[溝女問題] 女仔對我好sweet,但突然對我無feel!?

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Yo manson!Ken again….我放棄左之前我講過fdzone左我既女仔,再次展開新既精彩旅程…

 

突然有個fd搵返我,叫我陪佢行mk。我嗰日好chill,諗到咩就講咩,吾覺意可能attract到佢…(佢都算係高質野)。

 

佢之後去左個trip,期間都有flirt我…完左之後,仲話想我接機..話想見我…係巴士個時仲借我膊頭呢用..so sweet

 

正當我考慮接吾接受佢既時候….之後我可能關心得佢多左…佢feel到啲野.就無啦reject我。WTF?

 

我呆左陣…問佢show interest既動作點解,佢話有小小姐…不過我之後都解釋返俾佢聽,Care not equal to love…(畢竟confess=lose everything)

 

但係我覺得幾可惜,所以想問下man神,呢段感情仲有冇possibility…

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In short, you have fallen into FZ without you realizing it.

 

#1  You thought you were chilling, saying whatever you like and attracting her.

But pay attention to the CONTEXT, you said『突然有個fd搵返我,叫我陪佢行mk。』, this already subcommunicated that SHE treats you as a friend.

 

You 陪佢行mk means that you’re already investing your TIME/ENERGY doing friends stuff.

 

To her, you are SO EASY to get you to do stuff with her, and that’s NOT a sexy attractive trait man.

 

#2 『想我接機..話想見我…係巴士個時仲借我膊頭呢用..so sweet』

-> Another compliance test. Again, you’re saying YES too easily and overinvesting your time to do these “sweet boyfriend behaviors”before you two had sexual contacts.


-> You thought would lead you to bf/gf, but in fact too much sweetness/ niceness BEFORE you two are bf/gf often won’t produce the results you want.

 

#3 『之後我可能關心得佢多左…佢feel到啲野.就無啦reject我。』

 

-> See? You already said you CARE about her too much, which isn’t something you should do BEFORE you enter a relationship.

 

-> “Care not equal to love”: What she really means is that “she likes the attention/caring/niceness you give to her,

 

but she can’t FEEL AROUSED SEXUALLY,

she can’t feel the BADNESS/EDGINESS/MYSTERIOUSNESS from you.

She can’t feel your STRENGTH to say no to her and do stuff you like.

 

-> She can’t feel the SEXUAL TENSION from you challenging/teasing/making fun of her.  That’s why she can’t “feel aroused enough”to convince herself logically she is falling in love with you.

 

-> Learn from this and move on.