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我嘅情況同上次個溝女Q&A一樣，太Nice guy 比人friend zone左，所以我宜家決定左要唔再needy。
不過其實我都仲係鐘意嗰個女仔嘅，佢嘅性格好被動，我唔搵佢，佢唔會搵我，
我要點先可以係冇聯絡嘅情況下令佢鐘意我呢？定係我宜家應該要直接whatsapp話比佢聽: i dont need you and I treat you like ordinary ?
我同左熟左大約三個月，我要等幾耐先可以再出擊溝佢？一個bad boy嘅形象又點樣打造？
主要唔明嘅係我要點先可以唔做主動感樣得到，同佢溝通嘅機會？因為我地冇乜共同friend，好難有event 比佢join我
– K
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＃1 Getting rid of neediness, is NOT just a logical rational step.
Your EMOTIONS need to be truly non-needy, independent if you truly want change, otherwise you will fall into the same trap again by your natural behaviors.
So learn to be an independent man,
learn to accept and love yourself when no one else will,
learn to DO THINGS that give you long term happiness and fulfillment,
participate in activities that make you PROUD and HAPPY,
and most importantly, start crafting your own PURPOSE of living your life etc.
#2 OMG, when you say “i dont need you and I treat you like ordinary ?“, what does that even mean and subcommunicate!?
It means that you CARE SO MUCH to let her know that “I am not needy” but in fact you are extremely needy, and EAGER to let her know your feelings.
#3 “Badboy”image is NOT just how you look in your style, it’s more about the CHARACTER TRAIT you need to slowly develop.
E.g. Are you being honest with the girl when all you want is SEX and not ready for a relationship? OR you want multiple light fun sex partners but not a girlfriend?
E.g. Are you the kind of ambitious man who NEVER settles for less than what you deserve, you FUCKS the status quo of being a work slave, and be proactive in pursuing your own dream?
E.g. Are you the kind of WARRIOR who can on one hand protecting a baby with your gentleness, but on the other hand CHOKE and KILL the fucking enemy who is attacking your family!?
If you have that physical, mental, emotional TOUGHNESS while having a HEART to help more people you want, you are the fucking badboy.
#4 Finally, despite 溝女 is NEVER about chasing, that doesn’t mean you need to be PASSIVE and do nothing, sitting at your home, and waiting girls to do all the work to get you.
Being PROACTIVE also doesn’t mean chasing, what 主動 means is that you take ACTION to get girls attention STRATEGICALLY, and slowly lure her in the seduction process, which I have explained in a few episodes before.
Also, about this girl. If she is SO indifferent, SO apathetic, SO cold about you,
why the fuck do you still try so hard to get these emotionless robots to like you?
Do you REALLY want such passive lazy inactive girl in your life?
What does that tell about your standards with girls?