職場上點同女人相處?如何令前度溝返你?顯示興趣與否的平衡?[溝女Q&Ax3]

歡迎嚟到新一集嘅溝女Q&A,我喺呢度喺會每星期協助MTFU嘅fans簡單地解答佢哋嘅溝女戀愛問題。

如果你想要更加詳盡嘅答案同埋同我一對一對答嘅機會嘅話, 你可以考慮加入我哋MTFU Insider嘅大家庭,因為你喺裡面喺可以得到所有關於溝女/約會/性愛/感情嘅訓練課程同埋支援。

你有興趣嘅話,就腥email去support@manthefvckup.com 索取詳情啦。

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Jun T:Hey Manson, 我想問你既問題就係如何同喺職場上識既女仔相處?我知道你講過唔推薦喺公司亂搞男女關係、搞到自己又搞到人、咁係咪即係對住佢地要保持non sexual? Thanks.  

#1 Yes, because if you care about your work or income, screwing with female colleagues only harm you. One, it’s impossible to separate private matters with company matters, any problems in r/p will cause problems at work.

Two, your other male colleagues or bosses are always a threat. Especially if you got a hot colleague, they are going to tease you and bully you at the work level. Your boss is NOT going to promote you as revenge. Too much drama, doesn’t worth it.

#2 Yes, just treat the girls as strictly colleague, nothing more. In fact, don’t even think she’s your friend because she is just a competitor.

You should always get girls elsewhere, most guys resort to female colleagues because they DON’T meet girls outside work. Just let other desperate dudes to chase while you make bigger money and meeting girls outside.

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J:  溝 (吸引)條女時點樣可以係Neediness同暗示對條女有興趣取得平衡?

太needy, 條女會覺得個男仔太低價值太易得到。太non attach, 時間拖太耐唔表示對條女有興趣, 條女又會覺得個男仔對佢無興趣而move on

如果同條女相處時有肢體接觸或增加sexual tension, D女又會唔會sense到個男仔其實暗地裡想溝佢而輸左呢場對弈呢 ? 想知當中點取得平衡

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Good Q. General rule is that you NEVER show interest verbally, but you keep escalating via your actions/behaviors.  

E.g. Verbally, you can tease her for being stupid/weak, challenge her for being a boring girl with no passions, tell her why you don’t think you guys are good fit, When escalating joking say that “Hey be nice, you can’t get me on bed with that attitude.”+ takeaway.

But PHYSICALLY, when you’re on the surface NOT showing too much interest, you are getting her to dates, you are ESCALATING – touching her + isolating her + trying to fuck her + flirting with her sometimes.

That’s the kind of communication women enjoy. It’s okay to let girls feel that you’re trying to fuck her AS LONG AS you’re smoothly escalating, BUT also calibrating according to her reactions to see if you need to step back sometime for a while, and try it again.

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Daniel W:  最近同女朋友分咗手,一直以嚟我太focus自己 無乜點去care佢 到最後佢同我講話好大壓力好辛苦 想做返朋友 有feel再做couple

—> Such fucking bullshit excuses lol.

佢為我犧牲咗超多 亦都超愛我 超專一 分手後雙方係嘢講 三日後我有搵返佢 同佢講好多謝佢同我走過呢段旅程 會尊重佢意見 無刻意挽回佢。佢到依家都好嬲我,但佢啲fd話,佢短時間內唔想同我講嘢,會做返朋友,可以fol返佢ig,我想同返佢一齊 點做好

#1 Damn bro, you actually ARE doing things right. You SHOULD be focusing on yourself, and the fact that she is PISSED that you don’t 挽留佢 means that you ARE doing the right thing.

HOWEVER, what did she specifically do for you? You said she loves you a lot, why did she sacrifice at all? Girls who REALLY love a guy almost always cannot leave him at all.

#2 Her friends are fucking you up. “can follow her Ig” WTF? Sounds that you are begging for that and she PERMITS you to do that?

DO NOT fall into this trap. She and her friends are trying to change the game. You had the upper hand before, but now you are losing. You should not have told her “thank her, respect her stuff”.

#3 If you now chase, you LOSE EVERY attraction point. Keep ignoring her, and let her follow your IG LATER, and IGNORE her friends toxic advice.

If she wants to be your gf, she NEEDS to obey and comply to your rules. Maybe you should pay more attention to her slightly, but DON”T make her your focus.

Keep focusing on yourself, that’s how you attracted her on day 1!

你想贏得兩性戰爭?接受雙重標準的世界![兩性智慧]

巴打,你有冇曾經投訴過,『話男人條命好艱難,做女人就好喇,夠索就大部人追,社會就比晒所有著數佢哋』,係覺得世界好唔公平呢?

又或者你有冇聽過某啲人講話:『唉,做人使乜咁辛苦姐?如果呢個世界無人再爭奪名成利就,如果人類唔係咁貪心咁功利主義嘅話,咁每個人咪都可以輕鬆啲,開心啲,搵到自己嘅伴侶同佢簡單生活落去囉!』

Well 巴打,呢啲聽落好似好『伸張正義/公平公正』嘅思維,好多時都係一啲否定自己動物性一面嘅偽君子,好多時都係一啲喺現實遊戲之中成功唔到嘅人會講嘅嘢。

事實係:男人同女人天生就係兩種生物,以雙重標準唔同嘅方式去看待男人同女人先至喺一種現實嘅需要;你唔接受現實嘅話,你就會喺被現實拒絕淘汰。

譬如話:一個太過注重賺錢嘅事業女強人,就係一個喺職場上硬班班同其他男人對弈爭鬥嘅人。

長時間喺咁嘅環境下打拼嘅話,佢就會忘記咗自己feminine女性溫柔嘅自己,唔識得點樣喺屋企床上去please男人,唔識得點樣做返一個小女人。

最後佢就會成為一個事業上表面好成功,但仍然得唔到自己渴望嘅愛情,因為dry爆而之後怨一啲同樣強勁嘅男人淨係『鍾意一啲後生嘅靚妹』,話男人唔夠成熟唔夠man,唔肯去take care已經40幾歲嘅自己。

掉返轉:一啲無咩女人選擇嘅Beta男,就會選擇以暖男嘅好男人方式去突出自己,選擇以一種服從嘅心態去照顧女人,去滿足女人口中所講嘅『好老公』條件。

但係當自己付出咗咁多之後,發現女人竟然喺鍾意『對佢差嘅仆街Alpha』之後,就開始投訴話『女人都係賤格,有好唔要,係都要痴實啲賤男』,並且繼續羞辱一啲長期溝女食女成功嘅男人。

重點係:我想巴打你睇得到,無論係男人定女人,社會都會有一系列嘅雙重標準去看待你。

男人就係成功嘅指標,能幹成功有權威就會受到尊重。女人就係性愛嘅指標,夠索夠靚夠性感就會得到社會嘅認同同獎賞。

食得多女嘅男人就會食得越嚟越多女,屌得多仔嘅女人就會被標籤成污糟嘅公廁。

男model就係gay佬核突,女model就係時尚嘅指標。

男毒撚就係無大志,女毒撚就係好cute中意動漫嘅好女仔。

以上雖然都係一啲充滿成見可以喺真可以喺假嘅stereotypes,但係如果你想係現實之中得到你想要嘅女人/成就/lifestyle等等,你要做嘅就絕對唔係去嘗試打破『世人嘅雙重標準』,去改變遊戲規則;

你要做嘅,喺知道遊戲點玩,知道社會嘅潛規則,之後position自己喺最佳嘅位置去攞到你想要嘅嘢。

咁所以等我問你一條好簡單嘅問題:

如果你知道女人就係一啲唔介意『收beta暖男兵』嘅生物嘅話,你又會點樣position自己去令佢定義你為一個『有好多選擇,我必須贏得佢芳心,爭佢返嚟據為己有嘅Alpha型男』呢?

巴打請你思考下並且喺下面留言比我啦。

如果你鍾意今集嘅話,就Like呢段片同訂閱我地MTFU嘅channel,令你唔再miss左下一集。我哋下集再見!

女人是如何心理操控男人?小心防範![兩性智慧]

巴打,你曾經天真地相信過幾多個女人會『兌現佢應承你嘅承諾』,之後某一日失望地發現佢竟然『反口』,跟住解釋話『你誤會咗/曲街咗佢當日嘅意思』呢?

自古以黎,人類歷史之中,幾乎所有當權者都係男性,而女人好少有機會攞到『表面嘅權力』,女人好多時喺古代都只係一啲可以『販賣嘅商品』。

所以喺咁樣嘅現實下,女人就必須暗地裡發展出一套『隱藏式嘅心理武器』,令佢哋隱蔽地攞到權力,透過一系列睇唔到嘅性誘惑/心理操控,去攞到自己想要嘅嘢。

咁所以男人嘅預設溝通模式,就係坦蕩蕩地『講自己真實諗法』,就係會『講得出做得到』,就係會『講口齒』『講義氣』『講滴血為盟』,會用理性邏輯直接地解決問題;

我哋嘅說話就喺鐵證,而男人會鄙視一啲『兩頭蛇/改變立場』嘅人,覺得佢哋唔可信,覺得佢哋『偽君子/真小人』。

簡單講:男人就係以『榮譽/honour』而去活,大部分男人都喺想做一個忠忠直直有情有義被人稱為『大俠』嘅所謂『真男人』。

可惜嘅係:當巴打你毫無警戒心地以自己嘅『榮譽/honour』而自豪期間,好多時你同女人對弈嘅時候,你都會有機會被女人濫用你呢種心理需要,而剝削你嘅利益同埋操控你嘅行為!

因為女人就係知道好多男人都想做『坦蕩蕩嘅郭靖大俠』,所以佢會識得透過自己嘅性誘惑,去影響你點樣運用你表面嘅權力,暗地裡達到自己背後隱藏嘅目的。

譬如話:當你唔肯妥協去幫佢做某啲嘢嘅時候,佢就會話你『個人都唔夠man嘅/太固執,少少嘢都唔肯改』;

或者當你唔肯『因為佢係女人,就自動尊重女人』嘅時候,佢就會話你『乜你咁大男人架!男人應該愛惜女人嫁嘛!』;

又或者『冇錯,雖然條女cheat你,但係都唔代表你要分手架,你肯定自己有問題啦!好嘢,馬明肯繼續保護一個會比自己帶綠帽嘅女人,佢係真男人呀!』

又或者『我鍾意成熟穩重嘅gentleman嫁,我依家個人大咗,已經厭倦players啦,因為始終搵到一個會錫我愛我嘅男人重要啲…』

簡單講:女人操控男人嘅方法,就係當男人唔係做緊有利女人嘅嘢,女人就會透過shaming/羞愧嘅方式,或者話你『真男人就應該做正確嘅嘢/do the right thing』等等嘅批評,

去攻擊你『男人嘅身份』,去嘗試改變你嘅思想行為,迎合自己需要。

亦都即係話:好多女人一邊批評話『真男人去晒邊』,說服男人『要負責任做男人需要做嘅嘢』;

但係另一邊同時就奚落踩低『極度man極度Alpha身邊大把女伴』嘅男人,貶損佢哋嘅名聲,批評佢哋『大男人/唔專一/淫蕩/唔尊重女性』等等。

我知道今集所講嘅嘢比較抽象,需要你去留意社會文化喺點樣困惑緊想MTFU嘅男人,點樣去用特定框架去影響你嘅信念同決定。

你要帶走嘅喺:男人嘅『榮譽/honour』喺好高崇並且值得學習,喺困境嘅時候我哋絕對需要一啲『有情有義,有犧牲小我成全大我精神』嘅男人,去保護我哋珍重嘅嘢。

但係,你要小心自己呢種心理需要,被唔合理嘅當權者/被你有性慾嘅女人去剝削你嘅利益,

去『一邊要求男人man up做領袖,一邊要求女性獨立平等』,慢慢操控你嘅一舉一動!

每次你感覺到女人攻擊你『夠唔夠man/係咪真男人/話男人應該或者唔應該XYZ』嘅時候,你就必須響起警號喇!

有咩問題嘅話,就like呢段片,subscribe落我哋MTFU channel,然後留言話我知啦。

IG囡無再投票?如何慢慢unfvck自己?[溝女人生Q&A]

Welcome to another episode of weekly 溝女Q&A, where I help MTFU fans weekly to briefly solve their dating problems.

If you want more comprehensive, 1-2-1 interaction with me, you may consider joining our Insider family because you will get all the dating/sex/relationship training inside AND you can interact with me LIVE in our coaching calls and secret FB group.

If you are interested to get this 360 degree of help, go to www.manthefvckup.com/joininsider for details. Any Qs, just email us.

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Alex L: 我最近中意左個細1年既女同學 之前有次集體活動同佢吹左一陣水 覺得佢好啱我口味 嗰日我同佢由差唔多系陌生人變成左fd 應該系比較淺層既嗰種fd  佢間唔中系我ig都有投下票咁 有次同佢見面仲對住我甜笑

咁係呢個禮拜2,我屎忽痕whatsapp問佢英文名(因為平時叫開佢中文名)問完之後我個fd 就用我部機打「哼哼我以後就咁叫你架喇😊」佢之後whatsapp覆得有啲冷漠

之後個日咁啱坐小巴坐佢前面 咁冇理由唔把握機會搭下訕啦 我feel到氣氛好似有啲尷尬 冇乜嘢講 我系咁搵嘢講 佢又有應既 都唔算冷淡

但其實自從星期2 佢再冇系我ig 投過票 佢系咪知道左我對佢有興趣 ?咁糸咪好大穫?我應該點做去挽救?Thanks man

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#1 Not sure how old you both, but I bet that’s F.2-3. It’s good that you had chatted with her and got her IG/whatsapp, you had done most kids won’t.

BUT, what would you let your frd type shit to a girl you like? He is destroying your chance with her. That “I’ll call you XYZ” with a smily sound creepy.

#2 It’s super normal girls turn cold after being warm. That’s part of their game to shit test guy. But the real reason you’ve lost her is because you don’t ESCALATE to get a date with her + you keep talking random boring shit with her like a FRIEND.

Who cares if she votes on your IG? Who cares about these stupid 小學雞 game?

Rmb: Every time you give attention to girl, you need to pave way to escalate to the next stage. If you are not getting her out a date, you shouldn’t be contacting her. Got it?

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Denny Y: Yo Man,Follow咗你都一段時間 覺得你講啲嘢都好有用 好正!

我有個問題, 其實Take imperfect action 同indifference嘅態度應該去到幾盡? 定係需要一個平衡點? 以上兩個方法…其實有少少似, 人無恥便無敵 . 因為佢可以無視自己本身一切, 而作出不斷的嘗試及練習 .但如果自己本身的條件未符合, 只是靠不斷的嘗試和練習, 亦未必會成功.

你教我哋的東西, 好多都不是能夠在一時三刻內完成的. 例如 self love 去完全接受自己唔完美的一切, 又例如朋友唔多, 冇自己嘅social circle, 又例如有時自己都唔係咁開心, 出去玩都未必可以話好自娛自己, 又例如最近身體比較差成日都病, 基本上要成日休息, 所以連出去玩的能力都. 如果呢啲問題未解決, 係咪唔好識女仔住呢? Thanks

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Good Qs, I like that you’re self-reflecting on what you learn.

#1 “Taking imperfect action” = Understand we NEVER have perfect information to take a 100% perfect action. If we wait for the perfect day, we will NEVER accomplish anything – meet girls/build businesses.

It’s inevitable to make mistakes, so the best way to make sure you are making progress in life is to know 60-70% info of “what/how to do sth” and then take imperfect action to try it. Until you try, you never know what else you need or whether you will succeed.

#2 Indifference = care what you think about yourself MORE THAN what others think about yourself.

If you entertain everyone’s opinion about what you should/shouldn’t do, people will pull you into 360 directions and you will get TORN and get NOTHING done.

Indifference doesn’t mean you’re being 無恥 and exploiting others. Instead, it means you understand the importance of self-care, that you cannot HELP others before you help yourself, AND you can’t help others AS WELL before you help yourself.

#3 As regards “many things aren’t immediate”, OF COURSE. If everything is so easy and immediate, everyone will be a 千萬富豪 with 10 girls behind him.

However, difficult things don’t mean they are complicated. Every HARD skills or accomplishments can be broken down into basic fundamentals that you can learn, train and master.  

If there are so many good advice you learn from MTFU and don’t know which one to start with, just pick ONE THING to do that fits your current schedule most and improve your life the most.

E.g. If you’re physically weak, of course you need to get healthy and train yourself to have a strong body/mind first. If you’re broke and worry about money all the time, of course you need to get that handled before you have basic stability to game girls.

Know your priorities, make small changes and you’ll slowly UNFUCK your life.

【內幕解碼】許志安記招暗藏的10件事!無人提及的出軌真相…

Qs: What are the REAL REASONS 許志安 cheat? Is 黃心穎 a total slut? What will happen to Sammi? How about the poor little boy 馬國明?

Well brother, these are ALL irrelevant Qs you shouldn’t ask yourself. As you will see, almost 99% of articles/videos will be based on ENTERTAINMENT that adds zero value to your life.

It’s about making you feel emotional, adding drama to the mess so that there are more views. Afterall, that’s what news/media do.

Therefore, in this video breakdown, we will NOT focus on the gossip. We will NOT stand on the moral high ground to judge what’s right or wrong.

My intention of using this material is to ADD VALUE TO YOUR LIFE as a man. I want you to take this as 學術研究 to see the TRUTH about sexual dynamics between men and women, to understand the difference between sexual desire and love, and OBSERVE your initial reaction towards this incident.

Because YOUR NATURAL REACTION already reflects whether you’re BETA or ALPHA lens to see the world.

I recommend you to watch my other video <你係Alpha定Beta?留意呢10大特質!> as reference.

Now, we will breakdonw into a few sections in this video:
#1 What you can learn from 許志安 as an extreme BETA
#2 How you should choose women – NOT Sammi, NOT 黃心穎
#3 The only thing 馬國明 should do
#4 Other BETAs you should avoid becoming – taxi driver, the staff in Apple, those who attack 許志安 in front of girlfriends.

#1 What you can learn from 許志安 as an extreme BETA

1) He got oneitis 真命天女症.

Beta believes in romantic ideals. He tries to find his one soulmate. And then he justifies his clinginess by saying he “loves her so much”.

-> Therefore you can see 許志安 always come back to Sammi after breakups in the past 30 years. Because when he was ~20 years old, he already thought Sammi was the one. That’s a classic idealizing love behavior.

2) Beta always WANTS to be hero, he wants to save a girl from her problems, he wants to treat her nice and takes responsibility of HER emotions/problems.

-> That’s why my guess is another reason why 許志安 stays with a woman who is KNOWN for her crazy ups and downs personality (like Lady Gaga, Britney Spears, Madonna). He genuinely wants to fix Sammi’s emotional drama. He fails, but since he believes “committing” is what good man does, he continues living in such shitty relationship.

Now, let’s look deeper in the 記者會.

3) He keeps apologizing to everyone, to Sammi, to his fans etc. “犯這個錯誤起了色心,我覺得現在應該承擔後果。”

This implies he is SHAMEFUL towards his natural sexual desire for hot woman. Not only that but he is also apologizing being a MAN who likes to fuck.

我覺得自己好錯、好討厭、好丟臉、好噁心、好陌生。”

He is ugly NOT because he cheats, every Alpha leader is history had multiple women at the same time until 100 years ago. He is UGLY because he is so weak/powerless that he needs to apologise to his REAL DESIRE as a MAN and he doesn’t have the BALLS to step up to OWN AND CLAIM his manhood.

4) “因為我自己做了一件不被原諒的事。” What does this imply? This is saying in the past 30 years, Sammi ALWAYS had the dominant frame in the relationship.

But since he is a nice guy, he TOLERATES that shit and keeps going back to Sammi until Sammi is good enough but choose him. At home, Sammi is the boss so 許志安 is always being emasculated. After years of marriage like that, there’s no way BETA won’t need a break and cheat for some younger, hotter girls.

5) “我最錯的地方是失去我自己。” “我這一刻是沒了靈魂的,我是一個壞掉的人。”

“我會暫停我所有工作,直到找到一個真正的自己,重新去檢視自己”

He emphasises so much on being BAD person, he loses his “real self” as being a good guy, being a morally upright dude in society.

That’s what BETA do. Beta always use the “I am a good devoted bf/ husband/ citizen” in society as a CARD to attract girls. But in reality, they are just pussies who keeps hiding away from the REAL ASPECTS of themselves – the ones that are deemed “bad” by society/religion/culture. They keep living in SHAME and that’s why betas have fucked up psychology.  

Now let’s briefly mention the other parties in this incident.

#1 As I have mentioned, Sammi is known for her ups and downs emotional personality. But betas love to act like Prince to save girls’ from her shit, to take responsibility of OTHERS shit, that’s why 許志安’s mistake from day 1 is to use “i will save girls” strategy to get girls, attracted sb he shouldn’t have touched, AND kept fixing a problem he can never fix.

I am not saying Sammi is a bad person, but I am saying when it comes to choosing what kind of women you want to put next to your side, you must be RUTHLESS like you’re having a billion dollar business deal.

#2 How about 黃心穎? Before I analyze about her, I want you to notice how SOCIETY is going to slut shame her as chicken, especially women.

Why? Because that’s a psychological battle played between female species. Even a woman herself loves sex and sucks dick, she IS going to slut shame other women who are competitors. This is to ensure that the best gene goes to her instead of the other girl.

As regards choosing women, 許志安 probably isn’t the first guy she wants to hook up with. She probably has been fvcking other guys behind 馬國明, who is another extreme beta.

However, even if her reputation is tarnished, many betas will still want to be her bf or even marry her. So the best strategy to handle these girls if you meet one? Just fvck her but never be serious.

#3 Now, what should 馬國明 do? Well, he is a famous nice good guy who always seem to be ignorant of what’s happening and willing to get his balls cut.

If he’s NOT ruthlessly dumping a cheater IMMEDIATELY, you will know why 馬國明 deserves to be cheated again and again.

Finally, I want you to see the BIGGER PICTURE about the whole incident.

#1 The real reason why the taxi driver reports to Apple is probably NOT JUST about money, even though he may get a few thousands or more for this juicy story.

The real reason he does that is probably because: He is JEALOUS that 許志安 is going to fuck a hot girl he can never FUCK.

This taxi driver probably has a tiger wife at home, nagging him all day and all he can do is to cheat in mainland.

But seeing a celebrity can get better pussies? He is pissed, so he is going to DESTROY 許志安 secretly to feel better about himself.

No matter how he justifies that – feeling unjust for Sammi, hating pretty girls like 黃心穎 who never will fuck him, want to help 馬國明 know the truth – becoming a justice warrior and ATTACKING powerful beta is the only way they can do to pull down a higher status beta.

2) How about the staff in Apple Daily?

As I said, the media only cares about profiting your EYEBALLS. They are not to help Sammi or 馬國明, they are not to destroy 許志安 黃心穎, they will just find creative ways every day to get your ATTENTION and earn profit from it.  

If you want to know what the news is about, just read Ryan Holiday’s <Trust me, I am not lying>.

3) The last point of today is that: I want you to OBSERVE your initial reaction towards this incident.

Did you leave a comment to 網絡公審 許志安? Did you HATE women like 黃心穎 because they are so sexual BUT they are not sexual towards you?

Did you feel sympathy for Sammi immediately EVEN THOUGH you have no idea who is suffering in that 30-year relationship? Did you laugh about 馬國明 because he is such a naive dork who always get taken advantage of?

Most importantly, when you talk about this with other women (gf/wife) in public, are you trying to shame 許志安 like most people are doing now?

If you do, you need to be careful. This is a strong signal that you too are operating in BETA MODE, trying to stand on the side of women and trying to portray a “I am good morally upright guy” image to attract girls.

This video is NOT for you to 食花生,this video is helping you to SEE whether you actually is just another less powerful, less famous, less affluent 許志安 – who is doing similar things with a similar beta mindset in regards to sex and relationships.

Cheating in relationships is NEVER the real problem, the real problem is always CHEATING YOURSELF and not facing what you truly want in life, and then settle in mediocre relationships, UNTIL that doesn’t work and EXPLODE one day that harms everyone.

What would you do if you were ruthlessly honest about your sexual desire?

What would you do if you knew that sexual desire and love are 2 different biological things that most people are confused?

What if you never have to apologize for being a man who gets what he wants in life without worrying about ppl’s opinions?

What if you STOP buying into the lies of Hollywood/DIsney romantic love and see the truth about male-female sexual dynamics?

I share much more details on how to achieve that life in MTFU Insider, if you’re interested, send an email to support@manthefvckup.com and let us know.

I hope today’s video has enough valuable nutrition to help you grow. LIKE this video and subscribe to MTFU so that you won’t miss out the upcoming videos.

If you like this kind of breakdown, leave a comment below and let me know.

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就今天的記者會的目的是真的好想親口、 衷心向大家說聲對不起。

我是要為我的家人、Sammi的家人、朋友和疼愛我的人,致上萬二分歉意,因為我自己做了一件不被原諒的事。

而這個錯,(讓我)深深去反思自己,所以今天我在這裡,是想承擔我的責任。

我那晚的確喝了很多酒,但喝酒絕對不是做這種事情的藉口。

我非常後悔,我知道逃不了,我很難面對自己,接受不到自己。

看到報導之後,我覺得自己好錯、好討厭、好丟臉、好噁心、好陌生。

我有深刻地反思自己為什麼會去犯這個錯誤起了色心,我覺得現在應該承擔後果。

我會分兩個部分:第一個部分,我會暫停我所有工作,直到找到一個真正的自己,重新去檢視自己

第二個部分是在我心靈上面,我覺得我自己不知所云,因為我的行為,我的錯誤,令身邊所有愛我的人,承受這樣的壓力和痛苦。

我希望接下來的日子裡,所有被我弄痛傷害的人,都可以好好。這個報導讓我反思的一點,我最錯的地方是失去我自己。

我最後向所有愛我的人說一句對不起,對不起讓你們難堪。我做錯了,也對不起Sammi。

我不知道該如何走自己的路,我這一刻,是沒了靈魂的,我是一個壞掉的人。

期望大家可以給我時間找回我自己,我向大家說聲對不起。

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點令女友忠誠於自己?+ 應否讀大學?【溝女人生Q&A】

Not sure if you notice, I have not done 溝女Q&A series for almost 7 months because I was so busy in helping my private clients and students in MTFU Insider.

We had a lot of fun in our weekly trainings, our coaching calls and FB interactions. And I love to see how they are kicking ass in their personal life, professional life and love life.

So if you want such 360 degrees support and live interaction with me, you should join our elite Insider family.

Anyway, I’ve decided to do some charity work, by answering a few short easy Qs or 1 quality Q per week – whether I got it in YT, IG or emails.

These answer I give you will NOT be as detailed/intimate/comprehensive as those I do for Insiders. Because we won’t have any live interactions to clarify your points, and I can only give you pointers on the direction you needa go.

If you like this kind help, please LIKE this video and SUBSCRIBE to support MTFU’s channel growth.

If you really want to send Qs to me, make them as SHORT as possible (50-100 words) otherwise they are too long for me to read.

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Yi Myth  處景題:女朋友問我鍾意佢d咩 我點答好?

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#1 Why is such a difficult Q to answer? Why would such Q even bother you?

This implies your lack of frame in your relationship and I suspect you are leading the relationship at all, OR whether you had actually fvcked her at all.

#2 If this truly happens, you can do it playfully, “That’s a really good Q. Let me take some time to think about it, what do you like about me then?”

-> This implies you aren’t even thinking about WHY you like her, meaning you aren’t that serious beta longing for a bf/gf r/p, and letting her qualify you.

But also, if she really really loves you, if she is complying to every request you make during the r/p, if she has PROVEN her worthiness as a gf, then you can give her some truth on WHY you like her.

-> Tell her the external + internal QUALITIES you like about her (e.g. I like how hot you are when you dress like this, I like how obedient and loyal you are to me, I like you take care of your health and body, I like how we fvck each other every time, I like the way you suck my coack). Reinforce the behaviors you like so she continues doing those.

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#1 Yes, most “grade A-B” students can get a good job and 平穩過一生. But to me, their trap is settle into the predetermined life “normal job, normal wife, marriage, kids, retirement, die”. If you want that, that’s fine. But MTFU is about being the Top 1% and getting the BEST you want, so average/mediocrity is NOT our goals.

#2 Whether you should get into Uni depends on what you wanna do in life. If you want to be a professional (doctor/lawyer/accountant/engineer), then YES you need those qualifications. If NOT, I don’t see the value of wasting 4 years of time and money getting a certification, then get a mediocre job repaying debts.

Everyone has different risks tolerant, I would choose to build my own path based on my strengths, but no everyone is destined for entrepreneurship, so you need to consider your own situation.

#3 So fucking what if ppl labels you are loser? Are you really living your life according to their terms? You live because you beg for their approvals?

Fvck that. Find your own path, do things that make you happy, fvck the social norm of what’s acceptable/normal/safe path.

What do you fucking want? How can you add value to people life in exchange of money? What can you learn to increase your personal value in the marketplace? What skills do you have?

Answer these questions and you’ll know how to make money in your unique way instead of only relying on a company or JOB. (although they can be a platform to start with)
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如何結交好朋友?FBI教你一條方程式![溝女/成功/人生]

Hey bro, you know that we all are heavily impacted by our environment, so we will become like those friends whom we hangout with most.

Assuming you have eliminated those negative crabs who pull you down, how could we build friendships once we have found a quality human being?

Well, let me recommend you reading <The Like Switch> by Dr Jack Schafer,

who is a former FBI agent who specializes in behavior analysis and recruiting spies.

He uses this “The Friendship Formula” that Friendship = Proximity + Frequency + Duration + Intensity.

Proximity = distance between you and others, it means the EXPOSURE to each other.  (whether it’s shared space or shared context)

Frequency = # of contacts you two have over time;

Duration = length of time you two spend with each other

Intensity = How strongly you are able to satisfy another person’s psychological and/or physical needs through the use of verbal/ nonverbal behaviors
-> i.e. how much impact such interaction have on you both

Knowing this now, how can we make friends?

Step #1 You gotta spend more TIME doing stuff with them because 25% of forming a friendship is BEING THERE with them!

Step #2 Once you have been spending time , slowly increase the frequency & duration to increase another 50%

Step #3 After those TIME, you can slowly add INTENSITY (i.e. go from light causal pleasant topics to deeper personal emotional topics)

When you take it slowly and if the other person wants to go there, you two will become good friends who know each other.

Of course if it is in a social group setting and you’re new to the group, you want to slowly test the water and feel out what social norms of particular group.

After you have been there for a few times and established your place, then you can start to take some risks slowly to express more of yourself.

As long as you are NOT a energy drainer or freerider, and you actually GIVE VALUE to other people, people will love to have you as their friends!

好想幫身邊朋友但佢唔聽,點算?[溝女/成功/人生]

Hey bro, I have received some Qs in the past regarding how to help your fellow bros you care about with dating.

This is very interesting because as you learn more from MTFU about not chasing girls, most of your old friends are still staying in the old traditional way of chasing women.

Maybe they do have some success once for a while, or maybe they even have a GF/SP longer faster than you in the past, but you just know that they are doing things wrong even on the surface they are more “successful” than you.

So, how can we help our friends when you know they are entering a trap?

#1 NEVER try to help someone who doesn’t want to be helped.

When ppl don’t feel enough pain, or are just happy repeating their old habits, their minds are NOT open enough to receive new knowledge.

Anything that contradicts their current beliefs are going to be deleted, that’s called the confirmation bias/確認偏誤。

No matter how hard you try, they are just not going to listen and forcing help can hurt your friend.

When the student is ready, the teacher will appear”. Don’t help them until they are ready to receive it.

#2 Let your own actions/results speak louder than words.

NEVER point fingers to your friends that what they are doing are WRONG.

Because whenever we directly reject others, they are going to act defensive and they will FIGHT your ideas.

Understand: In their current model of the world, they think what they are doing is right. They are doing “what they think is best” based on what they know from society.

So when you say they are wrong, it feels like telling some religious ppl that God doesn’t exist. They either think you are crazy or speaking alien language.

So just do your own thing and let your results speak for themselves. Whether they decide to join you is up to them, don’t force it.

#3 In conclusion, everyone has their own path/lessons they need to go through.

Give them the freedom to fvck up a relationship,

give them the freedom to experience the pain of breakup or being cheated,

give them the freedom to waste money on girls and get divorced at 50…

When they hit rock bottom and they put up their hand for help, only then should you give them a hand to uplift them.

If you want to save the world, save yourself first and make yourself NOT a liability – health, relationships, wealth !

冇車冇樓失業漢,可以點溝女?[溝女]

Hey brother are you insecure that you don’t have a car or a house right now?

OR are you scared about the fact that girls may know that you might not have a JOB now and still looking for employment?

If you have such fear of being exposed or fear of being unsuccessful, and you think you can’t get girls at such state, then you are operating at a BETA mindset.

#1 Listen, I know what you are thinking:

You think you can’t PROVIDE FOR the girls you like, you think girls will see you are an unstable loser, you think you have nothing to show off to girls in order to make her like you.

If you believe those are the keys to open women, then you are only half correct BECAUSE those “good citizen”qualities are useful in long term mating strategy.

#2 In long term mating, of course women want a guy who is rich enough to provide her with stuff and make her feel safe.

Of course women want an emotionally stable guy who is predictable and don’t want too much drama in her family that hurt her offsprings.

Of course women want you to be a “good guy” to support her own goals.

But the very politically incorrect truth is that women don’t give a fvck about these beta qualities when she was young, sexy partying and wanted to explore her best sexual options!  

#3 So what does all these mean to you?

One, when you display enough Alpha qualities and increase your sexual value, you can be a broke jobless carless surfer who is just chilling and still get a ton of women sucking you.

Two, the meaning of cars/houses/jobs only mean what you think they mean.

It could mean you are a fvcking loser and don’t deserve women.

It could mean you are a fvcking loser but know how to game women.

But it could also mean you don’t buy into the traditional bullshit script that 90% ppl follow and you are building an alternative exciting entrepreneurial life that most people don’t dare to do, AND you know you deserve women.

#4 But the Q is brother, how would you FRAME your current situation?

CM below and let me know your thoughts. 🙂

女人只當你SP?明白愛與性慾的重大分別![溝女]

I don’t know about your experience, but have you felt that women sometimes “just wanted to have sex with you but nothing more”?

I am talking about when you are able to seduce her to be physically intimate with you, but you wonder how come she doesn’t want to develop a further bf-gf relationship with you, and now you feel that you are being USED by her as a sex tool?

#1 Well brother, if you have such quality problem, first off congrats because 80+% of men out there NEVER experience such, so be grateful first :p

Second, the reason you are asking me this Q is because you are confusing sexual desire VS love.

If you are able to make women feel aroused, desired, lusty for you, you are creating man-to-woman sexual tension that signals to her primal brain to fuck.

#2 However, if you want a girl where you two spend time together, you both sweetly care for each other, and have a loving relationship,

you are aiming for another thing called “love”, which is a feeling of comfort, trust, nurturance, relatability etc.

So if a girl right now wants to “use you for sex”but not develop thing further, that means you ARE doing the right thing because being used for sex in the short term will actually LEAD to her wanting a relationship in the long term given the right circumstances.

#3 Now that you understand the differences sexual desire VS love, how do you transition that SP r/p into a bf/gf r/p?

Easy, you must remain conscious to keep things CASUAL for as long as possible!!!

DO NOT push for anything serious until she keeps asking for it. DO NOT stop dating/fvcking other girls until you are READY for a relationship.

If you move things too fast or force a romance, you will RUIN the feelings she is experiencing and that only lead to immature bad r/ps.

I understand you might long for a r/p,

but in order to keep her interested and aroused in you, YOU MUST remain as the exciting badboy for her to fvck and that is the only way she genuinely wants to become your gf!