作者: Man神

離開friendzone的超簡單3步曲！【技巧篇】

 

#1 Distance yourself

Create an absence so that her perception of you changes. You are no longer always available, so this forces her to think about you.

Right now, she only sees you as a sexless platonic guy. Such vacuum will slowly eliminate the old perception of the beta you

 

#2  Reconnect

After you eradicate the weak nice guy image, you need to come back with a new image and let her see your change subtle or indirectly.

However, you MUST NOT play nice to her like you used to, don’t listen to her relationship problems, don’t be her friend again!

When you stop being a doormat, she will see you in a different light.

 

#3 Spark Attraction

Now it’s time to do what you have been learning: teasing, challenging, be a fun guy to hang around with, have your passions, not always being available, continuously seeing other women, making extended eye contact and physical touches to increase sexual tension etc.

You never did these things b4, you tried to remain neutral b4, and that’s why you were in the FZ.

Now that you have a new image, it’s time to try again with a much more attractive version of you!

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溝女幾時升溫最好？

Clients ask me all the time: When is the right time to make a move? When is the right time to touch her, kiss her, date her, text her, fuck her etc?

The truth is the escalation moves are NOT time-based, it’s based on the COMFORT level of a girl.

In this episode, I’ll answer this common Q for you.

Enjoy!

WTF is friendzone? Although we have talked a lot in the past, most guys still have no clue what that is.

 

FZ = When you think you’re being intimate with a girl, but in reality she already deems you as “just another guy” who she will NOT has sex with.

 

Why you can never get out of FZ per se?

 

It’s because you’re investing so much time/energy/effort treating her AS IF your gf, but she is NOT giving you the most important thing a GF would do: SEX!

 

What are they key signs that you are in the FZ?

 

#1 She spends “a lot of time” with you talking about her EX-bf, or even worse her current BF.

You are already “too nice” sacrificing your priorities/passions/interests and trying to accommodate a girl and be her emotional tampon, and that’s a guaranteed path to a platonic sexless r/p.

 

#2 You are helping her do nice things  with your SKILLS

E.g. fix computer, fix her car, buy stuff online, buy concert ticket

 

＃3 She always acts like a nice, good girl around you

Even when a girl chats with you on the phone after midnight, occasionally helping you do stuff, making snacks for you…

If everything is keep at a very neutral platonic level, if she doesn’t bother to feel any sexual tension from you, and if there’s no sex, you are still in a FZ.

 

Note that there’s nothing WRONG with being FDs with girls,

 

but remember that if you stay in the FZ hoping that one day she will be touched and see how good you are and beg you to become her bf?

 

That’s just bullshit fantasy that never happens!

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Q&A: Yoyo Manson,最近都不斷地重溫你既舊video同新既video,都有不斷建立更正既social life,不過呢我有時都會反思下自己，因為呢一刻既我雖然不斷去變做更加好既同時，我覺得今日既我都係未成為一個真正最attractive既自己，回想起一年前我既生活非常之乏味，但當時又有一個女仔鐘意我。

 

接著開始接觸你既channel,雖然用左好多你教我既F+C係呢位女仕身上，但因為始終自己既low esteems and needly失去左呢個人，差不多剛好一年，我自己既圈子真係比以前擴大左，同埋自己開始去照顧到身邊既人，靠自己既經驗去幫助我既朋友，幫佢地搵自己人生目標，亦都係圈子內唔難認識新既女性。

 

今日既我真係明白到兩性吸引力，但係認識左唔少女性and spark到佢地attraction 同時，我發現一樣野，好影響到我自己今日同未來。原來我仲有一種感覺，係每當認識新既女仔同佢地有講有笑建立緊sexual and rapport同時，我發現自己成日不自覺諗起個位一年前既女仔。

 

「因為原本我可以同個個人好好發展，而且我同個個人經歷左一部份難忘既事係斷斷續續半年時間同呢個人曖昧，當佢對我投資好深既時候，我突然變得冷淡,內心因爲害怕同呢個無咩長遠，因為要分隔兩地。令到我同佢有D吵架，講野行為有時過份左，而失去呢個人」

 

其實講到呢到我對呢個依然潛意識進行緊投資，我當然有聽Manson講點不斷增加options投資落自己身上，每次去玩我都係無拘無束have fun，be yourself對住任何人。

 

但就唔知點解總係有種心病，每次諗起呢個人，總係有種unresolve既感覺，想問下Manson我應該點解決呢種（心結)呢？感性上，我好想同呢個人真誠爲當時既事道歉呢，我已經唔想諗緊點approach呢個人，而係想真正原諒以前唔成熟天真既自己,而係將來我都有好多野要做，仲會不斷成長，Manson想問下我主動whatapp呢個人同佢道歉，係咪好事呢？多謝你睇曬佢

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#1 It’s good to have feelings of regret, that you had been immature and said hurtful things to the girl, THAN being a cold blooded manipulator.

 

#2 Long D without a specific deadline is HARD to maintain, and you shouldn’t even think about it until you two have been together for 2+ years.

 

If the long D will be YEARS, then break up and stop wasting each other’s time. Stop exploiting ppl’s opportunity from others to give what they want.

 

#3 Whatsapping apology is quite a pussy move, the best way is to admit your flaws face-to-face, eye-to-eye as a man,  which requires extreme courage.

 

#4 But, no matter how you do it, you are doing it FOR YOURSELF, NOT for the girl or trying get her acceptance/recognition, or trying to do this to reattract her again.

 

Otherwise, you are not being genuine.  

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女人咩日子最想做愛？唔使溝都X得！

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DTF的女士是怎樣溝仔？(溝女)

#1 Open and “talk to me” body language

#2 She keeps looking around

#3 She keeps drawing attention to her body

 

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女人脫衣後的最大恐懼？ 3招令囡囡對你性上癮！

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Q&A: Man神先生你好， 我叫David, 我一直都有follow你拍既片， 相信只有你可以幫到我。

 

是咁的， 我半年前係手機game識左個女仔，咁我地係遊戲入面好好傾， 無耐仲約出黎食飯。之後我地既關係係每星期有三四晚打機online, 一個月兩次出黎食飯左右。 其間我失戀時佢又有安慰我其實係個好男人， deserve搵過個更好（算唔算好人卡？） 有時佢又會打比我吹下無聊水，多數都係佢打比我， 又會叫我睇佢睇緊既愛情劇集， 事關佢話冇人同佢討論劇情。

 

打機果陣佢又會好主動關心下我既近況咁， 結果有一次我終於係遊戲入面講左我鐘意佢，當時佢冇say yes or no, 只係話估唔到我會咁。 好啦，果陣我都打定輸數， 但到第二日佢又會照常咁同我wts傾計， 後尾佢知道我拒絕左另一個女仔既表白， 佢又會打黎八下果個女仔靚唔靚架？ 如果靚做咩唔發展下？ （其實我冇話佢知因爲呢個女仔唔係佢，所以我冇辦法接受佢）， 而且之後佢都有主動約下我食飯咁。

 

咁平時約出黎食飯大家都多野講既， 而且呢十幾次都係單獨見面。同佢一齊我覺得好開心好舒服， 佢有時會主動同我有啲身體接觸， 例如約佢等果陣佢會係後面拍我嚇下我咁， 總之一切都令我覺得同佢相處得好開心。

 

到最近一次食完飯， 大家各自各返屋企約好夜少少打機，打打下機佢問我仲有冇鐘意佢，我初初仲扮唔明佢講咩， 後尾我終於忍唔住打比佢同佢表白。我話我好想照顧你，你係我好鐘意好鐘意既女仔黎， 果陣其實我好吞吞吐吐下， 聽到佢係咁笑。直到我講完之後佢講左句只想做朋友。

 

我知你一向好反對男仔表白， 但唔表都表左而家點算？ 自從打完比佢表白之後大家再冇任何互動， 我一諗到我可能呢一世都見佢唔到， 就覺得好心寒。

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Q&A: 你好呀MAN神，可以叫我美術系學霸，睇你既片搞清楚好多觀念，我仲寫左好多筆記，加插左好多自己想法，依加成個人唔同哂，多謝曬!!

 

我係台灣讀書，之前響台灣夜店識左條女，都互相吸引既，果日有好多身體接觸，條女仲問我好多野，最仆街係之後個禮拜考試，大家都唔得閒，之後我翻左香港，我有佢IG，但大家都冇點傾。

我打算開學果時溝左佢，我打算直接約佢(冇法，我地唔同系，上堂唔會見，冇相同朋友，我D活動又好個人化，例如睇下畫展，GYM，條女又超唔主動，得直接約)

 

我想法係第一日直接可以摸到佢，錫到佢，當然之前會傾計同觀察佢反應。問題黎啦，應唔應該第一日就拖佢摸佢甚至鍚，如果唔係第一日就摸到佢，點先可以避免佢當我Friend？簡單D講，姐係太快又怕女方唔舒服，拖太耐又怕大家變左friend。(我又唔想約咁多次，因為大家讀唔同系好難有籍口約。)

 

我都知我衰，溝死一條女，搞到好驚失手，但我讀ART成班女都睇唔上，條女又好有想法，加上又第一次溝女，(之前D感情都係女主動)，想你比下見議，打下強心針咁。

仲有第二個問題係MAN神你有咩心理學，讀心術或者溝通既書可以推介下，想睇D學術性D，有跟有據，有實驗性D，請問有咩推薦? THX!!

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Yo！我喺MTFU嘅Man神啊，激發男士雄性力量，感受更多愛與激情！

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Q&A: Hi   Man 神

1.我記得之前有一集講過 男人其中有一種好重要嘅特質 就係 being edge!

我想問點為知 being edge? 有冇一啲具體做法？

Challenge  , Teasing 呢啲 算唔算？

呢一兩個月我keep 住咁做  

我發覺自己咁做 好似唔係好太理人感受

有時仲會得罪人  整到人嬲 系臉

覺到依家個好似 有啲 針鋒相對  好勇鬥狠

咄咄逼人  不斷係咁同人challenge  teasing 有時可能由講下笑語氣 會升到做大家火藥味濃

同埋我咁做 好似多左人唔鐘意我, 可以點解決？？？

 

因為以前無論同男女朋友相處 我自己做法大家相處都係平淡啲  加少少fun 無細水長流果隻

但朋友互相之間就冇challenge

因為我知人最唔鐘意就係比人否定

所以就算真係有啲野唔認同 我都會笑下扮認同   自己知到自己點諗就算

除非係一啲 唔可以退讓 或者超越左自己底線嘅野 我就會say no

 

但都唔係 會主動走去挑人機  撩是鬥非果隻 因為我覺得係自卑嘅人先會咁做

 

所以我應該點平行 being edge 呢樣野？？

 

1b.  Man 神 其實上面講果樣野 關唔關氣場強弱問題 。

我發覺 氣場太強 冇人埋身 冇乜朋友 就算有 人地都會好驚你 就算相處落都功功敬敬  

交唔到心。  

太弱 就會得唔到人 尊重

有冇啲咩標準去 做好佢

 

1c.  雖然人係群體生物

我發覺有時有太多獨立思考  同人唔同

又會比人 唔接納  排擠

一有意見分歧 就否定人   繼而同發生好多衝突

但又要互相幫助去生活 成長

係群體 生活 又要有獨立思考 唔從眾

我應該表達？  一旦發生衝突又應該點？

又可以點平行？？

 

2 . Man 神  呢排最近都不斷意識去 要自己同不同嘅陌生人 講野 交流 have fun

但我發覺自己 背後嘅動機 唔係咁好？？？

因為想改變自己  好似揾呢啲人黎過橋

黎training 自己

 

2b其實細個小朋友 個時係咪冇咁多自我意識   思考 ?? 小朋友 做事有冇動機？？

細個嘅性格  行為模式 做事手法 好似都係人地叫我 做從而形成    今日我嘅性格

 

依家我要刻意改變我嘅行為 同思想

去令佢變成一種信念同集慣  從而重新塑造自己理想嘅性格特質

 

我發覺自己呢家大個左成日會探討自己 或者人地 做事背後個動機

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