作者: Man神

I know a lot of you will not like what I say, but sorry not sorry, long distance relationship is NOT a real relationship at all.

Why? Simple.

It’s because there is NO REAL benefits you get from each other apart from texting and facetiming someone just like an old-school pen friend.

I am NOT saying such emotional connection doesn’t feel warm-hearted or sometimes happy, BUT a men-women intimate relationship DOES NOT EXIST if there’s NO SEX involved!

When you have a long d, you (especially men) will start to automatically ASSUME responsibility,

ASSUME that you must be LOYAL to this person for months and years, HOPING THAT one day when she comes back, you two still have the same romantic feeling.

The truth is: You are projecting an idealized image into reality, committing to a person and IGNORING all the real possibilities in front of you.

You don’t go out have fun with your bros because you said you gotta wait for your girl to Facetime you,

you don’t talk to other girls in your school/work/bars/clubs because you think you’re a FAITHFUL good guy who doesn’t cheat,

You don’t even ENJOY LIFE because you think you want to WAIT for the girl to have fun LATER.

In short, you just SACRIFICE YEARS of your life to keep a “soulmate true love” half the planet away, wasting each other’s life even if you guys are sincere and promise to be faithful to each other.

It is even worse than being FZed!

Because you’re accepting all responsibilities of being exclusive with a virtual girl BUT you never get sex or intimacy in person, you don’t even get to see her in life!

So ask yourself: How much opportunities have you limited yourself from experiencing just because of this INVISIBLE pen friend?

How many millions of case studies have you heard that even though the couple meets again, the girl tells you “Sorry, I just don’t have the same feeling like before” and eventually break up?

How many secret stories have you heard that while you think she is also sticking to the promises, you later find out that she actually fvcked another guy 3 months later after she left and has already had a 2-years new relationship!?

If you tell me that “No, actually we meet every 3-6 months for the past 3 years”, well… tell me honestly:

how have you been forbidding yourself from experiencing whatever opportunities – education /work/ sexual/ fun/ family/ personal growth – because you’re committing to an uncertainty?  

Is it worth is to CHANGE how you live life just because you HOPE one relationship will happen as you wish in the FUTURE?

Your choice.

Bros, we’ve talked a TON about how not to fall into the friend zone and why once women see you as “frd”, it’s almost impossible for her to want to fvck you.

So the best way to get out of FZ, is always NOT putting yourself into the FZ from Day 1 and stop lying that “you only want to be frds with her”.

However, do you know why WOMEN LOVE to have male friends to surround them even though she will never be sexually interested in them?

#1 Yes, you’ve watched MTFU for a while and you’ve grown smart… It’s because females CRAVE ATTENTION like bees crave honey…

the more attention they get personally or from society, the more self-worth and happy she feels about herself.

That is exactly why when women tell you “to let’s just be friends OR i am not ready for a relationship OR I haven’t gotten over my ex OR I love you as my older brother”,

that is an attempt to offer you a useless sexless friendship where you’ll continue to pay attention/care about her WHILE she doesn’t do shit in return for you (i.e. never give you sex that you want).

#2 So bro, NEVER try to prove yourself to be a perfect BF material in order to prove that you are “good enough” to take care of her…hoping that one day she will happily fvck you.

No, this will NOT happen. Don’t be an emotionally supportive Beta who listens to her complaints about the Alpha she craves to fvck.

If you still think “we should be friends first, then we will transition to bg/gf lover relationship”, I guarantee you will be single for the rest of your life.  

#3 Why?

It’s because if you attended our 7-day free course,

you know that attraction requires TENSION, and the feeling of tension is a bit uncomfortable and nervous, and such feeling is necessary for intimacy to happen.

If everything is familiar, comfortable, friendly, warm, that feeling is NOT seduction and she won’t feel the urge to have sex with you.

#4 Now that you understand the real purpose of friendship in women’s eyes,

do you know why men and women CANNOT be real friends, OR can’t be as friend as their same sex?

Yes, you’re right again. It’s because it doesn’t fvcking make sense.

One, let’s be honest here, men don’t make friends with ugly chicks. So all chicks men try to befriend are those he tries to fvck.

if you think that by staying friends with her, you can fvck her one day? I’ve already explained why that doesn’t work, so stop fvcking waste your time doing stupid impossible shit.

Two, male-friends are way better than female-friends.

You can talk in a rational way that makes sense, you both like what guys like to do/play, you both can open up to talk deep dirty shit and you don’t need to worry “if I will make a bad impression on this girl”,

and most importantly, a good bro can be a trustworthy soldier that you can fight with, he helps you kick ass in life instead of worrying to save a defenseless bitch.

Three, assume that a girl tries to FZ you but you reject the offer and walk away. This implies that you are confident and have enough options to fvck that friendship offer.

You know she’s using you to gain attention but you refused. This tells the girl that you are actually a valuable PRIZE that other women want, and you don’t give a fvck about her decision. Because of such action, this girl might doubt her decision or even wants you back one day.

So ask yourself now: Do I suck with women because I have too few female friends?

OR because I have too few male friends but too many female friends who are wasting your time and never fvck you?

Comment below and let me know!

For the past 2 years, I have received a lot of emails or DMs from bros all over the world telling me that they have understood women so much more, and some of them even got the girls they want within a few months time.

However, as you know, getting a girl is just like secondary school game. The real game starts when you decide to KEEP the girl for a longer period of time.

So some bros start to ask me “how can they maintain an Alpha upper position during a bf/gf relationship or even marriage?”

#1 Well, before we go into this, there’s a foundation you must build:

One, you always let women push for a relationship with you instead of you trying to get into a r/p.

You should enjoy non-committed r/ps as much as possible for as long as possible until she feels the URGENCY to secure you. Until that issue is brought up by her, don’t push.

Two, you should keep the non-committed status for at least 6 months before you jump into anything committed. FBI uses roughly 2 years to observe a person so even when you’re in a r/p, you should NOT make any serious decisions with her during that period.

#2 Assuming you’ve done these, understand: Women’s desires on a guy or sex frequency oftens declines after a committed relationship is formed because there is no more urgency for her to fvck you.

Meaning: Assuming you’re an Alpha, when you’re single and uncommitted, women feel that you must have a lot of options around so she feels a need to use sex to qualify herself in exchange of an Alpha’s approval and attention.

#3 However, after a committed relationship in secured, women now feel that you’ve committed to her (as a bf/husband), so there’s less URGENCY to use sex to EARN your validation.

If you understand this basic simplified concept, you will understand why so many once-Alpha males start to become betas …

because these betas start to lose their power frame, do shit stuff their gf/wife asks them to do, tries to avoid arguments, keep peace and compromises their self-interest…just to hope that his gf/wife can give them sex at night.

#4 So my intelligent MTFU fans, can you now guess how to maintain upper hand in a relationship?

Ans: To continue gain that dominant power and respect from her, you must continue put your interests first AND do NOT let her pussy control your decisions.

#5 Rmb: 有西唔代表有say, you must always be the attractive man other women want to fvck EVEN when you are in a r/p.

So you must take care of your physicality, continue to conquer your career/mission, continue to be a high status social guy surrounded by women,

continue to increase your personal value so that your gf/wife can directly/indirectly see that other women still want to compete for you AND you always have the option to NEXT HER when she doesn’t behave well.

#6 That’s how you always become the AUTHORITY of the relationship and train your main girl to behave well, eager to fvck you, treat you like king and remain loyal to you.

If you have any personal problems about your dating life or relationship that you want me to help solve,

feel free to book a coaching call with me to talk about your personal issue, or join our premium Insider community where you will get all the trainings, coaching and skills you need to become an Alpha, not just in dating but also in your work life.

That’s the only 2 places right now where I personally address a particular problem you have. If you’re interested, send an email to us.

Bros, do think that those who have girls/gfs/married now are the Alphas and those who are single are Betas?

Well, if you do, then you have fallen into one the of most common mistakes of understanding sexual dynamics because the terms “Alphas” and “Betas” actually describe the mindset and behaviors of how you interact with women,

NOT whether you have women around (or whether you are a rich famous handsome celebrity who seems to have many girls e.g. Justin Bieber, Prince Harry, Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos).

So to assist you in understanding, I’ll share with you some common qualities a beta guy have so that you know if your current belief system is Alpha or Beta:

– Beta believes in romantic ideas, he always tries to find “his one soulmate” and tries to cling to one girl once he thinks he found her.

– Beta loves to support his chick and sacrifices his self-interest for her. He believes that’s what “real man” do and such sacrifice of self will exchange her love, loyalty and desire for sex.

– Beta wants to be a hero, he wants to “save a girl from her problems”, so he is eager to listen to her shit and help her solve problems

– Beta doesn’t mind to stay platonic friends with hot girls, he continues to give her attention/care in such friendship, he listens to her complaints about her bad bf, the reason is always he secretly hopes that one day “she will choose him”

– Beta has ALWAYS been loyal to girls, even before they start any relationships. He thinks that it’s “not good/unethical” to date multiple girls so he invests all of his energy/time/effort to get one girl at a time because he thinks anything other than monogamy is BAD.

– Beta AUTOMATICALLY respects women just because she is a woman, he does not screen and qualify women to see which women actually DESERVE & EARN his respect.

– Beta believes that open communication is the key to a successful relationship. They believe that women are rational human beings who say “exactly what she means” and disregards her contradictory behaviors. They use LOGIC to determine what she wants, tries to satisfies that, and expects she will then give what he wants.

– Beta believes he needs to “think/talk/behave like a girl” and stands on her side in order to attract her. He believes “rapport/harmony/common interests” with girls make girls interested in them.

– Beta tries to stand out by “I am not like most (bad/superficial) guys” and hopes the girl will choose him.

– Beta doesn’t mind long distance r/ps with girls because he believes that if he can be patient and wait for a girl to come back, the whole thing will be super romantic like a novel, she will be very touched and eventually comes back to him.

– Beta settles in a relationship. He is so scared of being alone/lonely in the future so he quickly clings to the only-girl who expresses interest in him and tries to get into a relationship asap so as to avoid “a potential loss if he doesn’t secure a r/p with her.”

– Whenever there’s conflict clash/arguments between a male and female, beta AUTOMATICALLY tries to shame the man or help defend the woman, (especially if she is hot), without paying attention to the facts of the issue.

So these are 12 common traits of having a beta mindset in regards to women, how many traits have you scored so far?

Now that you are aware of your current belief system, you might need help to eliminate these toxic beta mindset imposed on you by society.

If you need help, you can either book a coaching call with me to talk about your personal issue,

or join our premium Insider community where you will get all the trainings, coaching and skills you need to become an Alpha, not just in dating but also in your work life.

That’s the only 2 places right now where I personally address a particular problem you have. If you’re interested, send an email to us.

Bros, have you wondered why even you know the principles how to game girls, you still find it psychologically hard to date multiple girls?

Or even when you have options, you seem to have a tendency to “fall in love” immediately with just ONE girl and then get into a “serious long term r/p” too prematurely?

#1 Well… the cold hard truth why you tend to settle for a 6-7 marks girls instead of remaining single until you get a 8 or above girls … is because you are so fucking afraid of “being lonely” as a single man.

You are so uncomfortable with being alone, you don’t allow yourself to be alone, and you feel that your life is incomplete without some women to talk to (even when she is NOT sb truly arouses you).

If you have such symptoms, well, I have to warn you that the more you fear that you will live life lonely, the more fear that you won’t be loved by women …

the more BETA your mindset and behaviors will be AND THUS the LESS attractive you are as a man.

#2 Why? Because when you are scared of “being alone” and “missing out this potentially only chance you have”,

you will definitely come up excuses why you want to stay with this average 5/6 marks girls, rationalize that she is your “true love/soulmate”, eventually sacrifice yourself and do everything to please her just to keep the peace in this mediocre relationship.

E.g. you tolerate bad behaviors from your gf, you marry a fvcking bitch “to do the right thing”, you stay married with a toxic witch who treats you like shit

#3 Well bro, if you are fed up with average girls and still have ambition to NOT settle for a shit life, then you gotta kill this fear of loneliness, learn to allow yourself to be alone, independent and self-reliant.

The only man women want to fvck and love is the guy who is SO comfortable with himself when he’s single, confident with his independence, and isn’t in a rush to “get into a relationship/married just because he’s 30/35/40”.

In fact, if you know how to handle your aloneness and how to capitalize the opportunities of being a single man, you can have more girls opportunities and freedom than those in a mediocre relationship.

#4 Never chase relationships or any idealized romanticised goals.

Being in a r/p or marriage NEVER MEANS you are happy & free when you’re trapped with a wrong crazy chick who emotionally exhausts you and distracts you from your core purpose of life.

Stay free, stay independent and stay comfortable with yourself (whether you have women around or not).