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As you all know, HK is the most expensive city to live in the world, so it is not uncommon for many young men to share rents with others or live with parents.

One Q I get asked from more established brothers is that whether they should share rent with their gfs i.e. cohab with their gfs?

What’s your instinct about that? Do you think it’s a GOOD DEAL to do so to consolidate your relationship?

The underlying reason for many men to cohabit with gfs is NOT just sharing rent, but the REAL reason is that they think by living together, he can has more SEX with gfs EVERY FUCKING NIGHT and his sex life will be happy.

Well, if you really think you will get a DAILY supply of sex, you totally don’t understand the sexual dynamics b/w men and women. Here’s why:

Cohabiting is like a preview of marriage, there’s not much difference between the two. So when you cohabit with gf, you are giving her EXTREME comfort and certainty.

Comfort = familairity = predictability

You have almost ZERO privacy and freedom. She knows everything about your schedule/what you are doing/who you are seeing. And you are actually legally committed to finishing the rent EVEN if the relationship turns bad.

When you have so comfort in a relationship, guess what you don’t have?

You don’t have elements that make her WONDER/THINK/MISS about you, you don’t have enough SPACE for her to IMAGINE what you’re doing, you don’t have enough DOUBTS in her mind that whether you’re seeing other girls.

Attraction requires passion, passion requires TENSION, tension requires the nervous feeling of the unknown – she not sure what you’re doing/ she not sure if other girls are competing for your attention/she not sure if you can have sex in other places/ she not sure if she has SECURED you yet!

So what are you actually doing when you cohabitate with any girls?

You’re destroying EVERY elements that makes you a sexually desirable man, you are destroying her emotional needs to worry that there are other women competing you outside, you’re destroying the SPACE for her to miss you.

Healthy relationship requires PHYSICAL SPACE and OPTIONS.

So if you don’t plan to get married, (which is a good choice), there is NO REASON for you to cohabitate with any chicks.

If you’re young and still building your dream, it’s much better to live on your own or share places with OTHERS who aren’t your sexual options, have the freedom to do whatever you want, and enjoy dating different women.  

If you need more help as regards to your dating/sex/relationship, we teach them in details in our Insider family. If you are interested, email us support@manthefvckup.com and let us know that you want to join.

Regardless, LIKE this video and COMMENT below to let us know your cohabitation experience, or how you would approach your rental issues.

Welcome to <A Billion Wicked Thoughts/十億個邪惡的念頭> Ep.2, where we will understand what do men and women REALLY like and the difference sexual cues we have.

#1 It is very hard to study the differences b/w men vs women sexual interests because it’s hard to ACQUIRE DATA. Direct observation is best, but people don’t like to be asked about their private lives (feel guilty) +hard to get funding from govt or institution (taboo).

But authors used Dogpile.com (not in use now) , a meta-engine that combine result from Google, Yahoo, Bing etc., to get  400 million searches July 2009 – 2010 as source data.

In the unfiltered search, they find stuff like shemales in prom dresses 人妖, Twilight slash Edward and Jacob 吸血新世紀, wives caught cheating on cam, best romance novels with alpha heroes, kendra wilkinson sex tape, spanking stories 調教打屁股, free gay video tube etc.

#2 In cases where the search was ambiguous, the researchers used the AOL search histories released in 2006 to distinguish whether the terms typically appeared with other sexual searches.

MILF = 熟女/Mother I’d Like to Fuck

So a total of 55 million of the searches were classified as sexual.

And interestingly, the top 20 interests search = 80% all searches
Top 35 top interests = 90% of all searches

Meaning: Most ppl’s desires are actually MORE COMMON than you think. Our sexual desires are shared by many other people.

#3 The most popular erotic web sites reflect interest of men & women’s sexual brains:

Meaning: Men’s and women’s tastes are radically different.

On the web, men prefer images, graphic sex. i.e. sheer lust, physical gratification, no courtship/commitment/relationships. Minimum plot line, focus on the sexual acts, a lot of female bodies – face, breast, genitals.  

Women prefer erotic stories of romance relationships i.e. the heroine identify, win the heart of and marry the one man who is right for her, not just sex.

They seek out different MODES of stimulation. Men prefer to watch, women prefer to read and discuss.

＃4 Authors theorize that men and women respond to different sexual cues.

Our mind’s taste software responds to 5 perceptual inputs: sweet, salty, sour, savory香, and bitter.
E.g. sweetness detects sugar, imply energy, so we like it.
E.g. bitterness detects alkaloid 生物鹼 substance, normally toxic plant, unplesant

Same as our sexual desire, we have evolved psychological mechiansm to detect + assess mate value.

And the next episodes will help us understand specific innate cues that trigger desire in women and men.

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Have you wondered why it is so HARD for men to stop masturbating with porn even though they know it’s harming their body and mind?

Have you wondered why women are so obsessed with romance novels like <Twilight><吸血新世紀／暮光之城>, <50 Shades of Grey><格雷的五十道陰影>?

Are you interested in understanding the differences of male & female minds towards sexuality and how they are differently aroused?

Well bro, I am starting this new book series <A Billion Wicked Thoughts/十億個邪惡的念頭> and will start to explain to you the differences, according to very extensive HARDCORE DATE from online searches.

#1 Before this study came out, the only BIG sex study was done in 1950s by Alfred Kinsey, where he and his team interviewed >18,000 people with 521 Qs about sexual interests.

Those were very old data and the methods were limited because it relies on self-report AND it’s mostly educated, middle class Caucasians.

But the authors in this book are neuroscientists, they examined >400 million different searches and the search history of more than 650,000 people, providing a vastly more detailed and improved answer to the Q: what do men and women really desire?

#2 So why is this book a much STRONGER data that reflects more TRUTH about human sexuality?

Because billions of people are FREE to search their most secret erotic desires in a totally anonymous way.

They are in private settings, they are NOT censored and NOT afraid to reveal their trustest desires. So these datas are reflect the truth in a non-judgemental way.

#3 So bro, I plan to use about 10 episodes (5-7 mins)  to reveal the MOST important findings in this book, and explain to you HOW you can utilize these data to your advantage when it comes to dating/sex.

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#4 What you need to know now is this: By analyzing the secret desires of tens of millions of men + women, AND explaining the mechanism behind that, you will discover some DARK sides of human sexuality.

We are penetrating through people’s mind with ZERO filter. The sexual brain is NOT politically correct, NOT socially conservative, NOT morally upright.

If you want to become good with women or sex, I invite you to cast away all the moral/religious/social/familial/cultural IDEAS or beliefs about SEX, and use an objective lens to observe the harcore TRUTH.

You may feel offended, feel sad, feel angry, feel crazy, feel negative about certain stuff, but that’s just the statistics and it’s up to you to see them or not.

I hope you will enjoy this <十億個邪惡的念頭> series, if you have any Qs or anything you want to say, leave a CM below and let me know.

We will start Ch.1 in the next video so I will see you there!

Over the past 2+ years, I have read almost 1000+ case studies from bros at all levels, all ages from 13-50+, from all over the world and i have noticed certain PATTERNS in their dating/relationship problems.

When you answer so many Qs, you will start to notice what works and what doesn’t work when dealing with women.

So I will list a bunch of observations I have made during this period when I am teaching brothers.

#1 Begging girls to do sth e.g. to date, to have sex, to like you, to love you, to give you a chance WILL NEVER work.

You must have the upper hand power at all times in a relationship. Whenever you BEG a woman to stay with you/get back with you, you are FUCKED!

Why? Because appealing to girls’ sympathy is NOT a seduction tool!

#2 Every time when you feel the URGE to save a r/p, you actually have already LOST the girl.

Why? Because it implies you’re caring too much, you are putting HER in front of yourself, you are NOT in control of the r/p. So this relationship is DONE, you’ve fucked up.

#3 Most of what your father or grandfather tell you how to get girls is WRONG. In 2019/2020/2021, buying flowers on V’s day or random day is the most UGLY thing a man can do. Stop being so ugly and 變態.

Also, stop believing what TV dramas or romantic movies say about male-female relationships including those starting from the 60s. The project of making men beta have started almost 80 years ago and those messages are all harming you.  

#4 Don’t “surprise” your girl by suddenly appearing outside her office, that’s creepy. Stop telling her I love you unless she has told you MANY TIMES in advance.

Stop calling girls on phone to “Nth much, I just want to hear your voice”. These are all SUPER BETA behaviors EVEN when you’re her bf.

#5 NEVER apologize for your actions, unless in extreme cases. An Alpha is unapologetic about himself, about his attitude, beliefs and actions.

People pleasers are betas. Be proud of yourself, be proud of your sex drive, be proud of everything you do including your failures.

#6 So called “game” is about creating an impression that she’s chasing you, even though you’re proactively leading her to do so secretly.

So “game” isn’t about doing nothing and let girls come to you, that doesn’t work UNLESS you are super high value like a famous hot celebrity. But the general rule is to do as little/obvious as possible to game her.

#7 Never give 100% of the things women want e.g. your time/your emotions/ your material stuff/ SEX!

Remember that only scarce things have value, and women only want what they can’t have. So keep them in the wanting/wishing/fantasizing mode.

#8 Self-respect is one of the biggest thing men lack nowadays. Stop being a pathetic worm cry-baby who tells me that “I really want her, i can’t live without her, I must want her because I love her.”

Shut the fuck up and listen: You can never FORCE a woman to be with you. No woman wants such a loser like you right now. If a woman wants to leave/break up, let her go and CUT all your attention.

Men can NEVER convince women to stay if her heart is there. So look at the mirror at your fucking face, see how you fucked up, learn from your mistakes and move the F on like a man!

#9 In all stages of relationship, you must remain as a KING. You are the prize, you know your value and it is HER LUCK that you choose her to date/fvck tonight.

She is the lucky girl who gets your attention, you deserve hot women and you always do things that pleases you first. NEVER put her in front of you.

So here you go bro. These are the common basic themes I get from so many MISTAKES guys are making with women right now.

Choose women who want to be with you, who will change herself for you, and who will overcome challenges to stay with you.

Only those who are putting in the effort and proves her loyalty deserves your most attention. Others are only casual playmates you fvck around once for a while.

We teach a lot of details in our Insider family. If you wanna learn more on how to do so, email us support@manthefvckup.com and let us know that you want to join.

Bro, what do you think is the most effective weapon to attract girls? Is it money, status, looks, muscles, fun emotions, great connections, successful career or how good your sex game is?

Another Q: When you don’t like a girl’s certain behaviors, do you argue with her? Persuade her to change? Or care about her feelings, fulfill her needs and then hope then she will listen to what you want?

Well, the answer to all these Qs is that:

One of the most powerful tools to attract/keep girls is actually using the girl’s own imagination.

#1 What I mean is that: Most beta guys love to TELL everything about themselves to girls, wanting her to know ALL of his stories/wounds/strengths and flaws, and think that women will appreciate his TRUTH about his life and “will love him for who he is”.

Sorry bro, apart from your mum, no women on the planet want to know 100% of you. Why?

It’s because women want to figure out a man by themselves, by their own imagination, by her intuition and by her feelings about you.

#2 When you tell her everything about you, you are taking away her ENJOYMENT of “discovering a man” and she will dump you and find other men who are more like a mysterious puzzle to solve.

Women care about the CONTEXT (上文下理／背景) of the communication, they care about HOW you talk about things, they care about what is NOT being said, they care about the underlying meaning and the subcommunication.

So women don’t really pay attention to the CONTENT of what you say, they don’t really care about “the literal meaning” because they’re feeling the deeper parts of the communication.

#3 You may now ask: But isn’t being honest is an attractive trait to women? Why do they always ask me to TALK TO THEM?

Rmb: Vulnerability is only attractive ONLY IF you use it rarely, like <5% of the time.

95% of the time you must be strong-minded, hard-to-kill, firm with your boundaries, confident, self-loving and not like a cute teddy bear.

If you start out as an Alpha like that, and only “become vulnerable” and share feelings AFTER she has earned it (e.g. had sex, obey to you). Otherwise, telling women everything about yourself is UNATTRACTIVE and you’re doomed.

#4 So back to our main point: If you now know that women’s imagination is your best weapon to get her, how would you approach dating?

E.g. Don’t “tell” her how Alpha you are, but BEHAVE in certain manners/ attitudes so that she concludes herself that you are the guy she wants to fvck.

E.g. Don’t “tell” her you have many girls options, but BEHAVE in such a way that you’re always busy going out for coffees, having interesting pics with girls without face in IG, or acting so casual in dates or after sex.

E.g. Don’t argue with her about certain points that you disagree with, JUST withdraw your attention as a punishment so that she KNOWS you don’t like it.

#5 So yes, you don’t need magnificent words to persuade women about your attractiveness.

All you need is to communicate your message via your BEHAVIORS, and let her imagination runs wild and conclude why she must want you by herself.

We teach a lot of details in our Insider family.

If you wanna learn more on how to do so, email us support@manthefvckup.com and let us know that you want to join.

#1 Don’t just read/study, you must APPLY

Knowledge without application is USELESS to get girls. The whole process of real learning is to study, apply, learn from mistakes, keep adjusting.

Unless you are using these weapons on women, you are NOT even in the game.

#2 Find a type of “game” that fits your lifestyle

We all have different schedules, preferences, and strengths/weakness. So you should design your “meeting girls” habit according to what’s best for you.

If you look good on pics/paper, do online. If you are rich, have social status in certain environments, mingle in bars or clubs. If you have a lot of time, travel a lot, like talking to strangers, you can do cold approaches wherever you go.

Your goal is to be able to talk to at least 1 potential girl a day in whatever means. Only then you can start to game girls.

#3 If you must cold approach, make it as casual as possible like a side thing you do when you’re going through your day.

Personally, I don’t like going out in malls/streets JUST to approach a ton of girls and get as much as # to run game later.

BUT, if you happen to be in a gym, buying food in CItySuper, reading books in a bookstore, doing work in coffee shop, drinking with friends at a bar, exercising in a park, waiting a line in whatever places (because you’re doing stuff you’re already planned and you happen to SEE a cute girl),

then it’s perfectly good to spend 30 seconds to approach her and see if she is open to talk to.  

Again, if you’re talking to only 1 new girl a day, you will have almost 100 new experiences in 3 months. Such simple daily exercise will help you gain so much experience than most guys in 3 years.

#4 Seriously, get a mentor.

Yes, I am biased to say this. But honestly, it’s super HARD for most guys to become great with women just by his own.

Even if he has many gfs in the past, he may still be operating with a Beta mindset and doesn’t know why he FAILED.

We all need mentors to help us see our blind spots. Whatever new skills I want to learn nowadays, I always pay to learn as intimately/quickly as possible so that I can save time and many mistakes.

So whether you choose me or other guys who talk about game, if you cherish your own time, pay them so that they can 10x your speed to success.

If you recognize the value of mentorship and you like what you’ve been learning alone here in MTFU, I welcome you to consider joining our MTFU Insider brotherhood, where we provide ALL the trainings, coaching and accountability to help you succeed in dating/sex/relationship life.

Email us support@manthefvckup.com if you are interested.

#5 Aim lower at your beginner phase.

Let’s be honest: You can’t just fvck 9-10/10 dream hot girls if you’re inexperienced. At the beginning, you aren’t aware of what mistakes you’re making so you need TIME & EXPERIENCE before you can win the boss game.

So you need to build SMALL WINS by gaming girls who are just average-looking (but not ugly) ones who are maybe 5-6/10, then slowly level up as you gain experience.

Of course don’t fuck ugly fat chicks who are a 0. But aim for those you feel neutral but acceptable-enough to have a ONS. Gain small successes so that you can have huge successes later on.

So these are the top 5 suggestions for all newbie guys who are studying sexual dynamics and maybe with less than 10 lay counts.

Do you still have any challenges you’re facing you don’t know how to face? Like and comment below and let me know so I can create better content for you in future.