作者: Man神

Bro, what do you think is the most effective weapon to attract girls? Is it money, status, looks, muscles, fun emotions, great connections, successful career or how good your sex game is?

Another Q: When you don’t like a girl’s certain behaviors, do you argue with her? Persuade her to change? Or care about her feelings, fulfill her needs and then hope then she will listen to what you want?

Well, the answer to all these Qs is that:

One of the most powerful tools to attract/keep girls is actually using the girl’s own imagination.

#1 What I mean is that: Most beta guys love to TELL everything about themselves to girls, wanting her to know ALL of his stories/wounds/strengths and flaws, and think that women will appreciate his TRUTH about his life and “will love him for who he is”.

Sorry bro, apart from your mum, no women on the planet want to know 100% of you. Why?

It’s because women want to figure out a man by themselves, by their own imagination, by her intuition and by her feelings about you.

#2 When you tell her everything about you, you are taking away her ENJOYMENT of “discovering a man” and she will dump you and find other men who are more like a mysterious puzzle to solve.

Women care about the CONTEXT (上文下理／背景) of the communication, they care about HOW you talk about things, they care about what is NOT being said, they care about the underlying meaning and the subcommunication.

So women don’t really pay attention to the CONTENT of what you say, they don’t really care about “the literal meaning” because they’re feeling the deeper parts of the communication.

#3 You may now ask: But isn’t being honest is an attractive trait to women? Why do they always ask me to TALK TO THEM?

Rmb: Vulnerability is only attractive ONLY IF you use it rarely, like <5% of the time.

95% of the time you must be strong-minded, hard-to-kill, firm with your boundaries, confident, self-loving and not like a cute teddy bear.

If you start out as an Alpha like that, and only “become vulnerable” and share feelings AFTER she has earned it (e.g. had sex, obey to you). Otherwise, telling women everything about yourself is UNATTRACTIVE and you’re doomed.

#4 So back to our main point: If you now know that women’s imagination is your best weapon to get her, how would you approach dating?

E.g. Don’t “tell” her how Alpha you are, but BEHAVE in certain manners/ attitudes so that she concludes herself that you are the guy she wants to fvck.

E.g. Don’t “tell” her you have many girls options, but BEHAVE in such a way that you’re always busy going out for coffees, having interesting pics with girls without face in IG, or acting so casual in dates or after sex.

E.g. Don’t argue with her about certain points that you disagree with, JUST withdraw your attention as a punishment so that she KNOWS you don’t like it.

#5 So yes, you don’t need magnificent words to persuade women about your attractiveness.

All you need is to communicate your message via your BEHAVIORS, and let her imagination runs wild and conclude why she must want you by herself.

We teach a lot of details in our Insider family.

If you wanna learn more on how to do so, email us support@manthefvckup.com and let us know that you want to join.

#1 Don’t just read/study, you must APPLY

Knowledge without application is USELESS to get girls. The whole process of real learning is to study, apply, learn from mistakes, keep adjusting.

Unless you are using these weapons on women, you are NOT even in the game.

#2 Find a type of “game” that fits your lifestyle

We all have different schedules, preferences, and strengths/weakness. So you should design your “meeting girls” habit according to what’s best for you.

If you look good on pics/paper, do online. If you are rich, have social status in certain environments, mingle in bars or clubs. If you have a lot of time, travel a lot, like talking to strangers, you can do cold approaches wherever you go.

Your goal is to be able to talk to at least 1 potential girl a day in whatever means. Only then you can start to game girls.

#3 If you must cold approach, make it as casual as possible like a side thing you do when you’re going through your day.

Personally, I don’t like going out in malls/streets JUST to approach a ton of girls and get as much as # to run game later.

BUT, if you happen to be in a gym, buying food in CItySuper, reading books in a bookstore, doing work in coffee shop, drinking with friends at a bar, exercising in a park, waiting a line in whatever places (because you’re doing stuff you’re already planned and you happen to SEE a cute girl),

then it’s perfectly good to spend 30 seconds to approach her and see if she is open to talk to.  

Again, if you’re talking to only 1 new girl a day, you will have almost 100 new experiences in 3 months. Such simple daily exercise will help you gain so much experience than most guys in 3 years.

#4 Seriously, get a mentor.

Yes, I am biased to say this. But honestly, it’s super HARD for most guys to become great with women just by his own.

Even if he has many gfs in the past, he may still be operating with a Beta mindset and doesn’t know why he FAILED.

We all need mentors to help us see our blind spots. Whatever new skills I want to learn nowadays, I always pay to learn as intimately/quickly as possible so that I can save time and many mistakes.

So whether you choose me or other guys who talk about game, if you cherish your own time, pay them so that they can 10x your speed to success.

If you recognize the value of mentorship and you like what you’ve been learning alone here in MTFU, I welcome you to consider joining our MTFU Insider brotherhood, where we provide ALL the trainings, coaching and accountability to help you succeed in dating/sex/relationship life.

Email us support@manthefvckup.com if you are interested.

#5 Aim lower at your beginner phase.

Let’s be honest: You can’t just fvck 9-10/10 dream hot girls if you’re inexperienced. At the beginning, you aren’t aware of what mistakes you’re making so you need TIME & EXPERIENCE before you can win the boss game.

So you need to build SMALL WINS by gaming girls who are just average-looking (but not ugly) ones who are maybe 5-6/10, then slowly level up as you gain experience.

Of course don’t fuck ugly fat chicks who are a 0. But aim for those you feel neutral but acceptable-enough to have a ONS. Gain small successes so that you can have huge successes later on.

So these are the top 5 suggestions for all newbie guys who are studying sexual dynamics and maybe with less than 10 lay counts.

Do you still have any challenges you’re facing you don’t know how to face? Like and comment below and let me know so I can create better content for you in future.

Bro, not sure if you’ve experienced this, but have you wondered why women can “get over you or any breakups” after a few years of relationship and so quickly get another new guy?

Are you curious why a loving stable relationship seems to mean nothing to women when you break up AND she seems to have moved on so quickly?   

Or do you find it hard to understand why some girls often return to their asshole abusive BF, but you know YOU are a much better man?

#1 Well, this strange phenomenon is actually necessary for women to survive. It’s a mechanism designed by evolution.

If you had studied our 7-day free course, you understand how harsh realities were before agriculture:

Humans living 200,000 -2M years ago were hunters gatherers. Men always left their tribes to find food, fight wars, search for resources;

Women almost stayed in the tribe with others to take care of children and chit chat.

#2 Men almost always died unexpectedly because of external factors such as animal attacks, doing dangerous work or fighting in wars.

And when they lose, superior conquerors will kill the weaker men and preserved women for sex.

In such circumstances, it is important for women to evolve to better deal with psychological trauma, to have greater ability to accept emotional loss, to dissociate herself from past pain and move on quicker, in order to increase their odds of survival in face of the new situation.

#3 If you get this, you know know why women can be quickly forget about your 5-year loving relationship and start a new one with another guy in 2 weeks.

OR they start to empathize the “enemy” who destroyed her former bf/husband.

It’s because they have better abilities to cut off emotional ties from former lovers and focus on “getting what she can best get from a man” RIGHT NOW.

Don’t hate women for being so ruthless and 唯我主義. Don’t hate them for being incongruent with their words.

It’s just how evolution helps them deal with the anxiety, guilt and stresses for almost 2 million of years.

Bro, have you ever had some dudes criticizing you for “learning sexual dynamics” and said you should stop trying so hard and “just be yourself”?

Or have you tried to explain to your buddies why their way of handling women is WRONG, is leading them into a painful wrong path, BUT only to find that they defend by saying that “their girls are different”?

Well, a very sad truth is that: No matter how great MTFU becomes, there will ALWAYS have a bunch of unsavable BETAs who deeply trusts that “being a nice gentleman” is how you attract girls,

OR “patiently befriend a girl and she will fall in love with you someday”,

OR “There’s always a pure innocent good girl waiting for him somewhere in the world, it’s just a matter of time to meet her and get married”.

Yes, these are the so called 白馬王子Beta男, whose “get girl strategy” is to always side with women, protect their reputation, and try to ATTACK guys whom women are attracted to but complaining about,

IN THE HOPES THAT women somehow see “how understanding/caring/attentive he is” and will eventually choose to want him.

Do you know why these 白馬王子Beta男 are so invested in doing that?

It is because they have emotionally invested SO MUCH in the fake “assumed way of how female works” that thinking otherwise will HURT their ego.

Meaning: Their identity/behaviors have been built AROUND the belief of “always putting female first” that doing something opposite WILL makes them feel that “that’s not how life supposed to work”.

He then doesn’t even recognize the world he used to believe living in.

That is why 白馬王子Beta男 must defend his wrong beta mindset, must defend the girls who are complaining the Alphas, must repeat the same old mistakes until PAINFUL ENOUGH to wake him the fvck up.

So brother, when you’re transforming yourself into a new Alpha mindset, you will definitely encounter resistance from other majority of Betas.

They are like crabs in a barrel. As you leave the shit life inside and experience freedom outside,

they will use every way to pull you back down the hole and tell you “Just be yourself, she is just stupid not to see how good you are.”

Well, it feels comforting, but if you don’t want to settle to a random 5,6 woman who happens to fvck you when you’re drunk, don’t listen to their advice!