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2 NEW announcements of MTFU’s directions! 😀

We know that being vulnerable requires emotional courage, because letting ppl come close and see your flawed imperfect self is scary and can hurt you if you choose a wrong person to do so.

How do we protect ourselves while doing that?

#1 First thing to remember: We don’t NEED everyone to see the deepest, realest part of you.

Not everyone DESERVES to see that deep truth, and not everyone is INTERESTED to explore you.

So while we are being real, we give people freedom to go as deep as they want and freedom to stop at certain level.  

When you come from a place of total self-acceptance and self-love, we WON”T need others to validate us that“Oh, you really are flawed but I accept you”.

#2 You have to be choosy as who you slowly allow to enter your heart.

From your interactions with them, you need to see if they are a trustworthy, non-judgemental, patient, compassionate, kind-hearted person who has your best interest at their heart.

If they are supportive to your growth with open heart, then these people has earned their right to receive your invitation to go deep.

If they shame you for being/doing certain things, they are NOT safe people to open up.

#3 This applies to every kind of relationship – bf/gf, friendships, or you seek help from therapist or personal coaching.

The purpose of these “vulnerability sessions” is to help you heal from your emotional wounds in the past,

to let go of the toxic shame that controls you, and to reintegrate your disowned selves back to your personality.

So if you need help to open up, if you are scared about certain fears but you don’t know why,

if you have difficulties connecting with women, you are welcome to send an email to support@manthefvck.com to book a coaching session with me,

OR join our community MTFU Insider to learn and grow together as an integrated healthy male so that you become more attractive, powerful and confident human being.

It is safe, loving, compassionate evn where you will receive support in your journey.

Hey brother/sister, do you know that no matter how good/bad your childhood was, it is going to affect your love & relationship life?

No matter whether your parents took care of you OR never took care of you, our childhood experience WILL influence what kinds of partners we attract in a romantic relationship.

#1 Why? It’s because as a child, we are helpless and ego-centric.

On one hand, we crave love & attention from our primary caretakers;

On the other hand, our naive self believe that every +ve/-ve reactions from others MUST be because of you.

If they treat you good, you think “Me = Good”.

If they treat you bad/negligent, you think “Me = bad”and something is wrong with you.

#2 Do you know why EVERY human being is fvcked up by their parents?

It’s because even though you have the BEST parents in the world, they are gonna do sth unconscious that make you conclude that you are NOT good enough.

E.g. Daddy comes home, you want to play with him, he said too tired and go watch TV, YOU conclude that you are NOT lovable.

E.g. You broke a vase, mum gave you a quick angry look and said you are so naughty to do that, you conclude YOU = BAD = NOT lovable  

So little innocent acts from our caretakers will easily make kids conclude that they are NOT good enough.

#3 What do kids do then?

Because of fear of abandonment, we develop a series of survival mechanism.

Maybe we tried to achieve good grades to get our parents attention…

Maybe we withdrew as a hermit and play computer games alone to avoid rejection…

Maybe we intentionally behaved badly just to get their attention…

No matter how we adapt, we start to force our identity to behave in certain ways in order to get love and approval.

And that’s how we develop extreme good boys/extreme bad boys traits to survive in childhood.

How about you brother?

Which strategy did you use?

Can you see how such identity shaping will affect what kind of women you attract?

Feel free to share your story and we’ll start to see why we behave in certain ways today as an adult.

Like and Share this video if you think it’s valuable to others, if you want to dive deeper in this topic, let me know.

Are you aware that our biggest enemy is always ourselves?

And one common mistake we all do is to CRITICIZE ourselves too harshly that eventually hurts our self-esteem.

So let me ask you: Do you love yourself? Can you extend your kindness and love towards your ownself?

If you crave happiness, connection, emotional strength and love in the world, you gotta stop being an asshole to yourself and love yourself more FULLY everyday.

#1 Meet the basic needs of yourself first

E.g. Full night sleep, eat nutritious food, train your body at least 3 times a week

If you overload your body with crap, your life is crap!

#2 Don’t ignore your emotions

Everytime we ignore our certain emotions and just “deal with life”, that ignored emotions will always come back STRONGER to make you pay attention to it.

E.g. Ignored stress -> anxiety ->panic attacks.

Ignored frustration-> anger-> rage.

Ignored sadness -> numbness ->depression.

Listen to your body and what your emotions are telling you.

They are signals on things you should or shouldn’t do MORE!

#3 Observe how you critize others

How you treat others externally often reflects how you treat yourself internally.

If you judge others harshly, you also judge yourself harshly when you feel bad.

So learn how to treat people with KINDNESS.

We don’t always know what others are going through.

Instead of judging so quickly, step back and be curious WHY they behave in certain ways.

That’s a little known way that helps you love yourself as well.

Have you ever first kiss a girl after intense attraction & arousal, you left and find her next day, only to find that she is NO LONGER interested in you?

Well, there’s a reason.

Kisses are actually taste tests for our bodies to figure out if the person you are kissing is a strong genetic fit with your DNA.

A study by Oxford University researchers found that kissing helps in assessing potential mates through taste/smell, picking up on biological cues for compatibility, genetic fitness or general health.

Initial attraction may include facial, body and social cues.

Then assessments become more and more intimate as we go deeper into the courtship stages, and this is where kissing comes in.”

Other findings included:

* In short relationships, survey participants said kissing was most important before sex, less so during sex, was less important again after sex and was least important at other times.

In committed relationships, where forming and maintain a lasting bond is an important goal, kissing was equally important before sex and at times not-related to sex.

* In a companion paper in the journal Human Nature, the researchers report that women’s attitudes to romantic kissing also depend on where in their menstrual cycle and their relationship they are.

Women valued kissing most at initial stages of a relationship when they were in the part of their cycle when they are most likely to conceive.

=> Previous studies have shown that hormonal changes associated with the menstrual cycle can change a woman’s preferences for a potential mate. When chances of conceiving are highest, women seem to prefer men who display supposed signals of underlying genetic fitness, such as masculinized faces, facial symmetry, social dominance, and genetic compatibility. (ALPHA MALE!)  

It appears that kissing a romantic potential partner at this time helps women assess the genetic quality of a potential mate, the researchers say.

Let’s be honest guys, if you are addicted to ejaculating with porn, you are fvcked and you are doomed to be a fvcking loser.

Understand: Your sexual energy/drive is your most precious & powerful form of energy that you can use to do great things.

You EITHER submit to the fvcking porn OR you harness that drive to make your life legendary.

Your sex energy is what makes you a productive, driven & attractive man.

So here’s how to overcome such addiction:

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Every man wants to be a better lover, because if a man can’t sexually satisfy a woman, he feels “less than a man”.

So here’s 5 little-known exercises that increase your sexual performance, if you want a fvcking awesome sex life with her. 

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