分類: 男女感情

巴打，今集嘅MTFU比較特別，因為過去呢幾個月，相信你都可以感受到世界喺可以有幾咁邪惡無恥，比你睇到人類美麗與醜陋嘅一面。

咁所以我係度諗：如果今日嘅我只有17,18歲，但我能夠擁有咁耐以來累積嘅知識，智慧，經驗與認知，我又會比自己邊3大建議，去做一系列嘅嘢去position自己十幾二十年後去到最理想嘅位置呢？

所以今集可以話喺我自己寫俾自己嘅信，希望當中嘅內容協助到各位巴打有策略地繼續打拼自己生命，唔好因為短暫嘅黑暗而放棄選擇光明。

＃1 首先第一個我想各位巴打明白嘅重點就係：去到終極關頭嘅時候，無人喺可以保護或者關心到你；就算有幾多有心嘅同路人都好，去到臨界點嘅時候，你生唔生存到，最後都只能夠依靠你自己。

記住: No one can give a fvck about you MORE than you can for yourself. 

無論係你身體肉體上嘅安危，定係你同女人嘅感情處理，定係你建立到幾多財富或者影響力，一切嘅終極責任都係取決於你自己。

唔好天真地誤以為人類喺超越咗動物世界嘅規則，事實係：人類就係食物鏈上最頂尖嘅獵食者，而社會上某一類人喺絕對會透過欺凌殘暴不仁嘅手段去剝削你。

咁所以第一大嘅建議比各位巴打就係：由今日開始，你必須奉獻你自己人生嘅一部分時間去鍛煉『打交』，去學識點樣自衛同攻擊！

我知道近排已經有好多人咁講，但我想你知道嘅係：

功夫並唔係一時三刻學得識嘅事，亦都喺一樣你學完絕對唔想應用嘅技能；但係無論係本地定係外國旅行，仲有一日你會遇上有意圖傷害你生命嘅恐怖分子，咁所以喺嗰啲關鍵時刻，你所學嘅格鬥術或者情景意識會好可能就係拯救你同你愛嘅人生命嘅轉捩點。

5年前世界已經夠仆街，今日已經喺明目張膽地肆無忌憚；如果巴打你身為男人，今日都唔開始的起心肝學識保護自己嘅話，5年後你同你屋企人又會點樣被人魚肉呢？

＃2 第二個我想各位年青巴打帶走嘅重點就係：當你下決心每日征服自己physical嘅一面嘅時候，下一步就係要征服自己對兩性遊戲嘅認知，學識男女各自嘅不同動機。

點解明白女人竟然喺第二步，而唔係首先明白點樣搵大錢建立社會權力先呢？

原因就係：世界上喺充斥著有錢有權有勢，但係心理上完全被女人操控，兩性關係上搞得一團糟嘅億萬富豪！

呢一類型嘅強勢Beta男喺最危險最唔可靠，因為去到緊急嘅關頭，佢哋好可能就會因為某條索女嘅心理影響下，做出一啲反常行為去出賣自己或者你！

佢哋建立咁多嘢嘅目的，好多時底層都係希望最終得到女人嘅認同／validation，希望自己咁辛苦拚搏最終會得到女人對自己嘅愛。

好多呢啲強勢Beta男都係極不穩定嘅計時炸彈，去到某一點就會爆煲，就好似現實鐵甲人Elon Musk 或者亞馬遜創辦人 Jeff Bezos 兩個事業強人，最後都係因為『女人』而搞到自己情緒極痛苦抑鬱，同埋因為離婚而冇咗幾百億身家！

咁所以第二樣17,18歲年輕巴打要做嘅事，就係開始認真研究女人兩性嘅topic，大量地不斷練習實戰，唔好令自己變成一個將來會被女人支配，或者被其他人透過女人操控你嘅Alpha男人！

＃3 最後第三樣我想各位年青巴打帶走嘅重點就係：喺呢個年代你喺無咁嘅luxury去做一個平庸或者所謂『樣樣ok唔太差嘅中產』，因為你想生存或者享受到自由嘅話，你無最大嘅財富同影響力喺無人會理你嘅意見！

喺巴打你問我點做之前，我想你冷靜客觀地諗一諗：

如果唔係我哋幾代人過去百幾年不斷爭氣，如果我哋現時嘅領土唔係擁有特殊嘅國際地位，如果我哋唔係因為自己有value（或者講得衰啲有利用價值）在先嘅話，你估下世界其他地方會唔會咁高度關注我哋嘅事態發展呢？

你估下我哋會唔會有幸成為其他國家嘅談判籌碼，直接間接地幫我哋止到一陣血呢？

巴打，殘酷嘅現實就係：我哋如果自己無value在先嘅話，好大可能根本無人有意慾去care我哋嘅安危，我哋好可能亦一早就已經被人屠城死撚晒。

我絕對明白有錢有權唔一定令你開心快樂，但我哋更加要明白：出面喺有一堆人將會故意惡意地某一日搞戇你剝削你；如果你唔主動去累積自己嘅社會力量嘅話，你就會無奈無辜地變成被屠宰嘅羔羊。

喺極端嘅時候，無團體／制度／法律／道理喺可以完善地保護到你；面對野蠻嘅惡人，你最後都係只能依靠你累積嘅資源去反擊。

咁所以巴打，男人條命就喺永遠唔可以鬆懈，永遠都需要進步level up自己各方面，從而藉此希望可以生存到，保護到你自己，你嘅資產，同埋你愛嘅身邊嘅人。

我相信你可以深切地feel到世界有幾fvcked up，你亦都感受到情勢有幾嚴峻…

咁所以我邀請各位巴打爭氣，無論嚟緊呢條路有幾長，無論我哋嘅屋企最終會否被吞噬殲滅…

希望你都可以嚟緊每一日都緊記『恐怖／兇殘／邪惡其實一直都喺你我現實身邊』，然後利用呢種『不安嘅畫面』成為每日嚴苛操練自己嘅推動力，每日打拼我以上比你嘅三大建議。

如果巴打你有興趣MTFU內部嚟緊嘅新動向，你可以腥電郵去support@manthefvckup.com 查詢我哋Insider內部兄弟幫嘅課程睇下幫唔幫唔到你。

最後祝願你同你身邊嘅人平安，勿忘初衷，永不放棄，永遠唔好被懶惰妥協版本嘅你打敗自己！

巴打，我相信你都試過好努力地去重燃一段愛火，好有衝動去『追』番你條ex返黎，因為你唔捨得放手，因為你覺得大家仲有機會。

但係你應該都發現，要突然令到ex被你吸引返喺好難，尤其是喺佢出動提出分手。

我之前喺『點解女人分手後咁快忘記ex？同其他男人一齊？』嘅集數裡面教過各位巴打，女人對男人之所以可以咁無情，喺因為古代社會嘅男人好容易死，

所以女人嘅進化機制要令到佢哋有一種『可以盡快move on去新男人身上』嘅心理，佢先至可以有效地繼續生存。

所以女人分手後，絕對可以冷漠地望都唔再望你一眼；

就算你同佢曾經經歷過一系列嘅回憶，諗住『以往嘅感情』可以留住佢，佢都可以完全斬斷晒呢啲浪漫嘢，對你零興趣，跟住去咗第二個男人身邊。

喺咁樣嘅現實下，你又可以點樣所謂『贏返你條前度』返黎呢？

＃1 除咗我以前教你嘅招數之外，你最好出招嘅時機就係當你feel到條女行為上開始有變，感覺大家關係走緊下坡嘅時候，你就要先發制人。

因為女人想同你分手並唔係一朝一夕嘅事，如果你同佢都一齊咗至少兩年嘅話，好大機會你都會有一個月到出現一系列唔尋常嘅警號，比你去留意到有咩唔對路。

所以第一步就係：你要留意條女有冇唔尋常嘅行為變化。

譬如：突然極少／唔想同你搞嘢；開始極慢唔覆你msg；佢望住你嘅時候無咩真實嘅笑容；佢同你講嘢把聲非常平淡，無晒以前好女仔充滿情感嘅聲調；佢會唔會出現一啲鄙視嘅眼神；佢係咪唔再同你playful／淘氣地同你互相揶揄調情等等。

你留意到呢啲危險警告訊號嘅話，你就知道好大機會條女喺諗緊分手。

＃2 第二步就係：你絕對要保持冷靜，唔好比你擔心／緊張嘅情感操控自己，扮到你仲未留意到佢嘅陰謀。點解？因為你之後喺需要『突襲佢』，你之後要先發制人首先抽離。

譬如話：突然減少你哋facetime嘅次數；突然唔再打電話俾佢；同佢真人講嘢時繼續好似『友善地』同佢講，但係佢問你嘢嘅時候，你就含糊少少地答佢，唔好比太多specific嘅詳細答案佢；唔好太關心佢；佢態度唔好時，你就當佢細佬咁笑下佢。

重點係：你表面上一定要扮到無乜嘢，但係你嘅subcommunication就要比佢猶疑一下『你係咪好似有啲唔同咗』嘅感覺。

＃3 當你咁樣令到條女自己好奇困惑嘅時候，佢就會開始質疑自己『原本諗住同你分手』嘅決定，佢就會好大機會突然想返番嚟你身邊。

點解？因為你唔係好似大部份Beta弱雞咁樣，見勢色唔對就發晒癲，極度受害者咁喺度嗌條女唔好同自己分手咁樣衰。

Instead，只有真正強嘅Alpha先會對自己充滿自信，先會知道條女根本無動力去離開，而就算佢離開嘅話根本就唔重要，都係佢最大嘅損失，因為你仲有另外10條女晚晚嗌你去屌佢哋。

＃4 咁所以巴打你要用呢招嘅話，你就一定要睇準時機，你一定要小心留意條女嘅行為係咪出現持續嘅變化，並且喺條女『親口同你講話想要啲空間』之前，你就要先發制人。唔係嘅話，要扭轉局勢就會變得好難。

如果咁唔好彩真係被分手嘅話，你最重要做嘅嘢：就係之後嘅一個月，無論咩情況下都要絕對唔可以同你嘅ex傾計！

你一定要狠心等佢走，斬斷所有溝通嘅橋樑，去增加佢嘅情感損失。

因為過咗一個月嘅關鍵期嘅話，如果條女後悔，佢絕對會想搵返你。你表現得越喺冷淡不在乎嘅話，越喺已經move on咗溝緊其他女嘅話，你條ex先會越想返番嚟。

巴打如果你個人遇上困難，需要更多關於拍拖／男女朋友等題材嘅幫忙嘅話，歡迎你腥email去support@manthefvckup.com 去索取關於MTFU Insider嘅章程喇。

因為我喺裏面每日都會教導內部巴打更加深入嘅題材嘅，你有興趣話就嚟喇。

如果巴打你鍾意今集嘅話，就Like呢段片同訂閱我地MTFU嘅channel喇；

有咩問題，就下面留言比我知啦，下集見！

巴打，你曾經天真地相信過幾多個女人會『兌現佢應承你嘅承諾』，之後某一日失望地發現佢竟然『反口』，跟住解釋話『你誤會咗／曲街咗佢當日嘅意思』呢？

自古以黎，人類歷史之中，幾乎所有當權者都係男性，而女人好少有機會攞到『表面嘅權力』，女人好多時喺古代都只係一啲可以『販賣嘅商品』。

所以喺咁樣嘅現實下，女人就必須暗地裡發展出一套『隱藏式嘅心理武器』，令佢哋隱蔽地攞到權力，透過一系列睇唔到嘅性誘惑／心理操控，去攞到自己想要嘅嘢。

咁所以男人嘅預設溝通模式，就係坦蕩蕩地『講自己真實諗法』，就係會『講得出做得到』，就係會『講口齒』『講義氣』『講滴血為盟』，會用理性邏輯直接地解決問題；

我哋嘅說話就喺鐵證，而男人會鄙視一啲『兩頭蛇／改變立場』嘅人，覺得佢哋唔可信，覺得佢哋『偽君子／真小人』。

簡單講：男人就係以『榮譽／honour』而去活，大部分男人都喺想做一個忠忠直直有情有義被人稱為『大俠』嘅所謂『真男人』。

可惜嘅係：當巴打你毫無警戒心地以自己嘅『榮譽／honour』而自豪期間，好多時你同女人對弈嘅時候，你都會有機會被女人濫用你呢種心理需要，而剝削你嘅利益同埋操控你嘅行為！

因為女人就係知道好多男人都想做『坦蕩蕩嘅郭靖大俠』，所以佢會識得透過自己嘅性誘惑，去影響你點樣運用你表面嘅權力，暗地裡達到自己背後隱藏嘅目的。

譬如話：當你唔肯妥協去幫佢做某啲嘢嘅時候，佢就會話你『個人都唔夠man嘅／太固執，少少嘢都唔肯改』；

或者當你唔肯『因為佢係女人，就自動尊重女人』嘅時候，佢就會話你『乜你咁大男人架！男人應該愛惜女人嫁嘛！』；

又或者『冇錯，雖然條女cheat你，但係都唔代表你要分手架，你肯定自己有問題啦！好嘢，馬明肯繼續保護一個會比自己帶綠帽嘅女人，佢係真男人呀！』

又或者『我鍾意成熟穩重嘅gentleman嫁，我依家個人大咗，已經厭倦players啦，因為始終搵到一個會錫我愛我嘅男人重要啲…』

簡單講：女人操控男人嘅方法，就係當男人唔係做緊有利女人嘅嘢，女人就會透過shaming／羞愧嘅方式，或者話你『真男人就應該做正確嘅嘢／do the right thing』等等嘅批評，

去攻擊你『男人嘅身份』，去嘗試改變你嘅思想行為，迎合自己需要。

亦都即係話：好多女人一邊批評話『真男人去晒邊』，說服男人『要負責任做男人需要做嘅嘢』；

但係另一邊同時就奚落踩低『極度man極度Alpha身邊大把女伴』嘅男人，貶損佢哋嘅名聲，批評佢哋『大男人／唔專一／淫蕩／唔尊重女性』等等。

我知道今集所講嘅嘢比較抽象，需要你去留意社會文化喺點樣困惑緊想MTFU嘅男人，點樣去用特定框架去影響你嘅信念同決定。

你要帶走嘅喺：男人嘅『榮譽／honour』喺好高崇並且值得學習，喺困境嘅時候我哋絕對需要一啲『有情有義，有犧牲小我成全大我精神』嘅男人，去保護我哋珍重嘅嘢。

但係，你要小心自己呢種心理需要，被唔合理嘅當權者／被你有性慾嘅女人去剝削你嘅利益，

去『一邊要求男人man up做領袖，一邊要求女性獨立平等』，慢慢操控你嘅一舉一動！

每次你感覺到女人攻擊你『夠唔夠man／係咪真男人／話男人應該或者唔應該XYZ』嘅時候，你就必須響起警號喇！

有咩問題嘅話，就like呢段片，subscribe落我哋MTFU channel，然後留言話我知啦。

Qs: What are the REAL REASONS 許志安 cheat? Is 黃心穎 a total slut? What will happen to Sammi? How about the poor little boy 馬國明？

Well brother, these are ALL irrelevant Qs you shouldn’t ask yourself. As you will see, almost 99% of articles/videos will be based on ENTERTAINMENT that adds zero value to your life.

It’s about making you feel emotional, adding drama to the mess so that there are more views. Afterall, that’s what news/media do.

Therefore, in this video breakdown, we will NOT focus on the gossip. We will NOT stand on the moral high ground to judge what’s right or wrong.

My intention of using this material is to ADD VALUE TO YOUR LIFE as a man. I want you to take this as 學術研究 to see the TRUTH about sexual dynamics between men and women, to understand the difference between sexual desire and love, and OBSERVE your initial reaction towards this incident.

Because YOUR NATURAL REACTION already reflects whether you’re BETA or ALPHA lens to see the world.

I recommend you to watch my other video <你係Alpha定Beta？留意呢10大特質！> as reference.

Now, we will breakdonw into a few sections in this video:
#1 What you can learn from 許志安 as an extreme BETA
#2 How you should choose women – NOT Sammi, NOT 黃心穎
#3 The only thing 馬國明 should do
#4 Other BETAs you should avoid becoming – taxi driver, the staff in Apple, those who attack 許志安 in front of girlfriends.

#1 What you can learn from 許志安 as an extreme BETA

1) He got oneitis 真命天女症.

Beta believes in romantic ideals. He tries to find his one soulmate. And then he justifies his clinginess by saying he “loves her so much”.

-> Therefore you can see 許志安 always come back to Sammi after breakups in the past 30 years. Because when he was ~20 years old, he already thought Sammi was the one. That’s a classic idealizing love behavior.

2) Beta always WANTS to be hero, he wants to save a girl from her problems, he wants to treat her nice and takes responsibility of HER emotions/problems.

-> That’s why my guess is another reason why 許志安 stays with a woman who is KNOWN for her crazy ups and downs personality (like Lady Gaga, Britney Spears, Madonna). He genuinely wants to fix Sammi’s emotional drama. He fails, but since he believes “committing” is what good man does, he continues living in such shitty relationship.

Now, let’s look deeper in the 記者會.

3) He keeps apologizing to everyone, to Sammi, to his fans etc. “犯這個錯誤起了色心，我覺得現在應該承擔後果。”

This implies he is SHAMEFUL towards his natural sexual desire for hot woman. Not only that but he is also apologizing being a MAN who likes to fuck.

“我覺得自己好錯、好討厭、好丟臉、好噁心、好陌生。”

He is ugly NOT because he cheats, every Alpha leader is history had multiple women at the same time until 100 years ago. He is UGLY because he is so weak/powerless that he needs to apologise to his REAL DESIRE as a MAN and he doesn’t have the BALLS to step up to OWN AND CLAIM his manhood.

4) “因為我自己做了一件不被原諒的事。” What does this imply? This is saying in the past 30 years, Sammi ALWAYS had the dominant frame in the relationship.

But since he is a nice guy, he TOLERATES that shit and keeps going back to Sammi until Sammi is good enough but choose him. At home, Sammi is the boss so 許志安 is always being emasculated. After years of marriage like that, there’s no way BETA won’t need a break and cheat for some younger, hotter girls.

5) “我最錯的地方是失去我自己。” “我這一刻是沒了靈魂的，我是一個壞掉的人。”

“我會暫停我所有工作，直到找到一個真正的自己，重新去檢視自己”

He emphasises so much on being BAD person, he loses his “real self” as being a good guy, being a morally upright dude in society.

That’s what BETA do. Beta always use the “I am a good devoted bf/ husband/ citizen” in society as a CARD to attract girls. But in reality, they are just pussies who keeps hiding away from the REAL ASPECTS of themselves – the ones that are deemed “bad” by society/religion/culture. They keep living in SHAME and that’s why betas have fucked up psychology.  

Now let’s briefly mention the other parties in this incident.

#1 As I have mentioned, Sammi is known for her ups and downs emotional personality. But betas love to act like Prince to save girls’ from her shit, to take responsibility of OTHERS shit, that’s why 許志安’s mistake from day 1 is to use “i will save girls” strategy to get girls, attracted sb he shouldn’t have touched, AND kept fixing a problem he can never fix.

I am not saying Sammi is a bad person, but I am saying when it comes to choosing what kind of women you want to put next to your side, you must be RUTHLESS like you’re having a billion dollar business deal.

#2 How about 黃心穎? Before I analyze about her, I want you to notice how SOCIETY is going to slut shame her as chicken, especially women.

Why? Because that’s a psychological battle played between female species. Even a woman herself loves sex and sucks dick, she IS going to slut shame other women who are competitors. This is to ensure that the best gene goes to her instead of the other girl.

As regards choosing women, 許志安 probably isn’t the first guy she wants to hook up with. She probably has been fvcking other guys behind 馬國明, who is another extreme beta.

However, even if her reputation is tarnished, many betas will still want to be her bf or even marry her. So the best strategy to handle these girls if you meet one? Just fvck her but never be serious.

#3 Now, what should 馬國明 do? Well, he is a famous nice good guy who always seem to be ignorant of what’s happening and willing to get his balls cut.

If he’s NOT ruthlessly dumping a cheater IMMEDIATELY, you will know why 馬國明 deserves to be cheated again and again.

Finally, I want you to see the BIGGER PICTURE about the whole incident.

#1 The real reason why the taxi driver reports to Apple is probably NOT JUST about money, even though he may get a few thousands or more for this juicy story.

The real reason he does that is probably because: He is JEALOUS that 許志安 is going to fuck a hot girl he can never FUCK.

This taxi driver probably has a tiger wife at home, nagging him all day and all he can do is to cheat in mainland.

But seeing a celebrity can get better pussies? He is pissed, so he is going to DESTROY 許志安 secretly to feel better about himself.

No matter how he justifies that – feeling unjust for Sammi, hating pretty girls like 黃心穎 who never will fuck him, want to help 馬國明 know the truth – becoming a justice warrior and ATTACKING powerful beta is the only way they can do to pull down a higher status beta.

2) How about the staff in Apple Daily?

As I said, the media only cares about profiting your EYEBALLS. They are not to help Sammi or 馬國明, they are not to destroy 許志安 黃心穎, they will just find creative ways every day to get your ATTENTION and earn profit from it.  

If you want to know what the news is about, just read Ryan Holiday’s <Trust me, I am not lying>.

3) The last point of today is that: I want you to OBSERVE your initial reaction towards this incident.

Did you leave a comment to 網絡公審 許志安? Did you HATE women like 黃心穎 because they are so sexual BUT they are not sexual towards you?

Did you feel sympathy for Sammi immediately EVEN THOUGH you have no idea who is suffering in that 30-year relationship? Did you laugh about 馬國明 because he is such a naive dork who always get taken advantage of?

Most importantly, when you talk about this with other women (gf/wife) in public, are you trying to shame 許志安 like most people are doing now?

If you do, you need to be careful. This is a strong signal that you too are operating in BETA MODE, trying to stand on the side of women and trying to portray a “I am good morally upright guy” image to attract girls.

This video is NOT for you to 食花生，this video is helping you to SEE whether you actually is just another less powerful, less famous, less affluent 許志安 – who is doing similar things with a similar beta mindset in regards to sex and relationships.

Cheating in relationships is NEVER the real problem, the real problem is always CHEATING YOURSELF and not facing what you truly want in life, and then settle in mediocre relationships, UNTIL that doesn’t work and EXPLODE one day that harms everyone.

What would you do if you were ruthlessly honest about your sexual desire?

What would you do if you knew that sexual desire and love are 2 different biological things that most people are confused?

What if you never have to apologize for being a man who gets what he wants in life without worrying about ppl’s opinions?

What if you STOP buying into the lies of Hollywood/DIsney romantic love and see the truth about male-female sexual dynamics?

I share much more details on how to achieve that life in MTFU Insider, if you’re interested, send an email to support@manthefvckup.com and let us know.

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就今天的記者會的目的是真的好想親口、 衷心向大家說聲對不起。

我是要為我的家人、Sammi的家人、朋友和疼愛我的人，致上萬二分歉意，因為我自己做了一件不被原諒的事。

而這個錯，（讓我）深深去反思自己，所以今天我在這裡，是想承擔我的責任。

我那晚的確喝了很多酒，但喝酒絕對不是做這種事情的藉口。

我非常後悔，我知道逃不了，我很難面對自己，接受不到自己。

看到報導之後，我覺得自己好錯、好討厭、好丟臉、好噁心、好陌生。

我有深刻地反思自己為什麼會去犯這個錯誤起了色心，我覺得現在應該承擔後果。

我會分兩個部分：第一個部分，我會暫停我所有工作，直到找到一個真正的自己，重新去檢視自己

第二個部分是在我心靈上面，我覺得我自己不知所云，因為我的行為，我的錯誤，令身邊所有愛我的人，承受這樣的壓力和痛苦。

我希望接下來的日子裡，所有被我弄痛傷害的人，都可以好好。這個報導讓我反思的一點，我最錯的地方是失去我自己。

我最後向所有愛我的人說一句對不起，對不起讓你們難堪。我做錯了，也對不起Sammi。

我不知道該如何走自己的路，我這一刻，是沒了靈魂的，我是一個壞掉的人。

期望大家可以給我時間找回我自己，我向大家說聲對不起。

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