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I am sure you have heard from your friends, parents or even women advice that “as long as you just be confident, girls will like you…”

But WTF is being confident actually mean?

#1 Well, I once taught that you need to be having FUN in your own life and being a CHALLENGE prize girls want to win over, and that worked very well.

However, I noticed that a few bros sometimes misuse the advice,

and they start to act too inchy, too cool, too indifferent that they seem like using those techniques to overcompensate their lack of security.

So let me today make it even more simple to follow so that you won’t seem like trying too hard.

#2 In short, the so-called confidence many women tell you is actually just this simple thing…

It means that you already ASSUME that she wants you and you have a FRAME that interprets everything she says/does as to mean “She is trying to win you over!”

#3 So you caught her looking at you? Damn she likes me…

She touches you in any shape or form? Damn, she is trying to get me hot and want to fvck…this little dirty girl…

She teases you? Haha, that little devil is flirting with me…

She isn’t texting you? I knew it, she is playing hard to get…

She giving you shit tests? Fantastic, she is feeling the sexual tension and she wants to see if I am an Alpha…

#4 This is the so-called confidence that women find sexy.

When you can ASSUME her interest on you,

you win half of the battle already because most guys condition themselves to assume the worst and their default is to look for approval/permission to act.

Fvck that shit!

Develop this “I knew she wants me” frame of mind and you will exude so much confidence that you never need confirmation from a girl that she likes you.

This is the secret trick that will help you in the long run!

Bro, if you have been watching MTFU’s videos and studying our free content, you should understand that sexual desire and love are 2 different powerful emotions.

Without sexual desire, women won’t genuinely want to fuck you even if she stays with you.

Without love, some women will continue sleeping with you even when you are an asshole that hurts her.

So when you understand that this human dilemma that we both want separateness to feel aroused and closeness to feel love, how can we make a woman become obsessed with us ethically?

#1 Firstly, let’s revise this core concept:

If you want her feel aroused, you must master creating sexual tension.

ST is the magic ingredient when she feels both excitement and fear when she is with you, because she knows that you are a potential mate.

So that primal sexual excitement will make her want to get fvcked by you to allow her to reproduce.  

So your job as a man is to grow that ST until she can’t resist that feeling of lust.

#2 As long as you intend to leave her better than you found her, how can you truly make her fall for you?

Well, once you have made her feel attracted & aroused, you need to create OBSTACLES for her to truly fall in love with you!

Why?

Because in every romance novel women are addicted to, the storyline is ALWAYS that the woman overcome obstacles to find, win the heart of, and marry the ONE MAN who is right for her!

If you want a girl addicted to you,

it is your duty to create difficulties/ challenges/ uncertainties for her to overcome even when she feels attraction to you.

#3 Why do Romeo and Juliet/Titanic/梁山伯與祝英台/嫦娥與后羿 are the most romantic stories in human history?

It is because there are OBSTACLES, challenges between the man and the woman that prevent them to be together, and women WANT THAT kind of story in their lives!

The point is if you can create a context in which the girl put more effort to win you over,

she will naturally justify herself that she likes you and she will slowly fall in love with you, as long as you maintain that arousal and attraction.

Obstacle is the way.

The Q is are you being that challenging yet attainable guy or are you being too easy?

One of the common challenges guys face is that they meet a pretty girl that is exactly their type, they got her # and meet her 1-2 times thinking everything went well…

tried to get her out again but now she loses interest to respond to him or doesn’t feel like to meet him again.

Why did she lose interest and how can we reignite her interest in us? That’s what we will talk about today.

#1 Firstly understand: Using logic to explain women’s behaviors rarely work.

The only way to attract women is by making her FEEL certain emotions,

making her feel that you are a free, independent, confident, passionate man who loves himself and having fun in his reality.

So the first step is to EXAMINE how your previous behaviors might made her think that you are the beta provider guy.

Did you overinvest and try to do her favors like a frd?

Did you try to agree with her on stuff you disagree with just to be smooth and hope to get laid?

Were you too eager/enthusiastic/available to communicate/see her?

See how you fvcked up and you’ll notice the failure patterns.

#2 The second counterintuitive thing is to understand that you reignite her interest by putting yourself back as the center of your focus, instead of putting her as your focus.

Women want a guy who is passionate about his life,

who feels good about himself,

who is already having FUN enjoying his life,

who is actively pursuing things he loves to do,

who has a mission/purpose to dominate every day.

Most guys fvck up because once they start to get a woman, they stopped doing the things that made him attractive at the first place and started to focus all his attention on her.

Thus, in order to get her back, you must ensure  your foundations are in place.

#3 Finally, you should have known this:

Women want to see you having other girls desiring you so that she can compete for you!

Women want to see you having other girls desiring you so that she can compete for you!

A big reason why you are so concerned with “a girl losing interest” is because you don’t have enough options.

Therefore, when you drop all the options you once had just for some girls you have just met for a few times, naturally your attractiveness will drop.

So stop limiting yourself with a scarcity mindset, explore the market and always make yourself an object of desire.

If you do just these 3 things, not only this girl but multiples girls will continue to DESIRE YOU!

Bro, do you realize that what women THINK they want or what they SAY they want is 99.9% never what they ACTUALLY want in their behaviors?

Do you know that science has discovered that narcissists are attractive to women because of their delusional confidence?

#1 Well, according to some British researches in a paper <Should have known better>,

they found that “women wishing to get married were more attracted to the narcissistic male personality than those not desiring marriage.”

This means that all women, whether single or not, just CAN”T resist narcissistic bad boys. They just can’t out-logic themselves to prevent feeling attraction.

So if you want to get girls, forget what women tell you verbally, just trigger the right emotions for them to FELL.

#2 In the study, researchers found that women agree with statements like “Confidence in a male is more alluring than modesty;”

“Male vanity is an attractive attribute;” and “I am attracted to men who take pleasure in being the center of attention.”

Although these don’t sound political correct, you should now understand why some self-centered assholes just keep getting girls …

it is because they have BALLS to pull the trigger and get shit done.

#3 Now you may ask WHY women are attracted to male narcissists?

Well, it is because they are seen as higher status man with “the ability to acquire resources, and that they are entertaining and self-assured.”

So whether you like the truth, if you wanna attract girls,

you have to more self-centered, more self-loving, care yourself more than her, and be more self-entertaining THAN YOU THINK YOU SHOULD BE or how the political correct society tells you to be!

Attraction/Arousal is NOT about being a moral virtuous man, it is about being flexible enough to be “display bad boy qualities” even if you are a good-hearted man.

The Q is: If you want more girls, are you going to stop being so Vanilla, so tight and upright, and thus so fvcking boring!?

2 NEW announcements of MTFU’s directions! 😀

Knowing that you are about to break up with someone you’ve been together for a while can be SCARY, because most of us don’t want to make others feel sad or even cry.  

But if you know that your relationship isn’t going anywhere in the future, there are few guidelines you can use to make breakups as peaceful as possible.

#1 Do it in person

Sudden silence/disappearance & stop calling/texting is VERY immature way of breakup kids do, that’s disrespectful to the other person .

So do it in person, have a sincere chat and that will help BOTH of you grow and move on ASAP.

#2 Tell her what you are grateful for in the relationship

If you are conscious about your relationship and have developed it from a healthy foundation, both of you are going to learn A LOT from each other.

So it’s good to APPRECIATE how she has helped you grow as a person, and she has been played an important role in a chapter of your life.

#3 Let her know the logical reason for the breakup

A good breakup should include some thoughtful contemplations on whether the relationship is going anywhere.

So if you think your values/goals/personalities/directions/timing are not COMPATIBLE with each other,

if you two are going different paths, it is a better decision to separate your ways and let each other FLY with freedom.

#4 It is crucial that both of you STOP communicating for a long time.

This is because we must create mental space for each other to eliminate old anchors by each other in order to move on.

A good time frame is if r/p is 2 years, it takes around a year to recover.

You two can still be friends in the future, but that only happen organically if you DELETE/CUT her phone, FB, stuff to provide a clear mental space NOW.

=> Be thankful, be real, own the responsibility, end it if you know it’s not right

Rmb when I say 拍拖真正的目的 = R/p exist to MAGNIFY human experiences,

and intimate r/p exist to TRIGGER you so that you can GROW into a better human being.

Today I want to add another DEEPER layer: R/p helps us HEAL from our emotional wounds

Sometimes we heal our low self-esteem issues / sexual confidence/ feeling of not good enough,

OR deeper stuff like the toxic shame/guilt we have passed on by our generational family system/ toxic beliefs from societies etc.

R/P heals us most because R/P triggers us MOST emotionally because our partner’s certain emotions “anger/disappointment/breakups”,

which immediately trigger our past abandonment issues and our fear of “not being loved/death”pop up instantly!  

So apart from accepting & loving ourselves,

we also need to invite an intimate partner to give us an accurate mirror of WHO WE ARE and heal more from the hidden wounds.

Q is: Do you have the courage to let a woman enters your heart and closely reflects the truth about you?

We know that being vulnerable requires emotional courage, because letting ppl come close and see your flawed imperfect self is scary and can hurt you if you choose a wrong person to do so.

How do we protect ourselves while doing that?

#1 First thing to remember: We don’t NEED everyone to see the deepest, realest part of you.

Not everyone DESERVES to see that deep truth, and not everyone is INTERESTED to explore you.

So while we are being real, we give people freedom to go as deep as they want and freedom to stop at certain level.  

When you come from a place of total self-acceptance and self-love, we WON”T need others to validate us that“Oh, you really are flawed but I accept you”.

#2 You have to be choosy as who you slowly allow to enter your heart.

From your interactions with them, you need to see if they are a trustworthy, non-judgemental, patient, compassionate, kind-hearted person who has your best interest at their heart.

If they are supportive to your growth with open heart, then these people has earned their right to receive your invitation to go deep.

If they shame you for being/doing certain things, they are NOT safe people to open up.

#3 This applies to every kind of relationship – bf/gf, friendships, or you seek help from therapist or personal coaching.

The purpose of these “vulnerability sessions” is to help you heal from your emotional wounds in the past,

to let go of the toxic shame that controls you, and to reintegrate your disowned selves back to your personality.

So if you need help to open up, if you are scared about certain fears but you don’t know why,

if you have difficulties connecting with women, you are welcome to send an email to support@manthefvck.com to book a coaching session with me,

OR join our community MTFU Insider to learn and grow together as an integrated healthy male so that you become more attractive, powerful and confident human being.

It is safe, loving, compassionate evn where you will receive support in your journey.