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If you have ever met a girl who 吊你癮, you know how frustrating it feels.

Sometimes they send you IOI signals, flirting HARD with you, making you think you have chance to get close, but later she turns cold and ignores you entirely.

Why the fvck girls naturally do that to guys, even when they have zero sexual interest with him?

#1 An easy reason is that women LOVE validation, and they just enjoy getting as much ATTENTION from men as their sexual power could.

They love being adored, and they just can’t help resisting men chasing her like bees. That is the nature of feminine.

So as men, how can we figure out whether she sees us as a sexual man who can be a potential lover, OR just another free-attention-provider who she will never sleep with?

#2 The answer is to ask yourself: Does her actions treat me like a fan? Are my current behaviors just like one of her fans?

Are you fighting with other men to get her attention?

Are you always trying to impress her by saying cool things or showing her cool shit?

Are you immediately apologizing for whatever you do because you feel that you might have offended her?

Are you super nervous when she gets more physical with you?

Have you already decided that “she is your one someday”?

If you answer yes to any one of the above Qs, you are just another fan your idol will never fvck.

#3 So how can we further judge how she sees us?

One, if a girl is attracted to you, she will be self-conscious 自我意識／不自在 around you. She will be a bit nervous and be wary of her behaviors.

So if she tries to cover her stomach area, brush her hair, fix her appearance…and she cares about the impression she makes on you, then that’s good news.

Second, if a girl is interested in you, she will want to know more info about you and ask you questions about yourself. E.g. interests, friends, gfs/ex

Women often want to know a few things about you before sleeping with you.

Hope the above guidelines can help you figure out if a woman is 吊你癮!

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How do you become that guy every man wants to be, and every woman wants to chase?

How can you naturally become that guy women always say they hate but they can’t help to fuck?

#1 If you want to be a man who has a lot of OPTIONS, who never worries about not having the ability to meet women or have sex, then you need to understand this GAME TRUTH:

Becoming better with women is more about doing LESS, than doing MORE.

#2 Ladies Man are those who show girls LESS attention, he is LESS needy & approval-seeking than the average men,

he is LESS nervous when chatting with women, he cares LESS what the girls/others think of him…

…so these Top 1% guys are so confident about themselves that he put less effort/time chasing women in a way women expect most guys do,

and that is what makes women more eager to chase him.

#3 So when you try to attract women, you have to be the guy who cares less about the woman than the woman cares about you.

You shouldn’t be always thinking the next trick to attract her, the best seducers understand that when you do what I suggest above,

women WILL start to think how to put in more effort  to get more of your attention.

#4 So my man, the takeaway is this: when you first starting out gaming girls, you should NOT look for an exclusive GF relationship.

As I said in the previous videos, a girl only genuinely wants you to be her BF AFTER she feels the desire to fuck you.

#5 Aim for non-exclusive fun-based sexual r/ps with multiple girls,

take at least 6 months to observe each girl’s behaviors when you hang out,

cultivate that abundance mindset when you have many options…

…and then you will truly understand how it feels to be a naturally attractive man with OPTIONS!

If you have been meeting and attracting women, you will have heard the 『我有男朋友㗎喇』phrase.

 

Most guys view this as a rejection, some guys think it doesn’t worth the time to talk to girls who are “in a relationship”, and some good men just feel guilty stealing another man’s gf.

 

However, there are 3 different scenarios on WHY women use the BF excuse and WHY you shouldn’t give up so quickly.

 

Scenario #1: If you hear this line at the beginning of the conversation, it means her guard is up and you might be doing sth wrong.

 

That line really means she wants you to go away. Maybe you are a bit annoying. Maybe you are too direct/strong. Maybe she isn’t in the mood  to meet guys.

 

So if you hear that in the first 30 secs or minute, you can gracefully exit by saying “Aww, that makes sense as you are quite cute. Anyway, it’s great chatting with you, I gotta go/chat with my friend/do stuff”

 

Scenario #2: You hear this at the middle of the conversation (2-5 mins),

 

that might mean she starts to feel ATTRACTION to you and her subconscious mind wants to break that TENSION.

 

She is saying that line because she can’t stand the sexual tension, and she needs to stop you logically. Thus, the trick is NOT to respond logically back to her.

 

You can EITHER slow down your escalation for a few minutes, ignore the shittest, and build attraction slowly.

 

OR you just say sth like“haha I don’t want to hear your problems, anyways…”

 

Scenario #3: If she says she has BF at the latter stage of conversation (10 mins – few hours late at night),  then this means she is implying there must be SECRECY between you two if sth is going to happen.

 

Maybe it means she does has a BF, but she isn’t satisfied so she is looking for sth else.

 

Maybe she is letting you know she can silently have fun with you, but she doesn’t want anything SERIOUS regardless her real reasons.

 

So in this scenario, you can decide if you want to escalate or not, depending on what you are looking for that day/night.

 

#4 Final Note:  I know many men proud themselves as the “good guys” and that’s why they feel unethical  to STEAL & fuck a guy’s GF.

 

But I want you to understand this: Almost every hot girl is at least seeing some guys and is being 曖昧 with him/them.

 

Also, the level of intensity/seriousness are different in different relationships.

 

#5 So do NOT assume that you can’t talk to a woman because she has BF, OR that you talking to her is hurting her r/p.

 

I don’t propose stealing other men’s GFs, but we should also understand that it is NOT guaranteed that the woman is currently in a happy r/p with her BF,

OR that she isn’t already looking to end that bad r/p.

 

When you understand that, you will have a more objective view on whether you proceed further with this girl who is clearly attracted to you.

It’s up to you 🙂

Hey brothers, I want to quickly share with you the #1 thing you must do to AVOID putting yourself in the FZ.

 

Here’s the truth: If you don’t create a sexual vibe ASAP, you risk putting yourself in the FZ.

 

When most guys meet a new girl, they think they need to show her that he is a nice, funny, interesting guy; THEN they will create sexual attraction.

 

That’s fucking wrong, because when a girl meets you, she will put you in one of the 4 levels:

 

#1 Rapist/Creepy Guy -> Ignore you, say fuck off to you or get rid of you ASAP

 

#2 Potential Friend -> She thinks you are nice, friendly, polite, gentleman. She doesn’t mind talking to you and may even think if she can turn you into another soldier.

 

#3 Potential BF -> She thinks you have BF potential, as simple as that.

 

#4 Potential Lover -> She feels horny, she starts to image to fuck you, she feels a weird nervous desire that she doesn’t normally feel

 

Now, here’s an eye-opening lesson for you: The biggest mistake most guys make is to present himself as a potential bf material!  

 

I know it sounds illogical, because it feels natural to present to her your so  many good qualities you have as a BF

 

e.g. you like to travel, you love surfing, you also do yoga like her, you love your job, you two laugh together etc.

 

But here’s the million $$$ TRUTH:

Presenting your bf qualities will NOT make her want to fuck you! Contrastly, a girl will only want YOU to become her BF if she wants to fuck you!

 

If she doesn’t have sexual attraction to you, she won’t want you as a BF. So if she doesn’t desire to fuck you, you will land in the no sex friend zone!

 

This is exactly why you and many guys fail to naturally become her BF because you are trying to put yourself in the BF zone!

 

Women don’t think like that.

 

Truth is when women think “Well, maybe it’s FUN to sleep with him even I don’t see him as a BF material.”,

and when she sleeps with you, that is when she will LATER think she wants to date you and make you her bf!

 

So the lesson is: Potential Lover First, Potential BF second. Don’t reverse the priority or you will get FZed!

 

If you want to learn more about HOW to present yourself as a lover, we discuss it inside MTFU Insider where…

Hey bro, I have a quick cold hard truth I must tell you.

 

For the past 2 years, I have been receiving a TON of emails and questions from my coaching clients and I have realized one TRUTH…

 

And that is: If you ask me questions about ONE particular girl, you are already fucked.

 

Why? It’s because when you describe to me a situation about “that one specific girl”,

 

it already implies that this girl is killing your abundance mindset and that is exactly WHY you becoming more & more unattractive in the situation.

 

When you ask a specific Q about ONE specific girl, you think that YOUR situation is so different, so special, so unique from anything else.

 

But the truth is: Female Psychology operates very similarly,

 

the most paradoxical truth about women is that ONLY if you don’t focus on/care too much about ONE particular girl CAN YOU get the most amount of girls…

 

Does that mean there’s nothing you can do to change a situation? Of course not, there are of course ways to salvage your messed up shit as best as you can.

 

But understand you are coming from a weak frame, and most things you do are just Damage Control/ 修補損傷/ 损害控制/ 意思就是采取措施将造成的损害降到最低.

 

Your effort spend saving from a fucked up situation is better spent on getting a new girl.

 

This is deep shit, most guys won’t understand what I mean.

 

But if you kind of get what I mean, congrats and maybe you should join us in MTFU Insider where we’ll explore more deep advanced strategies that I don’t talk about in YT.

 

If you are interested, send an email to support@manthefvckup.com and let us know.  

Yo brother, what is your favorite “opener”? What pickup lines do you find most effective?

 

If you are now researching for the best opener, OR do have a best opener, I guarantee you aren’t being the most attractive version of yourself.

 

Why? Because the best way to “open” a girl is NOT about “opener”;

 

And if you look for openers, you are focusing on the wrong thing.

 

What should be focus on? Great question, we should focus on getting her ATTENTION.

 

When you want to approach a girl, DON”T think how should I open this girl.

Instead, think “how can I get her attention?”

 

E.g. You want to stop a “moving girl”?

 

-> Tap her shoulder/grab her arm/step in front of her to GET HER ATTENTION

 

E.g. How to open girls in“mixed set”?

 

-> Tap her shoulder & get her attention, OR be polite to blend in with her friends first to indirectly get her attention UNLESS they don’t want to

 

Can you see how you are over-complicating the 開場白 thing when you focus too much on the WORDS YOU SAY, and forget the real purpose of getting her ATTENTION in the first 5-10 seconds?

 

So stop asking for the right openers, start getting HER ATTENTION in whatever creative ways you can and go from there!

I still remember many years ago, I started learning dating advice because I experienced a very bad breakup with a girl I “fell in love”with via long d r/p.

It took me nearly 2 years to recover, how I behaved was so stupid and wrong, but that pain motivated me to start learning the TRUTH about women, sex, dating and relationships.

 

So looking back, if someone asked me what weapons do I find most powerful to attract women, I think there are 3 valuable lessons every man must learn.

 

#1 Enjoying yourself and having FUN is so fucking crucial to attracting women.

 

“Fun”is the most undervalued weapon to get girls. No matter what game you play (daygame, night game, social circle game, text game, online dating), if you are NOT having FUN when you meet women,

 

it is very EASY to burn out yourself in your journey to improve your sex life.

 

So you have to find the FUN when you interact with girls in whatever place you meet them. If you don’t enjoy it, it’s hard to get good or be truly attractive.

 

#2 Becoming attractive is NOT “fake it till you make it”, it is about expanding your personality, owning your imperfect self and courageously expressing every good/bad, angel/demon, socially-acceptable/taboo of you with no filter.  

 

Because the truth is that the most attractive version of ourselves/ our True Self is when we were a baby, when we were NOT imposed so many social/cultural rules on us that limit our natural expression.

 

Our True Self is always curious, calm, confident, courageous, playful, present, expressive.

 

Becoming attractive is NOT about adding new layers, it’s about stripping off all the bullshit fake selves we now hold and let our True Self shine!

 

#3 Game is NOT about what you do, it is about how you react to what you and she do!

 

If you focus on what to do, you will always worry about “whether you are doing it right or wrong”, which guarantees you never take action and waste time.

 

However, if you focus on“how I react to whatever happens”,  you can literally can do/say whatever to women because you have the CONFIDENCE & SELF-BELIEF that “No matter what happens, I can handle it”.

 

This is a fucking powerful paradigm shift on how you view game!

 

Stop worrying about not doing it right in the first step, focus on how to playfully/nonchalantly REACT to whatever things she says/does to you!

 

If you get this, your game is going to be at least 10x more effective 🙂

I know I know, maybe you just hate spending time thinking how to “game”  a girl.

But as annoying as it seems, making women feel attracted to you IS a game, and those players who know the rules will win and be rewarded in the game.  

 

So unless you plan to be a sexless monk, let me show you the ONE WORD you must rmb to win this attraction game.

 

#1 Before I share that, understand this 禁忌: You should NEVER let her know how you feel about her after you’ve met her (or even before you have slept with her)!

 

Whenever you give away too much info too soon, you will make her think she GETS you.

 

That means you are TOO predictable, and she will conclude you are just another guy who wants her, who likes her, who she can PLAY in her palms.

 

When she put you in such category, she thinks she has figured out ALL of you, and you will be less fun, less exciting, less attractive.

 

So first thing to do: Stop 擦鞋奉承佢, stop begging her to approve you, stop bragging about yourself to impress her, stop agreeing everything she says.

 

#2 Do you know why you should also STOP liking/commenting on her IG/FB posts? It’ because it’s so damn clear that you are 好似一個粉絲咁崇拜緊佢。

 

Women only fuck idols, but never fans.

 

So STOP operating like a fan, STOP being too available via phone/text/in person, STOP cancelling your original plans to hangout with her, STOP being so agreeable, STOP always eager to do her favors etc…

 

You do this? It’s game over

 

#3 NOW, if these strategies never work, what works? Well, remember this world forever: Uncertainty is your weapon to keep her interested.

 

The more uncertain she is about your feelings, the more she is in the 灰色地帶, the more she thinks about you, the more value she places on you, the more she can’t help to figure you out.  

 

Women want to play the game, she wants to almost do anything to WIN OVER a man she values, women WANT to work to earn your time, attention and approval!

 

#4 A powerful way to implement this is inject UNCERTAINTY after a first date.

 

E.g. Next time you spend an enjoyable evening together, it’s predictable to lock down the second date ASAP.

 

However, say this next time『好啦，走啦，下次見』with a straight face LOL

 

I guarantee this will drive her CRAZY because your 漫不經心的態度  will make her think to herself:

 

“Oh shit, did he actually have a good time? Did I do sth wrong that offends him? Did he find be hot and sexy? Did he not want me!?!?”

 

Then when you text her in a few days for the second meetup/invitation, the tension will be released and she will be happily say a fuck yes to you and can’t wait to see you.

 

So brother, how are you going to use UNCERTAINTY in your attraction game? 😉

If you have ever been FZed, you know how painful it is.

You are always with her, observing her, admiring her BUT she just never sees you as a sexual guy she wants to fuck or get together with.

 

Today, let’s explore the 5 common reasons WHY you are in this no sex zone and end up being an emotional tampon for her.

 

#1 Because you are operating as her little FAN!

 

What does fan do? They closely monitor every single move their idol do, and always following their 一舉一動。

 

If you are secretly observe her social media activity, liking her stuff, commenting her stuff, DMing her stuff, can you see WHY you are putting yourself in the FZ by being 1 of the 1000s admirer in her fan club that she is never going to fuck?

 

#2 Because you are like a fucking 招財貓！What does a 招財貓 do？It fucking nods its head!

 

If you agree with whatever the fuck she says, if you pretend you LIKE everything she likes/does, if you NEVER express your real raw personality that might offend her, can you see WHY she just can’t feel attraction to you?

 

#3 Because you are predictable as fuck like a boring movie!

 

No one wants to watch a movie if they already know the storyline, climax & ending.  

 

So if you are so scared of “making the wrong move” and just do “whatever that please her”,  you have to understand that your behaviors are so predictable that she is BORED by you.

 

And in a girl’s dictionary, boring = legs closed & dry = FZ you!

 

#4 Because you are buying her gifts like a fucking father.

 

You think a sudden gift is a romantic surprise? You think showing how 關心/細心 you are and rewarding her even though she did no shit to earn it is attractive?

Well, kindness is NEVER going to make her wet, otherwise girls will want to fuck the Buddha!

 

#5 Because you try to be a 白馬王子去拯救佢！

 

I know it’s deep in a man’s psychology to protect women.

 

But if you do these “saving acts” hoping she will see you as a 紳士勇士, if you always ready to listen to her problems,

 

if you jump on every opportunity to SAVE HER, I guarantee you will become a nice gay friend she THANKS but never feel the arousal to fuck.

 

So are you now in the FZ?

 

Great, it’s because YOU have put yourself in such submissive role as a friend, YOU purposefully hide your sexual desire,

 

YOU overvaluing her interests/opinions/ideas/problems/self-esteem while undervaluing your value as a man.

 

So tell me: Who is to blame when you find yourself in a FZ?

Hey brother, do you think you are a 正直有道德嘅好人? If yes, do you find yourself compelled to say yes and always help others (guys/girls) when they ask?

 

If yes, you have a nice guy disease because you don’t know how to set boundaries and say no.

 

#1 Whether it’s people asking you to help them because they know you are free in the weekend…

 

OR people seeking your advice because they know you are good at sth…

 

OR a girl wanting sex now but you just don’t feel like fucking her…

 

If you don’t learn to say no when you don’t want to do sth, if you don’t set boundaries for yourself, you will end up being torn apart by life, making everyone happy, but end up making yourself the most miserable people in life.

 

#2 Maybe you say, “But I am worried that if I say no, they won’t like me!”

 

Well, one, we can’t control ppl’s reactions or thoughts,  and it’s everyone’s responsibility to take ownership of their emotions…

Second, if saying no once or twice ruins the r/p, maybe such r/p isn’t strong/important enough.

 

So understand: people who are meant to be in your life will stay, those who aren’t won’t.  

 

If you don’t set boundaries for yourself, you are a weak spineless beta bitch who will NEVER be respected/desired/loved.

 

#3 So stop saying yes to social activities that  you don’t want to go.

Stop staying in a bad first date when you don’t like the girl in front of you.

Stop fucking fat ugly chicks you don’t genuinely like or find sexually desirable.

 

If things are not a fuck yes, then it is a hell no. And you better utilize your most valuable asset i.e. time/attention on doing things that you genuinely love!

 

Further Resource: <When I Say No, I Feel Guilty>, to be touched in MTFU Insider