Knowing that you are about to break up with someone you’ve been together for a while can be SCARY, because most of us don’t want to make others feel sad or even cry.
But if you know that your relationship isn’t going anywhere in the future, there are few guidelines you can use to make breakups as peaceful as possible.
#1 Do it in person
Sudden silence/disappearance & stop calling/texting is VERY immature way of breakup kids do, that’s disrespectful to the other person .
So do it in person, have a sincere chat and that will help BOTH of you grow and move on ASAP.
#2 Tell her what you are grateful for in the relationship
If you are conscious about your relationship and have developed it from a healthy foundation, both of you are going to learn A LOT from each other.
So it’s good to APPRECIATE how she has helped you grow as a person, and she has been played an important role in a chapter of your life.
#3 Let her know the logical reason for the breakup
A good breakup should include some thoughtful contemplations on whether the relationship is going anywhere.
So if you think your values/goals/personalities/directions/timing are not COMPATIBLE with each other,
if you two are going different paths, it is a better decision to separate your ways and let each other FLY with freedom.
#4 It is crucial that both of you STOP communicating for a long time.
This is because we must create mental space for each other to eliminate old anchors by each other in order to move on.
A good time frame is if r/p is 2 years, it takes around a year to recover.
You two can still be friends in the future, but that only happen organically if you DELETE/CUT her phone, FB, stuff to provide a clear mental space NOW.
=> Be thankful, be real, own the responsibility, end it if you know it’s not right