分類: 成功

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我嘅情況同上次個溝女Q&A一樣，太Nice guy 比人friend zone左，所以我宜家決定左要唔再needy。

 

不過其實我都仲係鐘意嗰個女仔嘅，佢嘅性格好被動，我唔搵佢，佢唔會搵我，

 

我要點先可以係冇聯絡嘅情況下令佢鐘意我呢？定係我宜家應該要直接whatsapp話比佢聽: i dont need you and I treat you like ordinary ?

 

我同左熟左大約三個月，我要等幾耐先可以再出擊溝佢？一個bad boy嘅形象又點樣打造？

 

主要唔明嘅係我要點先可以唔做主動感樣得到，同佢溝通嘅機會？因為我地冇乜共同friend，好難有event 比佢join我

– K

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＃1 Getting rid of neediness, is NOT just a logical rational step.

 

Your EMOTIONS need to be truly non-needy, independent if you truly want change, otherwise you will fall into the same trap again by your natural behaviors.

 

So learn to be an independent man,

 

learn to accept and love yourself when no one else will,

 

learn to DO THINGS that give you long term happiness and fulfillment,

 

participate in activities that make you PROUD and HAPPY,

 

and most importantly, start crafting your own PURPOSE of living your life etc.

 

#2 OMG, when you say “i dont need you and I treat you like ordinary ?“, what does that even mean and subcommunicate!?

 

It means that you CARE SO MUCH to let her know that “I am not needy” but in fact you are extremely needy, and EAGER to let her know your feelings.

 

#3 “Badboy”image is NOT just how you look in your style, it’s more about the CHARACTER TRAIT you need to slowly develop.

 

E.g. Are you being honest with the girl when all you want is SEX and not ready for a relationship? OR you want multiple light fun sex partners but not a girlfriend?

 

E.g. Are you the kind of ambitious man who NEVER settles for less than what you deserve, you FUCKS the status quo of being a work slave, and be proactive in pursuing your own dream?

 

E.g. Are you the kind of WARRIOR who can on one hand protecting a baby with your gentleness, but on the other hand CHOKE and KILL the fucking enemy who is attacking your family!?

 

If you have that physical, mental, emotional TOUGHNESS while having a HEART to help more people you want, you are the fucking badboy.

 

#4 Finally, despite 溝女 is NEVER about chasing, that doesn’t mean you need to be PASSIVE and do nothing, sitting at your home, and waiting girls to do all the work to get you.

 

Being PROACTIVE also doesn’t mean chasing, what 主動 means is that you take ACTION to get girls attention STRATEGICALLY, and slowly lure her in the seduction process, which I have explained in a few episodes before.

 

Also, about this girl. If she is SO indifferent, SO apathetic, SO cold about you,

 

why the fuck do you still try so hard to get these emotionless robots to like you?

 

Do you REALLY want such passive lazy inactive girl in your life?

 

What does that tell about your standards with girls?

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MAN 神 1.關於第一條問題 對已讀不回嘅NEEDY

 

我地應該着重自己控制到嘅事，例如 控制自己嘅思想 情緒 行動，

但雖然我地唔可以去控制人 但我地可以用行動去影響人。

 

其實有咩因素係要對件事，盡自己所能，作出行動？

睇件事對你重唔重要？因為已讀不回呢啲小事no big deal，所以唔洗去深究？

 

有啲事，例如最近我覺得朋友女朋友，有時講野有啲冇禮貌，呢啲事，我覺得重要，就可以作出行動，同佢地講， 大家去揾出原因，了解原因，深究？

 

因為其實我都幾唔鐘意啲人 冇禮貌 唔識尊重人

 

我明白世界咁大 實有人會對你無禮貌 無可能要求，但有時朋友對你冇禮貌真係唔好受 我會想同佢講 咁算唔算needy?

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#1 It seems that you are still STUCK in your head OVERTHINKING when is the right time to pull back and when is the right time to take action.

 

Let me share with you this:

 

Most people spend their MAJOR time on minor things.

e.g. talk about the weather, the stock you have never invested in, the tragic accidents in some places you have never been to, the celebrity wedding, office work gossip, how suck the government it, the intentions of North Korea etc.

 

It’s natural to do so because everyone does that, but following the status quo is almost always a way to guarantee an average mediocre life.

 

These concerns 關注 you have are things you have ZERO CONTROL on, only others can do something about it.

 

You are being REACTIVE to life, you are a victim because you feel like there’s nothing you can do to change it.

 

However, successful people are PROACTIVE, they  focus their MAJOR EFFORTS on something they can do something about.

 

They focus on improving their health, be a better son/father/bf, mastering their wealth-generating skillsets, nurturing their relationships, training their IQ EQ etc.

 

So ask yourself this: Is what concerns me something I have DIRECT CONTROL (problems with your own behaviors/habits), INDIRECT CONTROL (problems with other people’s behaviors), or ZERO CONTROL (problems we can do nothing about with e.g. past realities)?

 

We have to WIN the private battle within ourselves before we win the public battle with the world.

 

Furthermore, you are not a fucking tree.

 

If you don’t like people’s behaviors, why the fuck are you PROACTIVELY putting yourself to endure such situations?

 

Change yourself before you try to change others.

 

Learn to ACCEPT ALL and live with problems you can’t change, even if you don’t like them. Be in peace with them.

 

When you have the COURAGE to change the things you can and what ought to be changed, the SERENITY to ACCEPT things which can’t be changed, and the WISDOM to distinguish between the two, you will WIN in every aspect of your life.

 

So to your Q, “囡囡已讀不回”, is this something you can change DIRECTLY?

 

If no, then have you somehow INDIRECTLY CONTRIBUTED to such situation?

 

If yes, how could your own BEHAVIORS change to minimize such incident to happen?

 

Same to the 無禮貌 thing.

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Hi Manson, Thanks for the explanation, I think I understand it better now.

 

Just want to give you an update: this summer, I have been hanging out and talking to my new and old friends. I really appreciate all of them and their support system. I tried out some new activities as well and it was a fun experience.

 

However, I still feel some emptiness in myself sometimes.

 

I still think about that girl who rejected me couple months ago. I thought I could distract myself with all these new people and activities, but I just seem to not be able to  get over her. Should I just give it more time?

 

I still talk to her from time to time (maybe 1/2 messages a week), but I haven’t seen her for about a month now, even she asked me out. Maybe I should go radio silence with her.

 

Also, I think I need to learn how to not give a fuck for things that are out of my control.

 

I still think about from time to time why she would choose nerdy guys over me. But at the end of the day, all of these thoughts are useless and not helping me in any way.

 

Thanks, Mr. H

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#1 Must cut ALL communication in order to get over her. These contacting are emotional TRIGGERS that make you feel like “you aren’t good enough to deserve her.”

 

Also, it normally takes at least HALF amount of time to recover from “breakups”.

 

E.g. a 2 year relationship will take at least 1 year of zero contact to truly recover (of course it depends on other factors like what you are doing during those space time)

 

#2 How not to give a fuck about things you can’t control?

 

– When you give a fuck, you are in your HEAD THINKING and imagining certain scenarios that is NOT in the present moment.

 

Einstein “The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.”

 

The way to solve it is NOT to do it through LOGIC, which is at the same level as the problem is.

 

The way is to USE YOUR BODY to solve your mind problems.

 

The body is the mind, vice versa. When you have problems with your mind, solve it with your BODY by breaking your mental patterns

 

E.g. Get out and do a solid workout, go out and do some running, listen to high energy music and DANCE like crazy, SHAKE your body, BARK like a warrior king etc.

 

– Second way, is to DECIDE in advance what are the things you care so much and TRULY give a fuck about, focus on them so hard that you can’t give a fuck about small little stuff.

When you care about something so deeply WITHOUT forcing others to live your own philosophy,

 

and when you reserve the right to change your mind/opinion/philosophy at any time WITHOUT any prior notice for others, you are truly CAREFREE.

 

So for you, what actually MATTERS and what doesn’t? How are you going to live YOUR BELIEFS and VALUES in your own way?

 

If you develop a habit of being GRATEFUL every morning about the things you already have (food, people, your 5 senses, support etc.)

 

while you take action to grow bigger and better to serve a purpose BIGGER than your own benefit, you will not only succeed but also attain a heartwarming fulfillment.

 

1.MAN 神 我想問平時係條街 你會唔會望女仔？  

唔知點解  感覺上 當我比人發現我望緊佢  我會有種好唔舒服嘅感覺！！

好似話左我底牌比佢知 我嘅欲望  我都有鐘意望靚野嘅欲望 好唔型。。。

比到人知自己有want   走去望佢 相比之下好似一望佢  你就輸左

 

– Uncomfortable because of  TENSION

– Lunge Exercise

 

2a.或者 MAN 神 你平時行街個頭會唔會周圍望 ???

 

– Eye contact: Attention

 

– I don’t move my head most of the time, low status people move their head like a headless chicken. You have a MISSION to dominate.

 

– You look straight BEYOND the crowd.

 

2b.  or 同人有眼神接觸 ?係咪應該hold 耐少少？？

我試過hold 太耐 比到人一種好挑釁 好攻擊性嘅感覺  對住男女咁望都係 搞到人地好唔舒服

 

– For men, a few seconds is alright. But it can be misinterpreted

 

– For women, look for a few seconds, smile and look up or horizontally away. DO NOT look down or linger.

 

3.Man 你覺得做人應唔應該有plan 定應該活在當下？？？

但有plan就會有預期對目標有種needy執  但冇plan 活在當下又會冇目標冇方向

 

Stop interpreting planning is NEEDINESS.

 

Neediness means you DON”T accept the whatever outcome is/reality. You cling to your past or you cling to your illusion.

 

Planning also doesn’t mean not being present.

Being present = You are using everything you got to create a life you want without being distracted by life’s bullshit or irrelevance

 

You plan so that you know your vision and where you are going.

 

KEY: No Battle Plan Survives First Contact With The Enemy

-> You plan the moves, see what happens, and then ADJUST

KEY: Be flexible

[溝女] 做愛時點樣可以無咁早射？3招解決早洩煩惱！

 

KEY #1: Relax (physically + mentally)

1) Unclench your butt cheeks and anus: 

 

2)  Pay attention to her, don’t just focus on your pleasure

 

KEY #2 Slow The Fvck Down!  

1) Foreplay is important.Sex is NOT just penetration.

 

2) BREATHE DEEPLY!

 

KEY #3 Biofeedback i.e. edging 留意自己高潮邊緣

 

Practice being aware when you are close to climax point, then CUT OFF stimulation completely.

 

“The point of no return”is like 85% orgasm, don’t go there

Reach 75% of climax and then stop all sexual contact with your dick.

[溝女] 點解溝女認真你便會輸了？

 

Yo！我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊。

 

現代約會最大嘅問題係乜嘢呢？ 

 

Tip：It’s in most people’s pockets…

 

Problem = smartphones = distraction

 

No one is paying fucking attention to each other!

 

大部分人都忘記咗咩叫做約會，咩叫做hang out，咩叫做約出嚟玩

 

Presence = Giving complete, and undivided attention to someone else

 

It’s like a modern date is no longer between two people, 200 people!!!

 

點解會發生呢啲咁唔尊重嘅情況呢？

 

=》Not enough men are telling their dates to put their phone away！

 

And today I’m going to teach you how a real man tells a woman to put her phone away in a polite and powerful way

 

#1 Easiest way = to tell her how you feel…

 

『喂喂，我覺得我同你傾偈嘅時候，你喺度玩電話，我唔係幾鍾意呢種感覺。』

 

＃2 狂用電話已經喺一種喺社會氾濫嘅傳染病，所以好多人都唔知道自己中毒幾深。

 

咁所以如果需要嘅話，你可以用另一句同佢講話：

 

『啊，Kary啊，其實同你相處都幾舒服嘅，但係我唔太鐘意我哋出嚟嘅時候，同你其他朋友一齊分享我嘅時間囉。』

 

以上一句係有禮貌並且強勁嘅句子，

 

你係話畀佢知雖然你對佢有興趣，但係如果佢唔能夠集中嘅話你都唔會接受。

 

＃3 最後第三句，亦都係有禮貌地最後警告佢嘅說話，就係同佢講：

 

『啊，你咁忙，不如等你下次熄咗個電話，我哋先再繼續啦。』

 

Boom！

 

呢句句子喺好勁嘅最後通牒，係話畀佢知雖然你對佢有興趣，

 

但係如果佢唔能夠畀full attention你嘅話，你係可以隨時walk away走人，因為你係知道自己嘅時間有幾珍貴。

 

＃4 最後想講嘅就係：我以上教你嘅說話雖然係好有威力，

 

但係如果巴打你唔能夠以身作則，自己又喺度玩電話嘅話，咁樣人哋唔尊重你都係抵你死！

 

咁所以請你記住要lead by example，

 

要記住你自己首先唔好玩電話，你先至有資格邀請其他人唔好咁做。

 

鍾意今集嘅話就like，留言俾我知並且share比你值得分享嘅朋友睇啦， 下集再見你！

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Manson!  我有問題！

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我地所host嘅活動係咪一定要雙方都有好大興趣？

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攞個example就應該明白！

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我對唱K興趣不大，但我喜歡認識中意唱歌嘅女仔，

 

我係唔係姐係要be active去搞一啲follow人地其他女仔feel interested嘅活動？

 

定係我要再host一個brand-new嘅idea去suit自己？

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仲有另一方面嘅疑問：

 

我對野外活動嘅興趣好大，但係我冇法子從目前生活圈中認識有呢種興趣嘅人，我要點樣起步？

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It maybe naive but that’s my question

Thx， Alex

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Alex,

 

In the long term, you do want to find people with similar interests, hobbies, mindsets and passions.

 

That’s a more sustainable social group because neither of you are accommodating oneself to do stuff you don’t like.

 

Compatibility is an important element if you’re looking for something long term, especially a girlfriend.

 

However, in the short term where you’re training your social skills,

 

it’s okay to do both to allow yourself meet more new people and discover what kind of personality/character you like or not.

 

After a while, you’ll feel what resonates with YOU the most and have more clarity what you truly want.

 

 

P.S. Sometimes we may slowly find interest in stuff we used NOT to like.

 

To me, I used to HATE singing K because I didn’t like my voice.

 

But now, I LOVE it because I started to know how to project my voice better, and girls complimented on my singing and fun attitude lol

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想請教你一d問題！ 我同C小姐相識十年， 中學曾經喺埋一齊幾個月！ 最近兩年先聯絡返！

 

我個心儀對象C小姐最緊同男朋友分手， 佢哋喺埋一齊咗接近三年！

 

係佢主動飛左男仔！ 佢話個男仔經常望其他女，望足幾秒！ 因為呢個原因經常吵架！

 

琴日佢去男朋友屋企執曬嘢走，晚上佢約咗我， 喺我樓下公園跑步！

 

大部分時間都係講佢男朋友啲衰嘢， 佢仲教我點樣追女仔！

 

跑完步我順便送佢返屋企， 當日嘅凌晨佢瞓唔著， 打咗畀我，

 

約我下個月去旅行( 之前曾經同佢講過我想去旅行，但冇人陪)，

 

但係唔單止我哋兩個， 仲有佢媽媽同細路都會去！

 

唔清楚佢對我有無好感？ 處女座好難捉摸！

 

同佢whatsapp，佢經常隔1－2個鐘先覆我！

 

請問Man神，如果想追返佢有冇咩方法？

Thank you !

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#1 To be honest,  if she’s angry because ” 佢話個男仔經常望其他女，望足幾秒 ” , then she is a very immature and insecure girl that you probably shouldn’t get close with.

 

#2 It seems that she is treating you as a GOOD FRIEND, and your behaviors are more like a good friend than a potential sexual partner/bf.

 

#3 Stop using the word ” 追”, it fvcks up everything.

 

Watch these for reference:

 

點解同女仔表白等於自殺？

 

男仔應該幾時表白!?

 

點解追女仔等於自殺？

 

#4 Stop being needy, ” 隔1－2個鐘先覆我” is such a normal thing.

 

#5 You can’t “get her as a gf” if she’s seeing you as a friend.

 

Let me ask you, what’s your current social life like?

 

How many other girls are you seeing?

 

鍾意今集嘅話就like，留言俾我知並且share比你值得分享嘅朋友睇啦， 下集再見你！

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