分類: 男女感情

Whether you are a man or woman, have you heard of these phrases “Men are liars, men are so stupid, men only want sex?”

 

Here are 3 common myths women have about men, and if you don’t get rid of them, you will never be aware of men’s struggles in his cultural conditioning and see his pain, and he will never feel you understand him.

 

And for men, if you find that these 3 myths resonate with you, leave a comment below and let me know.

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A lot of guys, even if they are in a relationship, don’t know the proper way to turn a girl into his girlfriend.

 

#1 Many times, No.1 mistake a guy make is to LOGICALLY CONVINCE a girl who may not anything serious or just wants a casual relationship, to have a proper serious bf/gf relationship with him.

 

Rule #1 Never bring up that you want a relationship with her because you are giving away ALL the power.

 

The girl can do whatever she wants, and you become her little bitch.

 

#2 The game is always the same: You and the girl are sexually aroused by each other, have some connection and comfort, then you two sleep with each other multiple times.

 

Then you continue sleeping with her, showing her that you like her as a person, you like hanging out with her,

 

but WITHOUT saying the words “I love you”or trying to confirm your bf/gf relationship status.

 

#3 Slowly increase the frequency you two are seeing each other.

 

See her 1-2 times a week are good, but NOT 3 times/week MAX.

 

Too much attention at this stage is still not suitable, you still need to give her SPACE, breathe alone and WONDER about you!

 

#4 If you follow these steps correctly, girls will almost 100% ask you

“What are we? Where is this going? What am I to you? What is this relationship?”

 

She wants to hear if she is your girlfriend, let her lead this conversation on her own pace,

 

and now you can decide if you want that based on her past behaviors (e.g. sex, personality, lifestyle, goals etc.)

 

#5 NEVER push for a relationship until you get SEX with her.

 

Don’t buy into the excuse that “I need a relationship first before I have a sex with a guy.”

 

If you hear that from a girl, it only means you are doing sth wrong in the seduction process and she isn’t feeling aroused by you and want to fuck you!

How do you know if a girl is worth your time & effort to embark on a relationship?

If you like what a woman tells you about what she wants in her future, should you stay in the relationship to WAIT for that ideal day to come?

Today we’ll explore whether we should OR should NOT embark on /stay in a relationship, plus the IDEAL women you should be looking for.

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點解女人口講一樣嘢，做就另一樣嘢！？ 【男女感情】

Have you ever wondered why women are “口不對心”? 

Today, I will reveal the secret WHY men and women find it difficult to communicate with each other.

And most importantly, how YOU as a man can finally UNDERSTAND her words REALLY mean 🙂

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五種肌肉鍛鍊，令她愛上與你做愛！【男人必看】

Every man wants to be a better lover, because if a man can’t sexually satisfy a woman, he feels “less than a man”.

So here’s 5 little-known exercises that increase your sexual performance, if you want a fvcking awesome sex life with her. 

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女人！其實男人想要呢樣嘢！【男女感情】

Women, do you want to know what men want? Do you know want to know how to “lock” a guy’s heart?

And men, do you want to know what you emotionally NEED so that you can communicate that to your love?

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女人發癲時，如何安全過渡？[男女感情]

Last time we talked about why women can be “crazy”, today let’s talk about what to do when she’s in that emotional state.

 

#1 Accept her behavior first

The first thing you must train yourself doing (I know it’s hard) is to STOP JUDGING HER negatively.

 

Because if you judge her with your default logical linear mind, say that she is such a fvcked up girl, OR she is crazy,

 

OR she has sth wrong with her, you have already failed a woman’s shittest.

 

Just like we said last time, if you can first approve & STAY with her when she’s emotional,

 

you are NOT TRUSTWORTHY enough in the bedroom for her to also 100% let go during orgasm.

 

So let go of “what she should do as a rational human being”, observe this emotional storm with your MASCULINE PRESENCE.

 

#2 Stay grounded like a rock in YOUR OWN REALITY/frame.

 

Feminine women are like the ocean, their emotions are always ups & downs like waves and always based on moment-to-moment reality.

 

But a masculine man is more like a rock – solid, grounded, calm, centered.

 

So when a woman becomes emotional, it’s YOUR JOB as a man to STAY GROUNDED in your reality.

 

STOP fighting her emotions or trying to solve her problems with your logic, what she needs is YOU FEELING WHAT SHE FEEL!

 

It’s a challenge to your MASCULINITY to see if you can maintain your rock solid reality you want to live in, so can you do that?

 

#3 Ground her Back To Reality

 

Once she has expressed her emotions like a storm, you can bring her back to the TRUTH of reality by saying sth like,

 

“Yes honey, I can feel that you feel XYZ about this. It is [feel] that XXX. I actually have a few observations/thoughts about this situation, are you ready to listen to that?”

 

This way you are not just showing your love & approval of her, but you’re standing on your masculine ground to offer your perspective.

 

Even if she doesn’t agree with you, she still respect you because you’re not a doormat who is too afraid to express your own thoughts.

點解女人可以咁痴線？[男女感情]

 

Well, what I am about to tell you is quite controversial, and that is also one of the biggest fear of men.

 

Maybe you’ve experienced these moments with your GF, or during a date, or a girl you’re attracted to.

 

That is, when she starts to “act crazy”, you as a man think “Why the F did she do that? That doesn’t make sense! That is irrationally! I don’t get it!”

 

#1 But what I want to tell you is that often when you say this to yourself,

 

it’s NOT that women are crazy, but it’s HER way of showing HER EMOTIONS, which is by definition NOT about logic/rationality.

 

Why is it good that a girl shows you her CRAZY side?

 

It’s because she is giving you a shit test, an opportunity to see if you are a man who can handle her in her FULLNESS.

 

#2 Understand: No girl will shit test you if she isn’t interested in being intimate with!

 

If she is always polite, composed, elegant, rational, logical like a motherfvcking judge or government voice, guess what?

 

There’s NO fvcking passion/sexual tension/arousal/excitment that exists between a man and a woman!

 

So if a girl shows you her emotions, at least she is comfortable enough with you to see if you can handle her emotionally and sexually.

 

#3 Why sexually? Because when a woman let go SEXUALLY and really feel the pleasure, she HAS to trust you that you can handle her in the bed and you’re not scared away by her real raw animalistic desires during orgasm!

 

So next time a girl go “crazy” on you, that’s a compliment.

 

Handle the shit test well, know that she is interested in you, and have even more passionate sex later when you get together 🙂

Do you know why rejection is such a BIG FEAR for us?

 

If you want to study more, you can watch a Ted Talk by Guy Winch “Why We All Need to Practice Emotional First Aid”

 

Reason #1 Rejection feels so bad because it PHYSICALLY HURTS.

MRI study: The part of your brain that lights up when a man gets rejected = same part of the brain that lights up when he experiences physical pain.

 

So rejection = being punched/stabbed, your body tells you it HURTS.

 

Reason #2 Our brains are wired this way because of evolution

Back in caveman days, if a man gets rejected by social circle = he is alone to defend against wild animals = unlikely to survive

 

So evolution makes us FEEL the rejection pain so that we change our behavior and remain in the tribe to stay alive.

 

Reason #3 We tend to imagine that everyone notices our rejection/ppl are watching, thus exaggerates the painful experience.

 

In reality, most ppl are just stuck in their own thinking, and that’s why no one actually pays attention to what you do.

 

Solution #1: Stop all self-criticism

Stop saying “she doesn’t like me/ damn I said sth wrong/ I am not good enough.”

=> Instead, reframe this as “Haha, she likes me and that’s why she gives me shit tests.” Have this “she likes me”frame 100% time.

 

Solution #2 Write down the Top 10 Qualities every day

– Reinforce and speak out aloud everyday why you are WORTH IT to build your self-esteem.

 

Solution #3: Proactive Socializing

– Always be meeting new people, new women. Don’t be passive and let your frds find you. Be proactive weekly so that you always find people who accepts and loves you.

A lot of guys assume women want sex to last for HOURS “marathon sex”, but in reality it is NOT true.

 

Longer sex is NOT always better sex.

 

If you can give her orgasms, she is likely to love it no matter the duration of sex.

 

According to researchers in Penn State University／賓夕法尼亞州立大學  Eric Corty and Jenay Guardiani,

 

they conducted a survey of 50 sex professionals (doctors, psychologists, sex researchers) 1-2 mins is TOO SHORT,  3-7 mins as adequate, 7-13 mins as desierable, and 13-30 mins as too long

 

They are referring to PENETRATIVE sex without including foreplay.

 

So if you can last for 10+ mins, that’s already good to most women.

 

Conclusion: The key is to focus on the QUALITY of your sex, rather than quantity (how long it lasts).

 

Different women want different things in different situations, so STOP using a clock while fvcking!!