作者: Man神

Bro, you probably have learnt many times in the past WHY being a nice guy can NEVER get you girls. But are you afraid that once you learn how to become sexually attractive, you will become a TOTAL ASSHOLE that you don’t want?

#1 Well, one of the biggest OBSTACLE why men are still remaining as their old beta self is because they are SCARED that they will become a dickhead.

They thought that by learning the TRUTHS about sexual dynamics, by learning how to attract & sleep with girls, by learning NOT to get into relationships so quickly…

they will become “someone they are not”, they will become a dark amoral unethical manipulator who is taking advantage of women, so they REFUSE to change their morally upright self-image.  

I totally get these guys’ concern, and that’s why they always are pissed that “girls only like assholes” or ask me Qs like “How to leave FZ?” or  Why can’t women just love who I am?”.

#2 So bro, if you have such concerns, I want you to picture this: There is a nice guy-asshole SPECTRUM in reality.

On one side, we have a super NC who is a doormat who spends years to befriend a girl and buy her gifts to hopefully get her approval, AND he continues even when the girl is abusing him like a doormat.

He rationalizes these bad behaviors by saying “This is love. I love her so much so I am willing to do this.”

On another side, we have a TOTAL ASSHOLE, who is a mafia or prisoner, who always fvcks different women, who physically ABUSES his gf/wife, but girls seems to keep being attracted to him.

#3 When you are NOT getting girls, it’s because like 80-90% of beta men, you thought that MOST guys are assholes and so you thought by positioning as “the rare nice man”, you will win the sexual battle.

Unfortunately you are WRONG because THAT IS NOT THE REALITY.

For the past 4-5 generations after WWII, over 60-70 years, men have been CONDITIONED by society to “accommodate to women’s needs, to be nice, to be good listeners for her, be sensitive to her needs, to believe her words instead of actions”.

After these decades, MOST men have been TRAINED to be NICE dudes who suppress his desires/impulse/intention to give way to women.

In such social change, do you really think you can STAND OUT by being NICE just like other 90% of men?

#4 Secondly, apart from you’ll stand out immediately by leaning towards the asshole spectrum “and be a bit more confident, self-absorbed, selfish & self-centered”, women are always biologically attracted to men who are in control of himself, who are decisive, who has an attitude of “I care about myself first MORE THAN her”, who has other female options.

You cannot beat human’s evolutionary programming that had been in us for 2 million years. Do you really think that by “being more like a female friend and being a supportive role in her life”, you REALLY can arouse her with your feminine qualities?

#5 I totally understand that you are AFRAID of becoming “someone you are not” in order to get girls.

But think about this: A true 100% ASSHOLE who TRULY doesn’t give a fvck about you is rare in society. Those who are are dangerous personalities that you should AVOID – whether it’s males or females.

The fact is: YOU already have enough self-awareness about “being a bad person” that you just CANNOT be a pure evil person.

Right now you are NOT getting girls you want. All you need to do is to move to the asshole-spectrum a bit more so that you are NOT like most guys.

You’re EXPANDING your personality where you can stand up for yourself, where you are NOT shameful with your sexual desires, where you allow yourself to FVCK things UP like a naughty kid and be SEXUAL like an animal, where you set up boundaries and kick bitches out if they display BAD behaviors etc.

#6 This is NOT a path to “become someone you’re not”, this is a path of self-discovery to realize that “Damn, I had been so obedient like a good kid for all these years…I just start to realize that I also have a naughty mischievous side that parents/schools/society have been REPRESSING for 20 years!”

A mature man is NOT those moral warriors who talks about what’s right/wrong but cannot fight.

A true warrior is CAPABLE of killing/destroying enemies, but he chooses NOT TO because he can control himself.

Stop worrying becoming “bad/evil”, start learning to become more “of a dickhead” where women will lovingly tell you how 賤格 you are, but actually loving that raw strong side of you at the same time.

Bro, when you are learning game/male female sexual dynamics, have you ever encountered resistance/criticisms like:

– What are you paying to these stuff, it’s so inauthentic, just be yourself!
– What? You are banging a new girl every week the past months? Don’t you think such sex is meaningless?
– What? You have 5 loyal girlfriends who are willing to do anything for you? Don’t you think such behavior is immoral and unethical? How would your future daughter sees you as a father?

Yes, these are the seemingly-good harsh criticism you receive from moral kinghts.

Actually, there’s a popular phrase in these few years called Virtue Signalling/釋放道德信號，以某種言論顯示自己站在道義一方。

E.g. 如果一個男人說「《太陽報》第三版真是低俗不堪」，那暗示他尊重女性。

E.g. 「資本主義比『伊斯蘭國』組織製造的苦難更多」, 暗示他是道德信號的終極化身，他怒得簡直要炸了，他一定是個好人！

Anyway, the point is: Many White Knights and some women will question you about your ethics when they know that you are an attractive man who gets a lot of non-exclusive sexual relationships with women.

They will say you’re superficial, 缺乏良知／自尊心, 自私自利 etc. They will say you’re a cheating asshole who uses women.

Well brother, when you are attacked by these moral warriors, understand:

#1 When people use morals/ethics to attack you online, they don’t actually care if YOU are good/bad, what they care is they are being PERCEIVED as a moralistic good person by others.

When they get likes from others, they will feel 道德優越感, thinking such virtue will make them attractive to women.  

#2 Very often, those 正義撚 white knights who are so defensive about whether your sexual behaviors are moral/good, IS those who cannot fvck women they want in real life.

So because of their heavy jealousy, all they could do is to focus on bringing down the winners to make themselves feel better.

#3 There is a balance between your primal sexual urges and your spiritual “higher-self” goals.

Of course you don’t need to fvck every hole you see like a crazy dog. But also you don’t have to impose spiritual meanings like a 宗教撚 into seduction and make sex so virtuous so big-of-a-deal.

A healthy human being is a flexible human being.

He can fucks when he wants to fuck with girls he wants to fuck. But he can also talks about quantum physics, philosophy, UFO, spiritual 虛無縹緲 new-age shit if he likes.

Don’t be deterred by those moralistic dudes as you become more sexually attractive and successful. All their criticisms are bullshit that reflect their lack of achievements.

So keep fvcking and keep going!

Bro, after you’ve slept with a woman and she’s wanting an exclusive relationship with you, one of the things they ALL do is to slowly change you into a Beta.

Have you ever lost a girl in the past because you allowed your ex to change your “bad habits/behaviors”, you made the transition, but she no longer desired you?

Well, that’s a pattern that almost all women unconsciously do to their men.

The storyline is always like this:

Stage one:
– Girl met you as an Alpha man who can does a lot of great things
– You were hot, sexy, strong, dominant, assertive like a superhero leader. You have a lot of girls options, you have adventurous fun in life, you take action daily to live your dream life.
– Girl slept with you, you two had crazy sex for a few weeks/months, you started to fall in love with her.

– After 3-12 months, girl wanted something serious and exclusive with you. You love her a lot and you accept that offer.
– You two now are an official couple. You two always do things together. There’s no more individual times anymore.

Stage two:
– Now that she got to know you. She found that you have many “character flaws”, she asks you why you always have to fight evil? Train so hard to prove yourself as an alpha? Why always looking for improvement? Why can’t you just relax and accompnay with her at home watching TV? What can’t you become mature and take care more of her needs?

– You think she is right, you should be more mature and stop being so carefree and playing so much. You start to change.

– You listen to her advice on your style, you stop seeing your bros, you stop working so hard on your dream, you tell other girls that you are unavailable, you spend more time with her doing things she likes, and she is HAPPY every time when you make changes for her.

Stage three:
– However, you start to feel that the more you change your old self for her, the more other stuff she finds to complains about you. It feels like it’s never-ending.

– You find that the more alike you two are, the less she seems to wants to fvck, and it seems “something is missing in the r/p”, but you think that’s what every couple experience.  

Such emptiness can lasts for a few months, few years, or even some decades…but the ending is almost always the same…

Ending:
– One day you came home. You discovered that some dude was fvcking your girl and you were shocked. You were pissed and you started to argue with her. She blamed you for not being attractive anymore. You felt hurt because you thought “changing for her is what makes her happy”.

OR any similar scenario that is less intense but you discovered you got cheated.

Well bro, the takeaway is:

No matter what relationship you have with women, they always have a conscious/unconscious need to CHANGE YOU.

If you allow that to happen because you don’t want to argue/you want to make her happy/you think you’ll have more passionate sex later, you will be wrong because you’re actually becoming a Beta guy that women won’t find sexually attractive.

Women love to fix you, women love broken men, women love you to change for them. But even when they say they’re happy at the moment, they will change their mind when they discover that “they suddenly lose their feeling with you”.

Never change for her bro. All the changes must be for yourself, not her.

Otherwise, be prepared to have a boring sex life and get cheated!

Bro, you probably know that the natural progression of a male-female relationship is that SEX FIRST and then MAYBE a relationship right?

But do you know why you should never wait for a girl who tells you that “she needs more time to feel comfortable to have sex with you” OR “she needs a relationship first before sex can happen”?

Well the uncomfortable answer is:

Real genuine sexual desire is NEVER something 2 people negotiate with their logical brains.

If sex is something you negotiate with your gf/wife, it will become an OBLIGATION for her to do it for you and it will NOT be something natural/impulsive/uncontrollable LUST that she just can’t help but to fvck you.

Real sexual desire is a natural chemical reaction that occurs naturally between you and her.

If a woman wants to fvck you, you would have known that within the first 5 minutes of seeing her in person.

Of course I am not saying you can’t influence her perception of your sexual attractiveness, but you just have to understand that you need to present yourself as the right guy to bring that sexual lustful nature inside her.

I always tell my students that if you are still NOT fvcking her after 3 dates, OR if you’re thinking what kinds of tricks you can use on her to convince her to fvck you,

then the chance of SHE wanting you sexually is extremely SLIM.

You are very likely to waste time giving attention to her in dates 4-6 and you probably should have invested the same amount of time/energy on new girls.

Don’t wait TOO LONG without trying to get sexual and bang her, otherwise you’re just friendzoning yourself.  

Of course there are always special cases why she doesn’t fvck you at that moment e.g. she has a bf, you’re being too beta, she has a super devoted religious person, she was raped b4 etc.

She tells you “she isn’t comfortable yet?”, well, think about this:

If she meets GD/TOP/Chris Hemsworth/Jason Momoa/Tom Cruise/Robert Downey JR , would she tell them to wait for a month before he is allowed to bang her?

Don’t be naive. When you’re the right kind of guy, women will bend her “usual rules” for you and make an exceptional case.

If she doesn’t, leave her, keep leveling up yourself, sex yourself up and become THAT kind of guy.

If you want more foundations about female psychology, apart from booking a coaching call with me or joining our premium Insider brotherhood,

you’re welcome to visit www.manthefvckup.com/7dayfreecourse to enjoy the free training I’ve prepared for you.

Look forward to your comments and see you in the next video.

Bro, you probably have heard/read a super old school books called <The Game> and you definitely know those pickup guys like Mystery and Neil Strauss.

Because of them, so many men thought that they had discovered a get-girls GOLD MINE and thought that by mastering PUA and becoming a PUA profession, they can get every woman they can dream of.

However, maybe you don’t know that Neil Strauss wrote a book called <The Truth> in 2015 and he mentioned how he himself and Mystery respectively nearly committed suicide after they had attracted a BAD woman into their lives, especially when they thought “she is the one.”

Without getting too much into the history, I want you to understand the truths about pickup and PUAs, which is a topic I seldom address.

That is, yes, PUA CAN be effective tools to get you women, there are skills of communication that make you stand out as a man to attract women.

HOWEVER, the dangers of relying on PUA techniques without an actual improvement of your personal attractiveness,

is that #1 you get women who are attracted to your PUA stuff, NOT you as a person.

#2 PUA does NOT teach you to screen out BAD, emotionally manipulative, OR psychologically damaged women WHO can cause serious detriments in your well-being AND this is how PUA Masters like Mystery/Neil Strauss NEARLY killed themselves.

Understand: Having PUA skills to get girls DOES NOT MEAN you are automatically an Alpha.

SO MANY PUA dudes know how to get girls, fvck girls but they don’t fucking know how to keep girls who are HEALTHY to them in the long term happiness.

Why? Because PUA skills are like a sword. It is a neutral tool to cut.

But if the person using the sword is a beta/motherfvcker/ sucker/crazy maniac, the sword is going to HURT people including killing himself.

If you don’t understand the bigger picture e.g. why female behave certain ways, why we have certain psychology, how society is conditioning you as a beta etc.

YOU at your core, is still a beta even if you have learnt some new tools.

The point is: You have to TRAIN and BECOME the right man first in order to know how to use your sword for good.

If you just learn PUA without actually becoming a stronger, more psychologically healthy, more emotionally mature & confident MAN,

you are just becoming another stupid unstable kid thinking he can use a sword to kill real soldiers in the battlefield.

you are just becoming another stupid unstable kid thinking he can use a sword to kill real soldiers in the battlefield.

Can you think of any guys you know who are proud of his PUA skills but is a nasty dickhead in person?

Like this video and comment below and let me know 😉

Have you wondered what EVERY women want in this world?

In the past 10 years when social media had become the norm, can you observe what is the ONE COMMON THING females all do when they have access to such power?

No, it’s NOT money, it’s NOT love, it’s NOT sex.

What every women want – including your mum, your sisters, your “pure good cute” classmate, your female colleagues, the half-celebrity on TV, your 3-years girlfriend, or your 30 years wife – …

What ALL women want is MORE MALE ATTENTION.

Although all people, both men and women, enjoy attention for specific reasons, what makes females females is their CONSTANT CRAVE for male attention.

Why?

It’s because the ability to GET ATTENTION is a survival mechanism deep in a woman’s psyche.

If you’ve gone through 7-day-free-course, you will know a lot about why women do certain crazy things. (Get in if you haven’t)

But you need to understand: Women compete with each other via psychological means while men compete with others through physical fights.

So in girls’ world, they need to use a lot of psychological means to form their little girls-only support groups, and they constantly 排斥 those who they don’t like and bad mouth others.

Who is the female leader who determines how the group goes?

Well, it’s almost always the most popular girl who can get most ATTENTION from others inside + outside the group, and 99% of the case is the girl who is judged as “hot, pretty, sexy” by guys.

Therefore, the hotter the girl + the more socially popular she becomes… the more influence she can accumulates in society. Thus, ability to get attention is ALWAYS what women need/want/desire.

Bro, now that you understand there’s this invisible battle females are participating, and the FUNDAMENTAL NEED that every chick has, can you see why any hot women can easily manipulate most beta men to do what they wish?

Can you see why so many chicks are happy to keep briefly talking with you, but never allows you to sexually escalate, and keep you as an orbiter?

And most importantly, are you smart enough to understand HOW you can combat that war against you, and NOT put yourself in a sexless friend zone and waste all your time/energy/money/effort in someone who’s only using you?

Like this video and comment below because I wanna know your answers, what you’ve learnt and how you would resist that.

If you need more help, apart from booking a coaching call with me or joining our premium Insider brotherhood,

you’re welcome to visit www.manthefvckup.com/7dayfreecourse to enjoy the free training I’ve prepared for you.

Look forward to your comments and see you in the next video.