標籤: Manhood

2 NEW announcements of MTFU’s directions! 😀

Knowing that you are about to break up with someone you’ve been together for a while can be SCARY, because most of us don’t want to make others feel sad or even cry.  

But if you know that your relationship isn’t going anywhere in the future, there are few guidelines you can use to make breakups as peaceful as possible.

#1 Do it in person

Sudden silence/disappearance & stop calling/texting is VERY immature way of breakup kids do, that’s disrespectful to the other person .

So do it in person, have a sincere chat and that will help BOTH of you grow and move on ASAP.

#2 Tell her what you are grateful for in the relationship

If you are conscious about your relationship and have developed it from a healthy foundation, both of you are going to learn A LOT from each other.

So it’s good to APPRECIATE how she has helped you grow as a person, and she has been played an important role in a chapter of your life.

#3 Let her know the logical reason for the breakup

A good breakup should include some thoughtful contemplations on whether the relationship is going anywhere.

So if you think your values/goals/personalities/directions/timing are not COMPATIBLE with each other,

if you two are going different paths, it is a better decision to separate your ways and let each other FLY with freedom.

#4 It is crucial that both of you STOP communicating for a long time.

This is because we must create mental space for each other to eliminate old anchors by each other in order to move on.

A good time frame is if r/p is 2 years, it takes around a year to recover.

You two can still be friends in the future, but that only happen organically if you DELETE/CUT her phone, FB, stuff to provide a clear mental space NOW.

=> Be thankful, be real, own the responsibility, end it if you know it’s not right

We have talked a lot about different ways of building ST in the past,

but today I want to share a little secret that 90% of men don’t know about ST.

And here it is: ST exists naturally between a man and a woman, especially when you are attracted to her.

If you and a hot-enough girl are alone in a room and NO ONE ever knows this, you two are naturally going to fvck.

#1 You probably have been in front of a woman,

and you can feel this electricity that “wow, i like her, i want to sleep with her” feeling, and she makes you aroused.

However, the common mistake is that MOST men will try to make her feel comfortable first, try to shut down that feeling of nervousness, pretend nothing is happening, and then escalate some days later.

#2 Understand this: If you diffuse ST because you feel uncomfortable,

if you try to hide your sexual desire because you feel shameful/wrong to feel that…

…you are only going to make a girl feel uncomfortable to be sexual with you and she will think that you are either gay or a beta pussy.  

If you really want to attract & arouse her, you need to STOP diffusing these ST.

#3 E.g. During conversations, when there is a pause or silence appearing for a few seconds, STOP trying to fill in the blank and say shit.

You should bask in that moment and enjoy those little you-me looking/ feeling each other moment. Those split-second is what connects you two.

#4 So bro, you want more girls?

Understand that ST already exists between the girl you want and you, and ALLOW yourself to bask in those extra second of silence, eye-contact, the look.

If you stop killing those beautiful moments, if you can be comfortable having high energy when social BUT also having slow/seductive/sexual/lower energy when seducing a girl,

then women will flow abundantly to your life!

One of the biggest strengths AND weakness of men is that they think LINEARLY. They always think stuff as ABC or step 1,2,3 and then FINISH.

That is understandable, because most men use LOGIC to operate in the world and naturally think things happen in a step-by-step manner.

But when it comes to attraction/sex/women, logic is the ultimate enemy because love & relationships are all about EMOTIONS.

So sex is not about hugging -> kiss -> tongue -> oral -> penetrate -> finish with man’s orgasm!

But real sex is cyclical／週期性, it is filled with CHAOS and UNCERTAINTIES.

Sometimes you start with oral, sometimes she cums a few times before you, sometimes there are multiple bangs,

but there is NO GUARANTEE that the same thing happens in the next time.

If you want to have great sex, stop aiming for certain goals like orgasms, enjoy being in the moment and FVCK however it feels right.

When you discard the formality, you two will have less stress, and sex will be a lot more pleasurable!

Rmb when I say 拍拖真正的目的 = R/p exist to MAGNIFY human experiences,

and intimate r/p exist to TRIGGER you so that you can GROW into a better human being.

Today I want to add another DEEPER layer: R/p helps us HEAL from our emotional wounds

Sometimes we heal our low self-esteem issues / sexual confidence/ feeling of not good enough,

OR deeper stuff like the toxic shame/guilt we have passed on by our generational family system/ toxic beliefs from societies etc.

R/P heals us most because R/P triggers us MOST emotionally because our partner’s certain emotions “anger/disappointment/breakups”,

which immediately trigger our past abandonment issues and our fear of “not being loved/death”pop up instantly!  

So apart from accepting & loving ourselves,

we also need to invite an intimate partner to give us an accurate mirror of WHO WE ARE and heal more from the hidden wounds.

Q is: Do you have the courage to let a woman enters your heart and closely reflects the truth about you?

We know that being vulnerable requires emotional courage, because letting ppl come close and see your flawed imperfect self is scary and can hurt you if you choose a wrong person to do so.

How do we protect ourselves while doing that?

#1 First thing to remember: We don’t NEED everyone to see the deepest, realest part of you.

Not everyone DESERVES to see that deep truth, and not everyone is INTERESTED to explore you.

So while we are being real, we give people freedom to go as deep as they want and freedom to stop at certain level.  

When you come from a place of total self-acceptance and self-love, we WON”T need others to validate us that“Oh, you really are flawed but I accept you”.

#2 You have to be choosy as who you slowly allow to enter your heart.

From your interactions with them, you need to see if they are a trustworthy, non-judgemental, patient, compassionate, kind-hearted person who has your best interest at their heart.

If they are supportive to your growth with open heart, then these people has earned their right to receive your invitation to go deep.

If they shame you for being/doing certain things, they are NOT safe people to open up.

#3 This applies to every kind of relationship – bf/gf, friendships, or you seek help from therapist or personal coaching.

The purpose of these “vulnerability sessions” is to help you heal from your emotional wounds in the past,

to let go of the toxic shame that controls you, and to reintegrate your disowned selves back to your personality.

So if you need help to open up, if you are scared about certain fears but you don’t know why,

if you have difficulties connecting with women, you are welcome to send an email to support@manthefvck.com to book a coaching session with me,

OR join our community MTFU Insider to learn and grow together as an integrated healthy male so that you become more attractive, powerful and confident human being.

It is safe, loving, compassionate evn where you will receive support in your journey.

I was recently having lunch with an old friend who is very successful in society’s standard – very wealthy, make multiple millions, have a great pretty gf, can travel anywhere anytime he wants –

and we stumbled upon the discussion on how to know whether our goals are SOMETHING WE REALLY WANT instead of what people want for us?

Take a second to think about this:  Is your goal right now something YOU want, OR society/marketing forces tells you to want it?

Your next car? Your next house? Your job? Your girlfriend? Your possessions? Your places to go because you heard it can take nice pics for your IG?

Then, we discussed the 1 Q we can ask ourselves to distinguish the REAL thing and the FAKE thing, and that is…

“If no one in the world knows what you do/ what you have, OR if you cannot show off what you do/what you have to the world, would you still continue doing it?”

Boom, can you see how liberating this Q is?

E.g. If you can’t show off that Red Ferrari or green Lamborghini to the world, would you still try to own it?

If you can’t show off this HOT SEXY MODEL to the world, would you still choose to attract her, keep her as a girlfriend OR like hanging around with her?

If you can’t tell your parents/relatives that you are a doctor, lawyer, judge, government top official, investment banker, would you still LOVE DOING THIS JOB?

If no one in the world sees that you can sing/dance/act, would you still join the entertainment industry and try to be famous?

I want you to ponder on this Q today and reflect on what you have been trying to do/ get/ be…

…it will LIBERATES you from all the social bullshit and toxic ideas as to what you really want to DO/HAVE/EXPERIENCE in your life 🙂

If you want to have a fulfilling intimate relationship, there are certain foundational rules that you need to follow in order to make it thrive.

#1 Everything starts from self-acceptance & self-love

Your r/p with the world is a reflection of the r/p with yourself. Your own happiness & fulfullment is always your No.1 priority, NOT your partner’s.

Most conflicts start in a r/p when you feel that your emotional needs are being met, so you need to take time off for your own rejuvenation REGULARLY.

If you don’t do things daily to LOVE YOURSELF (physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, spiritually), you’ll ruin your relationship!

#2 Seek first to understand, before you seek to be understood

Most people feel so much need to tell the world what they need, than they can’t stop and listen what others need.

Once you’ve spent time to take care & love yourself, you won’t feel a need for others to meet your needs and thus you have the EMOTIONAL AVAILABILITY to see/listen/understand who they are & what they want.

If you show up like that with your girl, she will feel loved.

#3 Have the courage to be vulnerable

Humans are NOT attracted to perfect beings, we are attracted to each other’s flaws and imperfections, that’s how we RELATE & CONNECT with others.

That means sometimes you tell your girl that you are afraid to do certain things, sometimes you be honest and invite her if she wants to listen to the truth,

sometimes you apologize if you fvck up,
sometimes you ask for help when you can’t figure things out,

sometimes you SAY NO to others politely if you don’t want to do stuff…

=> If you love & accept yourself, see first to understand, and then have the emotional courage to be vulnerable,

you will develop healthy strong bonds with not just your girl/partner but also other human beings 🙂

Hey bro, I am not sure how long have you been watching MTFU’s videos, or whether you are smart enough to study the old videos I have put out…

But if you want a guaranteed way to generate attraction with women, this secret I am about to share with you is fvcking powerful.

#1 Before I reveal, let me ask you: How do you know if a girl likes you? How do you know if you have successfully sparked attraction in her? How do you know a woman is seeing you as the prize she wants to chase?

Well, if you can’t immediately answer these questions, then you gotta understand this…listen carefully…

Whatever outcome you want to achieve with women – e.g. get her #, get her on a date, kiss her, sleep with her – …

when you ASSUME that action/thing is no big deal and it’s FUN to do, she will likely assume it’s no big deal.

#2 E.g. If you think it is a BIG FVCKING DEAL to kiss a girl on first date, you will unconsciously display all sorts of nervous/indecisive behaviors that convey you are NOT comfortable of kissing her…

then women will pick that up and also think it’s a BIG DEAL, and she won’t kiss you that night

Understand: How women feel about certain things/doing sth with you, often reflects how YOU feel about doing that thing with her.

When you ASSUME that getting a girl’s # under 2 mins is a big deal, she will have that ASSUMPTION too and feel that she shouldn’t give you her #.

#3 So what it means to you is this: Start assuming ALL the positive ideal situations will happen when you take certain ACTION.

E.g. Assume she is already interested in you, Assume she wants you to approach her, Assume she wants you to date you,

Assume she wants to fvck you, Assume she will do favors for you, Assume she is also looking for fun…

When you have this ASSUMPTION that what you do is no big deal, creating attraction will be so much easier, and you’ll a lot more likely to get the outcome you desire.

So let me ask you: Assume this girl is already wanting you, what actions would you take right now?

Try it and share with me the success stories later 😉

Hey bro, you do know we need to playfully tease a girl to increase her attraction right?

And you also understand that teasing doesn’t mean to insult her or make her feel bad about yourself right?

If you understand this, you will be able to see why flirting is actually a FUN thing to do with women just to enjoy these sexual tension, otherwise the conversation will become too formal and boring.

So if you want to know what it looks like to playfully flirt, below are some easy ways to flirt playfully:

#1 You playfully do stuff to annoy her as if she is a 10 years old girl

E.g. when she says sth, you repeat everything she says

E.g. In school, when she is walking to toilet, you keep blocking her from passing

E.g. When you bump into a girl on the street, act as if she is someone else lol 扮認錯人跟住玩嘢

E.g. She asks you sth, you first answer with something clearly exaggerated story

E.g. She asks you to do sth for her (can you pass me that tissue)… you pretend to do that… but as you hand her that stuff… you tell her now it’s her turn to give you a back massage … if she laughs or refuses…you pull that tissue away lol

#2 Another way to flirt is by your physical actions

E.g. She is about to sit, but you immediately sit down and steal her seat lol

E.g. When you walking besides her, slowly nudge her to another direction or push her away lol

E.g. (my favorite), during escalation in bar/club, grab her hand and put another guy’s butt LOL

E.g. Play thumb wrestle with her, pretend to be losing, then dominate her

E.g. Ask her to hold sth for a second … then once you’re done E.g. tie shoelace, then talk to sb else while she is on 99 holding LOL

E.g. Fake a high five, and leave her 77 hanging

E.g. Ask her to hand you sth … but when she gives you… you say “Nah I dun need it anymore”

#3 Finally, you can also do it verbally.

E.g. You make a few times eye contact with a girl, you walk over there and say 『我頭先見到你gup咗我幾次喎…我已經過咗嚟喇，你可以同我say hi喇』

E.g. A girl keeps appearing in your vicinity a few times, you can say “嘩又係你？做乜係咁跟蹤我？』

E.g. You chat briefly with a girl in certain environment, you later say “啊頭先我哋明明好好傾㗎，做咩冇勇氣搵番我呀，好失望囉…』

Bros, I believe you have more than enough examples of how to playfully flirt with girls, it is a fun activity you should enjoy.

As long as you do/say these things playfully, you won’t be seen as mean/hurtful to women and girls will LOVE IT!

In case you still want to learn more, email support@manthefvckup.com for more info regarding our advanced program MTFU Insider.