有冇試過覺得自己『唔夠好』去令對方鍾意自己，或者『自己唔值得被對方愛』呢？
我哋每個人都會有質疑自己價值嘅時候，無論係因為你父母對你過度嚴苛，又或者你女朋友太正令到你自卑嘅感覺，我哋都有一啲情感嘅包袱令我哋忘記點樣愛錫自己。
但係如果你想係一定感情之中感受到自己已經足夠，如果你想提升自己嘅自尊心嘅話，
你就必須學識點樣增加你對自己嘅愛，你對自己嘅self love，which is one of the MTFU’s core value.
#1 Use Compassion For Our Emotions
When we feel low/negative/low self-esteem, we especially with ambitious achievers can be TOO HARD on ourselves.
-> Treat your less desirable thoughts about yourself like a 3-year old child who has just fallen and hurt his knees
-> You won’t hurry to heal the hurt, you gently heal the woud and let the pain pass away while comforting him , NO judgement
Give room for yourself to BREATHE through the process and be compassionate towards your growth journey.
#2 Take Ownership Of Our Own Happiness
Truth: No one can make you feel happy, it’s YOUR duty to do it for yourself.
Why that’s a good thing? -> You are no longer a victim, you can choose to be empowered.
When you get this, you can CHOOSE to be whoever you want to be and be happy whenever you want it.
Stop judging yourself so harshly when you have a bad day or didn’t get what you want temporarily.
#3 Self-Love Letter Exercise
It’s natural to focus on our LACK/inadequacies/concerns because our brain is automatically searching for threats to make sure you survive.
But our brain isn’t designed to make us thrive or happy.
So if you can focus your attention on writing a self love letter on what you want to improve about yourself,
WHY you deserve to be loved,
WHAT you have already accomplished,
what qualities do you have to make you successful in life and love…
then it’s a great reminder on why you are GOOD ENOUGH.
#4 Celebrate small wins daily
Growth is a gradual, daily, never-ending process.
IT’s a way of BEING, it’s a mindset, instead of a one time thing.
So you always want to REMEMBER how far you’ve gone in life, what you have learnt in the past,
why you are GRATEFUL for these LIFE LESSONS that are designed to help you become a better human being.
Take 3-5 mins a day to remember your accomplishments and these mini celebrations will build up your confidence and success.
#5 Environment is more powerful than willpower
No successful people can succeed if they spend time with people who drag them down, complain lives, bitch about gossips and do stupid shit.
Every 3 months, EVALUATE who you spend time with the most and see if they’re encouraging you the most.
If yes, then nurture that relationships.
If no, get the fuck out ASAP, even when sometimes those who love us the most fuck us up the most.
Conclusions: Whatever your path is, remember that SELF LOVE is the foundation of everything.
Your relationship success, career achievement, and personal fulfillment all depend on it!