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When you become good with women, one of the common shit tests you will hear is that she says you are a player/ 你溝成日溝女架？

The sad thing is that many guys don’t know how to respond to this Q properly and lose the chance to get with the girl. So today, let’s solve this problem once and for all. Firstly, we need to understand WHY women say this do you.  

#1 There are 2 reasons why women accuses you as a player:

– She believes that you a lot of women like you, they want to chase you and you have a lot of options.  => Which means this girl actually find you charming and attractive.

– She feels insecure about herself because she is scared that you don’t actually like her, she is afraid that you just charm and flirt with every woman you can, and  she isn’t special at all.

#2 Now that you understand the psychology behind, how do we respond? Well, it’s easy because you are viewing that as a compliment.

So you can first say “哈哈，多謝你覺得我咁有魅力喎。”

Then, you should address her insecurity and increase her self-confidence “其實你唔駛咁睇小自己啊，好似你咁『聰明／上進／有腦／玩得／性感／有heart』嘅女仔，呢個年代都好珍貴嘅…”

#3 After you have addressed these two issues, you can add a third component if you want depending on her response.

E.g. If she keeps probing you as a player, you can say “哈哈 係呀，我仲未搵到一個合適嘅女仔，你呢？點解你要咁性感又要單身，你唔好玩弄我嘅感情啦好無？:p”

If you respond in such a playful sexy way, I guarantee you her attraction level is going to 10X and she will desire you even more.

At the end of the day, as long as you genuinely like her apart from she being pretty, as long as you are trying to know the REAL her and you appreciate that,

everything in seduction will become more natural and easy when you are not just 為咗溝女而溝女!

We have talked a lot about escalation the past 2 days, and now you should understand that you can do it verbally, physically or through the VIBE you create.

However, before you do any technical aspects of escalation, do you know there is ONE thing you must first “do” in order to make things work?

#1 Well, that ONE thing is you being comfortable to FEEL your genuine sexual desire for her.

The best escalation always starts from the genuine sexual desire that you FEEL inside you.

If deep down in your heart, you can’t FEEL that SEXUAL ENERGY and you just do all the physical/verbal technique, things will feel 不一致/不誠實/虛偽  to her.

#2 One mistake most guys make is to try to REPRESS that sexual energy around her. If you do that because of shame, women can feel the awkwardness and think you are creepy…  just like a nerd secretly watching AV at home and admiring his Goddess. lol

Another common mistake is that you keep giving off sexual energy to her WITHOUT OBSERVING whether she is receptive to that. If you makes her feel too uncomfortable, you become creepy like a rapist too.

#3 The point is that once a girl is attracted to you, you have to slowly dial up your sexual energy when she is nearby.

And as we said before, the first step is to FEEL THAT sexual energy inside you.

When you can feel it, then use your eye contact, slower facial expression, deeper vocal tonality to express it while be aware of her receptiveness towards your sexual energy.

If she’s loving it, continue to do that. If she is stepping back, you should take a step back, wait for a few mins, and try again later.

If you can do everything I said here and from the previous videos, escalation shall never be a problem for you again!

Hey bro, have you tried to get sexual with a girl but she finds your behaviors creepy or even offensive?

Or are you too good that girls call you player and they are hesitant about your intention and start to back off a bit because you come off too strong?

#1 If your escalation fails, it often means that you’re doing it at the wrong time. It’s because if you escalate randomly, women may conclude that you probably do these moves to every girl with minimum attractiveness, and she may label you as 狗公。

So even if she is attracted to you, if you show sexual interest no matter what she does/says, she will feel that you just want to fuck any hot-enough girl who accepts your offer.

#2 So how do you solve this dilemma of “you must escalate” but “you don’t want her to label you as  a creepy 狗公”?

Well, it’s easy. All you need to do is to only escalate/show more sexual desire when her ACTIONS/BEHAVIORS show her uniqueness/personality as a human being.

When girls feel that you actually like her as an unique individual, instead of feeling that “she is just one of the girls you attempt to fuck”, then she will feel more comfortable with your sexual escalation.

#3 E.g. When a girl is being rude/impolite/cold/allof, and you still try to ESCALATE and show your sexual desire, that only means you just want to fuck any girls you can.

However, if a girl shares a funny story about herself, if she does favors for you without you asking, if she dresses sexy for you during dates, then it is a good timing to escalate.

#4 Simply said, you should only sexually escalate on girls who TRULY DESERVE it.  When your standard of women is higher than “she is hot, she has pussy, so I must fuck”, then your sexual escalation will be much more effective and women will react more positively to you.

Hey bro, do you find escalation scary? Do you find it hard to use words or physical touch to escalate on a girl and you just can’t find the balance on when you should do those things?

While various degrees of physical contact are crucial, many men forget that there is another way to escalate: 將感覺／氣氛升溫.

#1 將感覺／氣氛升溫 means you don’t have to worry about using words to compliment girls OR using touch to escalate on her.

Instead, you shift the TONE of the interactions from social/friendly/fun to more seductive/nervous.

#2 E.g. 誘惑嘅氣氛 can be sth like you’re starting to SLOW everything down (blink, words, the way you move your hand/body), and then you hold a slow gaze at her for a few seconds, smirk for a second,  and then looking away.

E.g You slowly move closer to her, talk more slowly calmly quietly beside her ears, and sometimes shut up and bask in that silence.

#3 So 將感覺／氣氛升溫 means you are creating sexual tension at the ENERGETIC LEVEL, instead of the language/physical touch level, and that is also a very powerful way to seduce.

If the girl is also interested in you, she will want you to release that non-verbal tension later. One way you can do is to start touching her hand or sideways because this first touch can create strong physical connection.

#4 Anyway, what I shared above is some more advanced skill you can use to attract girls.

When you know how to escalate with your eye contact, silence, proximity and the VIBE you’re creating, sometimes you really don’t need to SAY or DO anything to get girls horny.

If you want to learn more exactly how to do so, feel free to send an email to support@manthefvckup.com to ask more details about our MTFU Insider program,

where I constantly create new trainings to teach our advanced bros on similar attraction/escalation topics. So if you’re interested in improving your social/dating/sex/relationship life, feel free to email us and let us know.

Hey bro, if you have been learning from MTFU for a while, you know the importance of creating sexual tension and why push pull works every time.

But do you know the one simple trick that will always boost a girl’s attraction towards you?

This trick is so-called the takeaway, which means 你係對弈期間後退自己，令女人有種衝動想去追你，which is also called 以退為進.

#1 Typical examples are like:
– Not finding her as often or not at all for a few days especially after an intense period of closeness/connection

– Wanting LESS to see her in person than you did at the beginning (especially when you’ve created an impression that you are interested in her)

– Being a little bit cold/distant than normal

– Being LESS enthusiastic/excited/certain about her than before

#2 Why do we need to 以退為進 in order to attract girls? There are few reasons:

– You have to give her the gift of wondering about you.

If you don’t create space/time for girls to think about you, to mentally picture the “good times” with you when you are not around, her desire for you will always drop and she can’t help but to seek that feeling from other guys.

– You are giving her a rare chance/challenge to win you over.

No girls want a man that is easy to get, it’s not FUN for her at all.
So your takeaway tells her that you’re losing interest, and it’s natural for her to try harder to get you back, which gives you more power in r/p.

– These vacuum space makes her genuinely WANT to see you again.
Most guys are just too available and girls hate that. So they will never cherish your presence and treat you like a beta shit who carries her bag.

But if a girl can’t be certain when/if she can see you again, she will strongly desire to see you when you become available.

#3 Of course brother, the above are the psychological reasons why you must 以退為進 to get girls, and why they work.

But I want you to have the ability to see that you don’t have to purposefully use the tactics to get girls … because when you are a naturally attractive male, when you are genuinely busy high value guy who is enjoying his life and building his dream…  

you will naturally NOT have time/interest to be an emotional tampon and listen to her bullshit like a friendzoned gay friend.

So you can use 以退為進 as a technique, but a better way is to create a lifestyle where you genuinely need to PULL AWAY because of your life priorities, instead of just playing psychological games with her.

If you want more advanced materials on this topic,  feel free to send an email to support@manthefvckup.com to ask more details about our MTFU Insider program, which is a private community where you not only get new trainings every month, but you’ll get direct coaching from me every 2 weeks to ask me any Qs you want in your dating/sex/social/career life.

If you’re interested, let us know.

Hey bro, 80% guys you’ll ever meet will tell you that having good looks, money or social status are the ONLY way to get girls.

While these factors HELP you get more INITIAL ACCESS to girls, the ability to get them genuinely attracted to you and desire you is actually JUST ONE THING: Your ability to create sexual tension.

#1 What is sexual tension? It means you can 喺女人內心製造未解決的情感張力，之後過一段時間可以釋放個種張力，之後再次重複再激發過。

#2 Do you know why most women LOVE to watch dramas/soap operas?

It’s because TV/movies/books writers know exactly how to create TENSION in their STORIES, to keep women 著迷 and they can’t help but keep watching until that TENSION is resolved in 大結局。

#3 So the structure is always the same: There’s conflict/drama at the beginning that sparks emotional tension, then T builds up until it reaches climax, then it is released by resolution (answers), and then repeat that cycle again and again.

#4 What’s the most common way to create ST? Via the notorious Push Pull.

Most girls are natural push-pull masters. On one hand they tell you they had enjoyed a fun night with you, the next day when you find her again she stops responding until maybe 3 days later and you wonder WTF happened.

OR On one hand they tell you 我唔收兵嫁，on the other hand they allow other guys to give her more attention and invest in her.

#5 So how do you use push pull ethically to attract girls? Well, as long as you are NOT using it to hurt a girl, and you keep things fun and playful, women would LOVE that you are creating these DESIRE feelings for her.

Classic E.g. When you’re flirting with her, you can say “Wow, I like the way you smile. It’s very attractive and makes me happy.” (PULL) …

Then after she says thank you, you can say “You’re welcome, that’s actually the 3rd best smile i’ve ever seen in my life. Let me call you 小三 from now on :D” (PUSH)

When you do this, most girls will find this funny and hit your arm to release her feeling of ST.

#6 So the main lesson is that if you want to attract more girls, you have to be able to create sexual tension for her to FEEL attraction.

If you want to learn more ways to do so, you are welcome to send an email to support@manthefvckup.com to ask more details about our MTFU Insider program.

It is a members-only community where you will not only learn more new skills/techniques on girls every month, but you’ll receive direct coaching from me every 2 weeks to ask me any Qs you have in your dating/sex/social/career life.

If you’re interested, just send an email to our team and let us know.

Brother, have you ever wondered WHY we as men just can’t “be honest” and TELL a girl upfront that we like her, we want her and we want to fuck her?

Why do we have to play these psychological games with women in order to LURE HER INTO your world and fall in love with you?

#1 Well first off, I want you to understand this: As men, we have been socially conditioned to believe that “we must prove our worth to get a girl OR we should confess our feelings, 表白 and declare our love and loyalty to women”. We think girls want CERTAINTY, SAFETY and they will want us.

If you still have these beliefs, you will never get good with women. Why?

#2 Because there are numerous benefits when you send her confusing signals and she doesn’t know what you think about her:

1) It prevents you from appearing needy, clingy, too available (low status)

2) It gives you power and upper hand in that r/p dynamics, and feminine girls always want you to be the dominant one who takes control

3) Girls will work hard to get your attention, impress you which increase her investment, and she will tell herself that “she must really like you”

4) No girls want to catch a prize that is too easy, because easy means CHEAP

5) You are providing DRAMA to girls, and that’s what makes girls feel alive

6) When a girl doesn’t know where she stands, she anticipates to see you more. You are creating a GIFT for her to miss you and girls WANT this “fear of loss” feeling. And she will convince herself that she is in with LOVE you.

7)  She will ASSUME that you have other options, and no matter what a girl says, she ALWAYS want a man who have other girls wanting him

#3 So bro, stop thinking that sending confusing signals are BAD or UNETHICAL to girls.

Do you remember when a time a girl gives you a feeling of UNCERTAINTY? A feeling of missing her? A feeling that you are falling in love with her?

What you are doing is just merely generating feelings GIRLS crave to feel, and helping her feel the nervousness/ the butterflies in her stomach/ the 青春愛情嘅感覺。

Not every man is capable of doing that, most men don’t even know they should generate such feelings.

But now you do, that’s why you are a badass handsome dude who deserves to succeed. 😉

In case you want to take these teachings to the next level, you are welcome to…

If you have ever met a girl who 吊你癮, you know how frustrating it feels.

Sometimes they send you IOI signals, flirting HARD with you, making you think you have chance to get close, but later she turns cold and ignores you entirely.

Why the fvck girls naturally do that to guys, even when they have zero sexual interest with him?

#1 An easy reason is that women LOVE validation, and they just enjoy getting as much ATTENTION from men as their sexual power could.

They love being adored, and they just can’t help resisting men chasing her like bees. That is the nature of feminine.

So as men, how can we figure out whether she sees us as a sexual man who can be a potential lover, OR just another free-attention-provider who she will never sleep with?

#2 The answer is to ask yourself: Does her actions treat me like a fan? Are my current behaviors just like one of her fans?

Are you fighting with other men to get her attention?

Are you always trying to impress her by saying cool things or showing her cool shit?

Are you immediately apologizing for whatever you do because you feel that you might have offended her?

Are you super nervous when she gets more physical with you?

Have you already decided that “she is your one someday”?

If you answer yes to any one of the above Qs, you are just another fan your idol will never fvck.

#3 So how can we further judge how she sees us?

One, if a girl is attracted to you, she will be self-conscious 自我意識／不自在 around you. She will be a bit nervous and be wary of her behaviors.

So if she tries to cover her stomach area, brush her hair, fix her appearance…and she cares about the impression she makes on you, then that’s good news.

Second, if a girl is interested in you, she will want to know more info about you and ask you questions about yourself. E.g. interests, friends, gfs/ex

Women often want to know a few things about you before sleeping with you.

Hope the above guidelines can help you figure out if a woman is 吊你癮!

If you want to learn more specific skills, you’re welcome to send an email to support@manthefvckup.com and ask us about our advanced program MTFU Insider. 

How do you become that guy every man wants to be, and every woman wants to chase?

How can you naturally become that guy women always say they hate but they can’t help to fuck?

#1 If you want to be a man who has a lot of OPTIONS, who never worries about not having the ability to meet women or have sex, then you need to understand this GAME TRUTH:

Becoming better with women is more about doing LESS, than doing MORE.

#2 Ladies Man are those who show girls LESS attention, he is LESS needy & approval-seeking than the average men,

he is LESS nervous when chatting with women, he cares LESS what the girls/others think of him…

…so these Top 1% guys are so confident about themselves that he put less effort/time chasing women in a way women expect most guys do,

and that is what makes women more eager to chase him.

#3 So when you try to attract women, you have to be the guy who cares less about the woman than the woman cares about you.

You shouldn’t be always thinking the next trick to attract her, the best seducers understand that when you do what I suggest above,

women WILL start to think how to put in more effort  to get more of your attention.

#4 So my man, the takeaway is this: when you first starting out gaming girls, you should NOT look for an exclusive GF relationship.

As I said in the previous videos, a girl only genuinely wants you to be her BF AFTER she feels the desire to fuck you.

#5 Aim for non-exclusive fun-based sexual r/ps with multiple girls,

take at least 6 months to observe each girl’s behaviors when you hang out,

cultivate that abundance mindset when you have many options…

…and then you will truly understand how it feels to be a naturally attractive man with OPTIONS!

If you have been meeting and attracting women, you will have heard the 『我有男朋友㗎喇』phrase.

 

Most guys view this as a rejection, some guys think it doesn’t worth the time to talk to girls who are “in a relationship”, and some good men just feel guilty stealing another man’s gf.

 

However, there are 3 different scenarios on WHY women use the BF excuse and WHY you shouldn’t give up so quickly.

 

Scenario #1: If you hear this line at the beginning of the conversation, it means her guard is up and you might be doing sth wrong.

 

That line really means she wants you to go away. Maybe you are a bit annoying. Maybe you are too direct/strong. Maybe she isn’t in the mood  to meet guys.

 

So if you hear that in the first 30 secs or minute, you can gracefully exit by saying “Aww, that makes sense as you are quite cute. Anyway, it’s great chatting with you, I gotta go/chat with my friend/do stuff”

 

Scenario #2: You hear this at the middle of the conversation (2-5 mins),

 

that might mean she starts to feel ATTRACTION to you and her subconscious mind wants to break that TENSION.

 

She is saying that line because she can’t stand the sexual tension, and she needs to stop you logically. Thus, the trick is NOT to respond logically back to her.

 

You can EITHER slow down your escalation for a few minutes, ignore the shittest, and build attraction slowly.

 

OR you just say sth like“haha I don’t want to hear your problems, anyways…”

 

Scenario #3: If she says she has BF at the latter stage of conversation (10 mins – few hours late at night),  then this means she is implying there must be SECRECY between you two if sth is going to happen.

 

Maybe it means she does has a BF, but she isn’t satisfied so she is looking for sth else.

 

Maybe she is letting you know she can silently have fun with you, but she doesn’t want anything SERIOUS regardless her real reasons.

 

So in this scenario, you can decide if you want to escalate or not, depending on what you are looking for that day/night.

 

#4 Final Note:  I know many men proud themselves as the “good guys” and that’s why they feel unethical  to STEAL & fuck a guy’s GF.

 

But I want you to understand this: Almost every hot girl is at least seeing some guys and is being 曖昧 with him/them.

 

Also, the level of intensity/seriousness are different in different relationships.

 

#5 So do NOT assume that you can’t talk to a woman because she has BF, OR that you talking to her is hurting her r/p.

 

I don’t propose stealing other men’s GFs, but we should also understand that it is NOT guaranteed that the woman is currently in a happy r/p with her BF,

OR that she isn’t already looking to end that bad r/p.

 

When you understand that, you will have a more objective view on whether you proceed further with this girl who is clearly attracted to you.

It’s up to you 🙂