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Hi Man,
Thank you for your previous reply and again thanks for your ongoing sharing via newsletter, Youtube and other materials which help me a lot in adjusting my mindset. Wish you every success.
This time I would like to ask about a dating yesterday which we meet each other for the first time. I know I did sth wrong but really wanna know how I can do better.
咁依個女仔係Friend 搭friend 咁識，個FRIEND 整係亙相交換左facebook比對方睇覺得OKAY 同比左電話我之後就開始WHATSAPP 佢。
當中都係傾D 基本了解對方GE 野，無D 太深入GE 對話。
咁傾左1個星期我就約佢出黎，咁都順利一約就出。
約左佢去某地方掃街食野 (諗住掃街女仔一定岩同埋右容易控制時間)，咁結果我地見左3個鍾左右。
頭2個鍾我唔察覺自己有咩做錯GE，我地亙相都有問大家一D 生活上GE 野(不過唔太elaborate 到太DEEP)同搵返我地知道對方GE 野黎傾，一DEADAIR 佢都有再開新TOPIC，都好似幾順利咁。
UNTIL she suddenly asked whether I am not a talkative person. I realized something goes wrong (maybe she thought i was too boring ?)
( i admit that i am not very talkative) but i answered at that moment: 一時時拉…有時男仔多野講會好8 婆架WOR….).
咁之後都好似無咩野，但去到最尾一個鍾個情況就唔同哂。
原因係佢睇一睇WHATSAPP 同講左個短GE 電話，就話有多幾個女仔 FD 都係附近會過黎搵佢，突然間好快就多左3個女仔，佢問我介唔介意大家一齊食野，咁我只可以話唔介意拉。
當時其實我個心即時已經聯想到好NEGATIVE ，不斷話比自己聽個女仔唔想同我單對單，想D FRIEND 黎緩和個氣氛咁 (雖然好大機會係事實)。
咁當然係個咁negative ge 心態下我都已經無太融入到個圈子入面，只係跟住佢地行同埋被冷淡對待，直至我都無咩引就話我都有FD 係附近咁我都搵我D FD 先，咁就完左，感覺上係不歡而散。
我想知我係咪頭2個鍾做得太差令佢唔feel interest in me ?
actually i just be myself and talk whatever i want (咁其實我地2個係唔夾 or 唔岩大家?)
另外佢D FD 黎到個陣我係咪唔應該咁快諗得咁負面?
如果我可以融入到個圈子成個情況可能唔同?
after 個dating 我仲可以用咩心態面對依個女仔?
係咁不歡而散GE 情況下(雖然應該都無下文 but i do like her personality and characteristics after meeting her for the first time as I know she is a good girl and still wanna know more about her if i still have chances or i can just move on)
Anymore advises u would like to suggest?
Thanks a lot !
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In short:
#1 Remember “dating” is not about “dates”, it’s about having FUN. So if you solely focus on conversations, it’s easy to fvck up.
#2 I don’t see “having her friends come to join you two” as a super negative thing.
It can be a POSITIVE thing in that she’s inviting her friends to see how you are because she’s attracted to you but want more objective opinion.
So it’s actually an opportunity for you to let others know you’re a cool guy.
#3 If you want to continue be friends with her, then have FUN ACTIVITIES to do together as groups, not just 1-2-1. Invite her to events you’re already doing or playing.
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