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Since Narcissists 自我過度膨脹, they think that outside things BELONG TO them and will get it at YOUR expense. (e.g. women, work accomplishments)
They are not just 展現佔有慾，sometimes they may become violent (grab your arms, block the door entrance, push you to wall) to threaten you.
Bro, DO NOT believe that “they aren’t so bad most times” or “won’t happen again” because Narcissists WILL NEVER CHANGE.
The toxins are deep down in their blood and you can NOT help them. You must report their crimes and stop the bullying. Things won’t get better!
Now, let’s move on the topic of cults, because according to Joe, every cult has a Narcissist leader who overvalue himself at the expense of his followers.
Those leaders do not tolerate criticisms about him/her, they preach grandiose ideas, they feel highly entitled, and they think they are above all laws.
Here are the 8 major lessons from FBI report about Jim Jones and 人民聖殿教:
＃1 A ton of ppl unconditionally give life to sb
#2 Using “religion”, dangerous personalities can hide underground with no scrutiny
#3 Cult leader have total control over followers’ life, like a 極權政體
#4 Torture your physically and psychologically repeatedly, PREVENT anyone from leaving
#5 Cut communications from your family and friends, who try to help/rescue
#6 Leader has obvious Narcissistic traits – words/writings
#7 Only a few members can see the leader as toxic/dangerous
#8 Once you become loyal to the cult leader, you become blind and you even harm your children because you don’t want to 正視任何可疑危機
Now brother, based on many past horrible cult leaders, there are 7 things you need to understand about cults.
#1 Cult leaders attract ppl who are unable/unwilling to discern if they are being exploited
#2 Cults use physical/psychological/social pressure to prevent you from leaving
#3 Cults must ISOLATE you from the world, so that the Narcissistic leader will never be criticized or scrutinized to control you
＃4 Narcissists are happy to be the leader, and they will do whatever it takes i.e. destroy others to remain in position
#5 Narcissists leader have NO 規條, he enjoys all privileges e.g. sex, travel, luxuries
#6 Cult leader will claim “to have all answers and secrets about better life”, he decides everything for you
#7 Because many religious organizations or voluntary associations are PROTECTED BY LAW, and because most things happening must be kept SECRET, the law enforcement units can’t intervene at all.
So to summarise, the similar characteristics are: 保密與隔離，心理身體虐待以摧毀自由意志，由一人掌握絕對權力
These can be found in toxic organizations, workplace, home or even an entire country.
Now, you may understand how Narcissists are super dangerous, because Narcissistic personalities are what Hilter, Stalin and many political leaders share…
They kill millions for “an ideal vision”, they believe they have the answer to the future, they demand absolute loyalty and worship from followers to gain power…
If you want to learn how to assess objectively whether sb is a narcissist, pay attention to the next episode!