標籤: Manupmanson

Brother, do you define yourself as an introverted person? Or worse still, do you always say you are too 怕醜 to meet women?

 

If you do, I have a good news and bad news for you:

Good news = Introverted is okay, women don’t just want extraverted guys

Bad news = You need to get rid of your shyness

 

#1 What’s the difference?

Introverted = A person mostly concerned with his own thoughts/feelings, instead of external things. They gain energy by spending time with themselves.

 

Shy = Being reserved, nervous, 細膽 in the presence of other people

 

So shyness is the lack of comfort with other people -> weakness

But introversion is just a preference of how you spend time -> NOT weakness, it’s a strength in many writers/producers/leaders

 

#2 So how do you be more extroverted & outgoing when you feel nervous?

 

Simple exercise to develop extroverted muscle: When you leave your house and walk, do a mental note of the things you see.

 

E.g. How many 7-11/OK can you find along the way? Taxi? Suited up?

 

When you do this, you’re forcing yourself to look outside yourself and thus training your brain to think in a more extroverted way.

 

#3 Advanced Exercise: When you speak, incorporate the phrase
“I love/Iike …… + [observation based on 5 senses]

 

e.g. the music in this bar … + [reason] e.g. because Maroon 5 is really my favorite band!”

 

It sounds silly, but the point is this forces you to get out of your head to find sth in the environment! (+ being positive, talk about things you enjoy)

 

Try this everyday for 1 week and see how more extroverted you become!

How do you know if a girl is worth your time & effort to embark on a relationship?

If you like what a woman tells you about what she wants in her future, should you stay in the relationship to WAIT for that ideal day to come?

Today we’ll explore whether we should OR should NOT embark on /stay in a relationship, plus the IDEAL women you should be looking for.

Full episode here:

點解女人口講一樣嘢，做就另一樣嘢！？ 【男女感情】

Have you ever wondered why women are “口不對心”? 

Today, I will reveal the secret WHY men and women find it difficult to communicate with each other.

And most importantly, how YOU as a man can finally UNDERSTAND her words REALLY mean 🙂

Full content can be found here:

五種肌肉鍛鍊，令她愛上與你做愛！【男人必看】

Every man wants to be a better lover, because if a man can’t sexually satisfy a woman, he feels “less than a man”.

So here’s 5 little-known exercises that increase your sexual performance, if you want a fvcking awesome sex life with her. 

Full content can be found here:

女人！其實男人想要呢樣嘢！【男女感情】

Women, do you want to know what men want? Do you know want to know how to “lock” a guy’s heart?

And men, do you want to know what you emotionally NEED so that you can communicate that to your love?

Details of the episode can be found here:

做愛時，點解女人鍾意被扯頭髮？【性知識】

Today we will cover 3 things:

• Why hair pulling feels good physiologically
• Psychologically
• And how to properly pull her hair?

Enjoy!

女人發癲時，如何安全過渡？[男女感情]

Last time we talked about why women can be “crazy”, today let’s talk about what to do when she’s in that emotional state.

 

#1 Accept her behavior first

The first thing you must train yourself doing (I know it’s hard) is to STOP JUDGING HER negatively.

 

Because if you judge her with your default logical linear mind, say that she is such a fvcked up girl, OR she is crazy,

 

OR she has sth wrong with her, you have already failed a woman’s shittest.

 

Just like we said last time, if you can first approve & STAY with her when she’s emotional,

 

you are NOT TRUSTWORTHY enough in the bedroom for her to also 100% let go during orgasm.

 

So let go of “what she should do as a rational human being”, observe this emotional storm with your MASCULINE PRESENCE.

 

#2 Stay grounded like a rock in YOUR OWN REALITY/frame.

 

Feminine women are like the ocean, their emotions are always ups & downs like waves and always based on moment-to-moment reality.

 

But a masculine man is more like a rock – solid, grounded, calm, centered.

 

So when a woman becomes emotional, it’s YOUR JOB as a man to STAY GROUNDED in your reality.

 

STOP fighting her emotions or trying to solve her problems with your logic, what she needs is YOU FEELING WHAT SHE FEEL!

 

It’s a challenge to your MASCULINITY to see if you can maintain your rock solid reality you want to live in, so can you do that?

 

#3 Ground her Back To Reality

 

Once she has expressed her emotions like a storm, you can bring her back to the TRUTH of reality by saying sth like,

 

“Yes honey, I can feel that you feel XYZ about this. It is [feel] that XXX. I actually have a few observations/thoughts about this situation, are you ready to listen to that?”

 

This way you are not just showing your love & approval of her, but you’re standing on your masculine ground to offer your perspective.

 

Even if she doesn’t agree with you, she still respect you because you’re not a doormat who is too afraid to express your own thoughts.

點解女人可以咁痴線？[男女感情]

 

Well, what I am about to tell you is quite controversial, and that is also one of the biggest fear of men.

 

Maybe you’ve experienced these moments with your GF, or during a date, or a girl you’re attracted to.

 

That is, when she starts to “act crazy”, you as a man think “Why the F did she do that? That doesn’t make sense! That is irrationally! I don’t get it!”

 

#1 But what I want to tell you is that often when you say this to yourself,

 

it’s NOT that women are crazy, but it’s HER way of showing HER EMOTIONS, which is by definition NOT about logic/rationality.

 

Why is it good that a girl shows you her CRAZY side?

 

It’s because she is giving you a shit test, an opportunity to see if you are a man who can handle her in her FULLNESS.

 

#2 Understand: No girl will shit test you if she isn’t interested in being intimate with!

 

If she is always polite, composed, elegant, rational, logical like a motherfvcking judge or government voice, guess what?

 

There’s NO fvcking passion/sexual tension/arousal/excitment that exists between a man and a woman!

 

So if a girl shows you her emotions, at least she is comfortable enough with you to see if you can handle her emotionally and sexually.

 

#3 Why sexually? Because when a woman let go SEXUALLY and really feel the pleasure, she HAS to trust you that you can handle her in the bed and you’re not scared away by her real raw animalistic desires during orgasm!

 

So next time a girl go “crazy” on you, that’s a compliment.

 

Handle the shit test well, know that she is interested in you, and have even more passionate sex later when you get together 🙂

How do you avoid being “creepy” that scares women away?

Below are 3 examples of a creepy guy who keepss escalating without calibrating.

Mistake #1 Too much eye contact

Mistake #2  Get too close too soon!

Mistakes #3 Too much TOUCH too soon

All details can be found here:

Do you know why rejection is such a BIG FEAR for us?

 

If you want to study more, you can watch a Ted Talk by Guy Winch “Why We All Need to Practice Emotional First Aid”

 

Reason #1 Rejection feels so bad because it PHYSICALLY HURTS.

MRI study: The part of your brain that lights up when a man gets rejected = same part of the brain that lights up when he experiences physical pain.

 

So rejection = being punched/stabbed, your body tells you it HURTS.

 

Reason #2 Our brains are wired this way because of evolution

Back in caveman days, if a man gets rejected by social circle = he is alone to defend against wild animals = unlikely to survive

 

So evolution makes us FEEL the rejection pain so that we change our behavior and remain in the tribe to stay alive.

 

Reason #3 We tend to imagine that everyone notices our rejection/ppl are watching, thus exaggerates the painful experience.

 

In reality, most ppl are just stuck in their own thinking, and that’s why no one actually pays attention to what you do.

 

Solution #1: Stop all self-criticism

Stop saying “she doesn’t like me/ damn I said sth wrong/ I am not good enough.”

=> Instead, reframe this as “Haha, she likes me and that’s why she gives me shit tests.” Have this “she likes me”frame 100% time.

 

Solution #2 Write down the Top 10 Qualities every day

– Reinforce and speak out aloud everyday why you are WORTH IT to build your self-esteem.

 

Solution #3: Proactive Socializing

– Always be meeting new people, new women. Don’t be passive and let your frds find you. Be proactive weekly so that you always find people who accepts and loves you.