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If you want to have a fulfilling intimate relationship, there are certain foundational rules that you need to follow in order to make it thrive.

#1 Everything starts from self-acceptance & self-love

Your r/p with the world is a reflection of the r/p with yourself. Your own happiness & fulfullment is always your No.1 priority, NOT your partner’s.

Most conflicts start in a r/p when you feel that your emotional needs are being met, so you need to take time off for your own rejuvenation REGULARLY.

If you don’t do things daily to LOVE YOURSELF (physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, spiritually), you’ll ruin your relationship!

#2 Seek first to understand, before you seek to be understood

Most people feel so much need to tell the world what they need, than they can’t stop and listen what others need.

Once you’ve spent time to take care & love yourself, you won’t feel a need for others to meet your needs and thus you have the EMOTIONAL AVAILABILITY to see/listen/understand who they are & what they want.

If you show up like that with your girl, she will feel loved.

#3 Have the courage to be vulnerable

Humans are NOT attracted to perfect beings, we are attracted to each other’s flaws and imperfections, that’s how we RELATE & CONNECT with others.

That means sometimes you tell your girl that you are afraid to do certain things, sometimes you be honest and invite her if she wants to listen to the truth,

sometimes you apologize if you fvck up,
sometimes you ask for help when you can’t figure things out,

sometimes you SAY NO to others politely if you don’t want to do stuff…

=> If you love & accept yourself, see first to understand, and then have the emotional courage to be vulnerable,

you will develop healthy strong bonds with not just your girl/partner but also other human beings 🙂

Hey bro, I’m going to teach you something more intermediate about attraction today. So if you are a total beginner, you might understand what I say later when you progress.  

So, you do remember the importance of NOT being a nice guy right?

And if you stop buying girls drinks for free, complimenting her, or being too agreeable, you do find girls start to treat you differently right?

If you have been applying what you learn from MTFU, you should notice that girls no longer treat you as a beta nice guy whom they can control/bully…

however, do you wonder why some women still don’t chase you even when you are a challenge to them?

#1 The answer is this: Stop presenting yourself as a nice potential bf is the first step, you did well.

BUT, if you’re not enjoying more sex, it is because you had shown TOO MUCH disinterest/coolness in her that she starts to think you are NOT interested in her!!

Most beginner guys focus too much on expressing disinterest/acting aloof, and they don’t even show her any interest indicators that makes a girl notice them.

#2 But you gotta understand: Attracting girls does NOT mean completely hiding your desire and pretending to be indifferent to her.

It’s more about expressing your desire for her with your nonverbals (occasionally verbals), BUT you are indifferent to the outcome/result.

So what you wanna do is to let the girl feel that you find her sexually attractive, but she also feels that you have a ton of other sexual options that if she doesn’t start to chase you, she is going to lose your attention.

#3 Next time when you’re gaming, I want you to notice the moment when you’re talking to girls and you sense that some flirting is going on, then at that moment try to use a statement to express your desire for her.

E.g. When you’re screening for her inner qualities and she is qualifying herself at the connection stage, you can look at her and say, “Ah…你唔單止性感啊下，原來你都算幾有愛心架喎”, with a smirk.

At that moment, you are building sexual tension and she will either giggle, become shy, or say something. After that, go back to talking normal stuff to release ST.

When you do that, you are using a statement of desire to increase sexual tension/attraction and inspires her to chase you.

That is one of the ways to escalate via your words, if you’re interested in learning more, email support@manthefvckup.com for more details about our advanced program MTFU Insider.

It is a very interesting question to ask isn’t it?

We live in a culture where we see in TV/movies/media that men and women can have great, long-lasting friendships…

and in many cases, they eventually fall in love with each other and have a happy perfect relationship forever.

But is this true? Is real life happening the same as we were told? Feel free to comment below and here’s my take on it.

#1 In a man-woman relationship, there are 3 possible scenarios:

The first one is the man holds the dominant frame, he is confident, self-assured, and comfortable with women.

He sets the frame of how the relationship is going to be and often women just want to sleep & stay with him. That’s ideal.

#2 In scenario 2, (which is 90% of today’s dynamics) the man is a submissive beta who secretly tries to be the girl’s bf, while the girl holds the frame.

He will pay for things, he listens to her breakups & emotional dramas, he “protects” her from dating bad guys he doesn’t like etc.

#3 In scenario 3, the relationship is equal and there is no ST between both. But magically, both can date & fvck others, and the other party don’t get jealous.

Is scenario 3 possible?

I think so, as long as the man doesn’t find the girl sexually attractive and he doesn’t want to fvck her at all.

#4 However, many guys mistaken this with a situation when they are ACTUALLY SEXUALLY INTERESTED in the girl.

From my experience & observation,

when a guy is close friend with a girl and she is not fvcking him, it often means that he is secretly in love with her and wants to sleep with her…

when a guy is close friend with a girl and she is not fvcking him, it often means that he is secretly in love with her and wants to sleep with her…

…BUT since Day 1, he was too pussy to express his sexual desire that he pretended to be her gay best friend and WAIT for a better day when she finally see “how good a guy he is” and chooses him.

#5 You may now ask: If a girl doesn’t want to sleep with him, why do they still keep them as friends?

Or why do they say “they don’t want to lose the friendship when that guy finally confess his feelings”?

Well, it’s easy. The girl is enjoying a ton of benefits from the guy: He is taking care of her, he buys her stuff, he does her favors, he gives a ride for her, and most importantly, he gives her attention whenever she wants it.

#6 I also want to believe that men and women can just be BEST FRIENDS just like men-men relationship.

But we have to understand: Men & women naturally have ST with each other. If they are put in a room and no one knows, they are going to fvck some day.

If a guy is very close with a girl but isn’t fvcking her, 99% of the time is because he is a beta guy who feels shameful for his sexual desire to fvck her and put himself in the FZ,

and maybe just 1% of the time he isn’t sexually interested in her but for whatever reason just needs to keep that friendship.

What’s your thoughts? Are you close with certain girls just to stay friends?

Or are you honest enough to admit that you actually want to fvck her but wrongly chose the traditional friendship path?

CM below and let me know!

Bro, you have watched so many MTFU videos, and by now you should understand that attracting women is both a short term game and a long term game.

Bro, you have watched so many MTFU videos, and by now you should understand that attracting women is both a short term game and a long term game.

In the short term, you should develop that fun, carefree, nonchalant, passionate, adventurous guy who enjoys his life and welcomes women to hang out.

In the long term, you should be a man who keeps challenging himself in all areas of life, dominating your path/mission, and living with purpose.

When you become that, you will become a man she not only wants to fvck, but also a man she wants to love.

Below are 3 tactical ways that make you irresistible as a man in years to come:

#1 Never compromise your sex & love life

Especially with women, if a woman feels that “you only choose her because you can’t get others so you settle for her”, she is going to fvcking resent you!

So you should only go after women you genuinely like, who genuinely inspires you outside and inside the bedroom. When you know what you want and you take action to claim it, that’s always an attractive trait in a man.

#2 Stop hating “bad players” and start peeling off your “nice guys masks”

If you still hate those “assholes”women keep falling in love with, you will never LEARN the psychological reasons WHY they succeed but you fail.

Instead of seeing things in good/bad, try to see things in predictable/ dull/ boring and to exciting/fun/surprises.

Even though a girl wants a good stable reliable man who loves her in the long term…

biologically…they just can’t help but fvck a guy who is fun, exciting, non-needy sexual man who is comfortable with his desires.

You want to be the Ultimate Alpha? Then you gotta be a man she doesn’t just want to love, but she also wants to fuck!

#3 Never base your self-esteem/self-worth on girls, never!

A masculine man always validate himself from the inside, while a feminine woman always validate herself from the outside.

The day when you base your self-worth on “how much money you make/ how many girls you can penetrate/ how big your muscles are”, is the day when you fall into the endless loop of insecurity/consumerism where you always need to “get more stuff” in order to feel secure.

All those external things are like eating desserts, it’s good to have once for a while and there is NO NEED for you to live in a monk…

…but apart from enjoying these desserts of life, you gotta also have the WISDOM to know that a meaningful fulfilling life is MORE THAN just physical material pleasures…

If you follow the above 3 principles,

you will become that beast who can travels between the physical and spiritual realm of life and enjoy BOTH RICHES in the outside and in the inside. 😀

Bro, remember when I said that showing bf qualities to attract a girl you haven’t slept with is a huge mistake in seduction?

And do you remember why taking care of her, treating her well, listening to her problems and helping her solve stuff ARE NOT going to make her your gf?

#1 In fact, if you ask a girl why they are attracted to their BF at the beginning, and if they are honest, they will often say stuff like

“I dun like … he looks like the kind of guy who only looks for fun at the beginning… I didn’t really see him as a BF material…I thought we won’t last … but the longer I know him…the more I like him… I guess that’s how love is…”

#2 So, why showing BF qualities don’t work at the beginning?

It is simply because typical BF qualities only builds more comfort, and that will drastically kill all the sexual tension and thus she doesn’t feel the urgency to have sex with you.  

When you are trying too hard to find commonalities/rapport,

when you are siding with her badmouthing other players/jerks,

when you are respecting her too much to make a move…

YOU are no longer a CHALLENGE she wants to overcome and be close with!

#3 So what should you do instead?

You should treat every girl you meet as if you are just looking for short term FUN & SEX, even though you know that someday you might just want a stable GF or build a family…

You should stop listening to her problems and solving them for her…

You should stop being agreeable or compromising your schedule/life priorities so that you two can smoothly get along with each other…

Even if you really like her, even if she seems like a“good hearted Christian who never had sex kind of gf material”, you still need to STOP using the “good bf” strategy.

Good bf doesn’t get laid, and thus they don’t get a girl fall in love with him, the Q is are you still choosing to do it?

If you have ever been FZed, you know how painful it is.

You are always with her, observing her, admiring her BUT she just never sees you as a sexual guy she wants to fuck or get together with.

 

Today, let’s explore the 5 common reasons WHY you are in this no sex zone and end up being an emotional tampon for her.

 

#1 Because you are operating as her little FAN!

 

What does fan do? They closely monitor every single move their idol do, and always following their 一舉一動。

 

If you are secretly observe her social media activity, liking her stuff, commenting her stuff, DMing her stuff, can you see WHY you are putting yourself in the FZ by being 1 of the 1000s admirer in her fan club that she is never going to fuck?

 

#2 Because you are like a fucking 招財貓！What does a 招財貓 do？It fucking nods its head!

 

If you agree with whatever the fuck she says, if you pretend you LIKE everything she likes/does, if you NEVER express your real raw personality that might offend her, can you see WHY she just can’t feel attraction to you?

 

#3 Because you are predictable as fuck like a boring movie!

 

No one wants to watch a movie if they already know the storyline, climax & ending.  

 

So if you are so scared of “making the wrong move” and just do “whatever that please her”,  you have to understand that your behaviors are so predictable that she is BORED by you.

 

And in a girl’s dictionary, boring = legs closed & dry = FZ you!

 

#4 Because you are buying her gifts like a fucking father.

 

You think a sudden gift is a romantic surprise? You think showing how 關心/細心 you are and rewarding her even though she did no shit to earn it is attractive?

Well, kindness is NEVER going to make her wet, otherwise girls will want to fuck the Buddha!

 

#5 Because you try to be a 白馬王子去拯救佢！

 

I know it’s deep in a man’s psychology to protect women.

 

But if you do these “saving acts” hoping she will see you as a 紳士勇士, if you always ready to listen to her problems,

 

if you jump on every opportunity to SAVE HER, I guarantee you will become a nice gay friend she THANKS but never feel the arousal to fuck.

 

So are you now in the FZ?

 

Great, it’s because YOU have put yourself in such submissive role as a friend, YOU purposefully hide your sexual desire,

 

YOU overvaluing her interests/opinions/ideas/problems/self-esteem while undervaluing your value as a man.

 

So tell me: Who is to blame when you find yourself in a FZ?

I know you feel happy, excited and sweet when you enter a r/p…

I know you think FINALLY you have found “the one” and you will forever be loved and accepted by this woman…

 

But do you know even if you both fucked each other well, the more expectations you bring into a r/p the more you two will fuck up the r/p?

 

Here are a few common expectations that you bring into a r/p that slowly KILL a r/p:

 

#1 “I expect you to love me in a way I want without me saying it.”

 

Wake the fuck up bro. If you don’t express your desires & secret wishes to her, she won’t be able to mindread you, fulfill your needs, or suck your dick.

 

STOP withholding your needs and learn to communicate honestly what you want in the r/p. If you feel scared, learn to be vulnerable and say “Hey, I want to ask you sth but I feel scared coz I worry what you think about me. Can you be open-minded and don’t judge me if I share my thoughts with you?”

#2 “I expect she loves me unconditionally coz I love her unconditionally”

 

It is very romantic to have such thought and I am not arguing that it can’t be possible. Yet, in almost all cases, healthy intimate r/ps start from conditional love. You just can’t expect unconditional love like your parents might have given you in the past.

 

So stop treating women like queen, stop letting her abusing you emotionally/ physically/ financially…and then back-rationalize that “you really love her”.

 

Because the truth is your self-esteem is so low that you NEED a psychologically fucked up woman to give you tiny pathetic attention to validate your worth as a man.

 

Does this hurt? Yes, because that’s the truth that cracks your naive fantasy.

 

#3 “I expect “true love” requires zero hard work and we’ll just live happily ever after.”

 

Can you see how fucked up your mind is by Disney/Hollywood romantic movies? I don’t blame you… coz most of us are force-fed with these lies.

 

The truth is no matter how compatible/loving you two are, relationships require a fuck ton of work and effort! You change, she changes, the relationship changes. Stop falling into the masculine trap thinking “one day everything will be over and I can finally relax.”

 

No, you can NEVER relax because if you 順其自然, your relationship is going to fall apart because life is either growth or death.

 

So just like everything else, you have to be conscious, put in the work required in a relationship in order to enjoy the fruits of it.

 

If you aren’t ready, that’s totally okay and you should pursue other things in life first.

Have you ever labelled certain women as “pure, innocent, gwai, clean” while others as “bitch, sluts, snakes, chicken”?

 

If you have, that’s normal because this slut-shaming has been happening for CENTURIES, and it is pathetic that certain countries are STILL operating in such fvcked up mode and women are stoned to death…

 

However, do you know why if you slut-shame, or if you hold a DOUBLE STANDARDS, it actually hurts YOUR ABILITY to attract women and sex life?

 

#1 Reason: Most girls you meet probably have this FEAR of being labelled as chicken, so most are forced by society to repress her natural sexual urge and PRETEND to be a sexless lady for better “healthy”image.

 

So women have developed an ABILITY to notice any sexual uncomfortability/ shame from you whenever she does/says/slightly mentions sth about sex.

 

#2 If she notices that you have NEGATIVE association with sex, she is NOT going to feel safe to open her sexual side with you.

 

On the other hand, if you can create a safe environment/space for her to be open with ZERO judgement, she will feel accepted and want to explore sexuality with you – whether verbally or physically.

 

#3 So the lesson is: Sex is natural, sex is what makes us alive, women love sex as much as men do, and it’s totally OKAY to accept sex yourself and then accept HER sexuality.

 

Stop labelling women as either slut or clean, SHAME is a toxic weapon that many societies/cultures/government/religious organizations try to control you.  

 

Fvck that sh!t, embrace your sexulity, and be a sexual being who ACCEPTS our nature!

Women are sex objects, men are success objects, that’s what the society deems as valuable in a human being.  

 

So if you are a successful wealthy man, how do you know if she likes you or your external materials?

 

#1 Stop your inclination to PROVIDE for her

 

I understand, we as men feel a natural need to 照顧女人, but if you use such tool to ATTRACT women or to prove your self-worth to her, you are gonna attract GOLD DIGGERS.

 

Alpha male is a state of mind, you don’t fvcking need to buy her cars, pay her rent, pay her tuition in order to attract her.

 

If you do that, that’s a beta male strategy just like those in power abuse their power e.g. 經理人公司搞女模

You’ll never attract those who geneinuely likes you.

 

#2 When you date, don’t spend extravagantly!

 

If you flash money for dates, you are just setting an expectation that YOU are gonna pay for every shit the girl wants.  

 

Those who show off wealth to get girls only means they have NOTHING ELSE that worth a girl’s attention.

 

Instead, focus on having FUN in casual environments. If she doesn’t want to go, she isn’t interested in you yet.

 

#3 When bill comes, does she expects you to pay in full every time?

 

If she goes to toilet everytime bill arrives OR if she doesn’t at least willing to offer to pay for the date, be careful!

 

#4 Observe how she presents herself.

 

Is wearing luxury brands important to her?

Does she possess materials that tries to impress other people?

Does she base her self-worth on stuff she owns OR her character & personality traits?

Be careful for girls who only love luxuries.

 

=> Of course money/power give you more access to high quality women,

 

but when you meet them, you must be vigilant about whether they are attracted to YOU as a person, or YOUR STUFF that helps her show off to others.

I get it, you are TOO BUSY to have a girlfriend OR you think intimacy & relationships are obstacles that affect your money-making goals.

 

But if you are an ambitious entrepreneur, a high level CEO, a badass business titan who dominate the industry, you shouldn’t not understand the power of investing in a relationship.

 

I know, we don’t NEED a woman to be happy while we build our wealth, but do you know why being open to bringing women in actually HELPS your career?

 

Reason #1 Masculine man NEEDS to cultivate their feminine energy to be an integrated powerful human being, one way is to deeply connect with women.

 

Feminine energy RECHARGES us, so a quality woman who is not only sexy but also intelligent + kind-hearted can definitely make you feel less stressful and alive again!

 

#2 Successful men need support at the background

 

I know you want t don’t want to seem needy; but in my own experience & what I see in many successful friends, a quality partner can support us in multiple ways (mentally, emotionally, sexually) that helps us grow our business.

 

Wrong r/p waste your time, but right relationships MULTIPLIES the results you can get.

 

#3 I know you want to feel important in the world, but do you know the longest study in human history by Harvard concludes that it is the QUALITY of relationships that make us most happy and live longest?

 

I have multiple successful private coaching clients who are industry leaders, they seem strong Alphas from the outside, but do you know what they secretly fear and want?

 

They want women who can can understand them, listen to their fears when they share themselves vulnerably in a world of sharks, and feel loved as who they are.

 

Q is: Do you want that Mr. Millionaire? Mr. Future Billionaire?