作者: Man神

男人軟弱都可以有吸引力！？

The art of vulnerability

Yo！我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊，激發男士雄性力量，感受更多愛與激情！

 

Q&A: Hello Man神, 有一個問題諗左好耐都諗唔通。

 

有一個女仔好鐘意我，每日都會主動whsapp我、會主動約我出黎。佢性格好好、大家既興趣都好似、價值觀同好多想法都同我一樣、個樣又唔算太差。所以同左佢一齊幾月。但唯一問題就係佢既外表唔係我鐘意果類型。但平時同佢約會都係開心、平日有陣時都會念起佢、掛住佢。但同佢一齊就係冇果種好鐘意會心跳既感覺。

 

佢會為左我做好多野，佢知我鐘意某類型電影，就算自己係超級唔鐘意，但都會主動去睇，想同我有共同話題。平時好多野都會好就我，就算我話一、佢一定唔會話二。我成日串佢、玩佢，佢都會覺得好開心。其實到呢一刻我真係揾唔到佢有咩缺點。

 

我都好肯定我自己鐘意果類型女仔係佔好少數，而且佢地又必未會同我一齊。就算同我一齊，都一定唔會好似呢個女朋友付出咁多。

 

好多人都話結婚果個唔會係你鐘意果個，其實呢句說話係咪真既? 依家呢個年代有幾多人會係咁? 會揾一個唔係自己最鐘意既人結婚?

 

同一個適合自己既人結婚真係咁重要? 但如果同一個我鐘意既人結婚，為左少D嗌交，所有野就哂佢、最多自己辛苦少少咪得囉，起碼呢個人係自己鐘意，每日都想見到佢。另外，Man神如果你係我，你會點揀呢? 好多謝你既解答~ Eric

找到完美女人的正確心態！[溝女]

Yo！我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊，激發男士雄性力量，感受更多愛與激情！

 

Q&A for today:

 

Hi Manson，我係Ryan～ 首先好高興可以向你請教關於溝女嘅問題，你係我第一個敢向人請教感情問題嘅人。

 

其實我喺早幾個月之前已經一直有睇你youtube拍嘅片同埋你email send嚟嘅newspaper， 我發覺你每次提供嘅資訊都好useful同Cover到好多現實有機會發生嘅情況然后再去比到解決方法，正因為咁我希望今次藉著以下嘅情況你可以提供一啲建議同解決方法我！

 

Anyway返嚟正題先 ~ 其實係咁嘅我係早幾星期參加左一個十五日既交流團，而係個團入面我對一個女仔就有d好感，雖然我地都有大家既電話同Instagram，但係電話都只不過係透過我地團既leader加我地入個WhatsApp group而得到既，我同佢無私下Chat過。

 

而係個十五日入面我都有同佢playfully咁玩過一d你係newspaper所講既小遊戲，但因為當時我地成個團有成30個人，小圈子好多，我地大家都有本身自己既FD(去交流團之前已經識嘅)， 再加上當時成班人一齊玩， 所以就冇單對單咁同佢傾計，亦都無點attract 佢。

 

另外喺嗰十幾日入面， 我都試過一次同佢坐同一枱食飯， 當時成班一齊食飯傾計， 我留意到好幾次佢都有偷望我， 當時我坐喺佢斜對面， 但當我哋成班人一齊傾計個陣我講嘢嘅時候我都有嘗試望向佢個面， 而佢都有望返我但唯獨是就係冇對住我講嘢， 而當時嘅情況我覺得就係好似你所講嘅女人handle唔到tension，因為我留意到佢對其他人都幾傾得， 特別係佢嗰啲女仔FD。

 

最後， 仲有一次我哋成班喺間房度集合， 以佢請坐喺我對面， 我哋團入邊幾個人一齊喺度傾計嗰陣， 當我嘗試加入佢哋並且講嘢嘅時候專登微笑望向佢，而當時佢嘅情況就好似上次食飯咁 望住我但冇出聲。

 

問題就嚟喇：

 

1. 我去完交流團之後喺上星期follow咗佢IG,而佢都有follow返我，大家都有互相Like下大家既post， 但我留意到佢對其他Post都會Like下。而我哋團已經唔會再有正式嘅reunion， 我而家仲有無辦法可以再溝番嗰個女仔？ 我哋之間並冇咩熟嘅mutual FD
2. 我應唔應該係whatsapp或者instagram試下Text佢? 我明白messages或者whatsapp其實只係約女仔去街嘅工具，我係應該係見到真人時都attract個女仔， 但因為我哋喺嗰十幾日裏面大家都住唔同嘅host family，並且成個行程入面好多時間我哋都係係當地嘅學校交流，我哋都係分開去唔同嘅地方， 仲有最最最重要嘅就係我哋大家係都有本身已經識嘅friend，個團入面有多人， 搞到當我想attract佢嘅時候佢D FD又成日黐住佢， 所以我承認而家呢一刻我都唔係attract得佢好夠
3. 如果係既話我應該點去Text佢?應唔應該用你youtube教嘅溝女萬用開場白嗰集嘅對白去Text佢呢?
4. 我應該喺大家一啲冇咁熟嘅Mutual FD到建立關係先再Attract佢 定係直接去Text佢，因為我同佢都冇咩熟嘅Mutual朋友
   

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Key Ideas:

#1 Opportunities are self-created, you gotta search for that <1 min window space to chat with her in PERSON.

#2 The golden opportunity has already passed right now, but you should still “try to text her” to confirm if it’s a loss.

#3 All you need to know about “dates” is to get her out for some FUN SOCIAL activities or low-pressure meet up e.g. half an hour coffee

Full Answer is Below:

Q: Hi Manson,

I’ve fallen in love with my colleague but she obviously isn’t interested.

Everyone tells me it’s unlikely she’ll ever be interested otherwise she would’ve shown some hints before notwithstanding the fact she’s had boyfriends all the time we’ve known each other.

Should I write her off as a lost cause or work towards wooing her?  If the latter, what can I do? Thanks in advance. – CL

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Answer is below:

Yo！我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊，激發男士雄性力量，感受更多愛與激情！

Hi mtfu, I am a form 3 to form4 boy XD I saw a form 1 to form2 girl that same school with me when sports day and I thought she is pretty and she looks unique for me <3

I tried to find the way to know her I thought all the ways are seems like厹

I saw your vdo before, You call us just to say hi but I still think that is 厹

I want to ask how can I know her with a fake coincidence so that it seems not 厹

I planned to know her when form4 and start to chase her when form5 XD

(Help me anonymously plz) – O

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Answer is below:

Yo！我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊，激發男士雄性力量，感受更多愛與激情！

 

Q: Hi! man神 今日想問關於人生QandA。

 

小弟睇左man啲片一段時間，獲益良多，知道要進步就要踏出first step同埋要take action。所以我就喺大學宿舍申請做導師(同時我自己都係大學學生)，喺黎緊9月開始工作。

 

呢份職位主要目的係帶動新住hall嘅同學，令佢地多啲參與同投入hall既活動，可以喺hall認識更多朋友，最後有個難忘既hall life。

 

而我作為宿舍導師，就要結合一班各自唔認識既同學(情況有啲似orientation camp既組爸媽)。

 

正因為呢個任務咁有意義，所有我就申請左呢個post，希望可以幫人add value。不過實際上嘅我，都未有信心去勝任呢個post, 所以以下有幾條問題想問:

 

1 因為我冇乜信心，一直擔心黎緊會做得唔好，覺得自己能力未夠。所以想知可以點消除心中恐懼，去做一件自己冇信心勝任嘅任務？

 

===> Every NEW task makes you nervous and doubt yourself.

But you just DO IT despite of fear because then you’ll realize you didn’t die at all.

 

2 我本身係個內向既人，有時同唔識嘅人傾計，會有唔知有咩話題既尷尬情況出現。所以想問可以點對住一大班人進行fun同埋有內容既對話，防止尷尬嘅moment出現？同埋點自然地結合呢班各自唔認識既同學？

===> Don’t take about religion or politics

 

===> Best is Not to just talk, but to engage them with fun GROUP activities.

 

===> Alos, deadair only means TENSION is increasing, use it as a tool for great vibes/atmosphere.

 

3 點建立召喚力去帶領呢班同學去投入hall life？

 

===> Lead by example. Be social yourself first and invite people to join you, and show people that they can have a great fun life if they follow what you do.

 

===> Also understand that NOT everyone will want to have a fun social life in halls.

===> Figure out the MOTIVATION of why they join hall life, have a 1-2-1 chat to see what they NEED or want.

 

4 另外，如果比宿舍學生開玩笑，而踏到底線時，應該點作出回應？

===> Tell them in PRIVATE that certain things are NOT COOL.

Don’t confront them in public to help “save their face”.

你的學生A上

 

Video answer is posted here:

Yo！我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊，激發男士雄性力量，感受更多愛與激情！

 

Q：你好呀Man Son！我係啱啱開始睇你嘅觀眾，覺得你講嘅嘢都好有道理。所以我有啲溝女上嘅問題好想請教一下你。

 

我係一個中學生，系一年前因為Fd搭Fd嘅關係識咗一個女仔，但係嗰時雙方都唔係太熟，只係好間唔中先會成班fd一齊聚會食下飯咁。

 

到左近呢幾個月，我地兩個就無啦啦熟絡咗好多。佢有時出街都會主動約我出去，雖然佢都有約多一個女仔fd一齊出去，但係就令我地之間嘅關係拉近咗。

 

慢慢熟咗之後我就覺得佢好似比緊Signal我話比我聽佢鍾意我咁……

 

有時會仲會打電話俾我同我傾計，因為知道我同佢讀同一科所以約我出去補習，補習果陣就淨係得我地兩個一齊，當中我有試過同佢身體接觸，正常嘅身體接觸會都吾會抗拒，有一次我口渴佢仲比佢支水我飲，食飯個時仲吹過我耳仔。

 

佢生日嗰時亦邀請我上佢屋企玩，而我亦都係佢第一個被邀請嘅男仔。佢亦都會問我嘅意見，用咩胭脂或者用邊個書包咁。

 

我之前話個想睇下自己亂毛係咩樣，佢就主動咁幫我用曲髮夾整咗個頭出黎。有時仲會Send啲好笑嘅vdo比我睇或者將佢鍾意睇嘅愛情片介紹比我。

 

呢啲因素都令我覺得佢係對我有好感。亦因為係咁我都慢慢鍾意咗佢。

 

但係有一次佢就係我面前分享會係IG識咗一個男仔仲傾過電話，但係就覺得佢太被動所以就吾鐘意咁。我唔清楚佢都係係想我主動啲定係真係當咗我係fd所以分享呢件事比我聽。

 

當然，我都有試過想同佢曖昧，但係佢就好似好抗拒咁。有一次佢wts問我「做緊咩」，我就覆佢「掛住我😏」咁樣，仲仲問我係咪有病同係咪燒壞左個腦，反應好大。同時亦都好尷尬….令我覺得呢個女仔好似將我當左係朋友咁。

 

到底係我唔識得曖昧定係佢真係當咗我係Fd?我亦都可以點樣成功咁吸引到佢？佢比我嘅signal同佢嘅回覆好似好大反差咁。因為佢唔係一個對人人都好隨便嘅女仔，所以先令我好糾結，希望Man Son你可以幫下我手….

 

By K

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Detailed answer and explanation here:

Yo！我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊，激發男士雄性力量，感受更多愛與激情！

 

Q: 覺得你啲片好有用！支持你ar

Hi 我系岩岩畢業嘅學生，話說早個半月前系一次面試中，我同佢傾計既時候比左我電話佢。之後一齊討論面試既內容等，之後其間我同佢每星期都會見一次左右，好好傾關係幾好。

 

但我一直表現得系忽冷忽熱，直到有排我可能表現得對佢太冷淡，我就開始對佢好少少。而我知道自己仲意左佢，有時間我會對佢做啲曖昧行為，吾想變為fd鬆，feel到佢系吾抗拒我既，覺得佢已經知道我仲意佢，但佢仲系到諗緊我地系咪適合發展進一步情侶關係。

 

直到近幾日知道佢因爲要入camp半年，每星期得1日放假休息。我知道佢入左camp既話就會冇心機放系我同佢既關係到，所以我前幾日等到時機岩既時間就直接拖住佢，同佢講不如做男女朋友等。。之後佢當下好緊張我就冇迫佢。

 

隔一日之後，我打電話同佢傾，因為佢好似覺得我吾系認真點解可以識一個月就表白，所以我就打電話比佢，內容大概系👉🏻認真同佢表白一次👉🏻問佢可吾可以試一個月，期間我吾會做咩越界行為，會認真對待我地關係等

 

我feel到佢系開心既，之後佢好似一早諗好答案咁，同我講話想維持現狀，話入左camp就好難維持等，吾想拍散拖，話想了解多啲先，之後睇下點

 

最後依幾日我地keep住現況正正常常，冇老監既，但我咁樣比佢知道我仲意佢，好似變到我好冇價值，隨手可得咁，佢好似覺得我一定會等佢咁，俾唔到吸引力佢。你覺得我應該點做先可以同佢發展為情侶？- Jacky

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All mistakes mentioned above are explained HERE:

Hi Manson My name is Chester,  I need ur advice, Please help me

 

Q: I was a pua in tst and I picked up much girls as I could

.Sts when I saw some paki guy and white guys pick up and touching th girl.I feel jelous extremely since I can do it exactly. And sts when I saw some asian girls with a white guy. The girls act like looking down at me and Made me feel so bad. Can u give me some advice?Manson

 

Sorry I am afriad that U received too many mails so I reply you here in case.Long story short . I have been lving and discriminated against in US and I know the trick they made fun of asian. So I was so extremely jealous when the white guy carries asian girl and the girl seems not nice to me or looking down to me. I am a PUA for 5 years and still cant get out of that.

Sts when I saw a girl that I could pick up but got picked up by paki guy or white guy, I kept thinking negatively and tryna block them.Am I half crazy for that.I feel like my weakness is a white guy as my enemies and girl is a weapon. I feel like I need advice otherwise I will go crazy. Please give me a advice Manson. I am looking forward to see u – Shing S Li

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#1 Every guy or girl has their sexual preference or fantasies, stop trying to please EVERY girl.

 

#2 Being attractive = polarizing = have your own standards = pissing of certain people (HATE) while having fans who LOVE you.

 

#3 PUA doesn’t help because of the idea of fvcking all girls and using the number of “conquered pussies” as success metrics.

 

#4 Your real enemy is your insecurity as a Chinese man.

Embrace yourself, expand your strengths, focus on people who isn’t discriminatory.