Brother, do you define yourself as an introverted person? Or worse still, do you always say you are too 怕醜 to meet women?
If you do, I have a good news and bad news for you:
Good news = Introverted is okay, women don’t just want extraverted guys
Bad news = You need to get rid of your shyness
#1 What’s the difference?
Introverted = A person mostly concerned with his own thoughts/feelings, instead of external things. They gain energy by spending time with themselves.
Shy = Being reserved, nervous, 細膽 in the presence of other people
So shyness is the lack of comfort with other people -> weakness
But introversion is just a preference of how you spend time -> NOT weakness, it’s a strength in many writers/producers/leaders
#2 So how do you be more extroverted & outgoing when you feel nervous?
Simple exercise to develop extroverted muscle: When you leave your house and walk, do a mental note of the things you see.
E.g. How many 7-11/OK can you find along the way? Taxi? Suited up?
When you do this, you’re forcing yourself to look outside yourself and thus training your brain to think in a more extroverted way.
#3 Advanced Exercise: When you speak, incorporate the phrase
“I love/Iike …… + [observation based on 5 senses]
e.g. the music in this bar … + [reason] e.g. because Maroon 5 is really my favorite band!”
It sounds silly, but the point is this forces you to get out of your head to find sth in the environment! (+ being positive, talk about things you enjoy)
Try this everyday for 1 week and see how more extroverted you become!