Book Ref:
觀女觀人必用！自戀型人格檢核表！(下) [FBI教你危險人物 Ep.008]
識人自保必用！自戀型人格檢核表！(上) [FBI教你危險人物 Ep.007]
Book Ref:
如何結交好朋友？FBI教你一條方程式！[溝女/成功/人生]
Hey bro, you know that we all are heavily impacted by our environment, so we will become like those friends whom we hangout with most.
Assuming you have eliminated those negative crabs who pull you down, how could we build friendships once we have found a quality human being?
Well, let me recommend you reading <The Like Switch> by Dr Jack Schafer,
who is a former FBI agent who specializes in behavior analysis and recruiting spies.
He uses this “The Friendship Formula” that Friendship = Proximity + Frequency + Duration + Intensity.
Proximity = distance between you and others, it means the EXPOSURE to each other. (whether it’s shared space or shared context)
Frequency = # of contacts you two have over time;
Duration = length of time you two spend with each other
Intensity = How strongly you are able to satisfy another person’s psychological and/or physical needs through the use of verbal/ nonverbal behaviors
-> i.e. how much impact such interaction have on you both
Knowing this now, how can we make friends?
Step #1 You gotta spend more TIME doing stuff with them because 25% of forming a friendship is BEING THERE with them!
Step #2 Once you have been spending time , slowly increase the frequency & duration to increase another 50%
Step #3 After those TIME, you can slowly add INTENSITY (i.e. go from light causal pleasant topics to deeper personal emotional topics)
When you take it slowly and if the other person wants to go there, you two will become good friends who know each other.
Of course if it is in a social group setting and you’re new to the group, you want to slowly test the water and feel out what social norms of particular group.
After you have been there for a few times and established your place, then you can start to take some risks slowly to express more of yourself.
As long as you are NOT a energy drainer or freerider, and you actually GIVE VALUE to other people, people will love to have you as their friends!
點樣揀正女？觀察此三種特質！[溝女]
Bro, you know that a man should always be the selector and you should always subtly screen if a girl can meet your standards.
Because when you do that, girls will sense that you are testing her, and she will see you as a man of higher value.
No girls want a guy who just fvcks every woman.
So if she feels that you are actually highly selective about girls PERSONALITIES but she might have a chance with you, she will chase you!
Now, how can we attract girls who are not just sexy but actually good for us? Below are 3 lists of qualities you should have:
List #1 is called the long term GF qualities list.
These are the ideal women that you want to keep because they are good for you:
E.g. Honest, Loygal, caring, nurturing, supportive, loving, dependable, understanding, emotional health
These are the non-crazy girls that won’t create too much drama in your life.
List #2 is called the Fvck No list!
These are the repulsive women that will harm you in many ways:
E.g. Emotionally cold, mean, too flirtatious, manipulative sociopaths, addictions, disloyalty, boring with no hobbies, no vision/goals, have no gfs but only guy friends!!!, self-abuse or punish people
These are very DANGEROUS people you should never be in contact with, they are going to make your life miserable.
Finally, list #3 is the FUN girl qualities list.
They are more short term for fun and they will make you feel alive:
E.g. adventurous, sexual, independent, open-minded, non-judgemental, spontaneous, carefree, confident, feminine, express her emotions, comfortable with her sexualitiy, dare to be hot and sexy etc.
Realistically, it is very HARD to have a girl that have only #1,3 with no #2.
And honestly, you should first look for #2 to avoid, #3 for short term during the first few months, and you can only truly know if a girl possess #1 after maybe 1-2 years.
So never make any major life decision within the first 2 years!
FBI uses 2 years to observe a person before they decide to hire them.
So focus on avoiding the dangerous girls, choose girls who display short term fun, and keep those who have the good girlfriend qualities!
神秘F字，增加囡囡對你的吸引力！[溝女]
Bro, do you know that there is ONE word that most men are so afraid of hearing but didn’t realize its power when he uses it?
Do you know that if you do it right, this ONE word can create a perfect gap between you and her and compel her to chase you?
#1 If you want to use this, remember there is a condition:
The best timing is to use it in the early stage of attraction (the first 30 mins before the first date),
when she is still gauging if you are a potential lover, potential bf, sexless frd or creepy guy. (Of coz you are aiming for lover)
#2 Here here you go: This magic F word is…….. FRIEND word!
E.g. “Aw, thanks for your compliment Cherry, you are such a good friend.”
E.g. “Hey friend, what have you been up to?”
E.g. “You know what? You are actually quite attractive…let me make you my new friend.”
#3 The reason this works during the attraction stage is because when you use the word “friend”,
you are creating doubt in her mind: “Wow, this guys seems interested in me, but does he actually just see me as a friend?”
Women want to feel desired, they want to be sexually wanted. So they expect men who hit on her always want to fvck her.
#4 But if you do it right, she will be confused whether you actually desire her sexually,
and when she feels that you have DISQUALIFIED her as a sexual option, she may try to do stuff to make you desire her again!
So very often, she will start to put more effort to qualify herself, to prove herself that she deserves to be desired.
#5 So use this F word often. If you’re good, you might even use it at latter stages…
E.g. When she is deeply attracted to you, say “Wow, you are a great friend…Why are you making my body want to kiss you right now? Stop being so sexy, let’s just be friends…”
And then look at her eyes, hold then tension, and kiss will happen 😉
邪教是如何形成？如何對付自戀者？ [FBI教你危險人物 Ep.006]
Book Ref:
Since Narcissists 自我過度膨脹, they think that outside things BELONG TO them and will get it at YOUR expense. (e.g. women, work accomplishments)
They are not just 展現佔有慾，sometimes they may become violent (grab your arms, block the door entrance, push you to wall) to threaten you.
Bro, DO NOT believe that “they aren’t so bad most times” or “won’t happen again” because Narcissists WILL NEVER CHANGE.
The toxins are deep down in their blood and you can NOT help them. You must report their crimes and stop the bullying. Things won’t get better!
Now, let’s move on the topic of cults, because according to Joe, every cult has a Narcissist leader who overvalue himself at the expense of his followers.
Those leaders do not tolerate criticisms about him/her, they preach grandiose ideas, they feel highly entitled, and they think they are above all laws.
Here are the 8 major lessons from FBI report about Jim Jones and 人民聖殿教:
＃1 A ton of ppl unconditionally give life to sb
#2 Using “religion”, dangerous personalities can hide underground with no scrutiny
#3 Cult leader have total control over followers’ life, like a 極權政體
#4 Torture your physically and psychologically repeatedly, PREVENT anyone from leaving
#5 Cut communications from your family and friends, who try to help/rescue
#6 Leader has obvious Narcissistic traits – words/writings
#7 Only a few members can see the leader as toxic/dangerous
#8 Once you become loyal to the cult leader, you become blind and you even harm your children because you don’t want to 正視任何可疑危機
Now brother, based on many past horrible cult leaders, there are 7 things you need to understand about cults.
#1 Cult leaders attract ppl who are unable/unwilling to discern if they are being exploited
#2 Cults use physical/psychological/social pressure to prevent you from leaving
#3 Cults must ISOLATE you from the world, so that the Narcissistic leader will never be criticized or scrutinized to control you
＃4 Narcissists are happy to be the leader, and they will do whatever it takes i.e. destroy others to remain in position
#5 Narcissists leader have NO 規條, he enjoys all privileges e.g. sex, travel, luxuries
#6 Cult leader will claim “to have all answers and secrets about better life”, he decides everything for you
#7 Because many religious organizations or voluntary associations are PROTECTED BY LAW, and because most things happening must be kept SECRET, the law enforcement units can’t intervene at all.
So to summarise, the similar characteristics are: 保密與隔離，心理身體虐待以摧毀自由意志，由一人掌握絕對權力
These can be found in toxic organizations, workplace, home or even an entire country.
Now, you may understand how Narcissists are super dangerous, because Narcissistic personalities are what Hilter, Stalin and many political leaders share…
They kill millions for “an ideal vision”, they believe they have the answer to the future, they demand absolute loyalty and worship from followers to gain power…
If you want to learn how to assess objectively whether sb is a narcissist, pay attention to the next episode!
自戀者如何殘害你身心？法律都約束唔到！ [FBI教你危險人物 Ep.005]
Book Ref:
Narcissists are sometimes hard to spot because they can be charismatic, intelligent, fascinating individuals who attracts you.
Sometimes you may see a glimpse of their arrogance & grandiosity, sometimes they may turn cold & aloof that makes you feel distant.
The effect is always: You feel confused, you can’t fulfill their desires, you feel tortured.
#1 Narcissists know that you will feel good by caring about you, and that is why they will never do so.
Narcissists are like cold blooded lizards, their lack of empathy makes them EASY to find ppl to complete them, but NO ONE can ever fulfill him/her.
In short, the more you spend time with Narcissists, the more they torture your emotions and heart. You feel HEAVY inside and you’re being EATEN AWAY.
#2 Bro, you may have learnt to “forgive and forget” about their sins because you think 人誰無過，最重要知錯能改, and especially when they are close people you love.
But DO NOT make this mistake…because that’s exactly what narcissists want you to do…
They want you to forgive and forget them…
so that they can HURT YOU AGAIN, and they will feel superior & fulfilled, while you once again feel shocked, depressed and destroyed. Narcissists want you to 臣服於佢嘅腳下。
So Narcissists intent is always to glorify himself/herself at the expense of others, so they people feel “small/insignificant/inferior” while he/she feels “superior/higher/better”.
#3 You must understand: Narcissists are NOT CAPABLE OF expressing love!
Everything they do are conditional “I will do this for you BUT I EXPECT you to return things for me”
Since public image is Narcissists’ primary concern, they CAN NEVER truly give to their children.
They expect children to be perfect, they push children to be best at everything, they use kids as pawns to bring FAME & FORTUNE to themselves.
Because when their children succeed, the light will eventually shine on THEM and they feel great.
However, if children fail to be “their ideal” – athletics, academics, pretty, obedient – Narcissists parents will distance themselves because the children is a BURDEN than a source of pleasure…
This is sad… because the children will never understand why their parents won’t LOVE them …
and their heartbreaks will lead to MANY psychological issues when they grow up and they might do crazy things just to “get love” from other ppl…
#4 So bro, were you loved when you were a child?
Were your parents always questioning, challenging, ordering you to do impossible stuff?
Did your caretakers never show much interest in your needs/wants/desires?
If your childhood was fucked up by narcissists, you might now understand why it is almost impossible for you to develop healthy romantic relationships.
Children internalizes parental narcissism, and narcissism move from generations to another.
And this cycle creates more ppl who are mean, no respect, zero-sympathy, feels entitled to bully others.
So if you recognize such toxic psychological sickness in you,
I highly recommend to seek professional help from good therapists to help you heal from all the sad traumas you had experienced.
Otherwise, no pickup games can help you get the emotionally healthy women you want!
你唯一需要的溝女興趣訊號！行動喇！[溝女]
Bro, if you want this year to be the BEST YEAR EVER in terms of women, you gotta follow this rule of seduction.
It is simple, it is effortless and it is very effective if you want massive improvement.
But before I share that,
do you actually notice that women have been secretly checking you out every day?
#1 I know it sounds creepy, but no matter how awkward you think you look right now,
I guarantee that right now you are actually some girl’s TYPE and they are interested in you when they see you during the day.
The problem is you are just unaware of seeing these signals when you are looking at your fvcking dumbphone playing game!
#2 However, if you want to improve your success with women,
I want you to start paying attention for eye contact from women no matter where you go.
I want you to OBSERVE that girls actually are giving us eye contact ALL THE FVCKING TIME!
Once you can see that truth, I want you to make a personal rule for yourself:
Whenever you and a woman lock eyes for 2 seconds,
I must immediately move my legs towards her! (or at least I must NEVER break that eye contact)
#3 Here is the secret I want you to know:
9 out of 10 times when a woman lock eyes with you for more than 2 secs, she is interested in you and she WANTS YOU to approach her!
If I had to choose the BEST IOI of all time, I would say apart from the “assume attraction mindset” I have shared before,
locking eyes for 2 seconds is really the BEST IOI that a woman wanting you to say hi.
#4 That is the only “permission” you ever need to approach her, and when you walk towards her,
just greet her and say stuff like “Hey, I saw you secretly checking me out for a while, now your wish has been fulfilled and you can say hi to me :)”
If you could utilize these opportunities, you will be shocked by the positive responses from women for the rest of your life.
教你2個百搭詞語，馬上增加吸引力！[溝女]
Remember I said that we need to create OBSTACLES in order for girls to fall in love with us?
Well today, let me teach you 2 simple words that create similar effects on girls, so that you can inject UNCERTAINTIES into whatever you say.
You can use this to compliment girls, make future plans with her, or even tell her you like her WITHOUT ever sounding needy or weird!
#1 So the method is this:
In whatever you say, try to add conditional words such as 如果 or 或者 in your sentences.
E.g. Normally “I really like you, let’s hang out!”
-> Conditional “Well, if I start to like you, I would totally invite you to this bar for special cocktails, they serve the best drinks I have ever tried.”
E.g. Normally “You are so sweet, can I get your number please?”
-> Conditional “You seem like a cool girl so far, maybe you should whatsapp me later so we can continue this fun vibe.”
E.g. Normally “You are so hot, come back to my place.”
-> Conditional “If you keep leaving a good impression on me, I might invite you to try my latest dessert recipe and watch a movie together.”
#2 Bro, can you see that by using conditional words,
you are secretly creating a SMALL GAP between you and her, but that gap is not too difficult that she will want to overcome?
What I have shared above is like superpowers, they will set up a frame that makes girls want to chase you because you are PLAYFULLY CHALLENGING her to keep the flirtatious vibe going.
#3 Tbh, women also use such technique on men for centuries:
E.g. “If you buy me a gift, I might go on a second date with you.”
“If you keep being a nice good boy listening to my emotional shit, maybe you will get a kiss on the cheek on our 75th date”
“ If you marry me and give me half of your assets, I might allow you to fuck me after 2 years”
Well, I say fvck that! Why not use their game back on them? :p
你想長遠溝女輕鬆？別純粹依賴game! [溝女/人生]
I don’t know about you, but I don’t really enjoy spending hours everyday going out to pick up girls for the sake of picking up them,
or swiping through dating apps, or even worse spending thousands of dollars on drinks, dinners, gifts to hope that I can get laid.
I am not saying attracting girls don’t require certain effort or skills,
but what I am saying is that if you think game is the ONLY missing piece of the girls puzzle,
you might be disappointed once you have invested years of trying to find new game techniques.
#1 Why?
It is because in order to be an attractive man for both short term and long term mating, you gotta also get your shit together and build yourself and your life to be attractive, apart from understanding game.
I have said many times before, a masculine man is like a train going from one place to another while a feminine woman is like a passenger that comes and go.
Your main focus should always be dominating your own path, creating a fun passionate lifestyle for yourself, taking care of yourself first, enjoying being single and being social with people…
AND THEN, during your path, you may invite those girls you are interested to meet to JOIN YOUR ADVENTURE with total autonomy for them to come and go.
#2 The men who have the easiest dating lives, the ones who put in least amount of effort and sometimes may not even know there’s GAME… they operate exactly like that.
It might take more investment, but they understand that a man’s sexual value peaks much later than women and they don’t RUSH the dating process.
They understand that they should enjoy the casual fun in their 20s, gain more experience in their 30s, and then maybe start to look for something else in 40s.
They take their time to build themselves as a shiny prize, so that they will slowly be inundated by options as they mature and build up their own empire.
#3 The point is: You need to BOTH increase your attractiveness in the short term AND the long term.
In the short term, of course you want to stay fit, go out have fun and socialize, and learn how women operate in their mating strategies.
But in the long term, you should start investing in yourself,
shape yourself to be a strong powerful valuable human being, build your attractive lifestyle so that your future self doesn’t always need to go out to game girls.
If you could have a longer perspective towards women and attraction, you will thank yourself 5 years later for watching today’s video 😉