標籤: 戀愛

Whether you are single now or in a long term relationship, brother, do you feel that you need women/your gf/your wife MORE THAN they need you?

If your answer is anything similar to “I can’t live without her”, you are a fvcking beta. Period.

I know it is harsh and I know you don’t want to hear this,

but the truth is that in whatever relationships you have with women, you can NEVER be the one who NEEDS her more than she needs you.

Why?

Because #1 Women NEVER want a man who NEEDS her to survive, to thrive, or to be happy.

A man who can’t function or succeed without women is a WEAK BETA male that will be ELIMINATED by harsh realities and women don’t want weak pussies.

You need her more than she needs you?

She will conclude that you are a needy rubbish that she never want to fvck.

#2 No matter what women SAY in their mouth, it is a feminine women’s NATURE to want a more DOMINANT masculine guy to lead the relationship.

A man who takes major control is the man her biology is programmed to fvck.

If your behaviors signal “I need you baby, please approve me”, you are doomed to maturbate in the next 10 years.

#3 Now, I am NOT saying you need to be domineering/盛氣凌人/專橫, be a control freak and sacrifice her interests to maintain relationships.

No, what I am saying is that most young boys nowadays automatically DEVALUE /貶值 themselves, sacrifice their ambitions,

compromise their missions to hopefully “make a girl like them/fvck them/make her happy”…

AND this is exactly why she doesn’t like you/respect you/want to fvck you.

#4 If you want more women, stop being so accommodating/通融/樂於助人 to her needs, and start believing that you are the fvcking valuable prize that women must win over.

Stop compromising 妥協 your opinion/interests/wants/passions/needs just to avoid arguments or keep peace with your gf/potential girl because harmony NEVER creates tension i.e. attraction.

(If you don’t know how to do it, go to www.manthefvckup.com/7dayfreecourse to study it. It’s FREE.)

Rmb: Women would rather fvck a disagreeable guy who makes her pissed/sad/emotional than an agreeable loser who is like a United Nations peacemaker 和事佬.

So be self-sufficient/自給自足 and NEVER need her to stay in your life than HER wanting you to stay in her life.

When I say that “you should never stay in a relationship where the woman doesn’t respect you”, a lot of men support me.

They even say that “yeah, women should automatically respect men because of the fact that you’re being a man.”

Well, that’s not something I agree.

#1 Respect is NOT a default thing. Respect has to be EARNED by others.

Whether you get respect really depends on whether you are WORTHY of that.

If you are not a high value man who is conquering life like a king,

if you haven’t taken action to change your pathetic situations,

if you just whine like a little bitching beta loser,

you don’t deserve shit.

The world is a harsh place brother, nature is not just beautiful & peaceful…

Nature is also cruel, filled with killings and you gotta train yourself to be a STRONG motherfvcker to survive and pass on your genes – whether it’s physically, mentally, emotionally, financially or sexually.

#2 Maybe now you wanna complain to me now that “No way! I am born to be special, I deserve more money, women, sex, health for FREE!”

Bullshit, stop that immature entitlement kid thinking!

Everyone thinks they are special, which in a sense is true, BUT the world doesn’t owe you any things you want. You have to exchange VALUE to get shit.

#3 So if you’re like 99% of the world, you are NOT born rich/handsome/physically attractive and you don’t easily get women/money.

That’s fine.

But to leave that unsuccessful life that you don’t like, to rise above and become the TOp 1%,

you have to work for it, you have to train yourself, and you have to fight your way to DESERVE it.

The harsh truth is that women would RATHER share part of a strong Alpha with other women THAN to have FULL 100% ATTENTION of a weak Beta.

Stop complaining women don’t want you, stop complaining women don’t respect you automatically.

Train yourself to be an Alpha in terms of your thinking and doing, grow the fvck up, and earn your respect in the world.

#4 Finally, everything I said above does NOT mean you should let women or others disrespect you, even when you are not where you want now.

If women aren’t respect you, it’s your own damn fault because you CHOSE to stay in such toxic relationship.

What you should do is to set boundaries on what behaviors you accept or not, and LEAVE if that bitch ignores that.

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#5 So the whole point is:

Have basic self-respect on what behaviors/conditions you accept/not,

set & enforce boundaries with women,

leave if ppl violate that,

and if your life isn’t giving what you want (whether it’s respect, women or money), take action to EARN it and become DESERVING.

Done.

Hey bro, you know that we all are heavily impacted by our environment, so we will become like those friends whom we hangout with most.

Assuming you have eliminated those negative crabs who pull you down, how could we build friendships once we have found a quality human being?

Well, let me recommend you reading <The Like Switch> by Dr Jack Schafer,

who is a former FBI agent who specializes in behavior analysis and recruiting spies.

He uses this “The Friendship Formula” that Friendship = Proximity + Frequency + Duration + Intensity.

Proximity = distance between you and others, it means the EXPOSURE to each other.  (whether it’s shared space or shared context)

Frequency = # of contacts you two have over time;

Duration = length of time you two spend with each other

Intensity = How strongly you are able to satisfy another person’s psychological and/or physical needs through the use of verbal/ nonverbal behaviors
-> i.e. how much impact such interaction have on you both

Knowing this now, how can we make friends?

Step #1 You gotta spend more TIME doing stuff with them because 25% of forming a friendship is BEING THERE with them!

Step #2 Once you have been spending time , slowly increase the frequency & duration to increase another 50%

Step #3 After those TIME, you can slowly add INTENSITY (i.e. go from light causal pleasant topics to deeper personal emotional topics)

When you take it slowly and if the other person wants to go there, you two will become good friends who know each other.

Of course if it is in a social group setting and you’re new to the group, you want to slowly test the water and feel out what social norms of particular group.

After you have been there for a few times and established your place, then you can start to take some risks slowly to express more of yourself.

As long as you are NOT a energy drainer or freerider, and you actually GIVE VALUE to other people, people will love to have you as their friends!

Bro, you know that a man should always be the selector and you should always subtly screen if a girl can meet your standards.

Because when you do that, girls will sense that you are testing her, and she will see you as a man of higher value.

No girls want a guy who just fvcks every woman.

So if she feels that you are actually highly selective about girls PERSONALITIES but she might have a chance with you, she will chase you!

Now, how can we attract girls who are not just sexy but actually good for us? Below are 3 lists of qualities you should have:

List #1 is called the long term GF qualities list.

These are the ideal women that you want to keep because they are good for you:

E.g. Honest, Loygal, caring, nurturing, supportive, loving, dependable, understanding, emotional health

These are the non-crazy girls that won’t create too much drama in your life.

List #2 is called the Fvck No list!

These are the repulsive women that will harm you in many ways:

E.g. Emotionally cold, mean, too flirtatious, manipulative sociopaths, addictions, disloyalty, boring with no hobbies, no vision/goals, have no gfs but only guy friends!!!, self-abuse or punish people

These are very DANGEROUS people you should never be in contact with, they are going to make your life miserable.

Finally, list #3 is the FUN girl qualities list.

They are more short term for fun and they will make you feel alive:

E.g. adventurous, sexual, independent, open-minded, non-judgemental, spontaneous, carefree, confident, feminine, express her emotions, comfortable with her sexualitiy, dare to be hot and sexy etc.

Realistically, it is very HARD to have a girl that have only #1,3 with no #2.

And honestly, you should first look for #2 to avoid, #3 for short term during the first few months, and you can only truly know if a girl possess #1 after maybe 1-2 years.

So never make any major life decision within the first 2 years!

FBI uses 2 years to observe a person before they decide to hire them.

So focus on avoiding the dangerous girls, choose girls who display short term fun, and keep those who have the good girlfriend qualities!

Bro, do you know that there is ONE word that most men are so afraid of hearing but didn’t realize its power when he uses it?

Do you know that if you do it right, this ONE word can create a perfect gap between you and her and compel her to chase you?

#1 If you want to use this, remember there is a condition:

The best timing is to use it in the early stage of attraction (the first 30 mins before the first date),

when she is still gauging if you are a potential lover, potential bf, sexless frd or creepy guy. (Of coz you are aiming for lover)  

#2 Here here you go: This magic F word is…….. FRIEND word!

E.g. “Aw, thanks for your compliment Cherry, you are such a good friend.”

E.g. “Hey friend, what have you been up to?”

E.g. “You know what? You are actually quite attractive…let me make you my new friend.”

#3 The reason this works during the attraction stage is because when you use the word “friend”,

you are creating doubt in her mind: “Wow, this guys seems interested in me, but does he actually just see me as a friend?”

Women want to feel desired, they want to be sexually wanted. So they expect men who hit on her always want to fvck her.

#4 But if you do it right, she will be confused whether you actually desire her sexually,

and when she feels that you have DISQUALIFIED her as a sexual option, she may try to do stuff to make you desire her again!

So very often, she will start to put more effort to qualify herself, to prove herself that she deserves to be desired.

#5 So use this F word often. If you’re good, you might even use it at latter stages…

E.g. When she is deeply attracted to you, say “Wow, you are a great friend…Why are you making my body want to kiss you right now? Stop being so sexy, let’s just be friends…”

And then look at her eyes, hold then tension, and kiss will happen 😉