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Bro, if you have been learning from MTFU’s videos/trainings, you are someone who actively seeks CHANGE in your life because you are NOT satisfied with certain aspects of your life i.e. mostly dating.
However, in this active growth path, have you heard people (family, guy friends or women) around you telling to “just be yourself” and you’ll attract the girls who like the real you?
On the surface, JBY is a very attractive idea, because it SOUNDS like you’re just being real and you have no problems that needs to solve.
However, the truth is that JBY is a VERY DANGEROUS idea that can fuck up your life. Why?
Because it implies the idea that “you just need to be patient, WAIT, and eventually you will meet sb who loves you.”
It implies that you DON’T have to actively ACTION to get what you want, it implies women/dating are sth that automatically FALL ONTO your lap, it implies you have ZERO responsibility on your sex/love life because God has already a romantic plan for you.
So doing NOTHING about it and you’ll get your dream girl. How Disney & romantic is that?
Some ppl may argue that if you are not JBY, you are being a faker, you try hard to be sb you are not, you are wearing masks. These all sound legit right?
Well, think about these questions bro:
#1 WHO has the ultimate authority to decide who you are? Who decides whether it is a “real you” or a “fake you”? Who has the right to decide whether your personal change is genuine or not?
#2 When you’re changing your appearance/style/behaviors/circles of friends/ attitudes towards women/mindset about dating, sex and relationships, do you think there’s a conflict of interests where you might make others feel uncomfortable?
Do you think your change will doubt other ppl’s personal belief system about certain things? If yes, what do you think is the easiest way to handle that for most people? To self-reflect deeply & challenge oneself, OR to doubt the changer’s intention/sincerity and persuade him to STAY THE SAME?
#3 Transformation by default is change.
It’s about doing something you normally don’t do, thinking in a way you never did, learning to be comfortable with sth you normally aren’t, and expanding your personality/capabilities you normally don’t have.
So what does JBY really mean? Who determines who you are and who you slowly become? Who judges if this version of you is real or the previous version of you is real?
OR you are ALWAYS being FAKE since you’re born because right now you are NOT thinking/behaving/acting like a baby? Should you just go back and be like that?
I know I asked you a lot of Qs today, but if you get logic behind the true meaning of JBY, you will now understand what those who tell you to JBY is actually doing to your FUTURE.
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Welcome to another episode of weekly 溝女Q&A. As you know I only started doing this recently because I want to help as many bros as possible.
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—-> Her bf isn’t a competitor at all. She’s hanging out with other guys even have BFs, I guarantee you she is or already has CHEATED her beta bf. Too bad that you are even more BETA than her bf, that’s why she ignored you.
Next, she has 8 bfs before, do you really think she is a quality girl? Wtf do you even consider being 知己 with this bitch? You’re settling for a r/p that isn’t sth you initially want.
A man doesn’t do that. If the current reality is that you can’t get her sexaully, that’s fine. You move the fuck on to other girls. But you don’t pretend to be her friend and hopefully someday she’ll slowly see how good you are. It won’t happen. Stop behaving like an unattractive beta.
–> Depends on the CONTEXT she’s saying this. What’s her tonality when saying this? Why suddenly this? What did you do/say before she said that?
Your thinking error, like so many men, is to take the literal meaning of what girls say and over-analyze that shit. Stop focusing on the surface, and start observing her behaviors. Who gives a fuck if it’s good/bad, if she’s attracted to you and accepting your sexual escalation, there’s no point to worry.
–> First, you don’t have to be a really EVIL/BAD-hearted man to attract woman. You can be a sexually attractive man even if you have a good heart.
Second, I don’t know that guy, I don’t know know how you met him, i don’t know that why you two suddenly chatted about this topic. But I do know that if you are not being a CHALLENGE to girls, if you’re too easy to get, girls will NOT have desire to want you.
Only scarce things are valuable. That might not mean you need to be “串”per se to get girls. “串少少” is just one possible way to let her know you are not worshipping her like Goddness. But there are many other ways to do so, which I already taught in many videos and in our Insider training.
–> From your wording 氹, I already know your friend is a beta 暖男 and you’re asking me if you should follow him, you are also a classic nice guy beta. That’s okay, 90+% of young guys start there because they have been conditioned since young to behave like that.
Your Q is NOT whether being a 細路 is good or not, a better Q is how can I have fun and enjoy myself so that girls can relax and have fun in my presence?
The only reason he’s attracting girls is probably because he is a fun guy to hang around with. If you could do the same and not worry about ppl’s opinion about you being like a kid, you too can become attractive. That’s first step.
As you all know, HK is the most expensive city to live in the world, so it is not uncommon for many young men to share rents with others or live with parents.
One Q I get asked from more established brothers is that whether they should share rent with their gfs i.e. cohab with their gfs?
What’s your instinct about that? Do you think it’s a GOOD DEAL to do so to consolidate your relationship?
The underlying reason for many men to cohabit with gfs is NOT just sharing rent, but the REAL reason is that they think by living together, he can has more SEX with gfs EVERY FUCKING NIGHT and his sex life will be happy.
Well, if you really think you will get a DAILY supply of sex, you totally don’t understand the sexual dynamics b/w men and women. Here’s why:
Cohabiting is like a preview of marriage, there’s not much difference between the two. So when you cohabit with gf, you are giving her EXTREME comfort and certainty.
Comfort = familairity = predictability
You have almost ZERO privacy and freedom. She knows everything about your schedule/what you are doing/who you are seeing. And you are actually legally committed to finishing the rent EVEN if the relationship turns bad.
When you have so comfort in a relationship, guess what you don’t have?
You don’t have elements that make her WONDER/THINK/MISS about you, you don’t have enough SPACE for her to IMAGINE what you’re doing, you don’t have enough DOUBTS in her mind that whether you’re seeing other girls.
Attraction requires passion, passion requires TENSION, tension requires the nervous feeling of the unknown – she not sure what you’re doing/ she not sure if other girls are competing for your attention/she not sure if you can have sex in other places/ she not sure if she has SECURED you yet!
So what are you actually doing when you cohabitate with any girls?
You’re destroying EVERY elements that makes you a sexually desirable man, you are destroying her emotional needs to worry that there are other women competing you outside, you’re destroying the SPACE for her to miss you.
Healthy relationship requires PHYSICAL SPACE and OPTIONS.
So if you don’t plan to get married, (which is a good choice), there is NO REASON for you to cohabitate with any chicks.
If you’re young and still building your dream, it’s much better to live on your own or share places with OTHERS who aren’t your sexual options, have the freedom to do whatever you want, and enjoy dating different women.
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Over the past 2+ years, I have read almost 1000+ case studies from bros at all levels, all ages from 13-50+, from all over the world and i have noticed certain PATTERNS in their dating/relationship problems.
When you answer so many Qs, you will start to notice what works and what doesn’t work when dealing with women.
So I will list a bunch of observations I have made during this period when I am teaching brothers.
#1 Begging girls to do sth e.g. to date, to have sex, to like you, to love you, to give you a chance WILL NEVER work.
You must have the upper hand power at all times in a relationship. Whenever you BEG a woman to stay with you/get back with you, you are FUCKED!
Why? Because appealing to girls’ sympathy is NOT a seduction tool!
#2 Every time when you feel the URGE to save a r/p, you actually have already LOST the girl.
Why? Because it implies you’re caring too much, you are putting HER in front of yourself, you are NOT in control of the r/p. So this relationship is DONE, you’ve fucked up.
#3 Most of what your father or grandfather tell you how to get girls is WRONG. In 2019/2020/2021, buying flowers on V’s day or random day is the most UGLY thing a man can do. Stop being so ugly and 變態.
Also, stop believing what TV dramas or romantic movies say about male-female relationships including those starting from the 60s. The project of making men beta have started almost 80 years ago and those messages are all harming you.
#4 Don’t “surprise” your girl by suddenly appearing outside her office, that’s creepy. Stop telling her I love you unless she has told you MANY TIMES in advance.
Stop calling girls on phone to “Nth much, I just want to hear your voice”. These are all SUPER BETA behaviors EVEN when you’re her bf.
#5 NEVER apologize for your actions, unless in extreme cases. An Alpha is unapologetic about himself, about his attitude, beliefs and actions.
People pleasers are betas. Be proud of yourself, be proud of your sex drive, be proud of everything you do including your failures.
#6 So called “game” is about creating an impression that she’s chasing you, even though you’re proactively leading her to do so secretly.
So “game” isn’t about doing nothing and let girls come to you, that doesn’t work UNLESS you are super high value like a famous hot celebrity. But the general rule is to do as little/obvious as possible to game her.
#7 Never give 100% of the things women want e.g. your time/your emotions/ your material stuff/ SEX!
Remember that only scarce things have value, and women only want what they can’t have. So keep them in the wanting/wishing/fantasizing mode.
#8 Self-respect is one of the biggest thing men lack nowadays. Stop being a pathetic worm cry-baby who tells me that “I really want her, i can’t live without her, I must want her because I love her.”
Shut the fuck up and listen: You can never FORCE a woman to be with you. No woman wants such a loser like you right now. If a woman wants to leave/break up, let her go and CUT all your attention.
Men can NEVER convince women to stay if her heart is there. So look at the mirror at your fucking face, see how you fucked up, learn from your mistakes and move the F on like a man!
#9 In all stages of relationship, you must remain as a KING. You are the prize, you know your value and it is HER LUCK that you choose her to date/fvck tonight.
She is the lucky girl who gets your attention, you deserve hot women and you always do things that pleases you first. NEVER put her in front of you.
So here you go bro. These are the common basic themes I get from so many MISTAKES guys are making with women right now.
Choose women who want to be with you, who will change herself for you, and who will overcome challenges to stay with you.
Only those who are putting in the effort and proves her loyalty deserves your most attention. Others are only casual playmates you fvck around once for a while.
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