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我哋點樣先可以知道自己喺控制到一段感情呢？

點解咁多男人『墮入愛河』之後，會變成一隻任勞任怨嘅走狗呢？

如果你要選擇exclusive一對一嘅男女關係，你可以點樣保持自己嘅吸引力呢？

One of my Insider brothers asked me what does a frame／框架 means and how we can apply that in our dating/relationship life.

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While I’ve answered him in detail inside, let’s briefly discuss why men must always control the 框架 and let women walk into in.

#1 What is 框架? 每當兩個人交流時，某個人嘅框架總會係較強，佔主導，而另一人嘅框架喺會被吞噬然後被消滅。

所謂嘅框架 = 心理上潛意識嘅現實，講緊我哋以『邊個人嘅現實』去運作

所以你控制到框架 = 你擁有上拍位 = 你控制到大家之間對弈嘅『架構／骨架』

= 你個人嘅決定／慾望／信念，就會較容易影響對方

= 對方較容易『聽你話』

簡單講，框架本身並唔係力量，但你控制到兩性之間嘅框架就係你間接攞到力量嘅方法。因為邊個擁有框架 = 我哋以男人 OR 女人嘅現實去運行大家嘅關係。

＃2 What influences our frame? 我哋個人嘅成長經歷，社會灌輸比你嘅concepts，個人心理狀態，我哋受到咩教育等等。

咁所以，你每次同女人對弈時，你一係以自己現實運行，你一係以女人嘅現實運行；而框架喺有流動性，邊個擁有框架喺會隨時間或者當時關係流動。

＃3 點解框架咁重要呢？

因為就算條女被你吸引對你有興趣嘅話，如果佢唔係『進入你嘅框架』，你就會好快成為感情之中嘅被動角色，你就會成為一條『聽聽話話嘅老婆奴走狗』，你哋兩個做乜都會以『女人利益』為依歸。

咁所以如果巴打你感覺好似條女lead緊大家關係，條女特登控制性愛嘅yes／no，條女要求你做咗某樣嘢先會肯同你XYZ (e.g. 出街／食飯／陪你／搞嘢）嘅話，你被佢以任何原因friendzone，你接受大家暫時以無性朋友關係相處嘅話，

你就係處於下巴位，以條女嘅frame運作。

掉番轉，你想測試條女係咪真心對你有慾望嘅話，你就一定要佢進入你嘅框架/現實。

因為好多男士嘅預設值，都係將自己有興趣嘅女人『放喺神枱拜／女神化』，所以佢咁樣做就係間接承認條女擁有主導權，

就算條女『真係同佢一齊咗』，佢都唔能夠喺段關係之中有say，現實到自己想要嘅男女關係。

＃4 This is the exact reason why I said that 表面上拍緊拖／結咗婚好似好幸福嘅男人，唔代表佢哋就係擁有健康理想男女關係嘅Alpha。

=> 因為大部份男人都係以女人嘅frame去運作，而佢哋亦都好無awareness地覺得『女人話事呢樣嘢喺好正常』，所以甘願做牛做馬做一個『唔被尊重嘅好奴隸』。

你可以睇得到，現今有勁多男人都係需要問女朋友／老婆『攞permit』，批准佢哋去見朋友／同frd飲嘢／去玩去social／去報告行蹤。

最可恥嘅喺，呢啲男人覺得『女人肯俾自由自己』去做呢啲嘢，就係佢老婆好體貼，搵到筍盤，但佢哋從來都無質疑過呢件事喺唔正常，亦唔健康！

＃5 點解女人其實暗地裡想你嘅框架強過佢，想你凌駕佢嘅現實？

原因喺：當女人唔能夠從一個masculine／雄性陽性男人之中得到支配性嘅框架，條女 就會失去安全感，佢就迫住捨棄佢feminine／雌性陰性女人嘅特質，自己去WTFU去做男人嘅角色，自己比安全感自己。

意思係：女人喺呢段關係之中唔可以放鬆返一個溫柔體貼聽你話嘅小女人，佢就會迫住除咗喺繁忙嘅工作之中『做女強人』之外， 返到屋企都要『做女強人』：

對你呼呼喝喝，命令你做呢樣做果樣，禁止你做某啲嘢，而一系列方式懲罰你等等。

再聰明再成功再獨立嘅女人，喺感情之中其實都唔想做咁樣嘅角色；所以如果你咁廢唔願意step up去話事去支配呢個框架嘅話，你其實並唔係真正『愛你嘅女人』。

點樣去建立框架？其實由你Day 1 見面開始甚至認識佢之前已經可以開始做。

如果巴打你想學得更加深入嘅話，我喺會透過Insider教導各位內部巴打嘅，你有興趣嘅話，就email我哋support@manthefvckup.com 索取詳情喇。

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Welcome to <A Billion Wicked Thoughts/十億個邪惡的念頭> Ep.4, where we will explore the CRAZY visual cues that arouses men. We’ll explore the remaining few points of WHAT kind of things men like to see in sex.

#1 Breasts are the most popular body part in sexual searches in every country, and the most popular category exclusive to heterosexual men.

A study in France used a padded bra to test how often men would approach the same researcher with an ABC cup when she was at a bar: A: 18 B: 28 C: 60

Although no mention of D-G cup, normally larger breasts are popular.

However, there are NO nipple-size websites or COLOR of nipples. Those are not influential visual cues in men.

#2 Men from a broad array of cultures prefer small feet on women. There are 276 foot sites on the Alexa list, and only one hand-focused one (Glove Mansion).

Why are men attracted to feet even though women decorate their fingernails with manicure to draw attention? -> Maybe searching for foot erotica are highly correlated with searches for bondage and submission porn. e.g. some men fantasize licking a woman’s feet

#3 Now, the common Q comes: Do women prefer bigger dicks?

Well… the answer from data is: men are more interested in penises than women + men are much more interested in large penises than women !

Academic Survey: 15% of women are dissatisfied with their partner’s penis size. 45% of men are dissatisfied with their own penis size.

Eye tracking study: When men and women looked at non-erotic images, men consistently direct gaze to male crotch, women rarely do so.

In romance novels, it’s rare to detail a man’s penis size. Only in porn does the penis is always under the spotlight.

9% of women wish they had smaller breasts; just 0.2% of men wish they had smaller penises. -> For men, penis can never be too big.

Why men care penis size so much, check out others and show off their own?

-> In apes, penis is a social tool. The erect primate penis is used as a sign of male-male aggression, to mark territory, and as a sexual invitation to females.

#4 One very popular erotic art in the world is Japanese anime porn (“hentai”).

The typical anime female is a high school teenager. Her voice is extremely high-pitched. She frequently wears school uniforms, complete with pleated skirts, vests, and saddle shoes.

She is often sexually inexperienced and reacts with embarrassment at the mention of sex (indicated by reddening cheeks).

Yet, despite all these vivid cues of youth, she is drawn with impossibly large breasts, a perfectly round and firm butt, a low waist-to-hip ratio, and small feet.

It’s most popular visual erotic art because is SUPERCHARGE all male visual cues, so that’s why men love to watch animated porn.

Now that we have a better understanding of what men like to look at, we can ask—why? That’s what we will attempt in the NEXT video.

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Welcome to <A Billion Wicked Thoughts/十億個邪惡的念頭> Ep.3, where we will explore the Main visual cues that activate male desire i.e. WHAT kind of things men like to see in sex. There are 6 major points of this section.

#1 Male 獼猴 are willing to trade juice to view pics of female monkey’s butts (monkey porn), rather than powerful males or friendly female faces.

Similarly, the most popular adult pay sites attract 75% men, 25% women. BUT

Only 2% of porn subscriptions are billed to credit cards with female names.  

Meaning: Willingness to pay for porn indicates men’s motivation to see images is STRONGER than woman. E.g. many high level management or government staff us taxpayer money to see graphic sex, even it risks public shame or lose jobs.

#2 AGE dominates sexual searches, adult website content, and porn videos.

Most common ages = 16 + 18. Then 50, 40 (MILF) 60 (GILF).

The single most popular search term in Pornhub is “Mom”

Why males desire older women!? -> It’s said that cougars are more aggressive at pursuing sex than younger women.

2010 study found that women age 27-45 have more sexual fantasies, a greater willingness to have one-night stands, and a greater willingness to have casual sex than women in other age ranges.

So 1/4 men who search for teens also search for moms.

How about GILF? 2 countries showing the highest interest in “granny porn” are Kenya (where young people are encouraged to discuss sexual matters with their grandparents rather than their parents) and UK (where many schoolboy’s first contact with a grown woman occurred when older schoolmarms spanked them).

#3 Bro, you do like slim women instead of fat chicks right? In fact, many sex scientists believe that a woman’s waist-to-hip ratio (0.7) is most appealing.

HOWEVER, data says that for every search for a “skinny” girl, there are three searches for a “fat” girl.  On the Alexa Adult List, there are 504 sites dedicated to heavy ladies, and only 182 to skinny ones.  

Why? It might be because  Many BBW (Big, Beautiful, Women) pornhave low ratio due to their excessive hip size.

But one thing is clear: toothpick-thin model women are rare in male targeted porn.

Q: Do you like play with breasts, legs or ass? Do you know which ONE body part that you’re paying attention to when you watch porn that might make you gay?

We’ll reveal some even more crazy data next time that may shock you!

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Bro, if you have been learning from MTFU’s videos/trainings, you are someone who actively seeks CHANGE in your life because you are NOT satisfied with certain aspects of your life i.e. mostly dating.

However, in this active growth path, have you heard people (family, guy friends or women) around you telling to “just be yourself” and you’ll attract the girls who like the real you?  

On the surface, JBY is a very attractive idea, because it SOUNDS like you’re just being real and you have no problems that needs to solve.

However, the truth is that JBY is a VERY DANGEROUS idea that can fuck up your life. Why?

Because it implies the idea that “you just need to be patient, WAIT, and eventually you will meet sb who loves you.”

It implies that you DON’T have to actively ACTION to get what you want, it implies women/dating are sth that automatically FALL ONTO your lap, it implies you have ZERO responsibility on your sex/love life because God has already a romantic plan for you.

So doing NOTHING about it and you’ll get your dream girl. How Disney & romantic is that?

Some ppl may argue that if you are not JBY, you are being a faker, you try hard to be sb you are not, you are wearing masks. These all sound legit right?

Well, think about these questions bro:

#1 WHO has the ultimate authority to decide who you are? Who decides whether it is a “real you” or a “fake you”? Who has the right to decide whether your personal change is genuine or not?

#2 When you’re changing your appearance/style/behaviors/circles of friends/ attitudes towards women/mindset about dating, sex and relationships, do you think there’s a conflict of interests where you might make others feel uncomfortable?

Do you think your change will doubt other ppl’s personal belief system about certain things? If yes, what do you think is the easiest way to handle that for most people? To self-reflect deeply & challenge oneself, OR to doubt the changer’s intention/sincerity and persuade him to STAY THE SAME?

#3 Transformation by default is change.

It’s about doing something you normally don’t do, thinking in a way you never did, learning to be comfortable with sth you normally aren’t, and expanding your personality/capabilities you normally don’t have.

So what does JBY really mean? Who determines who you are and who you slowly become? Who judges if this version of you is real or the previous version of you is real?

OR you are ALWAYS being FAKE since you’re born because right now you are NOT thinking/behaving/acting like a baby? Should you just go back and be like that?

I know I asked you a lot of Qs today, but if you get logic behind the true meaning of JBY, you will now understand what those who tell you to JBY is actually doing to your FUTURE.

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As you all know, HK is the most expensive city to live in the world, so it is not uncommon for many young men to share rents with others or live with parents.

One Q I get asked from more established brothers is that whether they should share rent with their gfs i.e. cohab with their gfs?

What’s your instinct about that? Do you think it’s a GOOD DEAL to do so to consolidate your relationship?

The underlying reason for many men to cohabit with gfs is NOT just sharing rent, but the REAL reason is that they think by living together, he can has more SEX with gfs EVERY FUCKING NIGHT and his sex life will be happy.

Well, if you really think you will get a DAILY supply of sex, you totally don’t understand the sexual dynamics b/w men and women. Here’s why:

Cohabiting is like a preview of marriage, there’s not much difference between the two. So when you cohabit with gf, you are giving her EXTREME comfort and certainty.

Comfort = familairity = predictability

You have almost ZERO privacy and freedom. She knows everything about your schedule/what you are doing/who you are seeing. And you are actually legally committed to finishing the rent EVEN if the relationship turns bad.

When you have so comfort in a relationship, guess what you don’t have?

You don’t have elements that make her WONDER/THINK/MISS about you, you don’t have enough SPACE for her to IMAGINE what you’re doing, you don’t have enough DOUBTS in her mind that whether you’re seeing other girls.

Attraction requires passion, passion requires TENSION, tension requires the nervous feeling of the unknown – she not sure what you’re doing/ she not sure if other girls are competing for your attention/she not sure if you can have sex in other places/ she not sure if she has SECURED you yet!

So what are you actually doing when you cohabitate with any girls?

You’re destroying EVERY elements that makes you a sexually desirable man, you are destroying her emotional needs to worry that there are other women competing you outside, you’re destroying the SPACE for her to miss you.

Healthy relationship requires PHYSICAL SPACE and OPTIONS.

So if you don’t plan to get married, (which is a good choice), there is NO REASON for you to cohabitate with any chicks.

If you’re young and still building your dream, it’s much better to live on your own or share places with OTHERS who aren’t your sexual options, have the freedom to do whatever you want, and enjoy dating different women.  

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Welcome to <A Billion Wicked Thoughts/十億個邪惡的念頭> Ep.2, where we will understand what do men and women REALLY like and the difference sexual cues we have.

#1 It is very hard to study the differences b/w men vs women sexual interests because it’s hard to ACQUIRE DATA. Direct observation is best, but people don’t like to be asked about their private lives (feel guilty) +hard to get funding from govt or institution (taboo).

But authors used Dogpile.com (not in use now) , a meta-engine that combine result from Google, Yahoo, Bing etc., to get  400 million searches July 2009 – 2010 as source data.

In the unfiltered search, they find stuff like shemales in prom dresses 人妖, Twilight slash Edward and Jacob 吸血新世紀, wives caught cheating on cam, best romance novels with alpha heroes, kendra wilkinson sex tape, spanking stories 調教打屁股, free gay video tube etc.

#2 In cases where the search was ambiguous, the researchers used the AOL search histories released in 2006 to distinguish whether the terms typically appeared with other sexual searches.

MILF = 熟女/Mother I’d Like to Fuck

So a total of 55 million of the searches were classified as sexual.

And interestingly, the top 20 interests search = 80% all searches
Top 35 top interests = 90% of all searches

Meaning: Most ppl’s desires are actually MORE COMMON than you think. Our sexual desires are shared by many other people.

#3 The most popular erotic web sites reflect interest of men & women’s sexual brains:

Meaning: Men’s and women’s tastes are radically different.

On the web, men prefer images, graphic sex. i.e. sheer lust, physical gratification, no courtship/commitment/relationships. Minimum plot line, focus on the sexual acts, a lot of female bodies – face, breast, genitals.  

Women prefer erotic stories of romance relationships i.e. the heroine identify, win the heart of and marry the one man who is right for her, not just sex.

They seek out different MODES of stimulation. Men prefer to watch, women prefer to read and discuss.

＃4 Authors theorize that men and women respond to different sexual cues.

Our mind’s taste software responds to 5 perceptual inputs: sweet, salty, sour, savory香, and bitter.
E.g. sweetness detects sugar, imply energy, so we like it.
E.g. bitterness detects alkaloid 生物鹼 substance, normally toxic plant, unplesant

Same as our sexual desire, we have evolved psychological mechiansm to detect + assess mate value.

And the next episodes will help us understand specific innate cues that trigger desire in women and men.

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Have you wondered why it is so HARD for men to stop masturbating with porn even though they know it’s harming their body and mind?

Have you wondered why women are so obsessed with romance novels like <Twilight><吸血新世紀／暮光之城>, <50 Shades of Grey><格雷的五十道陰影>?

Are you interested in understanding the differences of male & female minds towards sexuality and how they are differently aroused?

Well bro, I am starting this new book series <A Billion Wicked Thoughts/十億個邪惡的念頭> and will start to explain to you the differences, according to very extensive HARDCORE DATE from online searches.

#1 Before this study came out, the only BIG sex study was done in 1950s by Alfred Kinsey, where he and his team interviewed >18,000 people with 521 Qs about sexual interests.

Those were very old data and the methods were limited because it relies on self-report AND it’s mostly educated, middle class Caucasians.

But the authors in this book are neuroscientists, they examined >400 million different searches and the search history of more than 650,000 people, providing a vastly more detailed and improved answer to the Q: what do men and women really desire?

#2 So why is this book a much STRONGER data that reflects more TRUTH about human sexuality?

Because billions of people are FREE to search their most secret erotic desires in a totally anonymous way.

They are in private settings, they are NOT censored and NOT afraid to reveal their trustest desires. So these datas are reflect the truth in a non-judgemental way.

#3 So bro, I plan to use about 10 episodes (5-7 mins)  to reveal the MOST important findings in this book, and explain to you HOW you can utilize these data to your advantage when it comes to dating/sex.

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#4 What you need to know now is this: By analyzing the secret desires of tens of millions of men + women, AND explaining the mechanism behind that, you will discover some DARK sides of human sexuality.

We are penetrating through people’s mind with ZERO filter. The sexual brain is NOT politically correct, NOT socially conservative, NOT morally upright.

If you want to become good with women or sex, I invite you to cast away all the moral/religious/social/familial/cultural IDEAS or beliefs about SEX, and use an objective lens to observe the harcore TRUTH.

You may feel offended, feel sad, feel angry, feel crazy, feel negative about certain stuff, but that’s just the statistics and it’s up to you to see them or not.

I hope you will enjoy this <十億個邪惡的念頭> series, if you have any Qs or anything you want to say, leave a CM below and let me know.

We will start Ch.1 in the next video so I will see you there!

Over the past 2+ years, I have read almost 1000+ case studies from bros at all levels, all ages from 13-50+, from all over the world and i have noticed certain PATTERNS in their dating/relationship problems.

When you answer so many Qs, you will start to notice what works and what doesn’t work when dealing with women.

So I will list a bunch of observations I have made during this period when I am teaching brothers.

#1 Begging girls to do sth e.g. to date, to have sex, to like you, to love you, to give you a chance WILL NEVER work.

You must have the upper hand power at all times in a relationship. Whenever you BEG a woman to stay with you/get back with you, you are FUCKED!

Why? Because appealing to girls’ sympathy is NOT a seduction tool!

#2 Every time when you feel the URGE to save a r/p, you actually have already LOST the girl.

Why? Because it implies you’re caring too much, you are putting HER in front of yourself, you are NOT in control of the r/p. So this relationship is DONE, you’ve fucked up.

#3 Most of what your father or grandfather tell you how to get girls is WRONG. In 2019/2020/2021, buying flowers on V’s day or random day is the most UGLY thing a man can do. Stop being so ugly and 變態.

Also, stop believing what TV dramas or romantic movies say about male-female relationships including those starting from the 60s. The project of making men beta have started almost 80 years ago and those messages are all harming you.  

#4 Don’t “surprise” your girl by suddenly appearing outside her office, that’s creepy. Stop telling her I love you unless she has told you MANY TIMES in advance.

Stop calling girls on phone to “Nth much, I just want to hear your voice”. These are all SUPER BETA behaviors EVEN when you’re her bf.

#5 NEVER apologize for your actions, unless in extreme cases. An Alpha is unapologetic about himself, about his attitude, beliefs and actions.

People pleasers are betas. Be proud of yourself, be proud of your sex drive, be proud of everything you do including your failures.

#6 So called “game” is about creating an impression that she’s chasing you, even though you’re proactively leading her to do so secretly.

So “game” isn’t about doing nothing and let girls come to you, that doesn’t work UNLESS you are super high value like a famous hot celebrity. But the general rule is to do as little/obvious as possible to game her.

#7 Never give 100% of the things women want e.g. your time/your emotions/ your material stuff/ SEX!

Remember that only scarce things have value, and women only want what they can’t have. So keep them in the wanting/wishing/fantasizing mode.

#8 Self-respect is one of the biggest thing men lack nowadays. Stop being a pathetic worm cry-baby who tells me that “I really want her, i can’t live without her, I must want her because I love her.”

Shut the fuck up and listen: You can never FORCE a woman to be with you. No woman wants such a loser like you right now. If a woman wants to leave/break up, let her go and CUT all your attention.

Men can NEVER convince women to stay if her heart is there. So look at the mirror at your fucking face, see how you fucked up, learn from your mistakes and move the F on like a man!

#9 In all stages of relationship, you must remain as a KING. You are the prize, you know your value and it is HER LUCK that you choose her to date/fvck tonight.

She is the lucky girl who gets your attention, you deserve hot women and you always do things that pleases you first. NEVER put her in front of you.

So here you go bro. These are the common basic themes I get from so many MISTAKES guys are making with women right now.

Choose women who want to be with you, who will change herself for you, and who will overcome challenges to stay with you.

Only those who are putting in the effort and proves her loyalty deserves your most attention. Others are only casual playmates you fvck around once for a while.

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