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Hey brothers, I want to quickly share with you the #1 thing you must do to AVOID putting yourself in the FZ.

 

Here’s the truth: If you don’t create a sexual vibe ASAP, you risk putting yourself in the FZ.

 

When most guys meet a new girl, they think they need to show her that he is a nice, funny, interesting guy; THEN they will create sexual attraction.

 

That’s fucking wrong, because when a girl meets you, she will put you in one of the 4 levels:

 

#1 Rapist/Creepy Guy -> Ignore you, say fuck off to you or get rid of you ASAP

 

#2 Potential Friend -> She thinks you are nice, friendly, polite, gentleman. She doesn’t mind talking to you and may even think if she can turn you into another soldier.

 

#3 Potential BF -> She thinks you have BF potential, as simple as that.

 

#4 Potential Lover -> She feels horny, she starts to image to fuck you, she feels a weird nervous desire that she doesn’t normally feel

 

Now, here’s an eye-opening lesson for you: The biggest mistake most guys make is to present himself as a potential bf material!  

 

I know it sounds illogical, because it feels natural to present to her your so  many good qualities you have as a BF

 

e.g. you like to travel, you love surfing, you also do yoga like her, you love your job, you two laugh together etc.

 

But here’s the million $$$ TRUTH:

Presenting your bf qualities will NOT make her want to fuck you! Contrastly, a girl will only want YOU to become her BF if she wants to fuck you!

 

If she doesn’t have sexual attraction to you, she won’t want you as a BF. So if she doesn’t desire to fuck you, you will land in the no sex friend zone!

 

This is exactly why you and many guys fail to naturally become her BF because you are trying to put yourself in the BF zone!

 

Women don’t think like that.

 

Truth is when women think “Well, maybe it’s FUN to sleep with him even I don’t see him as a BF material.”,

and when she sleeps with you, that is when she will LATER think she wants to date you and make you her bf!

 

So the lesson is: Potential Lover First, Potential BF second. Don’t reverse the priority or you will get FZed!

 

If you want to learn more about HOW to present yourself as a lover, we discuss it inside MTFU Insider where…

Hey bro, I have a quick cold hard truth I must tell you.

 

For the past 2 years, I have been receiving a TON of emails and questions from my coaching clients and I have realized one TRUTH…

 

And that is: If you ask me questions about ONE particular girl, you are already fucked.

 

Why? It’s because when you describe to me a situation about “that one specific girl”,

 

it already implies that this girl is killing your abundance mindset and that is exactly WHY you becoming more & more unattractive in the situation.

 

When you ask a specific Q about ONE specific girl, you think that YOUR situation is so different, so special, so unique from anything else.

 

But the truth is: Female Psychology operates very similarly,

 

the most paradoxical truth about women is that ONLY if you don’t focus on/care too much about ONE particular girl CAN YOU get the most amount of girls…

 

Does that mean there’s nothing you can do to change a situation? Of course not, there are of course ways to salvage your messed up shit as best as you can.

 

But understand you are coming from a weak frame, and most things you do are just Damage Control/ 修補損傷/ 损害控制/ 意思就是采取措施将造成的损害降到最低.

 

Your effort spend saving from a fucked up situation is better spent on getting a new girl.

 

This is deep shit, most guys won’t understand what I mean.

 

But if you kind of get what I mean, congrats and maybe you should join us in MTFU Insider where we’ll explore more deep advanced strategies that I don’t talk about in YT.

 

If you are interested, send an email to support@manthefvckup.com and let us know.  

Yo brother, what is your favorite “opener”? What pickup lines do you find most effective?

 

If you are now researching for the best opener, OR do have a best opener, I guarantee you aren’t being the most attractive version of yourself.

 

Why? Because the best way to “open” a girl is NOT about “opener”;

 

And if you look for openers, you are focusing on the wrong thing.

 

What should be focus on? Great question, we should focus on getting her ATTENTION.

 

When you want to approach a girl, DON”T think how should I open this girl.

Instead, think “how can I get her attention?”

 

E.g. You want to stop a “moving girl”?

 

-> Tap her shoulder/grab her arm/step in front of her to GET HER ATTENTION

 

E.g. How to open girls in“mixed set”?

 

-> Tap her shoulder & get her attention, OR be polite to blend in with her friends first to indirectly get her attention UNLESS they don’t want to

 

Can you see how you are over-complicating the 開場白 thing when you focus too much on the WORDS YOU SAY, and forget the real purpose of getting her ATTENTION in the first 5-10 seconds?

 

So stop asking for the right openers, start getting HER ATTENTION in whatever creative ways you can and go from there!

I still remember many years ago, I started learning dating advice because I experienced a very bad breakup with a girl I “fell in love”with via long d r/p.

It took me nearly 2 years to recover, how I behaved was so stupid and wrong, but that pain motivated me to start learning the TRUTH about women, sex, dating and relationships.

 

So looking back, if someone asked me what weapons do I find most powerful to attract women, I think there are 3 valuable lessons every man must learn.

 

#1 Enjoying yourself and having FUN is so fucking crucial to attracting women.

 

“Fun”is the most undervalued weapon to get girls. No matter what game you play (daygame, night game, social circle game, text game, online dating), if you are NOT having FUN when you meet women,

 

it is very EASY to burn out yourself in your journey to improve your sex life.

 

So you have to find the FUN when you interact with girls in whatever place you meet them. If you don’t enjoy it, it’s hard to get good or be truly attractive.

 

#2 Becoming attractive is NOT “fake it till you make it”, it is about expanding your personality, owning your imperfect self and courageously expressing every good/bad, angel/demon, socially-acceptable/taboo of you with no filter.  

 

Because the truth is that the most attractive version of ourselves/ our True Self is when we were a baby, when we were NOT imposed so many social/cultural rules on us that limit our natural expression.

 

Our True Self is always curious, calm, confident, courageous, playful, present, expressive.

 

Becoming attractive is NOT about adding new layers, it’s about stripping off all the bullshit fake selves we now hold and let our True Self shine!

 

#3 Game is NOT about what you do, it is about how you react to what you and she do!

 

If you focus on what to do, you will always worry about “whether you are doing it right or wrong”, which guarantees you never take action and waste time.

 

However, if you focus on“how I react to whatever happens”,  you can literally can do/say whatever to women because you have the CONFIDENCE & SELF-BELIEF that “No matter what happens, I can handle it”.

 

This is a fucking powerful paradigm shift on how you view game!

 

Stop worrying about not doing it right in the first step, focus on how to playfully/nonchalantly REACT to whatever things she says/does to you!

 

If you get this, your game is going to be at least 10x more effective 🙂

I know I know, maybe you just hate spending time thinking how to “game”  a girl.

But as annoying as it seems, making women feel attracted to you IS a game, and those players who know the rules will win and be rewarded in the game.  

 

So unless you plan to be a sexless monk, let me show you the ONE WORD you must rmb to win this attraction game.

 

#1 Before I share that, understand this 禁忌: You should NEVER let her know how you feel about her after you’ve met her (or even before you have slept with her)!

 

Whenever you give away too much info too soon, you will make her think she GETS you.

 

That means you are TOO predictable, and she will conclude you are just another guy who wants her, who likes her, who she can PLAY in her palms.

 

When she put you in such category, she thinks she has figured out ALL of you, and you will be less fun, less exciting, less attractive.

 

So first thing to do: Stop 擦鞋奉承佢, stop begging her to approve you, stop bragging about yourself to impress her, stop agreeing everything she says.

 

#2 Do you know why you should also STOP liking/commenting on her IG/FB posts? It’ because it’s so damn clear that you are 好似一個粉絲咁崇拜緊佢。

 

Women only fuck idols, but never fans.

 

So STOP operating like a fan, STOP being too available via phone/text/in person, STOP cancelling your original plans to hangout with her, STOP being so agreeable, STOP always eager to do her favors etc…

 

You do this? It’s game over

 

#3 NOW, if these strategies never work, what works? Well, remember this world forever: Uncertainty is your weapon to keep her interested.

 

The more uncertain she is about your feelings, the more she is in the 灰色地帶, the more she thinks about you, the more value she places on you, the more she can’t help to figure you out.  

 

Women want to play the game, she wants to almost do anything to WIN OVER a man she values, women WANT to work to earn your time, attention and approval!

 

#4 A powerful way to implement this is inject UNCERTAINTY after a first date.

 

E.g. Next time you spend an enjoyable evening together, it’s predictable to lock down the second date ASAP.

 

However, say this next time『好啦，走啦，下次見』with a straight face LOL

 

I guarantee this will drive her CRAZY because your 漫不經心的態度  will make her think to herself:

 

“Oh shit, did he actually have a good time? Did I do sth wrong that offends him? Did he find be hot and sexy? Did he not want me!?!?”

 

Then when you text her in a few days for the second meetup/invitation, the tension will be released and she will be happily say a fuck yes to you and can’t wait to see you.

 

So brother, how are you going to use UNCERTAINTY in your attraction game? 😉

If you have ever been FZed, you know how painful it is.

You are always with her, observing her, admiring her BUT she just never sees you as a sexual guy she wants to fuck or get together with.

 

Today, let’s explore the 5 common reasons WHY you are in this no sex zone and end up being an emotional tampon for her.

 

#1 Because you are operating as her little FAN!

 

What does fan do? They closely monitor every single move their idol do, and always following their 一舉一動。

 

If you are secretly observe her social media activity, liking her stuff, commenting her stuff, DMing her stuff, can you see WHY you are putting yourself in the FZ by being 1 of the 1000s admirer in her fan club that she is never going to fuck?

 

#2 Because you are like a fucking 招財貓！What does a 招財貓 do？It fucking nods its head!

 

If you agree with whatever the fuck she says, if you pretend you LIKE everything she likes/does, if you NEVER express your real raw personality that might offend her, can you see WHY she just can’t feel attraction to you?

 

#3 Because you are predictable as fuck like a boring movie!

 

No one wants to watch a movie if they already know the storyline, climax & ending.  

 

So if you are so scared of “making the wrong move” and just do “whatever that please her”,  you have to understand that your behaviors are so predictable that she is BORED by you.

 

And in a girl’s dictionary, boring = legs closed & dry = FZ you!

 

#4 Because you are buying her gifts like a fucking father.

 

You think a sudden gift is a romantic surprise? You think showing how 關心/細心 you are and rewarding her even though she did no shit to earn it is attractive?

Well, kindness is NEVER going to make her wet, otherwise girls will want to fuck the Buddha!

 

#5 Because you try to be a 白馬王子去拯救佢！

 

I know it’s deep in a man’s psychology to protect women.

 

But if you do these “saving acts” hoping she will see you as a 紳士勇士, if you always ready to listen to her problems,

 

if you jump on every opportunity to SAVE HER, I guarantee you will become a nice gay friend she THANKS but never feel the arousal to fuck.

 

So are you now in the FZ?

 

Great, it’s because YOU have put yourself in such submissive role as a friend, YOU purposefully hide your sexual desire,

 

YOU overvaluing her interests/opinions/ideas/problems/self-esteem while undervaluing your value as a man.

 

So tell me: Who is to blame when you find yourself in a FZ?

Hey brother, do you think you are a 正直有道德嘅好人? If yes, do you find yourself compelled to say yes and always help others (guys/girls) when they ask?

 

If yes, you have a nice guy disease because you don’t know how to set boundaries and say no.

 

#1 Whether it’s people asking you to help them because they know you are free in the weekend…

 

OR people seeking your advice because they know you are good at sth…

 

OR a girl wanting sex now but you just don’t feel like fucking her…

 

If you don’t learn to say no when you don’t want to do sth, if you don’t set boundaries for yourself, you will end up being torn apart by life, making everyone happy, but end up making yourself the most miserable people in life.

 

#2 Maybe you say, “But I am worried that if I say no, they won’t like me!”

 

Well, one, we can’t control ppl’s reactions or thoughts,  and it’s everyone’s responsibility to take ownership of their emotions…

Second, if saying no once or twice ruins the r/p, maybe such r/p isn’t strong/important enough.

 

So understand: people who are meant to be in your life will stay, those who aren’t won’t.  

 

If you don’t set boundaries for yourself, you are a weak spineless beta bitch who will NEVER be respected/desired/loved.

 

#3 So stop saying yes to social activities that  you don’t want to go.

Stop staying in a bad first date when you don’t like the girl in front of you.

Stop fucking fat ugly chicks you don’t genuinely like or find sexually desirable.

 

If things are not a fuck yes, then it is a hell no. And you better utilize your most valuable asset i.e. time/attention on doing things that you genuinely love!

 

Further Resource: <When I Say No, I Feel Guilty>, to be touched in MTFU Insider

I know you feel happy, excited and sweet when you enter a r/p…

I know you think FINALLY you have found “the one” and you will forever be loved and accepted by this woman…

 

But do you know even if you both fucked each other well, the more expectations you bring into a r/p the more you two will fuck up the r/p?

 

Here are a few common expectations that you bring into a r/p that slowly KILL a r/p:

 

#1 “I expect you to love me in a way I want without me saying it.”

 

Wake the fuck up bro. If you don’t express your desires & secret wishes to her, she won’t be able to mindread you, fulfill your needs, or suck your dick.

 

STOP withholding your needs and learn to communicate honestly what you want in the r/p. If you feel scared, learn to be vulnerable and say “Hey, I want to ask you sth but I feel scared coz I worry what you think about me. Can you be open-minded and don’t judge me if I share my thoughts with you?”

#2 “I expect she loves me unconditionally coz I love her unconditionally”

 

It is very romantic to have such thought and I am not arguing that it can’t be possible. Yet, in almost all cases, healthy intimate r/ps start from conditional love. You just can’t expect unconditional love like your parents might have given you in the past.

 

So stop treating women like queen, stop letting her abusing you emotionally/ physically/ financially…and then back-rationalize that “you really love her”.

 

Because the truth is your self-esteem is so low that you NEED a psychologically fucked up woman to give you tiny pathetic attention to validate your worth as a man.

 

Does this hurt? Yes, because that’s the truth that cracks your naive fantasy.

 

#3 “I expect “true love” requires zero hard work and we’ll just live happily ever after.”

 

Can you see how fucked up your mind is by Disney/Hollywood romantic movies? I don’t blame you… coz most of us are force-fed with these lies.

 

The truth is no matter how compatible/loving you two are, relationships require a fuck ton of work and effort! You change, she changes, the relationship changes. Stop falling into the masculine trap thinking “one day everything will be over and I can finally relax.”

 

No, you can NEVER relax because if you 順其自然, your relationship is going to fall apart because life is either growth or death.

 

So just like everything else, you have to be conscious, put in the work required in a relationship in order to enjoy the fruits of it.

 

If you aren’t ready, that’s totally okay and you should pursue other things in life first.

Before you attract any women in your life, you need to have a good foundation as an attractive male.

 

Women are like icing on a cake, she can’t be your focus on your life, thus you need to have 3 CORE PIECES before you can bring her in.

 

3 Ways to be an attractive male while single:

 

#1 Spend time with friends that UPLIFT you, not pulling you down.

 

GOOD friends are those help you EXPAND your true self and potential, encourage your growth, even if they don’t have the same belief systems.

 

BAD friends are those who keep doing things that KEEP YOU SMALL, you feel collapsed and judged, and they discourage you from pursuing your path.

 

So make it a priority to hang out with these inspiring friends every month. Bros are best because there’s no sexual interest between you all.

 

#2 Meet Your Emotional Needs First

 

If you want to get a girl because you are unhappy, incomplete, boring, lonely, you are going to FVCK UP both of you. Shit life + shit life = shittiest life

 

Just like parents should put oxygen masks on themselves before helping their kids, you should save yourself before you attempt save the world/women.

 

So you must have fun, enjoy your life, take care of yourself and make yourself happy & fulfilling first IF you want a healthy relationship with women!

 

#3 Heal Your Emotional Wounds From Childhood

 

We all have emotional wounds from our childhood. If you don’t go back to explore these unconcious patterns, they are going to fvck up your next r/p because intimacy triggers our emotions the most.

 

So if you have r/p problems with your parents e.g. hatred, enmeshment (neediness with them), parents suffocating you…etc.

the family issues WILL pass on to the next generation with your woman!

 

Explore these with your trusted coach, therapist or men’s’ group where you are in a safe environment to discuss these deep personal issues.

Have you ever labelled certain women as “pure, innocent, gwai, clean” while others as “bitch, sluts, snakes, chicken”?

 

If you have, that’s normal because this slut-shaming has been happening for CENTURIES, and it is pathetic that certain countries are STILL operating in such fvcked up mode and women are stoned to death…

 

However, do you know why if you slut-shame, or if you hold a DOUBLE STANDARDS, it actually hurts YOUR ABILITY to attract women and sex life?

 

#1 Reason: Most girls you meet probably have this FEAR of being labelled as chicken, so most are forced by society to repress her natural sexual urge and PRETEND to be a sexless lady for better “healthy”image.

 

So women have developed an ABILITY to notice any sexual uncomfortability/ shame from you whenever she does/says/slightly mentions sth about sex.

 

#2 If she notices that you have NEGATIVE association with sex, she is NOT going to feel safe to open her sexual side with you.

 

On the other hand, if you can create a safe environment/space for her to be open with ZERO judgement, she will feel accepted and want to explore sexuality with you – whether verbally or physically.

 

#3 So the lesson is: Sex is natural, sex is what makes us alive, women love sex as much as men do, and it’s totally OKAY to accept sex yourself and then accept HER sexuality.

 

Stop labelling women as either slut or clean, SHAME is a toxic weapon that many societies/cultures/government/religious organizations try to control you.  

 

Fvck that sh!t, embrace your sexulity, and be a sexual being who ACCEPTS our nature!