Bro, you probably have learnt many times in the past WHY being a nice guy can NEVER get you girls. But are you afraid that once you learn how to become sexually attractive, you will become a TOTAL ASSHOLE that you don’t want?
#1 Well, one of the biggest OBSTACLE why men are still remaining as their old beta self is because they are SCARED that they will become a dickhead.
They thought that by learning the TRUTHS about sexual dynamics, by learning how to attract & sleep with girls, by learning NOT to get into relationships so quickly…
they will become “someone they are not”, they will become a dark amoral unethical manipulator who is taking advantage of women, so they REFUSE to change their morally upright self-image.
I totally get these guys’ concern, and that’s why they always are pissed that “girls only like assholes” or ask me Qs like “How to leave FZ?” or Why can’t women just love who I am?”.
#2 So bro, if you have such concerns, I want you to picture this: There is a nice guy-asshole SPECTRUM in reality.
On one side, we have a super NC who is a doormat who spends years to befriend a girl and buy her gifts to hopefully get her approval, AND he continues even when the girl is abusing him like a doormat.
He rationalizes these bad behaviors by saying “This is love. I love her so much so I am willing to do this.”
On another side, we have a TOTAL ASSHOLE, who is a mafia or prisoner, who always fvcks different women, who physically ABUSES his gf/wife, but girls seems to keep being attracted to him.
#3 When you are NOT getting girls, it’s because like 80-90% of beta men, you thought that MOST guys are assholes and so you thought by positioning as “the rare nice man”, you will win the sexual battle.
Unfortunately you are WRONG because THAT IS NOT THE REALITY.
For the past 4-5 generations after WWII, over 60-70 years, men have been CONDITIONED by society to “accommodate to women’s needs, to be nice, to be good listeners for her, be sensitive to her needs, to believe her words instead of actions”.
After these decades, MOST men have been TRAINED to be NICE dudes who suppress his desires/impulse/intention to give way to women.
In such social change, do you really think you can STAND OUT by being NICE just like other 90% of men?
#4 Secondly, apart from you’ll stand out immediately by leaning towards the asshole spectrum “and be a bit more confident, self-absorbed, selfish & self-centered”, women are always biologically attracted to men who are in control of himself, who are decisive, who has an attitude of “I care about myself first MORE THAN her”, who has other female options.
You cannot beat human’s evolutionary programming that had been in us for 2 million years. Do you really think that by “being more like a female friend and being a supportive role in her life”, you REALLY can arouse her with your feminine qualities?
#5 I totally understand that you are AFRAID of becoming “someone you are not” in order to get girls.
But think about this: A true 100% ASSHOLE who TRULY doesn’t give a fvck about you is rare in society. Those who are are dangerous personalities that you should AVOID – whether it’s males or females.
The fact is: YOU already have enough self-awareness about “being a bad person” that you just CANNOT be a pure evil person.
Right now you are NOT getting girls you want. All you need to do is to move to the asshole-spectrum a bit more so that you are NOT like most guys.
You’re EXPANDING your personality where you can stand up for yourself, where you are NOT shameful with your sexual desires, where you allow yourself to FVCK things UP like a naughty kid and be SEXUAL like an animal, where you set up boundaries and kick bitches out if they display BAD behaviors etc.
#6 This is NOT a path to “become someone you’re not”, this is a path of self-discovery to realize that “Damn, I had been so obedient like a good kid for all these years…I just start to realize that I also have a naughty mischievous side that parents/schools/society have been REPRESSING for 20 years!”
A mature man is NOT those moral warriors who talks about what’s right/wrong but cannot fight.
A true warrior is CAPABLE of killing/destroying enemies, but he chooses NOT TO because he can control himself.
Stop worrying becoming “bad/evil”, start learning to become more “of a dickhead” where women will lovingly tell you how 賤格 you are, but actually loving that raw strong side of you at the same time.