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Alex L: 我最近中意左個細1年既女同學 之前有次集體活動同佢吹左一陣水 覺得佢好啱我口味 嗰日我同佢由差唔多系陌生人變成左fd 應該系比較淺層既嗰種fd 佢間唔中系我ig都有投下票咁 有次同佢見面仲對住我甜笑
咁係呢個禮拜2，我屎忽痕whatsapp問佢英文名（因為平時叫開佢中文名）問完之後我個fd 就用我部機打「哼哼我以後就咁叫你架喇😊」佢之後whatsapp覆得有啲冷漠
之後個日咁啱坐小巴坐佢前面 咁冇理由唔把握機會搭下訕啦 我feel到氣氛好似有啲尷尬 冇乜嘢講 我系咁搵嘢講 佢又有應既 都唔算冷淡
但其實自從星期2 佢再冇系我ig 投過票 佢系咪知道左我對佢有興趣 ？咁糸咪好大穫？我應該點做去挽救？Thanks man
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#1 Not sure how old you both, but I bet that’s F.2-3. It’s good that you had chatted with her and got her IG/whatsapp, you had done most kids won’t.
BUT, what would you let your frd type shit to a girl you like? He is destroying your chance with her. That “I’ll call you XYZ” with a smily sound creepy.
#2 It’s super normal girls turn cold after being warm. That’s part of their game to shit test guy. But the real reason you’ve lost her is because you don’t ESCALATE to get a date with her + you keep talking random boring shit with her like a FRIEND.
Who cares if she votes on your IG? Who cares about these stupid 小學雞 game?
Rmb: Every time you give attention to girl, you need to pave way to escalate to the next stage. If you are not getting her out a date, you shouldn’t be contacting her. Got it?
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Denny Y: Yo Man,Follow咗你都一段時間 覺得你講啲嘢都好有用 好正!
我有個問題, 其實Take imperfect action 同indifference嘅態度應該去到幾盡? 定係需要一個平衡點? 以上兩個方法…其實有少少似, 人無恥便無敵 . 因為佢可以無視自己本身一切, 而作出不斷的嘗試及練習 .但如果自己本身的條件未符合, 只是靠不斷的嘗試和練習, 亦未必會成功.
你教我哋的東西, 好多都不是能夠在一時三刻內完成的. 例如 self love 去完全接受自己唔完美的一切, 又例如朋友唔多, 冇自己嘅social circle, 又例如有時自己都唔係咁開心, 出去玩都未必可以話好自娛自己, 又例如最近身體比較差成日都病, 基本上要成日休息, 所以連出去玩的能力都. 如果呢啲問題未解決, 係咪唔好識女仔住呢? Thanks
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Good Qs, I like that you’re self-reflecting on what you learn.
#1 “Taking imperfect action” = Understand we NEVER have perfect information to take a 100% perfect action. If we wait for the perfect day, we will NEVER accomplish anything – meet girls/build businesses.
It’s inevitable to make mistakes, so the best way to make sure you are making progress in life is to know 60-70% info of “what/how to do sth” and then take imperfect action to try it. Until you try, you never know what else you need or whether you will succeed.
#2 Indifference = care what you think about yourself MORE THAN what others think about yourself.
If you entertain everyone’s opinion about what you should/shouldn’t do, people will pull you into 360 directions and you will get TORN and get NOTHING done.
Indifference doesn’t mean you’re being 無恥 and exploiting others. Instead, it means you understand the importance of self-care, that you cannot HELP others before you help yourself, AND you can’t help others AS WELL before you help yourself.
#3 As regards “many things aren’t immediate”, OF COURSE. If everything is so easy and immediate, everyone will be a 千萬富豪 with 10 girls behind him.
However, difficult things don’t mean they are complicated. Every HARD skills or accomplishments can be broken down into basic fundamentals that you can learn, train and master.
If there are so many good advice you learn from MTFU and don’t know which one to start with, just pick ONE THING to do that fits your current schedule most and improve your life the most.
E.g. If you’re physically weak, of course you need to get healthy and train yourself to have a strong body/mind first. If you’re broke and worry about money all the time, of course you need to get that handled before you have basic stability to game girls.
Know your priorities, make small changes and you’ll slowly UNFUCK your life.