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Bro, you probably have heard/read a super old school books called <The Game> and you definitely know those pickup guys like Mystery and Neil Strauss.

Because of them, so many men thought that they had discovered a get-girls GOLD MINE and thought that by mastering PUA and becoming a PUA profession, they can get every woman they can dream of.

However, maybe you don’t know that Neil Strauss wrote a book called <The Truth> in 2015 and he mentioned how he himself and Mystery respectively nearly committed suicide after they had attracted a BAD woman into their lives, especially when they thought “she is the one.”

Without getting too much into the history, I want you to understand the truths about pickup and PUAs, which is a topic I seldom address.

That is, yes, PUA CAN be effective tools to get you women, there are skills of communication that make you stand out as a man to attract women.

HOWEVER, the dangers of relying on PUA techniques without an actual improvement of your personal attractiveness,

is that #1 you get women who are attracted to your PUA stuff, NOT you as a person.

#2 PUA does NOT teach you to screen out BAD, emotionally manipulative, OR psychologically damaged women WHO can cause serious detriments in your well-being AND this is how PUA Masters like Mystery/Neil Strauss NEARLY killed themselves.

Understand: Having PUA skills to get girls DOES NOT MEAN you are automatically an Alpha.

SO MANY PUA dudes know how to get girls, fvck girls but they don’t fucking know how to keep girls who are HEALTHY to them in the long term happiness.

Why? Because PUA skills are like a sword. It is a neutral tool to cut.

But if the person using the sword is a beta/motherfvcker/ sucker/crazy maniac, the sword is going to HURT people including killing himself.

If you don’t understand the bigger picture e.g. why female behave certain ways, why we have certain psychology, how society is conditioning you as a beta etc.

YOU at your core, is still a beta even if you have learnt some new tools.

The point is: You have to TRAIN and BECOME the right man first in order to know how to use your sword for good.

If you just learn PUA without actually becoming a stronger, more psychologically healthy, more emotionally mature & confident MAN,

you are just becoming another stupid unstable kid thinking he can use a sword to kill real soldiers in the battlefield.

you are just becoming another stupid unstable kid thinking he can use a sword to kill real soldiers in the battlefield.

Can you think of any guys you know who are proud of his PUA skills but is a nasty dickhead in person?

Like this video and comment below and let me know 😉

Have you wondered what EVERY women want in this world?

In the past 10 years when social media had become the norm, can you observe what is the ONE COMMON THING females all do when they have access to such power?

No, it’s NOT money, it’s NOT love, it’s NOT sex.

What every women want – including your mum, your sisters, your “pure good cute” classmate, your female colleagues, the half-celebrity on TV, your 3-years girlfriend, or your 30 years wife – …

What ALL women want is MORE MALE ATTENTION.

Although all people, both men and women, enjoy attention for specific reasons, what makes females females is their CONSTANT CRAVE for male attention.

Why?

It’s because the ability to GET ATTENTION is a survival mechanism deep in a woman’s psyche.

If you’ve gone through 7-day-free-course, you will know a lot about why women do certain crazy things. (Get in if you haven’t)

But you need to understand: Women compete with each other via psychological means while men compete with others through physical fights.

So in girls’ world, they need to use a lot of psychological means to form their little girls-only support groups, and they constantly 排斥 those who they don’t like and bad mouth others.

Who is the female leader who determines how the group goes?

Well, it’s almost always the most popular girl who can get most ATTENTION from others inside + outside the group, and 99% of the case is the girl who is judged as “hot, pretty, sexy” by guys.

Therefore, the hotter the girl + the more socially popular she becomes… the more influence she can accumulates in society. Thus, ability to get attention is ALWAYS what women need/want/desire.

Bro, now that you understand there’s this invisible battle females are participating, and the FUNDAMENTAL NEED that every chick has, can you see why any hot women can easily manipulate most beta men to do what they wish?

Can you see why so many chicks are happy to keep briefly talking with you, but never allows you to sexually escalate, and keep you as an orbiter?

And most importantly, are you smart enough to understand HOW you can combat that war against you, and NOT put yourself in a sexless friend zone and waste all your time/energy/money/effort in someone who’s only using you?

Like this video and comment below because I wanna know your answers, what you’ve learnt and how you would resist that.

If you need more help, apart from booking a coaching call with me or joining our premium Insider brotherhood,

you’re welcome to visit www.manthefvckup.com/7dayfreecourse to enjoy the free training I’ve prepared for you.

Look forward to your comments and see you in the next video.

Bro, have you ever had some dudes criticizing you for “learning sexual dynamics” and said you should stop trying so hard and “just be yourself”?

Or have you tried to explain to your buddies why their way of handling women is WRONG, is leading them into a painful wrong path, BUT only to find that they defend by saying that “their girls are different”?

Well, a very sad truth is that: No matter how great MTFU becomes, there will ALWAYS have a bunch of unsavable BETAs who deeply trusts that “being a nice gentleman” is how you attract girls,

OR “patiently befriend a girl and she will fall in love with you someday”,

OR “There’s always a pure innocent good girl waiting for him somewhere in the world, it’s just a matter of time to meet her and get married”.

Yes, these are the so called 白馬王子Beta男, whose “get girl strategy” is to always side with women, protect their reputation, and try to ATTACK guys whom women are attracted to but complaining about,

IN THE HOPES THAT women somehow see “how understanding/caring/attentive he is” and will eventually choose to want him.

Do you know why these 白馬王子Beta男 are so invested in doing that?

It is because they have emotionally invested SO MUCH in the fake “assumed way of how female works” that thinking otherwise will HURT their ego.

Meaning: Their identity/behaviors have been built AROUND the belief of “always putting female first” that doing something opposite WILL makes them feel that “that’s not how life supposed to work”.

He then doesn’t even recognize the world he used to believe living in.

That is why 白馬王子Beta男 must defend his wrong beta mindset, must defend the girls who are complaining the Alphas, must repeat the same old mistakes until PAINFUL ENOUGH to wake him the fvck up.

So brother, when you’re transforming yourself into a new Alpha mindset, you will definitely encounter resistance from other majority of Betas.

They are like crabs in a barrel. As you leave the shit life inside and experience freedom outside,

they will use every way to pull you back down the hole and tell you “Just be yourself, she is just stupid not to see how good you are.”

Well, it feels comforting, but if you don’t want to settle to a random 5,6 woman who happens to fvck you when you’re drunk, don’t listen to their advice!

I know a lot of you will not like what I say, but sorry not sorry, long distance relationship is NOT a real relationship at all.

Why? Simple.

It’s because there is NO REAL benefits you get from each other apart from texting and facetiming someone just like an old-school pen friend.

I am NOT saying such emotional connection doesn’t feel warm-hearted or sometimes happy, BUT a men-women intimate relationship DOES NOT EXIST if there’s NO SEX involved!

When you have a long d, you (especially men) will start to automatically ASSUME responsibility,

ASSUME that you must be LOYAL to this person for months and years, HOPING THAT one day when she comes back, you two still have the same romantic feeling.

The truth is: You are projecting an idealized image into reality, committing to a person and IGNORING all the real possibilities in front of you.

You don’t go out have fun with your bros because you said you gotta wait for your girl to Facetime you,

you don’t talk to other girls in your school/work/bars/clubs because you think you’re a FAITHFUL good guy who doesn’t cheat,

You don’t even ENJOY LIFE because you think you want to WAIT for the girl to have fun LATER.

In short, you just SACRIFICE YEARS of your life to keep a “soulmate true love” half the planet away, wasting each other’s life even if you guys are sincere and promise to be faithful to each other.

It is even worse than being FZed!

Because you’re accepting all responsibilities of being exclusive with a virtual girl BUT you never get sex or intimacy in person, you don’t even get to see her in life!

So ask yourself: How much opportunities have you limited yourself from experiencing just because of this INVISIBLE pen friend?

How many millions of case studies have you heard that even though the couple meets again, the girl tells you “Sorry, I just don’t have the same feeling like before” and eventually break up?

How many secret stories have you heard that while you think she is also sticking to the promises, you later find out that she actually fvcked another guy 3 months later after she left and has already had a 2-years new relationship!?

If you tell me that “No, actually we meet every 3-6 months for the past 3 years”, well… tell me honestly:

how have you been forbidding yourself from experiencing whatever opportunities – education /work/ sexual/ fun/ family/ personal growth – because you’re committing to an uncertainty?  

Is it worth is to CHANGE how you live life just because you HOPE one relationship will happen as you wish in the FUTURE?

Your choice.

Bros, we’ve talked a TON about how not to fall into the friend zone and why once women see you as “frd”, it’s almost impossible for her to want to fvck you.

So the best way to get out of FZ, is always NOT putting yourself into the FZ from Day 1 and stop lying that “you only want to be frds with her”.

However, do you know why WOMEN LOVE to have male friends to surround them even though she will never be sexually interested in them?

#1 Yes, you’ve watched MTFU for a while and you’ve grown smart… It’s because females CRAVE ATTENTION like bees crave honey…

the more attention they get personally or from society, the more self-worth and happy she feels about herself.

That is exactly why when women tell you “to let’s just be friends OR i am not ready for a relationship OR I haven’t gotten over my ex OR I love you as my older brother”,

that is an attempt to offer you a useless sexless friendship where you’ll continue to pay attention/care about her WHILE she doesn’t do shit in return for you (i.e. never give you sex that you want).

#2 So bro, NEVER try to prove yourself to be a perfect BF material in order to prove that you are “good enough” to take care of her…hoping that one day she will happily fvck you.

No, this will NOT happen. Don’t be an emotionally supportive Beta who listens to her complaints about the Alpha she craves to fvck.

If you still think “we should be friends first, then we will transition to bg/gf lover relationship”, I guarantee you will be single for the rest of your life.  

#3 Why?

It’s because if you attended our 7-day free course,

you know that attraction requires TENSION, and the feeling of tension is a bit uncomfortable and nervous, and such feeling is necessary for intimacy to happen.

If everything is familiar, comfortable, friendly, warm, that feeling is NOT seduction and she won’t feel the urge to have sex with you.

#4 Now that you understand the real purpose of friendship in women’s eyes,

do you know why men and women CANNOT be real friends, OR can’t be as friend as their same sex?

Yes, you’re right again. It’s because it doesn’t fvcking make sense.

One, let’s be honest here, men don’t make friends with ugly chicks. So all chicks men try to befriend are those he tries to fvck.

if you think that by staying friends with her, you can fvck her one day? I’ve already explained why that doesn’t work, so stop fvcking waste your time doing stupid impossible shit.

Two, male-friends are way better than female-friends.

You can talk in a rational way that makes sense, you both like what guys like to do/play, you both can open up to talk deep dirty shit and you don’t need to worry “if I will make a bad impression on this girl”,

and most importantly, a good bro can be a trustworthy soldier that you can fight with, he helps you kick ass in life instead of worrying to save a defenseless bitch.

Three, assume that a girl tries to FZ you but you reject the offer and walk away. This implies that you are confident and have enough options to fvck that friendship offer.

You know she’s using you to gain attention but you refused. This tells the girl that you are actually a valuable PRIZE that other women want, and you don’t give a fvck about her decision. Because of such action, this girl might doubt her decision or even wants you back one day.

So ask yourself now: Do I suck with women because I have too few female friends?

OR because I have too few male friends but too many female friends who are wasting your time and never fvck you?

Comment below and let me know!

For the past 2 years, I have received a lot of emails or DMs from bros all over the world telling me that they have understood women so much more, and some of them even got the girls they want within a few months time.

However, as you know, getting a girl is just like secondary school game. The real game starts when you decide to KEEP the girl for a longer period of time.

So some bros start to ask me “how can they maintain an Alpha upper position during a bf/gf relationship or even marriage?”

#1 Well, before we go into this, there’s a foundation you must build:

One, you always let women push for a relationship with you instead of you trying to get into a r/p.

You should enjoy non-committed r/ps as much as possible for as long as possible until she feels the URGENCY to secure you. Until that issue is brought up by her, don’t push.

Two, you should keep the non-committed status for at least 6 months before you jump into anything committed. FBI uses roughly 2 years to observe a person so even when you’re in a r/p, you should NOT make any serious decisions with her during that period.

#2 Assuming you’ve done these, understand: Women’s desires on a guy or sex frequency oftens declines after a committed relationship is formed because there is no more urgency for her to fvck you.

Meaning: Assuming you’re an Alpha, when you’re single and uncommitted, women feel that you must have a lot of options around so she feels a need to use sex to qualify herself in exchange of an Alpha’s approval and attention.

#3 However, after a committed relationship in secured, women now feel that you’ve committed to her (as a bf/husband), so there’s less URGENCY to use sex to EARN your validation.

If you understand this basic simplified concept, you will understand why so many once-Alpha males start to become betas …

because these betas start to lose their power frame, do shit stuff their gf/wife asks them to do, tries to avoid arguments, keep peace and compromises their self-interest…just to hope that his gf/wife can give them sex at night.

#4 So my intelligent MTFU fans, can you now guess how to maintain upper hand in a relationship?

Ans: To continue gain that dominant power and respect from her, you must continue put your interests first AND do NOT let her pussy control your decisions.

#5 Rmb: 有西唔代表有say, you must always be the attractive man other women want to fvck EVEN when you are in a r/p.

So you must take care of your physicality, continue to conquer your career/mission, continue to be a high status social guy surrounded by women,

continue to increase your personal value so that your gf/wife can directly/indirectly see that other women still want to compete for you AND you always have the option to NEXT HER when she doesn’t behave well.

#6 That’s how you always become the AUTHORITY of the relationship and train your main girl to behave well, eager to fvck you, treat you like king and remain loyal to you.

If you have any personal problems about your dating life or relationship that you want me to help solve,

feel free to book a coaching call with me to talk about your personal issue, or join our premium Insider community where you will get all the trainings, coaching and skills you need to become an Alpha, not just in dating but also in your work life.

That’s the only 2 places right now where I personally address a particular problem you have. If you’re interested, send an email to us.

Bros, do think that those who have girls/gfs/married now are the Alphas and those who are single are Betas?

Well, if you do, then you have fallen into one the of most common mistakes of understanding sexual dynamics because the terms “Alphas” and “Betas” actually describe the mindset and behaviors of how you interact with women,

NOT whether you have women around (or whether you are a rich famous handsome celebrity who seems to have many girls e.g. Justin Bieber, Prince Harry, Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos).

So to assist you in understanding, I’ll share with you some common qualities a beta guy have so that you know if your current belief system is Alpha or Beta:

– Beta believes in romantic ideas, he always tries to find “his one soulmate” and tries to cling to one girl once he thinks he found her.

– Beta loves to support his chick and sacrifices his self-interest for her. He believes that’s what “real man” do and such sacrifice of self will exchange her love, loyalty and desire for sex.

– Beta wants to be a hero, he wants to “save a girl from her problems”, so he is eager to listen to her shit and help her solve problems

– Beta doesn’t mind to stay platonic friends with hot girls, he continues to give her attention/care in such friendship, he listens to her complaints about her bad bf, the reason is always he secretly hopes that one day “she will choose him”

– Beta has ALWAYS been loyal to girls, even before they start any relationships. He thinks that it’s “not good/unethical” to date multiple girls so he invests all of his energy/time/effort to get one girl at a time because he thinks anything other than monogamy is BAD.

– Beta AUTOMATICALLY respects women just because she is a woman, he does not screen and qualify women to see which women actually DESERVE & EARN his respect.

– Beta believes that open communication is the key to a successful relationship. They believe that women are rational human beings who say “exactly what she means” and disregards her contradictory behaviors. They use LOGIC to determine what she wants, tries to satisfies that, and expects she will then give what he wants.

– Beta believes he needs to “think/talk/behave like a girl” and stands on her side in order to attract her. He believes “rapport/harmony/common interests” with girls make girls interested in them.

– Beta tries to stand out by “I am not like most (bad/superficial) guys” and hopes the girl will choose him.

– Beta doesn’t mind long distance r/ps with girls because he believes that if he can be patient and wait for a girl to come back, the whole thing will be super romantic like a novel, she will be very touched and eventually comes back to him.

– Beta settles in a relationship. He is so scared of being alone/lonely in the future so he quickly clings to the only-girl who expresses interest in him and tries to get into a relationship asap so as to avoid “a potential loss if he doesn’t secure a r/p with her.”

– Whenever there’s conflict clash/arguments between a male and female, beta AUTOMATICALLY tries to shame the man or help defend the woman, (especially if she is hot), without paying attention to the facts of the issue.

So these are 12 common traits of having a beta mindset in regards to women, how many traits have you scored so far?

Now that you are aware of your current belief system, you might need help to eliminate these toxic beta mindset imposed on you by society.

If you need help, you can either book a coaching call with me to talk about your personal issue,

or join our premium Insider community where you will get all the trainings, coaching and skills you need to become an Alpha, not just in dating but also in your work life.

That’s the only 2 places right now where I personally address a particular problem you have. If you’re interested, send an email to us.

Bros, have you wondered why even you know the principles how to game girls, you still find it psychologically hard to date multiple girls?

Or even when you have options, you seem to have a tendency to “fall in love” immediately with just ONE girl and then get into a “serious long term r/p” too prematurely?

#1 Well… the cold hard truth why you tend to settle for a 6-7 marks girls instead of remaining single until you get a 8 or above girls … is because you are so fucking afraid of “being lonely” as a single man.

You are so uncomfortable with being alone, you don’t allow yourself to be alone, and you feel that your life is incomplete without some women to talk to (even when she is NOT sb truly arouses you).

If you have such symptoms, well, I have to warn you that the more you fear that you will live life lonely, the more fear that you won’t be loved by women …

the more BETA your mindset and behaviors will be AND THUS the LESS attractive you are as a man.

#2 Why? Because when you are scared of “being alone” and “missing out this potentially only chance you have”,

you will definitely come up excuses why you want to stay with this average 5/6 marks girls, rationalize that she is your “true love/soulmate”, eventually sacrifice yourself and do everything to please her just to keep the peace in this mediocre relationship.

E.g. you tolerate bad behaviors from your gf, you marry a fvcking bitch “to do the right thing”, you stay married with a toxic witch who treats you like shit

#3 Well bro, if you are fed up with average girls and still have ambition to NOT settle for a shit life, then you gotta kill this fear of loneliness, learn to allow yourself to be alone, independent and self-reliant.

The only man women want to fvck and love is the guy who is SO comfortable with himself when he’s single, confident with his independence, and isn’t in a rush to “get into a relationship/married just because he’s 30/35/40”.

In fact, if you know how to handle your aloneness and how to capitalize the opportunities of being a single man, you can have more girls opportunities and freedom than those in a mediocre relationship.

#4 Never chase relationships or any idealized romanticised goals.

Being in a r/p or marriage NEVER MEANS you are happy & free when you’re trapped with a wrong crazy chick who emotionally exhausts you and distracts you from your core purpose of life.

Stay free, stay independent and stay comfortable with yourself (whether you have women around or not).

Congrats brother! You’ve done everything I told you NOT to do and that’s why you have fvcked up your relationship with your target girl!

Whether it’s you didn’t meet & attract multiple girls and convince yourself “I only fall in love with this chick”…

OR you didn’t keep things as casual as LONG as possible like half a year or even a year…

OR you’ve become needy & craving for a relationship after fvcking just a few times…

Congrats, you have officially RUINED this chance!

So how can you get her back? How can you make your SP wanna fvck you again? How can you make your EXs wanna fvck and love you again?

Well, the answer is: You DON’T.

Listen, the reason this bitch turns cold OR breaks up with you is because you have done MULTIPLE BETA things throughout the interactions with her.

The longer the relationship you have with her but you two break up, the higher chance you have fvcked things up MULTIPLE TIMES before the official break up.  

So your image has already changed from the once-an-Alpha enough guy to fvck-he-is-actually-Beta guy.

How do you erase that image?

Easy, you stop hanging out with her, you create a LONG space for that image to dissolve, you focus again on reconnecting with your ALPHA,

and MAYBE one day she’ll indirectly see your Alpha self and be attracted again.

Meaning: In order to get her back, you must FIRST STOP getting her back and focus back on yourself and on other girls.

You can’t convince her to want to fvck you again, her desire to suck you must come from within and NO “I will not do this again” promises can do that.

So when you fvck up big time, cut the loss and LEAVE (for a least a while).

You’ve become complacent and your attractiveness as a man has probably declined a lot since you’ve made decisions for the girl instead of yourself.

It’s time to focus on yourself again, focus on gaming other girls again, and NOT focus on this mess … if you truly want to get her back in an attractive un-Beta way.

Have you wondered why for hundreds of years, women have been such a mysterious unknown to men and even the brightest scientists like Freud or richest successful people in the world like Elon Musk can’t figure out?

Why do you think it’s always okay for women to suddenly change her mind based on her intuition but men must be straightforward and stick to his words forever?

Well, it’s because if women can’t gain control over men on the invisible psychological underground world, they will LOSE ALL THE POWER.

#1 Understand: Most men are physically stronger than women so it’s almost impossible for women to confront/bargain with men physically.

As you might remember what I taught in the 7-day free course, men used to go out hunting animals and women stay at home with other bitches to pick cherries.

So it is evolutionarily required for women to use SUBTLE, PSYCHOLOGICAL weapons to gain power over each other (men or women) in order to have the highest chance of survival/get most resources.

#2 Do you really think men are controlling the world?

Well, on the surface maybe. But most successful beta men are motivated by their women behind the scene, and it’s women who are secretly controlling how the next move is.

The truth is that women have been TRAINED for nearly 2 million years to naturally play psychological games and their weapons are always invisible, secretive and have a layer 神秘面紗 about them.

When they add their sexual power as weapons, most men will just succumb to them and be manipulated without knowing wtf is happening.

#3 The point is: Women need to be “unknowable/hard to get/mysterious” in order to have social power between 2 sexes .

If they behave in a man’s overt 坦蕩蕩 way, they will lose every advantage they have over men and be easily exploited.

The reason why women are obsessed with 宮廷鬥爭 TVs is because that’s what they fvcking do and GOOD AT in real life!

Now that you understand this, will you STILL worship women like pure 乖乖 Goddess OR will you be more REALISTIC about why they behave in a way they do?