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If you want to have a fulfilling intimate relationship, there are certain foundational rules that you need to follow in order to make it thrive.

#1 Everything starts from self-acceptance & self-love

Your r/p with the world is a reflection of the r/p with yourself. Your own happiness & fulfullment is always your No.1 priority, NOT your partner’s.

Most conflicts start in a r/p when you feel that your emotional needs are being met, so you need to take time off for your own rejuvenation REGULARLY.

If you don’t do things daily to LOVE YOURSELF (physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, spiritually), you’ll ruin your relationship!

#2 Seek first to understand, before you seek to be understood

Most people feel so much need to tell the world what they need, than they can’t stop and listen what others need.

Once you’ve spent time to take care & love yourself, you won’t feel a need for others to meet your needs and thus you have the EMOTIONAL AVAILABILITY to see/listen/understand who they are & what they want.

If you show up like that with your girl, she will feel loved.

#3 Have the courage to be vulnerable

Humans are NOT attracted to perfect beings, we are attracted to each other’s flaws and imperfections, that’s how we RELATE & CONNECT with others.

That means sometimes you tell your girl that you are afraid to do certain things, sometimes you be honest and invite her if she wants to listen to the truth,

sometimes you apologize if you fvck up,
sometimes you ask for help when you can’t figure things out,

sometimes you SAY NO to others politely if you don’t want to do stuff…

=> If you love & accept yourself, see first to understand, and then have the emotional courage to be vulnerable,

you will develop healthy strong bonds with not just your girl/partner but also other human beings 🙂

Hey bro, I am not sure how long have you been watching MTFU’s videos, or whether you are smart enough to study the old videos I have put out…

But if you want a guaranteed way to generate attraction with women, this secret I am about to share with you is fvcking powerful.

#1 Before I reveal, let me ask you: How do you know if a girl likes you? How do you know if you have successfully sparked attraction in her? How do you know a woman is seeing you as the prize she wants to chase?

Well, if you can’t immediately answer these questions, then you gotta understand this…listen carefully…

Whatever outcome you want to achieve with women – e.g. get her #, get her on a date, kiss her, sleep with her – …

when you ASSUME that action/thing is no big deal and it’s FUN to do, she will likely assume it’s no big deal.

#2 E.g. If you think it is a BIG FVCKING DEAL to kiss a girl on first date, you will unconsciously display all sorts of nervous/indecisive behaviors that convey you are NOT comfortable of kissing her…

then women will pick that up and also think it’s a BIG DEAL, and she won’t kiss you that night

Understand: How women feel about certain things/doing sth with you, often reflects how YOU feel about doing that thing with her.

When you ASSUME that getting a girl’s # under 2 mins is a big deal, she will have that ASSUMPTION too and feel that she shouldn’t give you her #.

#3 So what it means to you is this: Start assuming ALL the positive ideal situations will happen when you take certain ACTION.

E.g. Assume she is already interested in you, Assume she wants you to approach her, Assume she wants you to date you,

Assume she wants to fvck you, Assume she will do favors for you, Assume she is also looking for fun…

When you have this ASSUMPTION that what you do is no big deal, creating attraction will be so much easier, and you’ll a lot more likely to get the outcome you desire.

So let me ask you: Assume this girl is already wanting you, what actions would you take right now?

Try it and share with me the success stories later 😉

Hey bro, you do know we need to playfully tease a girl to increase her attraction right?

And you also understand that teasing doesn’t mean to insult her or make her feel bad about yourself right?

If you understand this, you will be able to see why flirting is actually a FUN thing to do with women just to enjoy these sexual tension, otherwise the conversation will become too formal and boring.

So if you want to know what it looks like to playfully flirt, below are some easy ways to flirt playfully:

#1 You playfully do stuff to annoy her as if she is a 10 years old girl

E.g. when she says sth, you repeat everything she says

E.g. In school, when she is walking to toilet, you keep blocking her from passing

E.g. When you bump into a girl on the street, act as if she is someone else lol 扮認錯人跟住玩嘢

E.g. She asks you sth, you first answer with something clearly exaggerated story

E.g. She asks you to do sth for her (can you pass me that tissue)… you pretend to do that… but as you hand her that stuff… you tell her now it’s her turn to give you a back massage … if she laughs or refuses…you pull that tissue away lol

#2 Another way to flirt is by your physical actions

E.g. She is about to sit, but you immediately sit down and steal her seat lol

E.g. When you walking besides her, slowly nudge her to another direction or push her away lol

E.g. (my favorite), during escalation in bar/club, grab her hand and put another guy’s butt LOL

E.g. Play thumb wrestle with her, pretend to be losing, then dominate her

E.g. Ask her to hold sth for a second … then once you’re done E.g. tie shoelace, then talk to sb else while she is on 99 holding LOL

E.g. Fake a high five, and leave her 77 hanging

E.g. Ask her to hand you sth … but when she gives you… you say “Nah I dun need it anymore”

#3 Finally, you can also do it verbally.

E.g. You make a few times eye contact with a girl, you walk over there and say 『我頭先見到你gup咗我幾次喎…我已經過咗嚟喇，你可以同我say hi喇』

E.g. A girl keeps appearing in your vicinity a few times, you can say “嘩又係你？做乜係咁跟蹤我？』

E.g. You chat briefly with a girl in certain environment, you later say “啊頭先我哋明明好好傾㗎，做咩冇勇氣搵番我呀，好失望囉…』

Bros, I believe you have more than enough examples of how to playfully flirt with girls, it is a fun activity you should enjoy.

As long as you do/say these things playfully, you won’t be seen as mean/hurtful to women and girls will LOVE IT!

In case you still want to learn more, email support@manthefvckup.com for more info regarding our advanced program MTFU Insider.

Hey bro, I’m going to teach you something more intermediate about attraction today. So if you are a total beginner, you might understand what I say later when you progress.  

So, you do remember the importance of NOT being a nice guy right?

And if you stop buying girls drinks for free, complimenting her, or being too agreeable, you do find girls start to treat you differently right?

If you have been applying what you learn from MTFU, you should notice that girls no longer treat you as a beta nice guy whom they can control/bully…

however, do you wonder why some women still don’t chase you even when you are a challenge to them?

#1 The answer is this: Stop presenting yourself as a nice potential bf is the first step, you did well.

BUT, if you’re not enjoying more sex, it is because you had shown TOO MUCH disinterest/coolness in her that she starts to think you are NOT interested in her!!

Most beginner guys focus too much on expressing disinterest/acting aloof, and they don’t even show her any interest indicators that makes a girl notice them.

#2 But you gotta understand: Attracting girls does NOT mean completely hiding your desire and pretending to be indifferent to her.

It’s more about expressing your desire for her with your nonverbals (occasionally verbals), BUT you are indifferent to the outcome/result.

So what you wanna do is to let the girl feel that you find her sexually attractive, but she also feels that you have a ton of other sexual options that if she doesn’t start to chase you, she is going to lose your attention.

#3 Next time when you’re gaming, I want you to notice the moment when you’re talking to girls and you sense that some flirting is going on, then at that moment try to use a statement to express your desire for her.

E.g. When you’re screening for her inner qualities and she is qualifying herself at the connection stage, you can look at her and say, “Ah…你唔單止性感啊下，原來你都算幾有愛心架喎”, with a smirk.

At that moment, you are building sexual tension and she will either giggle, become shy, or say something. After that, go back to talking normal stuff to release ST.

When you do that, you are using a statement of desire to increase sexual tension/attraction and inspires her to chase you.

That is one of the ways to escalate via your words, if you’re interested in learning more, email support@manthefvckup.com for more details about our advanced program MTFU Insider.

It is a very interesting question to ask isn’t it?

We live in a culture where we see in TV/movies/media that men and women can have great, long-lasting friendships…

and in many cases, they eventually fall in love with each other and have a happy perfect relationship forever.

But is this true? Is real life happening the same as we were told? Feel free to comment below and here’s my take on it.

#1 In a man-woman relationship, there are 3 possible scenarios:

The first one is the man holds the dominant frame, he is confident, self-assured, and comfortable with women.

He sets the frame of how the relationship is going to be and often women just want to sleep & stay with him. That’s ideal.

#2 In scenario 2, (which is 90% of today’s dynamics) the man is a submissive beta who secretly tries to be the girl’s bf, while the girl holds the frame.

He will pay for things, he listens to her breakups & emotional dramas, he “protects” her from dating bad guys he doesn’t like etc.

#3 In scenario 3, the relationship is equal and there is no ST between both. But magically, both can date & fvck others, and the other party don’t get jealous.

Is scenario 3 possible?

I think so, as long as the man doesn’t find the girl sexually attractive and he doesn’t want to fvck her at all.

#4 However, many guys mistaken this with a situation when they are ACTUALLY SEXUALLY INTERESTED in the girl.

From my experience & observation,

when a guy is close friend with a girl and she is not fvcking him, it often means that he is secretly in love with her and wants to sleep with her…

when a guy is close friend with a girl and she is not fvcking him, it often means that he is secretly in love with her and wants to sleep with her…

…BUT since Day 1, he was too pussy to express his sexual desire that he pretended to be her gay best friend and WAIT for a better day when she finally see “how good a guy he is” and chooses him.

#5 You may now ask: If a girl doesn’t want to sleep with him, why do they still keep them as friends?

Or why do they say “they don’t want to lose the friendship when that guy finally confess his feelings”?

Well, it’s easy. The girl is enjoying a ton of benefits from the guy: He is taking care of her, he buys her stuff, he does her favors, he gives a ride for her, and most importantly, he gives her attention whenever she wants it.

#6 I also want to believe that men and women can just be BEST FRIENDS just like men-men relationship.

But we have to understand: Men & women naturally have ST with each other. If they are put in a room and no one knows, they are going to fvck some day.

If a guy is very close with a girl but isn’t fvcking her, 99% of the time is because he is a beta guy who feels shameful for his sexual desire to fvck her and put himself in the FZ,

and maybe just 1% of the time he isn’t sexually interested in her but for whatever reason just needs to keep that friendship.

What’s your thoughts? Are you close with certain girls just to stay friends?

Or are you honest enough to admit that you actually want to fvck her but wrongly chose the traditional friendship path?

CM below and let me know!

Have you ever wondered why girls say they want a guy with a sense of humor who treats her well, but fall in love with assholes who use/abuse her?

Are you like my old self, who really hate players who seem to“hurt women”, who seem to be selfish, but women just can’t help but to stay with them?

You have to understand: The superpower these jerks have on women are not that magical…

the reason why girls are attracted to them is because of his bad boy characteristics.

＃1 What is bad boy characteristics?

It is definitely NOT those romantic, chivalrous gestures of buying her chocolate & flowers,  OR any long intimate conversations to “get to know each other”.

Bad Boy characteristics means you exude independence and confidence who does what pleases himself first.  

They have an attitude that“This is who I am, whether you like it or not.”

#2 Now you may ask, how do badboys create love in women if they care about themselves first?

Well, understand this: A woman only falls in love with you when she is away from you thinking about you.

Love doesn’t appear when you are with her, it often happens when you are AWAY from her and she just can’t stop thinking about you.

It happens when she plays the conversations in her head over and over again, it happens when she wants to Google and analyze your behavior.

#3  That’s why bad boy traits are attractive to women.

They are the ones who are emotionally independent, who proactively makes his life interesting and fun and thus gives her the time/space to wonder about him.

Bad boys don’t seek validation from women, so they don’t ask for permission/approval from girls to do things they love.

Bad boys exude sexual confidence, he already assumes women want him and he is actually helping her to get him by proactively chatting with her.

If you understand these TRAITS bad boys have, you don’t have to be really BAD or treat women poorly but still remain as an attractive male.

The Q is: Are you going to MTFU & learn these traits as a good man?

OR keep drinking sour grape juice and criticizing those bad guys who do get girls?

Bro, you have watched so many MTFU videos, and by now you should understand that attracting women is both a short term game and a long term game.

Bro, you have watched so many MTFU videos, and by now you should understand that attracting women is both a short term game and a long term game.

In the short term, you should develop that fun, carefree, nonchalant, passionate, adventurous guy who enjoys his life and welcomes women to hang out.

In the long term, you should be a man who keeps challenging himself in all areas of life, dominating your path/mission, and living with purpose.

When you become that, you will become a man she not only wants to fvck, but also a man she wants to love.

Below are 3 tactical ways that make you irresistible as a man in years to come:

#1 Never compromise your sex & love life

Especially with women, if a woman feels that “you only choose her because you can’t get others so you settle for her”, she is going to fvcking resent you!

So you should only go after women you genuinely like, who genuinely inspires you outside and inside the bedroom. When you know what you want and you take action to claim it, that’s always an attractive trait in a man.

#2 Stop hating “bad players” and start peeling off your “nice guys masks”

If you still hate those “assholes”women keep falling in love with, you will never LEARN the psychological reasons WHY they succeed but you fail.

Instead of seeing things in good/bad, try to see things in predictable/ dull/ boring and to exciting/fun/surprises.

Even though a girl wants a good stable reliable man who loves her in the long term…

biologically…they just can’t help but fvck a guy who is fun, exciting, non-needy sexual man who is comfortable with his desires.

You want to be the Ultimate Alpha? Then you gotta be a man she doesn’t just want to love, but she also wants to fuck!

#3 Never base your self-esteem/self-worth on girls, never!

A masculine man always validate himself from the inside, while a feminine woman always validate herself from the outside.

The day when you base your self-worth on “how much money you make/ how many girls you can penetrate/ how big your muscles are”, is the day when you fall into the endless loop of insecurity/consumerism where you always need to “get more stuff” in order to feel secure.

All those external things are like eating desserts, it’s good to have once for a while and there is NO NEED for you to live in a monk…

…but apart from enjoying these desserts of life, you gotta also have the WISDOM to know that a meaningful fulfilling life is MORE THAN just physical material pleasures…

If you follow the above 3 principles,

you will become that beast who can travels between the physical and spiritual realm of life and enjoy BOTH RICHES in the outside and in the inside. 😀

Bro, remember when I said that showing bf qualities to attract a girl you haven’t slept with is a huge mistake in seduction?

And do you remember why taking care of her, treating her well, listening to her problems and helping her solve stuff ARE NOT going to make her your gf?

#1 In fact, if you ask a girl why they are attracted to their BF at the beginning, and if they are honest, they will often say stuff like

“I dun like … he looks like the kind of guy who only looks for fun at the beginning… I didn’t really see him as a BF material…I thought we won’t last … but the longer I know him…the more I like him… I guess that’s how love is…”

#2 So, why showing BF qualities don’t work at the beginning?

It is simply because typical BF qualities only builds more comfort, and that will drastically kill all the sexual tension and thus she doesn’t feel the urgency to have sex with you.  

When you are trying too hard to find commonalities/rapport,

when you are siding with her badmouthing other players/jerks,

when you are respecting her too much to make a move…

YOU are no longer a CHALLENGE she wants to overcome and be close with!

#3 So what should you do instead?

You should treat every girl you meet as if you are just looking for short term FUN & SEX, even though you know that someday you might just want a stable GF or build a family…

You should stop listening to her problems and solving them for her…

You should stop being agreeable or compromising your schedule/life priorities so that you two can smoothly get along with each other…

Even if you really like her, even if she seems like a“good hearted Christian who never had sex kind of gf material”, you still need to STOP using the “good bf” strategy.

Good bf doesn’t get laid, and thus they don’t get a girl fall in love with him, the Q is are you still choosing to do it?

Do you know women decide how good sex she can have with you based on how good a kisser you are?

And do you know that if you don’t want to get FZed, you must go for the kiss ASAP in the first/second meetup?

If you understand getting rejected at your first kiss attempt is BETTER than never knowing the truth and wasting time on a girl who isn’t interested sexually in you,

then below are the 3 most components you need to know on how to kiss a girl successfully.

#1 You must build sexual tension before you kiss her

The best kiss always happen when you have built enough nervous anticipation before the kiss.

So you’ll want to increase T through your vibe & start getting physical with her.  

E.g. Instead of laughing when you tease her, only smirk because laughing defuses those nervous tension moment.

E.g. Start touching her hair, her waist and slowly do triangular gazing on her face

These subcommunication build her anticipation so that your first kiss won’t seem weird.

#2 DO NOT kiss her when you say goodbye!

Most men think the best time to kiss a girl is at the end of the meetup,

but the truth is that women are more open to kisses when there is a mix of predictability and unpredictability.

That means the right timing is seldom at the end of the date, when the energy level/tension is the lowest.

Instead, it is often in the middle when you have built enough tension that she FEELS NERVOUS enough, BUT just not too sure if you’re going to escalate more.

Those are the best timing that she can’t really expect it but kinda want it.

#3 Always leave her wanting more

In your kisses, NEVER be the creepy guy who keeps kissing and tries to french kiss her 10 mins lol

Once you have first kiss her, you should enjoy those moments for just a few seconds, and then pull back. This often makes her wanting more (whether in the next few secs or the next date)

If you can follow the above 3 guidelines, your kisses will be better than 80% of the guys out there and she will want to see you again a lot more!

Hey bro, are you worried that you don’t know how to handle girls shit test to you? Are you concerned that you choose the wrong attitude to hit back?

Well, if you are caught up in shittest, you shouldn’t.

Because just like a girl throwing tennis ball to you, shit tests are great opportunities for you to hit that shit and elevate your value/attractiveness in the girl’s eyes!

#1 So what are shit tests really? Simply put, they are when a girl accuses you of sth or subtly insults you.

E.g. “Aww, 我頭先係咪hurt到你呀？』『你簡直係一個玩家食家！』『我唔會同你上床囉…』『我有男朋友㗎喇…』『我哋可唔可以淨係做朋友呀？』『幫我攞住個袋一陣呀。』

There are hundreds/thousands ways girls can suddenly shittest you, especially during the initial attraction stage when she is just not too sure if you are a weak supplicative beta guy OR a real alpha dominant man.

#2 Now, how do you know when you fail ST?

Well, when she sees you 口窒窒 struggling to respond, get embarrassed/upset, or when you immediately try to defend yourself…then you fail ST.

E.g. When you’re flirting with her, she looks at you and says “我哋今晚唔會上床㗎啦”… and you were surprised, 跟住好7地同佢講 “下你講咩呀？我淨係想同你傾計㗎咋喎，我諗住同你上床喎。”

Then her attraction level will drop at least 2 pts.

#3 So, how should we respond? I want to teach you a simple formula that can handle most tests: 認同誇大法

E.g. “我哋今晚唔會上床㗎啦”

–> “係呀,梗係唔會啦。你淨係會喺梳化上面攬住我跟住睇鐵達尼號。”

E.g. “你係咪用緊咩溝女skill落我度呀？”

–> “哦，梗係啦，啱啱出個招好勁㗎；我一出招嘅話，通常啲女仔就會即刻下跪ai我做佢男朋友架啦”

E.g. 你問佢攞電話，佢同你講『好呀，我哋可以做friend嘅』

–> 『梗係啦，之後你就可以晚晚聽我訴苦，我出trip嘅時候你就可以車我去機場，我出去蒲嘅時候你就可以幫我一齊溝女…但係辛苦你喇，因為我知道你將會暗戀我，希望我某日會揀番你 lol』

When you can 認同 + 誇大 whatever shit test she gives you, her attraction level towards you will at least raise 2 pts from a normal 5/6 to ⅞.

So let’s fall in love with shit tests, and be excited when you spot them!

If you want to learn another dozens ways to handle ST,

you’re welcome to email our support team support@manthefvckup.com for a full training I have created before. Have fun shit testing!