I still remember many years ago, I started learning dating advice because I experienced a very bad breakup with a girl I “fell in love”with via long d r/p.
It took me nearly 2 years to recover, how I behaved was so stupid and wrong, but that pain motivated me to start learning the TRUTH about women, sex, dating and relationships.
So looking back, if someone asked me what weapons do I find most powerful to attract women, I think there are 3 valuable lessons every man must learn.
#1 Enjoying yourself and having FUN is so fucking crucial to attracting women.
“Fun”is the most undervalued weapon to get girls. No matter what game you play (daygame, night game, social circle game, text game, online dating), if you are NOT having FUN when you meet women,
it is very EASY to burn out yourself in your journey to improve your sex life.
So you have to find the FUN when you interact with girls in whatever place you meet them. If you don’t enjoy it, it’s hard to get good or be truly attractive.
#2 Becoming attractive is NOT “fake it till you make it”, it is about expanding your personality, owning your imperfect self and courageously expressing every good/bad, angel/demon, socially-acceptable/taboo of you with no filter.
Because the truth is that the most attractive version of ourselves/ our True Self is when we were a baby, when we were NOT imposed so many social/cultural rules on us that limit our natural expression.
Our True Self is always curious, calm, confident, courageous, playful, present, expressive.
Becoming attractive is NOT about adding new layers, it’s about stripping off all the bullshit fake selves we now hold and let our True Self shine!
#3 Game is NOT about what you do, it is about how you react to what you and she do!
If you focus on what to do, you will always worry about “whether you are doing it right or wrong”, which guarantees you never take action and waste time.
However, if you focus on“how I react to whatever happens”, you can literally can do/say whatever to women because you have the CONFIDENCE & SELF-BELIEF that “No matter what happens, I can handle it”.
This is a fucking powerful paradigm shift on how you view game!
Stop worrying about not doing it right in the first step, focus on how to playfully/nonchalantly REACT to whatever things she says/does to you!
If you get this, your game is going to be at least 10x more effective 🙂