TENSION is increasing, use it as a tool for great vibes/atmosphere.

 

3 點建立召喚力去帶領呢班同學去投入hall life?

 

===> Lead by example. Be social yourself first and invite people to join you, and show people that they can have a great fun life if they follow what you do.

 

===> Also understand that NOT everyone will want to have a fun social life in halls.

===> Figure out the MOTIVATION of why they join hall life, have a 1-2-1 chat to see what they NEED or want.

 

4 另外,如果比宿舍學生開玩笑,而踏到底線時,應該點作出回應?

===> Tell them in PRIVATE that certain things are NOT COOL.

Don’t confront them in public to help “save their face”.

你的學生A上

 

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被女frdzone十次都唔知死!經典失敗案例…

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Q:你好呀Man Son!我係啱啱開始睇你嘅觀眾,覺得你講嘅嘢都好有道理。所以我有啲溝女上嘅問題好想請教一下你。

 

我係一個中學生,系一年前因為Fd搭Fd嘅關係識咗一個女仔,但係嗰時雙方都唔係太熟,只係好間唔中先會成班fd一齊聚會食下飯咁。

 

到左近呢幾個月,我地兩個就無啦啦熟絡咗好多。佢有時出街都會主動約我出去,雖然佢都有約多一個女仔fd一齊出去,但係就令我地之間嘅關係拉近咗。

 

慢慢熟咗之後我就覺得佢好似比緊Signal我話比我聽佢鍾意我咁……

 

有時會仲會打電話俾我同我傾計,因為知道我同佢讀同一科所以約我出去補習,補習果陣就淨係得我地兩個一齊,當中我有試過同佢身體接觸,正常嘅身體接觸會都吾會抗拒,有一次我口渴佢仲比佢支水我飲,食飯個時仲吹過我耳仔。

 

佢生日嗰時亦邀請我上佢屋企玩,而我亦都係佢第一個被邀請嘅男仔。佢亦都會問我嘅意見,用咩胭脂或者用邊個書包咁。

 

我之前話個想睇下自己亂毛係咩樣,佢就主動咁幫我用曲髮夾整咗個頭出黎。有時仲會Send啲好笑嘅vdo比我睇或者將佢鍾意睇嘅愛情片介紹比我。

 

呢啲因素都令我覺得佢係對我有好感。亦因為係咁我都慢慢鍾意咗佢。

 

但係有一次佢就係我面前分享會係IG識咗一個男仔仲傾過電話,但係就覺得佢太被動所以就吾鐘意咁。我唔清楚佢都係係想我主動啲定係真係當咗我係fd所以分享呢件事比我聽。

 

當然,我都有試過想同佢曖昧,但係佢就好似好抗拒咁。有一次佢wts問我「做緊咩」,我就覆佢「掛住我😏」咁樣,仲仲問我係咪有病同係咪燒壞左個腦,反應好大。同時亦都好尷尬….令我覺得呢個女仔好似將我當左係朋友咁。

 

到底係我唔識得曖昧定係佢真係當咗我係Fd?我亦都可以點樣成功咁吸引到佢?佢比我嘅signal同佢嘅回覆好似好大反差咁。因為佢唔係一個對人人都好隨便嘅女仔,所以先令我好糾結,希望Man Son你可以幫下我手….

 

By K

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點解不如做男女朋友呀 = 收皮!

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Q: 覺得你啲片好有用!支持你ar

Hi 我系岩岩畢業嘅學生,話說早個半月前系一次面試中,我同佢傾計既時候比左我電話佢。之後一齊討論面試既內容等,之後其間我同佢每星期都會見一次左右,好好傾關係幾好。

 

但我一直表現得系忽冷忽熱,直到有排我可能表現得對佢太冷淡,我就開始對佢好少少。而我知道自己仲意左佢,有時間我會對佢做啲曖昧行為,吾想變為fd鬆,feel到佢系吾抗拒我既,覺得佢已經知道我仲意佢,但佢仲系到諗緊我地系咪適合發展進一步情侶關係。

 

直到近幾日知道佢因爲要入camp半年,每星期得1日放假休息。我知道佢入左camp既話就會冇心機放系我同佢既關係到,所以我前幾日等到時機岩既時間就直接拖住佢,同佢講不如做男女朋友等。。之後佢當下好緊張我就冇迫佢。

 

隔一日之後,我打電話同佢傾,因為佢好似覺得我吾系認真點解可以識一個月就表白,所以我就打電話比佢,內容大概系👉🏻認真同佢表白一次👉🏻問佢可吾可以試一個月,期間我吾會做咩越界行為,會認真對待我地關係等

 

我feel到佢系開心既,之後佢好似一早諗好答案咁,同我講話想維持現狀,話入左camp就好難維持等,吾想拍散拖,話想了解多啲先,之後睇下點

 

最後依幾日我地keep住現況正正常常,冇老監既,但我咁樣比佢知道我仲意佢,好似變到我好冇價值,隨手可得咁,佢好似覺得我一定會等佢咁,俾唔到吸引力佢。你覺得我應該點做先可以同佢發展為情侶?- Jacky

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妒忌囡囡食洋腸?怕被鬼佬歧視?

Hi Manson My name is Chester,  I need ur advice, Please help me

 

Q: I was a pua in tst and I picked up much girls as I could

.Sts when I saw some paki guy and white guys pick up and touching th girl.I feel jelous extremely since I can do it exactly. And sts when I saw some asian girls with a white guy. The girls act like looking down at me and Made me feel so bad. Can u give me some advice?Manson

 

Sorry I am afriad that U received too many mails so I reply you here in case.Long story short . I have been lving and discriminated against in US and I know the trick they made fun of asian. So I was so extremely jealous when the white guy carries asian girl and the girl seems not nice to me or looking down to me. I am a PUA for 5 years and still cant get out of that.

Sts when I saw a girl that I could pick up but got picked up by paki guy or white guy, I kept thinking negatively and tryna block them.Am I half crazy for that.I feel like my weakness is a white guy as my enemies and girl is a weapon. I feel like I need advice otherwise I will go crazy. Please give me a advice Manson. I am looking forward to see u – Shing S Li

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#1 Every guy or girl has their sexual preference or fantasies, stop trying to please EVERY girl.

 

#2 Being attractive = polarizing = have your own standards = pissing of certain people (HATE) while having fans who LOVE you.

 

#3 PUA doesn’t help because of the idea of fvcking all girls and using the number of “conquered pussies” as success metrics.

 

#4 Your real enemy is your insecurity as a Chinese man.

Embrace yourself, expand your strengths, focus on people who isn’t discriminatory.

收到好人卡後,囡囡群起杯葛我,點算?

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Q: Hi Man, 最近開始留意你嘅分享,非常支持!加油!

我有個問題想請教,我先前收到好人卡,我其實已經慢慢整理緊心理,當番女仔係普通同事,

 

但佢用好奇怪既方法避我(避得黎又比我見到佢閃開,有時又當我透明,又群起佢嘅小圈子杯葛我),其實佢會係d咩心態,我又應該點樣處理先洽當? 謝謝你的意見

 

=> An obvious immature response from an immature young girl, detailed answer please find here:

同女text到凌晨三四點,約得佢未?

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Q: Hi Manson ,咁我都睇咗你個Channel大約都應該有3到4個月到,你D片其實都對我日常生活都好大幫助啦,咁都希望你嘅Channel都可以越做越大啦,

 

Btw,我有樣嘢想請教下你,話説我前幾日就同我一個想溝嘅對象wtsapp到夜晚3 4點,咁之後隔咗幾日我就冇再揾佢,

 

係禽晚佢就主動wtsapp我啦,但係之後倾咗冇耐我就已讀咗佢

 

咁我想請教下,我係咪開始對果果對象有小小吸引力同埋我下步係咪應該嘗試去約佢出尼呢? – Jeffrey

 

Q:  Man, 其實係e一刻有冇得做愛唔係最重要,而係點樣可以認識到女仔,而且可以發展下去,因為我本人係好怕羞,自信心唔算高的人,請問有咩方法可以幫我,教我

– Kenneth

 

Both questions have been answered in detail HERE:

見到靚女失控,點放鬆?點解你咁想同女人講心事?

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Q: 話說我係一個啱啱入職既part time, 今日舖頭gathering完後,我同個已經有boyfriend靚女同事搭車返歸,佢問我有冇追緊女仔。

 

我即刻緊張,然後失控,我答佢冇因為唔想再hurt女仔,之後爆自己以前幾賤,又俾d對話佢睇,好似逼佢知我d秘密咁。

==> Needy behavior.

You want to vomit your history to her & get her to know you BECAUSE you want to earn her VALIDATION, LOVE and ACCEPTANCE!

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但我後知後覺feel倒自己錯咗,但我當時控制唔到自己,請問我以後仲應該點同依個女仔溝通好?繼續講心事?定收皮?

 

其實尼個失控既問題我一直都有,平時同普通冇feel既女仔conversation完全冇問題。

 

但當對住有feel,靚女就會緊張,然後失控,我真係好想克服尼個問題!以後遇到緊張既情況下應該點放鬆?同埋可以點解決尼個問題? – Andy

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Being nervous is not a problem, being not in control is.

Solution:

#1 Nervous = Excitement = Same biological response (Adrenaline)

#2 You’re idealizing her, you want her to LIKE you, which is NOT an attractive male attitude.

#3 Deep Breathing = activate parasympathetic nervous system = CALM you down!

[溝女測驗] 呢位巴打犯咗幾多錯!?

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Q: (請不要透露名字)我識左一個女仔大約2星期,佢失戀冇耐,佢約過我一次出街,之後我就被佢嗰種氣質吸引,

 

咁我同佢去街都有幫佢攞野,幫佢開野飲,我都有主動搵話題,

 

出完街隔左幾日我就表白,佢就話考慮下,咁最後都拒絕左,咁佢都話仲可以做下朋友咁,

 

咁我就想約多佢一次出街,但係佢都唔太願意,話唔得閒,

 

請問有咩方法追佢? – W

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點解同女好好傾唔代表你溝到佢!?

 

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Q:  我想問野,我係網上識左個女仔,同佢由app傾到wts,傾既內容咩都有啲,

 

不過都唔係好深入,但係傾既內容又唔係hea答,又一次機緣下出泥見過面,大家都幾好,無咩尷尬,之後都幾好傾,但係都係上午同收工後,其他時間都係唔回覆,

 

我諗住傾都唔錯會約到,點知又fail,不過佢既回覆係”好似好好玩 🤯

 

但我星期日要執行里同準備旅行啲野😢” ,

 

我主動已經約過兩次都係唔成功,我想知點可以令佢同我升溫,同我唔知佢係咪真係對我無好感或興趣,但好多朋友睇過都覺得係有啲啲? – Wind

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#1 Too much rapport, no sexual spark of sexual tension

#2 Over Communication

#3 Too platonic in all interactions

#4 Can’t save it because you’ve ruined the 1st face-to-face hang out

 

點解諗住溝女就溝唔到女?如何變得堅強?

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Q: Hi Man神,我係Dee,長話短說,最近工作壓力大,精神攰令自己冇心情同人傾偈,唔太想向人提供價值,感覺被吸走能量而不斷抱怨

 

但我的朋友話成熟男人應該要堅強,即使工作再攰,在見面當下都要做到最好令人滿意跟自己相處

 

如果係咁Man神,我可以點樣訓練先會令自己變得堅強呢?

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#1 Life Experience

#2 Train your body & mind for strength, protect your mindset everyday

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Oh Man,原來領袖係要開放對每個人都要對話交流,我仲好似「活在自己世界中」,只跟有興趣的人說話,難怪我在團體的受歡迎程度唔太高

 

But有件事想請教你,其實無論係咩關係,包括溝女,都係先從識人交朋友嘅心態開始嗎?因為我每逢帶住溝女心態面對陌生嘅女仔總係好唔自在

Man神多謝你用心解答我的問題 – Dee

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#1 The more strangers you talk to, the higher chance you will be successful

#2 Attractive Social Mindset is always:

– Have FUN for yourself first

– Bring that FUN and positive emotions to others

– See who’s OPEN to connect with and see if they meet your STANDARDS (i.e. You QUALIFY them).