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Jun T：Hey Manson, 我想問你既問題就係如何同喺職場上識既女仔相處？我知道你講過唔推薦喺公司亂搞男女關係、搞到自己又搞到人、咁係咪即係對住佢地要保持non sexual? Thanks.
#1 Yes, because if you care about your work or income, screwing with female colleagues only harm you. One, it’s impossible to separate private matters with company matters, any problems in r/p will cause problems at work.
Two, your other male colleagues or bosses are always a threat. Especially if you got a hot colleague, they are going to tease you and bully you at the work level. Your boss is NOT going to promote you as revenge. Too much drama, doesn’t worth it.
#2 Yes, just treat the girls as strictly colleague, nothing more. In fact, don’t even think she’s your friend because she is just a competitor.
You should always get girls elsewhere, most guys resort to female colleagues because they DON’T meet girls outside work. Just let other desperate dudes to chase while you make bigger money and meeting girls outside.
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J: 溝 (吸引)條女時點樣可以係Neediness同暗示對條女有興趣取得平衡?
太needy, 條女會覺得個男仔太低價值太易得到。太non attach, 時間拖太耐唔表示對條女有興趣, 條女又會覺得個男仔對佢無興趣而move on
Good Q. General rule is that you NEVER show interest verbally, but you keep escalating via your actions/behaviors.
E.g. Verbally, you can tease her for being stupid/weak, challenge her for being a boring girl with no passions, tell her why you don’t think you guys are good fit, When escalating joking say that “Hey be nice, you can’t get me on bed with that attitude.”+ takeaway.
But PHYSICALLY, when you’re on the surface NOT showing too much interest, you are getting her to dates, you are ESCALATING – touching her + isolating her + trying to fuck her + flirting with her sometimes.
That’s the kind of communication women enjoy. It’s okay to let girls feel that you’re trying to fuck her AS LONG AS you’re smoothly escalating, BUT also calibrating according to her reactions to see if you need to step back sometime for a while, and try it again.
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Daniel W: 最近同女朋友分咗手，一直以嚟我太focus自己 無乜點去care佢 到最後佢同我講話好大壓力好辛苦 想做返朋友 有feel再做couple
＃1 Damn bro, you actually ARE doing things right. You SHOULD be focusing on yourself, and the fact that she is PISSED that you don’t 挽留佢 means that you ARE doing the right thing.
HOWEVER, what did she specifically do for you? You said she loves you a lot, why did she sacrifice at all? Girls who REALLY love a guy almost always cannot leave him at all.
#2 Her friends are fucking you up. “can follow her Ig” WTF? Sounds that you are begging for that and she PERMITS you to do that?
DO NOT fall into this trap. She and her friends are trying to change the game. You had the upper hand before, but now you are losing. You should not have told her “thank her, respect her stuff”.
#3 If you now chase, you LOSE EVERY attraction point. Keep ignoring her, and let her follow your IG LATER, and IGNORE her friends toxic advice.
If she wants to be your gf, she NEEDS to obey and comply to your rules. Maybe you should pay more attention to her slightly, but DON”T make her your focus.
Keep focusing on yourself, that’s how you attracted her on day 1!
Welcome to another episode of weekly 溝女Q&A, where I help MTFU fans weekly to briefly solve their dating problems.
If you want more comprehensive, 1-2-1 interaction with me, you may consider joining our Insider familybecause you will get all the dating/sex/relationship training inside AND you can interact with me LIVE in our coaching calls and secret FB group.
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Alex L: 我最近中意左個細1年既女同學 之前有次集體活動同佢吹左一陣水 覺得佢好啱我口味 嗰日我同佢由差唔多系陌生人變成左fd 應該系比較淺層既嗰種fd 佢間唔中系我ig都有投下票咁 有次同佢見面仲對住我甜笑
但其實自從星期2 佢再冇系我ig 投過票 佢系咪知道左我對佢有興趣 ？咁糸咪好大穫？我應該點做去挽救？Thanks man
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#1 Not sure how old you both, but I bet that’s F.2-3. It’s good that you had chatted with her and got her IG/whatsapp, you had done most kids won’t.
BUT, what would you let your frd type shit to a girl you like? He is destroying your chance with her. That “I’ll call you XYZ” with a smily sound creepy.
#2 It’s super normal girls turn cold after being warm. That’s part of their game to shit test guy. But the real reason you’ve lost her is because you don’t ESCALATE to get a date with her + you keep talking random boring shit with her like a FRIEND.
Who cares if she votes on your IG? Who cares about these stupid 小學雞 game?
Rmb: Every time you give attention to girl, you need to pave way to escalate to the next stage. If you are not getting her out a date, you shouldn’t be contacting her. Got it?
Good Qs, I like that you’re self-reflecting on what you learn.
#1 “Taking imperfect action” = Understand we NEVER have perfect information to take a 100% perfect action. If we wait for the perfect day, we will NEVER accomplish anything – meet girls/build businesses.
It’s inevitable to make mistakes, so the best way to make sure you are making progress in life is to know 60-70% info of “what/how to do sth” and then take imperfect action to try it. Until you try, you never know what else you need or whether you will succeed.
#2 Indifference = care what you think about yourself MORE THAN what others think about yourself.
If you entertain everyone’s opinion about what you should/shouldn’t do, people will pull you into 360 directions and you will get TORN and get NOTHING done.
Indifference doesn’t mean you’re being無恥 and exploiting others. Instead, it means you understand the importance of self-care, that you cannot HELP others before you help yourself, AND you can’t help others AS WELL before you help yourself.
#3 As regards “many things aren’t immediate”, OF COURSE. If everything is so easy and immediate, everyone will be a 千萬富豪 with 10 girls behind him.
However, difficult things don’t mean they are complicated. Every HARD skills or accomplishments can be broken down into basic fundamentals that you can learn, train and master.
If there are so many good advice you learn from MTFU and don’t know which one to start with, just pick ONE THING to do that fits your current schedule most and improve your life the most.
E.g. If you’re physically weak, of course you need to get healthy and train yourself to have a strong body/mind first. If you’re broke and worry about money all the time, of course you need to get that handled before you have basic stability to game girls.
Know your priorities, make small changes and you’ll slowly UNFUCK your life.
Not sure if you notice, I have not done 溝女Q&A series for almost 7 months because I was so busy in helping my private clients and students in MTFU Insider.
We had a lot of fun in our weekly trainings, our coaching calls and FB interactions. And I love to see how they are kicking ass in their personal life, professional life and love life.
So if you want such 360 degrees support and live interaction with me, you should join our elite Insider family.
Anyway, I’ve decided to do some charity work, by answering a few short easy Qs or 1 quality Q per week – whether I got it in YT, IG or emails.
These answer I give you will NOT be as detailed/intimate/comprehensive as those I do for Insiders. Because we won’t have any live interactions to clarify your points, and I can only give you pointers on the direction you needa go.
If you like this kind help, please LIKE this video and SUBSCRIBE to support MTFU’s channel growth.
If you really want to send Qs to me, make them as SHORT as possible (50-100 words) otherwise they are too long for me to read.
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Yi Myth 處景題：女朋友問我鍾意佢d咩 我點答好？
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＃1 Why is such a difficult Q to answer? Why would such Q even bother you?
This implies your lack of frame in your relationship and I suspect you are leading the relationship at all, OR whether you had actually fvcked her at all.
#2 If this truly happens, you can do it playfully, “That’s a really good Q. Let me take some time to think about it, what do you like about me then?”
-> This implies you aren’t even thinking about WHY you like her, meaning you aren’t that serious beta longing for a bf/gf r/p, and letting her qualify you.
But also, if she really really loves you, if she is complying to every request you make during the r/p, if she has PROVEN her worthiness as a gf, then you can give her some truth on WHY you like her.
-> Tell her the external + internal QUALITIES you like about her (e.g. I like how hot you are when you dress like this, I like how obedient and loyal you are to me, I like you take care of your health and body, I like how we fvck each other every time, I like the way you suck my coack). Reinforce the behaviors you like so she continues doing those.
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Andre L: man son 其實我地都交流過好多次 經過你一連串video教學同問題解答 係溝女方面雖然唔夠你咁厲害 但都足以ko百分之80既男人 係呢度真係首先多謝你先
問題來喇 好多人dse畢業都係18歲 順順利利嗰d即刻升大學 呢一大片人可以係22-26畢業然後平穩感過一生 但亦有好多人冇咁順利 有時因為好多因素 去到20出頭甚至係20幾歲先入到 而仲應唔應該去讀？係黃金時間比人地少左幾年 代表住儲首期 儲銀帳戶裡面既數字既時間亦都會比人少好多甚至係冇時間（現今香港呢d功利主義社會30歲人冇錢比首期 冇錢結婚都比人標籤成loser）係感既情況下應該如何自救？thank for your reading and explain i am A
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#1 Yes, most “grade A-B” students can get a good job and 平穩過一生. But to me, their trap is settle into the predetermined life “normal job, normal wife, marriage, kids, retirement, die”. If you want that, that’s fine. But MTFU is about being the Top 1% and getting the BEST you want, so average/mediocrity is NOT our goals.
#2 Whether you should get into Uni depends on what you wanna do in life. If you want to be a professional (doctor/lawyer/accountant/engineer), then YES you need those qualifications. If NOT, I don’t see the value of wasting 4 years of time and money getting a certification, then get a mediocre job repaying debts.
Everyone has different risks tolerant, I would choose to build my own path based on my strengths, but no everyone is destined for entrepreneurship, so you need to consider your own situation.
#3 So fucking what if ppl labels you are loser? Are you really living your life according to their terms? You live because you beg for their approvals?
Fvck that. Find your own path, do things that make you happy, fvck the social norm of what’s acceptable/normal/safe path.
What do you fucking want? How can you add value to people life in exchange of money? What can you learn to increase your personal value in the marketplace? What skills do you have?
Answer these questions and you’ll know how to make money in your unique way instead of only relying on a company or JOB. (although they can be a platform to start with) ==============
Hey bro, you know that we all are heavily impacted by our environment, so we will become like those friends whom we hangout with most.
Assuming you have eliminated those negative crabs who pull you down, how could we build friendships once we have found a quality human being?
Well, let me recommend you reading <The Like Switch> by Dr Jack Schafer,
who is a former FBI agent who specializes in behavior analysis and recruiting spies.
He uses this “The Friendship Formula” that Friendship = Proximity + Frequency + Duration + Intensity.
Proximity = distance between you and others, it means the EXPOSURE to each other. (whether it’s shared space or shared context)
Frequency = # of contacts you two have over time;
Duration = length of time you two spend with each other
Intensity = How strongly you are able to satisfy another person’s psychological and/or physical needs through the use of verbal/ nonverbal behaviors -> i.e. how much impact such interaction have on you both
Knowing this now, how can we make friends?
Step #1 You gotta spend more TIME doing stuff with them because 25% of forming a friendship is BEING THERE with them!
Step #2 Once you have been spending time , slowly increase the frequency & duration to increase another 50%
Step #3 After those TIME, you can slowly add INTENSITY (i.e. go from light causal pleasant topics to deeper personal emotional topics)
When you take it slowly and if the other person wants to go there, you two will become good friends who know each other.
Of course if it is in a social group setting and you’re new to the group, you want to slowly test the water and feel out what social norms of particular group.
After you have been there for a few times and established your place, then you can start to take some risks slowly to express more of yourself.
As long as you are NOT a energy drainer or freerider, and you actually GIVE VALUE to other people, people will love to have you as their friends!
Hey bro, I have received some Qs in the past regarding how to help your fellow bros you care about with dating.
This is very interesting because as you learn more from MTFU about not chasing girls, most of your old friends are still staying in the old traditional way of chasing women.
Maybe they do have some success once for a while, or maybe they even have a GF/SP longer faster than you in the past, but you just know that they are doing things wrong even on the surface they are more “successful” than you.
So, how can we help our friends when you know they are entering a trap?
#1 NEVER try to help someone who doesn’t want to be helped.
When ppl don’t feel enough pain, or are just happy repeating their old habits, their minds are NOT open enough to receive new knowledge.
Anything that contradicts their current beliefs are going to be deleted, that’s called the confirmation bias/確認偏誤。
No matter how hard you try, they are just not going to listen and forcing help can hurt your friend.
“When the student is ready, the teacher will appear”. Don’t help them until they are ready to receive it.
#2 Let your own actions/results speak louder than words.
NEVER point fingers to your friends that what they are doing are WRONG.
Because whenever we directly reject others, they are going to act defensive and they will FIGHT your ideas.
Understand: In their current model of the world, they think what they are doing is right. They are doing “what they think is best” based on what they know from society.
So when you say they are wrong, it feels like telling some religious ppl that God doesn’t exist. They either think you are crazy or speaking alien language.
So just do your own thing and let your results speak for themselves. Whether they decide to join you is up to them, don’t force it.
#3 In conclusion, everyone has their own path/lessons they need to go through.
Give them the freedom to fvck up a relationship,
give them the freedom to experience the pain of breakup or being cheated,
give them the freedom to waste money on girls and get divorced at 50…
When they hit rock bottom and they put up their hand for help, only then should you give them a hand to uplift them.
If you want to save the world, save yourself first and make yourself NOT a liability – health, relationships, wealth !
Hey brother are you insecure that you don’t have a car or a house right now?
OR are you scared about the fact that girls may know that you might not have a JOB now and still looking for employment?
If you have such fear of being exposed or fear of being unsuccessful, and you think you can’t get girls at such state, then you are operating at a BETA mindset.
#1 Listen, I know what you are thinking:
You think you can’t PROVIDE FOR the girls you like, you think girls will see you are an unstable loser, you think you have nothing to show off to girls in order to make her like you.
If you believe those are the keys to open women, then you are only half correct BECAUSE those “good citizen”qualities are useful in long term mating strategy.
#2 In long term mating, of course women want a guy who is rich enough to provide her with stuff and make her feel safe.
Of course women want an emotionally stable guy who is predictable and don’t want too much drama in her family that hurt her offsprings.
Of course women want you to be a “good guy” to support her own goals.
But the very politically incorrect truth is that women don’t give a fvck about these beta qualities when she was young, sexy partying and wanted to explore her best sexual options!
#3 So what does all these mean to you?
One, when you display enough Alpha qualities and increase your sexual value, you can be a broke jobless carless surfer who is just chilling and still get a ton of women sucking you.
Two, the meaning of cars/houses/jobs only mean what you think they mean.
It could mean you are a fvcking loser and don’t deserve women.
It could mean you are a fvcking loser but know how to game women.
But it could also mean you don’t buy into the traditional bullshit script that 90% ppl follow and you are building an alternative exciting entrepreneurial life that most people don’t dare to do, AND you know you deserve women.
#4But the Q is brother, how would you FRAME your current situation?
One of the most common fears guys tell me is that they think “你的樣子如何你的日子也必如何”, so they think they can never get girls because they have average looks.
I am not gonna lie, your fashion/style/sexiness DOES matter because first impression lasts. Look at how thirsty women are when they got a chance to touch A&F models.
But does that really mean average looks = lonely forever? And do you know why you are force fed this idea of “Your face your fate”?
Can you see how believing into such bullshit is going to affect your mindset, action and results in life? CM below and let know your thoughts.
So if you ask me, I’d say fvck YFYF because there are certain things you can do to drastically increase your chance.
#1 If you are really worried, then get your ass out and change what you can.
Let’s face this, if you dress like like a dirty beggar OR like a safe boring vanilla good boy, that is NOT going to arouse women.
Arousal of women is based on TENSION, so your style needs to conveys edginess +I am not fvcking average. If your presentation conveys “I am safe and risk-averse”, that will NOT spark attraction.
So always upgrade your haircut, your style that is not based on fashion but timeless good-looks, your body type, your smell, your skin, your body type.
Those are the easy things that you can DO to change ppl’s perception.
#2 Whatever beliefs you keep telling yourself or excuses you keep using , you are going to live in such reality.
Once you have taken ACTION to change the external and stop behaving like a keyboard poison kid, then you gotta take charge of your self-talk.
Because when you repeat a story in your brain, your mind are going to focus on finding evidence that only support that belief and reject evidence that doesn’t support that.
This is called Confirmation bias 確認偏誤。
#3 So knowing that our brain has a tendency to 選擇性地回憶, why don’t you use that bias to HELP YOURSELF?
Assuming you HAVE taken action to change your style/body/external factors, you SHOULD create a new story like “I love how girls love how sexy I am.””Women just love how hot I am and they want me to talk to them. ”
Instead of being biased against the -ve factors about yourself, you can use the same tool to be biased FOR the +ve factor about yourself.
I agree that good-looks, especially for women, have tremendous effects on how people judge you. And I also agree that sometimes you may overestimate your hotness.
But if nothing change, you now at least have the BALLS to pull the fucking trigger and say hi to the girls you have always scared to meet.
Doesn’t this just simple act increase your success with women?
