#1 Most people enter relationships when they are NOT READY.
They aren’t emotionally mature enough to understand themselves and that’s why their relationships SUCH and never last.
Healthy relationships have both Passion and Connection.
Just passion = almost all dramas
Connection without passion = friendship.
#2 So if you still haven’t dealt with your own emotional shit yet, you’re going to bring your problems into the relationship, she will trigger your fears/insecurities, and both of you are just gonna make others lives harder.
Do NOT project everything to her and blaming her for your relationship problems.
Ask yourself, “Are YOU relationship material? Are you mature enough to EARN the knowledge and GROW the passion in relationship?”
#3 Women are attracted to men with direction, purpose and drive.
So here’s 3 step process for you to go through before you enter a relationship as an attractive man.
Q1: WHO the fuck am I?
– Write down 5-10 most important values that you care the most. What values are you willing to DEFEND and stand up for?
– What am I passionate about? What are the things I naturally CURIOUS about since young? What makes me feel excited?
Although relationships are one of the most honest way to REVEAL yourself through your partner,
it’s best to have a good foundation of self-knowledge first before you enter any relationships.
Q2: What is my MISSION in life?
– What are you naturally good at doing? What are the things you love doing that is not numbing yourself but you feel a sense of deep internal fulfillment?
– If you can spend one hour a day doing what you love every day, what would that be?
– Are the people you currently spend most time with supporting & encouraging you to live your path?
OR are they negative victims dragging your emotions down, blaming circumstances and complaining why they can’t do certain things?
Q3: WHAT kind of women do you want to invite to join your path?
If you tell me that there’s no good women in [any city],
and you tell me you’ve been searching a long time in “bars/nightclubs”,
can you now see why you can’t meet quality women?
Can you see why you two aren’t compatible for each other?
Takeaway: Direction/Purpose is the central pillar of a man’s life,
you can’t find a great career/partner UNTIL you know who you are or where you want to go.
This is the so called mid-life crisis,
and I am raising awareness for you EARLY so that you don’t fuck up with girls later.
Create yourself with intention,
create your path with intention,
and then you’ll know what kind of women you want to bring into your life.