Long D 真的可行嗎? (Q&A)

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Q&A: Yoyo Manson,最近都不斷地重溫你既舊video同新既video,都有不斷建立更正既social life,不過呢我有時都會反思下自己,因為呢一刻既我雖然不斷去變做更加好既同時,我覺得今日既我都係未成為一個真正最attractive既自己,回想起一年前我既生活非常之乏味,但當時又有一個女仔鐘意我。

 

接著開始接觸你既channel,雖然用左好多你教我既F+C係呢位女仕身上,但因為始終自己既low esteems and needly失去左呢個人,差不多剛好一年,我自己既圈子真係比以前擴大左,同埋自己開始去照顧到身邊既人,靠自己既經驗去幫助我既朋友,幫佢地搵自己人生目標,亦都係圈子內唔難認識新既女性。

 

今日既我真係明白到兩性吸引力,但係認識左唔少女性and spark到佢地attraction 同時,我發現一樣野,好影響到我自己今日同未來。原來我仲有一種感覺,係每當認識新既女仔同佢地有講有笑建立緊sexual and rapport同時,我發現自己成日不自覺諗起個位一年前既女仔。

 

「因為原本我可以同個個人好好發展,而且我同個個人經歷左一部份難忘既事係斷斷續續半年時間同呢個人曖昧,當佢對我投資好深既時候,我突然變得冷淡,內心因爲害怕同呢個無咩長遠,因為要分隔兩地。令到我同佢有D吵架,講野行為有時過份左,而失去呢個人」

 

其實講到呢到我對呢個依然潛意識進行緊投資,我當然有聽Manson講點不斷增加options投資落自己身上,每次去玩我都係無拘無束have fun,be yourself對住任何人。

 

但就唔知點解總係有種心病,每次諗起呢個人,總係有種unresolve既感覺,想問下Manson我應該點解決呢種(心結)呢?感性上,我好想同呢個人真誠爲當時既事道歉呢,我已經唔想諗緊點approach呢個人,而係想真正原諒以前唔成熟天真既自己,而係將來我都有好多野要做,仲會不斷成長,Manson想問下我主動whatapp呢個人同佢道歉,係咪好事呢?多謝你睇曬佢

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#1 It’s good to have feelings of regret, that you had been immature and said hurtful things to the girl, THAN being a cold blooded manipulator.

 

#2 Long D without a specific deadline is HARD to maintain, and you shouldn’t even think about it until you two have been together for 2+ years.

 

If the long D will be YEARS, then break up and stop wasting each other’s time. Stop exploiting ppl’s opportunity from others to give what they want.

 

#3 Whatsapping apology is quite a pussy move, the best way is to admit your flaws face-to-face, eye-to-eye as a man,  which requires extreme courage.

 

#4 But, no matter how you do it, you are doing it FOR YOURSELF, NOT for the girl or trying get her acceptance/recognition, or trying to do this to reattract her again.

 

Otherwise, you are not being genuine.  

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