女人是如何心理操控男人?小心防範![兩性智慧]

巴打,你曾經天真地相信過幾多個女人會『兌現佢應承你嘅承諾』,之後某一日失望地發現佢竟然『反口』,跟住解釋話『你誤會咗/曲街咗佢當日嘅意思』呢?

自古以黎,人類歷史之中,幾乎所有當權者都係男性,而女人好少有機會攞到『表面嘅權力』,女人好多時喺古代都只係一啲可以『販賣嘅商品』。

所以喺咁樣嘅現實下,女人就必須暗地裡發展出一套『隱藏式嘅心理武器』,令佢哋隱蔽地攞到權力,透過一系列睇唔到嘅性誘惑/心理操控,去攞到自己想要嘅嘢。

咁所以男人嘅預設溝通模式,就係坦蕩蕩地『講自己真實諗法』,就係會『講得出做得到』,就係會『講口齒』『講義氣』『講滴血為盟』,會用理性邏輯直接地解決問題;

我哋嘅說話就喺鐵證,而男人會鄙視一啲『兩頭蛇/改變立場』嘅人,覺得佢哋唔可信,覺得佢哋『偽君子/真小人』。

簡單講:男人就係以『榮譽/honour』而去活,大部分男人都喺想做一個忠忠直直有情有義被人稱為『大俠』嘅所謂『真男人』。

可惜嘅係:當巴打你毫無警戒心地以自己嘅『榮譽/honour』而自豪期間,好多時你同女人對弈嘅時候,你都會有機會被女人濫用你呢種心理需要,而剝削你嘅利益同埋操控你嘅行為!

因為女人就係知道好多男人都想做『坦蕩蕩嘅郭靖大俠』,所以佢會識得透過自己嘅性誘惑,去影響你點樣運用你表面嘅權力,暗地裡達到自己背後隱藏嘅目的。

譬如話:當你唔肯妥協去幫佢做某啲嘢嘅時候,佢就會話你『個人都唔夠man嘅/太固執,少少嘢都唔肯改』;

或者當你唔肯『因為佢係女人,就自動尊重女人』嘅時候,佢就會話你『乜你咁大男人架!男人應該愛惜女人嫁嘛!』;

又或者『冇錯,雖然條女cheat你,但係都唔代表你要分手架,你肯定自己有問題啦!好嘢,馬明肯繼續保護一個會比自己帶綠帽嘅女人,佢係真男人呀!』

又或者『我鍾意成熟穩重嘅gentleman嫁,我依家個人大咗,已經厭倦players啦,因為始終搵到一個會錫我愛我嘅男人重要啲…』

簡單講:女人操控男人嘅方法,就係當男人唔係做緊有利女人嘅嘢,女人就會透過shaming/羞愧嘅方式,或者話你『真男人就應該做正確嘅嘢/do the right thing』等等嘅批評,

去攻擊你『男人嘅身份』,去嘗試改變你嘅思想行為,迎合自己需要。

亦都即係話:好多女人一邊批評話『真男人去晒邊』,說服男人『要負責任做男人需要做嘅嘢』;

但係另一邊同時就奚落踩低『極度man極度Alpha身邊大把女伴』嘅男人,貶損佢哋嘅名聲,批評佢哋『大男人/唔專一/淫蕩/唔尊重女性』等等。

我知道今集所講嘅嘢比較抽象,需要你去留意社會文化喺點樣困惑緊想MTFU嘅男人,點樣去用特定框架去影響你嘅信念同決定。

你要帶走嘅喺:男人嘅『榮譽/honour』喺好高崇並且值得學習,喺困境嘅時候我哋絕對需要一啲『有情有義,有犧牲小我成全大我精神』嘅男人,去保護我哋珍重嘅嘢。

但係,你要小心自己呢種心理需要,被唔合理嘅當權者/被你有性慾嘅女人去剝削你嘅利益,

去『一邊要求男人man up做領袖,一邊要求女性獨立平等』,慢慢操控你嘅一舉一動!

每次你感覺到女人攻擊你『夠唔夠man/係咪真男人/話男人應該或者唔應該XYZ』嘅時候,你就必須響起警號喇!

有咩問題嘅話,就like呢段片,subscribe落我哋MTFU channel,然後留言話我知啦。

如何挽留女人?分手後點溝返條女?[溝女Q&Ax3]

Welcome to another episode of 溝女Q&A, where I help MTFU fans weekly to briefly solve their dating problems.

If you want more comprehensive answers AND 1-2-1 interaction with me,

you may consider joining our Insider family because you will get all the dating/sex/relationship training materials inside.

If you are interested, go to www.manthefvckup.com/joininsider for details. Any Qs, just email us.

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Jacky W: 你好!我最近同女朋友分左手,我好想挽留她但她的性格比較任性,或者我在她身上沒吸引力了。她話唔想在比任何野束博,她覺得拍拖會阻住她做不到她想做的野。

其實我對她很好,她好鍾意周圍玩,她怕我對她太好會得寸進尺hurt到我,所以分左手,我想問還可以挽留她嗎?

#1 You can NEVER force a woman to stay in a r/p. If she doesn’t want to stay in your world, let her go. Be totally OPEN and always let them have options to leave.

That’s the most contradictory way to KEEP a girl who has genuine desire with you.

#2 Stop making women like you, start making them RESPECT you. Women don’t always fvck a guy they like, but they always fvck guys they RESPECT.

The real reason you FAIL is because you ONLY treat her well, and I bet you treat her well even when she did nothing to EARN IT or DESERVE IT.

From now on, if you ONLY treat women well when they have earned it,

AND if you only choose women who OBEYS to your rules/boundaries, I guarantee you will be able keep most quality women.

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Gag L:你好!Man神,我呢排就透過ig page到識到幾個女仔,但係問題就係交換到電話傾左幾句之後,就吾知講咩好,因為我又吾想好似見工甘係甘問佢問題,所以對於一個未見過既女仔可以講啲咩吾會令到佢反感呢? 令到佢更加會對我有興趣而會出黎我?感謝.

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Purpose of meeting girls online/real person and getting their # is to get her out on a quick date to see if you two vibe and meets your standards.

So once you have some basic info about her, and she seems interested in you, then you gotta get her out for a quick short coffee or drink.

You’ve not met her yet, you don’t know what she is like in real person, doesn’t make sense to waste time chatting because you IMAGINE she is cool.

So after a few exchanges of whatsapp, you’re teasing her and making her laugh, then seed for date by asking if she likes XYZ or not.

Regardless, invite her out and you will see if she REALLY is interested in you.

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Ken K:  Manson 上個月 我同一個拍左拖一個月既女生分左手 因為我經常唔信任佢 管住佢, 仲有我同佢一齊既時候唔會拒絕其他女仔同我傾計。

–> That’s good. If she is not entering your world and accepting your rules. She is gone. No girls is worth changing yourself for her.

分手之後,我仲可以做佢既朋友,但係我之後因為我嘈住佢,佢都對我好冷淡。

—> Wrong move. Stop being friends with girls, they don’t deserve your attention. Ignore girls who are NOT giving you want you want.

之後佢就將我block左 但我依家仲有聯絡方法可以聯絡佢(例如IG) 但搵佢既時候佢會已讀唔覆我

—> Told you. IGNORE HER. You are LOSING

所以我都冇chur住佢 但係我依家都仲係好鍾意佢 好愛佢,真係很想佢繼續做我女朋友。我應該點做先可以令佢做番我女朋友呢 係咪應該要製造真空期 (但我平時番學都會見到佢 雖然唔同form) 唔該manson幫下我 pls

—> That’s not fucking love, that’s neediness. And you say you like her BECAUSE the reality is that you DON’T have other girls as options.


What you do is to COMPLETELY IGNORE HER and DISAPPEAR, get OTHER girls, get her jealous, let her finds you again, give her minimal attention UNLESS she obeys, and you will WIN the battle.
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如何令女人濕?別經常給她安全感![溝女]

女人喺需要drama,需要戲劇性嘅變化,需要情感上嘅高高低低。

有private coaching client曾經問我:『Man神,我有次因為條女做咗某啲我唔鍾意嘅嘢,我勁嬲跟住爆咗佢一鑊,同佢鬧交。

跟住冷戰咗一星期,佢搵番我,同我講話佢唔鍾意我間唔中就會爆佢,覺得我好難捉摸,有啲驚。究竟呢樣嘢係咪好事呢?定係我要永遠都要冷靜面對呢?

巴打,你聽到呢條問題,你又會點處理呢?

Well,如果你問我,我會同你講:當條女做咗一啲你唔鍾意嘅嘢,間唔中喺預測唔到嘅情況下,你突然唔理佢/同佢鬧交喺好事!

點解?因為有吸引力嘅男人,就係一啲既可以俾到安全感條女,但又可以比到間唔中情緒波動條女去feel嘅男人。

只要你唔係日日都情緒化,只要你80-90%嘅時間都係一個冷靜sexy嘅性感型男;去到某啲位嘅時候,你絕對可以透過呢種『不確定性』,令女人繼續被你吸引。

但有一點你要注意:就係,你做呢樣嘢之前,你必須確保你已經建立咗一條baseline/基線,你要比佢feel到你本身喺一個『控制到情緒』嘅cool guy先;

唔係嘅話,你就會被人誤以為你喺一個有情緒病,極不穩定嘅人,令佢想避開你。

講到呢度,你可能會問:點解女人咁需要間唔中嘅drama呢?

點解女人唔想你100%哋『舒舒服服/預測得到』呢?乜女人唔係想你比到『安全感』佢咩?

冇錯,女人喺需要安全感,佢喺想要一個夠強嘅男人凌駕佢。但係,『安全感/令佢舒服』只喺一啲令佢想愛你/stay喺你身邊嘅元素;

如果你想佢keep住對你有性慾望去同你搞嘢嘅話,你就必須令佢feel到情緒起復嘅drama,令佢有一系列較強嘅感受包括嬲怒/妒忌/競爭/不確定性等等嘅元素。

表面上,女人嘅社會責任就係做一個好貼地+聽聽話話嘅照顧小朋友嘅人妻;

但係女人嘅心理,喺需要其他好好壞壞嘅strong emotions,例如講八婆嘢,例如妄想下啲浪漫小說或者白痴肥皂劇,又或者透過佢嘅男人去比啲drama自己令自己生命無咁悶。

所以男人keep女嘅好好方法:就係間唔中俾啲衝突佢;每次佢踩過你條界你就根據情況爆一爆佢,比佢知道你喺唔會容忍任何bullshit惡劣行為;

唔好永遠都『有耐性謙卑』地所謂『愛』女人,因為女人喺想要一個『又愛又恨』嘅男人!

仲有冇咩其他方法做到呢種效果?

當然有,我喺YT/newsletter裡面都教過其他巴打:『學識說不,你溝女先得!』唔好為咗『和諧/和平』呢啲概念而下下對女人say yes,因為女人其實喺鍾意你對住佢say no!

拒絕女人,喺令你建立權威與尊重嘅方法。

拒絕女人,喺令你長期吸引到佢,對你有性慾嘅方法。

冇錯,佢可能會因為呢件事嬲你一星期,呢一星期都唔想搞嘢。

但係,過咗一星期之後,番得嚟嘅女人就喺一啲接受你權威嘅女人,亦都係一啲會比起之前10倍更有激情地去同你上床嘅女人。

呢啲先係會極度愛你嘅女人,呢啲先係會忠誠於你嘅女人,呢啲先係你會想keep喺身邊嘅女人。

巴打如果你需要更多幫忙,去令自己嘅戀愛/感情/性愛生活更上一層樓嘅話,

歡迎你去加入我哋MTFU Insider嘅內部兄弟幫,因為我喺裏面每日都教導內部巴打比起今日更加高階嘅題材。

你有興趣話,就腥email去support@manthefvckup.com 索取章程啦,下集見!

點解男人鍾意大波大籮?與其他奇怪性癖好… [十億個邪惡的念頭 Ep.06]

Welcome to <A Billion Wicked Thoughts/十億個邪惡的念頭> Ep.6, 今集我哋會講埋呢本書Ch.3嘅下半部份,承接尋日所講關於『critical period/關鍵期』嘅嘢。

尋日講到:幾乎所有嘅性癖好,都係出現喺男人青春期嘅時期,科學家稱果段黃金時間之為『critical period/關鍵期』。

重點#1 科學家發現:當雄性綿羊被山羊湊大嘅話,年輕嘅綿羊就會喺『關鍵期』被山羊『性印記/性印隨』(即sexual imprint現象),將來會淨係想同山羊交配。

相反,雌性綿羊嘅『性印記』喺可以被扭轉,令佢哋將來仍然願意同其他雄性綿羊交配。

呢種『性印記』亦都出現喺斑胸草雀/珍珠鳥身上:

喺出生後頭幾個月至到一年期間會出現sexual imprint,令到雄性珍珠鳥將來會想搵返『似老母個樣』嘅雌性珍珠鳥。

換句話來講:當大腦對特定信號產生自然反應,令到大腦對擁有特定信號嘅對象產生『性印記』,就會產生cued interest嘅現象。

亦姐係話:如果男人嘅大腦直覺地迷戀女人嘅腳部,咁樣迷戀絲襪或者細頭高踭鞋嘅性慾望就會係男人嘅cued interest,因為兩者都係符合男人迷戀女人腳嘅信號。

所以某啲男人就會因應自己嘅成長經歷,青春期時接觸過咩女人,細個被邊類型嘅女人激發自己性慾導致射精等等,出現一系列唔同嘅性癖好,中意女人唔同嘅部位。

重點#2 點解男人咁鍾意大波有曲線籮友嘅女人呢?

對於生物學家嚟講,過份膨脹嘅女性部位喺被稱之為『ornamentation/裝飾物』;

而呢啲玲瓏浮凸嘅『裝飾物』,其實就係顯示呢個女人將來嘅生育能力,將來仲有幾多年可以健康地湊仔。

咁所以『裝飾物』就係一啲透過女性競爭演化出嚟;隨著男人對女人身體部位嘅興趣,女人就發展出越嚟越大+更加正嘅相應部位,吸引鍾意相應部位嘅男人。

有吸引力嘅雌性『裝飾物』,就係象徵健康/好嘅生育能力/後代有較大生存機率。

男人鍾意得嘅部份(胸/屁股/腳)全部都係被estrogen/雌激素影響,而雌激素喺同女人嘅健康同能量有關,所以男人嘅視覺信號,就係引導緊自己尋找具豐富雌激素嘅女人,去增加後代嘅生存機率。

最後關於『裝飾物』嘅重點,就係雌性『裝飾物』都包含一種女人獨有嘅脂肪,叫做gynoid fat,通常儲存係胸/屁股/大腿附近。

咁所以呢樣嘢就解釋咗,點解有時男人會鍾意肥妹多過厭食症極度瘦削嘅女人!

因為肥妹雖然其他身體部位都肥,但至少佢有夠多嘅gynoid fat;

但相反,太過瘦削嘅女人喺會停止排卵,喺不育同健康差嘅象徵。所以喺演化嘅壓力下,男人會傾向要肥妹多過要太過瘦嘅女人。

呢本書Ch.3嘅總結喺:男人嘅大腦設計,就係對於一系列嘅『視覺信號』(e.g. 絲襪) 產生性慾,然後根據佢之前嘅『性印記』,迷戀女人身體嘅特定部位 (e.g. 長腿)。

就好似BB鵝出世時,會將任何第一樣又大又會郁嘅嘢『印記』為佢嘅母親;男人嘅性慾程式,都會根據佢年輕時周遭嘅環境,而令佢對特定女人部位產生『印記』。

你年輕時嘅性愛經歷喺點,喺會影響你一輩子嘅性興趣,會令我哋將來不斷尋找以往某種嘅『性快感』。

呢個就係點解男人咁難抽離睇AV嘅習慣,因為鹹網喺可以比無限自由你搜尋符合你特定性癖好嘅影片,之後俾你無限skip無限暫停,淨係比你回味令你最high嘅畫面。

當男人嘅性慾被撻着嘅時候,就好難被熄滅,就會需要『馬上出火』嘅急切性。

講到呢度,巴打你又會唔會唔小心聯想起某啲火辣辣嘅畫面,令你突然有種衝動呢?

你唔需要話我知,但喺我哋下星期Ch.4講女人嘅性慾望之前,

祝你你身體健康,唔好咁容易被外界操控你嘅性慾,操控你嘅行為喇!

有咩問題,就Like呢段片,訂閱我地MTFU嘅channel,然後下面留言比我知啦,下集見!

男人的性慾是怎樣煉成?物化女人是正常![十億個邪惡的念頭 Ep.05]

Welcome to <A Billion Wicked Thoughts/十億個邪惡的念頭> Ep.5, 今集我哋會講下呢本書嘅Ch.3:男性嘅性慾喺點樣形成,究竟有咩因素令男人產生性慾等等。

重點#1:就好似公雞喺會迷戀母雞嘅紅色雞冠一樣,或者雄性狒狒迷戀雌性狒狒嘅鮮紅色臀部一樣;生物學家發現,原來男人都會迷戀一系列女人嘅身體部位。

男人嘅性幻想,喺比起女人更加『視覺性』,佢哋會比起女人更加記得性愛時嘅『視覺畫面』;男作家所寫嘅色情故事,通常都比起女作家多啲『視覺性嘅描述』。

咁所以男人嘅大腦設計,喺比係女人更加接受『視覺嘅性愛刺激』。

喺男人嘅大腦,Amygdala/杏仁核喺主宰情緒嘅,而Hypothalamus/下丘腦就係主宰性慾。當男女都睇咸片,男人呢兩個部份都會比女人有更加強烈嘅啟動反應,令男人更加集中。

簡單嚟講:視覺信號喺會激活男人嘅性慾,男人嘅大腦設計就係會『物化女人』,見到索女就會激起自己性慾!

重點#2:究竟全球嘅男人最鍾意女人嘅咩部位呢?

點解有人迷戀紅卜卜嘅烈焰紅唇,有人迷戀腳趾,有人迷戀大籮柚,有人迷戀纖腰,有人迷戀細腳,有人迷戀大波呢?

Well,作者舉出咗個日本例子(zettai ryouiki/絕對領域),顯示男人對身體部位可以有幾瘋狂。

所謂嘅『絕對領域』,就係一種御宅族嘅次文化用語,講緊『穿著迷你裙與膝上襪時大腿暴露出來的部份』,就係你喺女僕咖啡廳見得到嘅短裙。

作者解釋:某啲男人會用『1-10分』去劃分女人,某啲男人會鍾意36-24-36去形容女人;

而『絕對領域』嘅fans,就會量度『短裙:大髀肌膚:膝頭以上嘅絲襪』嘅比例,劃分E-A等級,E = 太多肉太多裙,A = 少少肉極短裙;

而標準黃金比例就係4:1:2.5(即8:2:5)。

重點係:作者發現呢種癖好主要出現喺日本男人之中,而每個地方嘅文化都會影響男人鍾情於邊一部位,

就好似印度男人鍾情於女人嘅腰部,維多利亞時代嘅男人就鍾情於腳踝,某啲地方就就鍾情於長頸或者大嘅耳窿。

但係根據作者嘅資料搜集,全世界嘅男人最普及中意嘅就有三個部位:胸,籮柚,同埋腳。點解某啲部位喺有普及性,某啲就無呢?

重點#3:有兩位心理學家 Joseph Plaud +James Martini,佢哋做咗一系列實驗,將一個叫plethysmograph嘅儀器,綁喺男人嘅陰莖;

然後不斷比唔同嘅相片佢哋睇,譬如裝有錢嘅錢罌,有著衫嘅女人,赤裸嘅女人等等,去量度佢哋有幾多血流落陰莖。

實驗目的喺去睇下男人嘅性慾望,係咪好似Ivan Pavlov/巴夫洛夫嘅古典制約/Classical Conditioning嘅原理一樣,可以慢慢將無關痛癢嘅嘢condition落男人嘅性慾到,令佢對一啲原本無性慾嘅嘢,都會變得有性慾。

最後發現:2/3嘅男人,最後會對錢罌產生性慾,顯示視覺嘅制約喺會影響男人嘅性慾。至於social conditioning/社會制約,就大部份時候唔會。

因為作者解釋,『胸,籮柚,腳』嘅性慾望,好多時都係跟住男人一世;但係對錢罌產生性慾嘅效果,過咗幾星期後就會大幅減退,出現extinction/消退嘅心理現象。

好多時,男人嘅性迷戀,通常都係出現喺『某一次嘅接觸』之中,而唔係『不斷重複嘅接觸』之中。

而且,幾乎所有嘅性癖好,都係出現喺男人青春期嘅時期,科學家稱果段黃金時間之為『critical period/關鍵期』。

『關鍵期』究竟喺講咩?點解以上提及嘅女性部位咁吸引?

點解某啲男人特別鍾意平胸或者肥妹?背後又有啲咩原因?

我哋聽日第6集就會講埋Ch.3嘅下半部份!

有咩問題,就Like呢段片,訂閱我地MTFU嘅channel,然後下面留言比我知啦,下集見!

女人摧毀了你的夢想?其實是弱男咎由自取! [溝女]

巴打你有冇思考過,有幾多男人因為『唔理解女人呢種生物』/『因為某條女』,而選擇放棄自己嘅夢想,摧毀自己巨大嘅潛能呢?

你自己身邊又目擊過幾多次,『男人將女人放為人生嘅第一位』,為咗所謂『愛/忠誠』,而捨棄咗自己其他想得到嘅事物呢?

呢啲故事聽落好浪漫,好驚心動魄,好似愛得好轟烈;但如果你夠理性嘅話,你會觀察到:

好多男人都係想學最少既game/溝女知識,跟住搵到自己夢想嘅靈魂伴侶,然後永遠放鬆喺一段舒舒服服一夫一妻嘅關係裡面。

好多男人都及不及待地想盡快搵到一條ok嘅囡,然後馬上commit落去條囡到,感覺就好似『唔認真拍拖/結婚就會死』。

或者一對一嘅戀愛或者一夫一妻制本質無錯嘅,但係好多年輕廿幾三十歲嘅男人犯上嘅錯誤:

就係正當自己打拼緊自己夢想嘅時候,正當自己建立自由嘅時候,佢會因為『某條女』嘅關係而好快放棄自己嘅野心/熱愛嗜好/同理想,好快願意commit落monogamy嘅社會系統裡面。

點解我唔建議35歲甚至40歲前嘅男人,咁快要性愛上甚至情感上要commit落一條囡上面?原因有好幾個。

#1 喺現今社會裡面,你仲係廿幾歲尋找緊自己道路,鋪緊路實現理想期間,你喺無可能有足夠時間同精神去維繫一段monogamous嘅關係。

每次要選擇女人VS夢想嘅時候,九成男人都會大小程度地作出犧牲,無論係犧牲自己嘅錢同時間,犧牲自己擴闊視野嘅機會,犧牲自己去外國進修深造嘅機遇,

定係犧牲自己可以揀一條更合適嘅女嘅機會。

你廿幾歲就因為一段感情而咁快出賣自己potential嘅話,其書就係你對自己整個人生最大嘅出賣。

#2 男人嘅價值/吸引力喺需要透過時間同effort賺取返黎。

好多年輕嘅男人,根本想像唔到自己去到35-40歲嘅自己可以變得幾有power,變得幾有魅力,變得幾有選擇權。

如果佢有growth mindset嘅話,佢就會喺自己事業上/嗜好上/性格上/能力上/兩性經驗上,多方面地有幾何級嘅增長。

佢會更加明白女人男人各自做嘢嘅動機,佢會更加識得『睇人/揀女人』,亦都會因此更加識得有智慧地選擇『最有質素+對自己身心最有益嘅女人s』。

整體黎講,女人年輕(30歲前)時喺最有say最有選擇,男人起碼要去到三十中甚至四十歲之後先會喺最有power最有吸引力。

你未去到自己高峯期咁快就下定論要同某條女exlcusive地一齊,你根本就係魯莽地做出一個將來會後悔嘅決定,你根本就係缺乏足夠資訊+智慧下去commit落錯嘅關係;

去到你50歲嘅時候你意識到原來自己錯過咗咁多選擇,去到你『中年危機』嘅時候,你又點會無慾望去出軌呢?

#3 重點喺:女人喺想要一個其他男人會羨慕想成為+其他女人想爭奪去屌嘅男人。

喺你未去到35/40歲之前,大部分男人都未能夠發動自己所有嘅潛能,去取得個人成就或者累積足夠嘅性經驗。

所以如果你醒目嘅話,你就會趁後生盡量唔好被『感情/感情責任』而束縛自己,唔好因為『女人/婚姻/甚至小朋友』而抹煞自己要創造嘅夢想。

去到你40歲左右,當你人生各方面都有一定成就,開始達到『閱女無數』嘅境界,當你已經性愛上已經操練咗20年,你無可能唔成為比起而家有10倍吸引力版本嘅自己。

#4 所以年輕嘅你,唔好太擔心某條女而家唔show你,唔好太擔心你而家唔似其他人咁『表面好似同條女好開心』咁。

女人永遠都係男人嘅點綴,喺你嘅add on,而唔係主要focus嘅首位。我絕對唔係叫你放棄溝女,亦唔係叫你等到30歲時業有成之後先開始game囡。

我講緊嘅喺:你年輕嘅時候喺無需要考慮『拍拖甚至結婚』任何exclusive形式嘅嘢,因為你喺未有足夠嘅成熟程度去睇清楚兩性對弈嘅真相,同埋你未累積夠實戰經驗。

你要做嘅就係:一方面打拼你嘅夢想,令自己建立越來越多社會權威同力量;

另一方面以non-exclusive casual嘅態度去同女人對弈。見多啲女,date多啲女,同時同多啲女親密先,你先至識得點揀女人。

唔好因為短暫嘅愛火或性愛快感而放棄自己嘅野心,比自己時間成熟同變得有性魅力,你40+歲時可以擁有嘅選擇就會無窮無盡。

如果你明白我今日所講嘅說話,而你又想學習點樣鋪路創造咁樣嘅lifestyle嘅話,就email我哋support@manthefvckup.com 索取關於Insider嘅詳情喇,因為我喺裏面喺會教導各位內部巴打嘅。

Any Qs, LIKE + SUBSCRIBE and then leave a CM below!

IG囡無再投票?如何慢慢unfvck自己?[溝女人生Q&A]

Welcome to another episode of weekly 溝女Q&A, where I help MTFU fans weekly to briefly solve their dating problems.

If you want more comprehensive, 1-2-1 interaction with me, you may consider joining our Insider family because you will get all the dating/sex/relationship training inside AND you can interact with me LIVE in our coaching calls and secret FB group.

If you are interested to get this 360 degree of help, go to www.manthefvckup.com/joininsider for details. Any Qs, just email us.

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Alex L: 我最近中意左個細1年既女同學 之前有次集體活動同佢吹左一陣水 覺得佢好啱我口味 嗰日我同佢由差唔多系陌生人變成左fd 應該系比較淺層既嗰種fd  佢間唔中系我ig都有投下票咁 有次同佢見面仲對住我甜笑

咁係呢個禮拜2,我屎忽痕whatsapp問佢英文名(因為平時叫開佢中文名)問完之後我個fd 就用我部機打「哼哼我以後就咁叫你架喇😊」佢之後whatsapp覆得有啲冷漠

之後個日咁啱坐小巴坐佢前面 咁冇理由唔把握機會搭下訕啦 我feel到氣氛好似有啲尷尬 冇乜嘢講 我系咁搵嘢講 佢又有應既 都唔算冷淡

但其實自從星期2 佢再冇系我ig 投過票 佢系咪知道左我對佢有興趣 ?咁糸咪好大穫?我應該點做去挽救?Thanks man

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#1 Not sure how old you both, but I bet that’s F.2-3. It’s good that you had chatted with her and got her IG/whatsapp, you had done most kids won’t.

BUT, what would you let your frd type shit to a girl you like? He is destroying your chance with her. That “I’ll call you XYZ” with a smily sound creepy.

#2 It’s super normal girls turn cold after being warm. That’s part of their game to shit test guy. But the real reason you’ve lost her is because you don’t ESCALATE to get a date with her + you keep talking random boring shit with her like a FRIEND.

Who cares if she votes on your IG? Who cares about these stupid 小學雞 game?

Rmb: Every time you give attention to girl, you need to pave way to escalate to the next stage. If you are not getting her out a date, you shouldn’t be contacting her. Got it?

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Denny Y: Yo Man,Follow咗你都一段時間 覺得你講啲嘢都好有用 好正!

我有個問題, 其實Take imperfect action 同indifference嘅態度應該去到幾盡? 定係需要一個平衡點? 以上兩個方法…其實有少少似, 人無恥便無敵 . 因為佢可以無視自己本身一切, 而作出不斷的嘗試及練習 .但如果自己本身的條件未符合, 只是靠不斷的嘗試和練習, 亦未必會成功.

你教我哋的東西, 好多都不是能夠在一時三刻內完成的. 例如 self love 去完全接受自己唔完美的一切, 又例如朋友唔多, 冇自己嘅social circle, 又例如有時自己都唔係咁開心, 出去玩都未必可以話好自娛自己, 又例如最近身體比較差成日都病, 基本上要成日休息, 所以連出去玩的能力都. 如果呢啲問題未解決, 係咪唔好識女仔住呢? Thanks

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Good Qs, I like that you’re self-reflecting on what you learn.

#1 “Taking imperfect action” = Understand we NEVER have perfect information to take a 100% perfect action. If we wait for the perfect day, we will NEVER accomplish anything – meet girls/build businesses.

It’s inevitable to make mistakes, so the best way to make sure you are making progress in life is to know 60-70% info of “what/how to do sth” and then take imperfect action to try it. Until you try, you never know what else you need or whether you will succeed.

#2 Indifference = care what you think about yourself MORE THAN what others think about yourself.

If you entertain everyone’s opinion about what you should/shouldn’t do, people will pull you into 360 directions and you will get TORN and get NOTHING done.

Indifference doesn’t mean you’re being 無恥 and exploiting others. Instead, it means you understand the importance of self-care, that you cannot HELP others before you help yourself, AND you can’t help others AS WELL before you help yourself.

#3 As regards “many things aren’t immediate”, OF COURSE. If everything is so easy and immediate, everyone will be a 千萬富豪 with 10 girls behind him.

However, difficult things don’t mean they are complicated. Every HARD skills or accomplishments can be broken down into basic fundamentals that you can learn, train and master.  

If there are so many good advice you learn from MTFU and don’t know which one to start with, just pick ONE THING to do that fits your current schedule most and improve your life the most.

E.g. If you’re physically weak, of course you need to get healthy and train yourself to have a strong body/mind first. If you’re broke and worry about money all the time, of course you need to get that handled before you have basic stability to game girls.

Know your priorities, make small changes and you’ll slowly UNFUCK your life.

何謂框架frame?為何女人必須走進男人的現實![溝女]

我哋點樣先可以知道自己喺控制到一段感情呢?

點解咁多男人『墮入愛河』之後,會變成一隻任勞任怨嘅走狗呢?

如果你要選擇exclusive一對一嘅男女關係,你可以點樣保持自己嘅吸引力呢?

One of my Insider brothers asked me what does a frame/框架 means and how we can apply that in our dating/relationship life.

If you don’t know, Insider is our private VIP brotherhood where I give ALL the necessary training, coaching and personal attention to help bros attain their ideal dating/sex/relationship life while building their empire.

If you’re also interested in that, feel free to send an email to support@manthefvckup.com to ask for Insider details.

While I’ve answered him in detail inside, let’s briefly discuss why men must always control the 框架 and let women walk into in.

#1 What is 框架? 每當兩個人交流時,某個人嘅框架總會係較強,佔主導,而另一人嘅框架喺會被吞噬然後被消滅。

所謂嘅框架 = 心理上潛意識嘅現實,講緊我哋以『邊個人嘅現實』去運作

所以你控制到框架 = 你擁有上拍位 = 你控制到大家之間對弈嘅『架構/骨架』

= 你個人嘅決定/慾望/信念,就會較容易影響對方

= 對方較容易『聽你話』

簡單講,框架本身並唔係力量,但你控制到兩性之間嘅框架就係你間接攞到力量嘅方法。因為邊個擁有框架 = 我哋以男人 OR 女人嘅現實去運行大家嘅關係。

#2 What influences our frame? 我哋個人嘅成長經歷,社會灌輸比你嘅concepts,個人心理狀態,我哋受到咩教育等等。

咁所以,你每次同女人對弈時,你一係以自己現實運行,你一係以女人嘅現實運行;而框架喺有流動性,邊個擁有框架喺會隨時間或者當時關係流動。

#3 點解框架咁重要呢?

因為就算條女被你吸引對你有興趣嘅話,如果佢唔係『進入你嘅框架』,你就會好快成為感情之中嘅被動角色,你就會成為一條『聽聽話話嘅老婆奴走狗』,你哋兩個做乜都會以『女人利益』為依歸。

咁所以如果巴打你感覺好似條女lead緊大家關係,條女特登控制性愛嘅yes/no,條女要求你做咗某樣嘢先會肯同你XYZ (e.g. 出街/食飯/陪你/搞嘢)嘅話,你被佢以任何原因friendzone,你接受大家暫時以無性朋友關係相處嘅話,

你就係處於下巴位,以條女嘅frame運作。

掉番轉,你想測試條女係咪真心對你有慾望嘅話,你就一定要佢進入你嘅框架/現實。

因為好多男士嘅預設值,都係將自己有興趣嘅女人『放喺神枱拜/女神化』,所以佢咁樣做就係間接承認條女擁有主導權,

就算條女『真係同佢一齊咗』,佢都唔能夠喺段關係之中有say,現實到自己想要嘅男女關係。

#4 This is the exact reason why I said that 表面上拍緊拖/結咗婚好似好幸福嘅男人,唔代表佢哋就係擁有健康理想男女關係嘅Alpha。

=> 因為大部份男人都係以女人嘅frame去運作,而佢哋亦都好無awareness地覺得『女人話事呢樣嘢喺好正常』,所以甘願做牛做馬做一個『唔被尊重嘅好奴隸』。

你可以睇得到,現今有勁多男人都係需要問女朋友/老婆『攞permit』,批准佢哋去見朋友/同frd飲嘢/去玩去social/去報告行蹤。

最可恥嘅喺,呢啲男人覺得『女人肯俾自由自己』去做呢啲嘢,就係佢老婆好體貼,搵到筍盤,但佢哋從來都無質疑過呢件事喺唔正常,亦唔健康!

#5 點解女人其實暗地裡想你嘅框架強過佢,想你凌駕佢嘅現實?

原因喺:當女人唔能夠從一個masculine/雄性陽性男人之中得到支配性嘅框架,條女 就會失去安全感,佢就迫住捨棄佢feminine/雌性陰性女人嘅特質,自己去WTFU去做男人嘅角色,自己比安全感自己。

意思係:女人喺呢段關係之中唔可以放鬆返一個溫柔體貼聽你話嘅小女人,佢就會迫住除咗喺繁忙嘅工作之中『做女強人』之外, 返到屋企都要『做女強人』:

對你呼呼喝喝,命令你做呢樣做果樣,禁止你做某啲嘢,而一系列方式懲罰你等等。

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女人竟然無興趣大JJ !? 終於有真相…[十億個邪惡的念頭 Ep.04]

Welcome to <A Billion Wicked Thoughts/十億個邪惡的念頭> Ep.4, where we will explore the CRAZY visual cues that arouses men. We’ll explore the remaining few points of WHAT kind of things men like to see in sex.

#1 Breasts are the most popular body part in sexual searches in every country, and the most popular category exclusive to heterosexual men.

A study in France used a padded bra to test how often men would approach the same researcher with an ABC cup when she was at a bar: A: 18 B: 28 C: 60

Although no mention of D-G cup, normally larger breasts are popular.

However, there are NO nipple-size websites or COLOR of nipples. Those are not influential visual cues in men.

#2 Men from a broad array of cultures prefer small feet on women. There are 276 foot sites on the Alexa list, and only one hand-focused one (Glove Mansion).

Why are men attracted to feet even though women decorate their fingernails with manicure to draw attention? -> Maybe searching for foot erotica are highly correlated with searches for bondage and submission porn. e.g. some men fantasize licking a woman’s feet

#3 Now, the common Q comes: Do women prefer bigger dicks?

Well… the answer from data is: men are more interested in penises than women + men are much more interested in large penises than women !

Academic Survey: 15% of women are dissatisfied with their partner’s penis size. 45% of men are dissatisfied with their own penis size.

Eye tracking study: When men and women looked at non-erotic images, men consistently direct gaze to male crotch, women rarely do so.

In romance novels, it’s rare to detail a man’s penis size. Only in porn does the penis is always under the spotlight.

9% of women wish they had smaller breasts; just 0.2% of men wish they had smaller penises. -> For men, penis can never be too big.

Why men care penis size so much, check out others and show off their own?

-> In apes, penis is a social tool. The erect primate penis is used as a sign of male-male aggression, to mark territory, and as a sexual invitation to females.

#4 One very popular erotic art in the world is Japanese anime porn (“hentai”).

The typical anime female is a high school teenager. Her voice is extremely high-pitched. She frequently wears school uniforms, complete with pleated skirts, vests, and saddle shoes.

She is often sexually inexperienced and reacts with embarrassment at the mention of sex (indicated by reddening cheeks).

Yet, despite all these vivid cues of youth, she is drawn with impossibly large breasts, a perfectly round and firm butt, a low waist-to-hip ratio, and small feet.

It’s most popular visual erotic art because is SUPERCHARGE all male visual cues, so that’s why men love to watch animated porn.

Now that we have a better understanding of what men like to look at, we can ask—why? That’s what we will attempt in the NEXT video.

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男人鍾意的性幻想…變態嗎?[十億個邪惡的念頭 Ep.03]

Welcome to <A Billion Wicked Thoughts/十億個邪惡的念頭> Ep.3, where we will explore the Main visual cues that activate male desire i.e. WHAT kind of things men like to see in sex. There are 6 major points of this section.

#1 Male 獼猴 are willing to trade juice to view pics of female monkey’s butts (monkey porn), rather than powerful males or friendly female faces.

Similarly, the most popular adult pay sites attract 75% men, 25% women. BUT

Only 2% of porn subscriptions are billed to credit cards with female names.  

Meaning: Willingness to pay for porn indicates men’s motivation to see images is STRONGER than woman. E.g. many high level management or government staff us taxpayer money to see graphic sex, even it risks public shame or lose jobs.

#2 AGE dominates sexual searches, adult website content, and porn videos.

Most common ages = 16 + 18. Then 50, 40 (MILF) 60 (GILF).

The single most popular search term in Pornhub is “Mom”

Why males desire older women!? -> It’s said that cougars are more aggressive at pursuing sex than younger women.

2010 study found that women age 27-45 have more sexual fantasies, a greater willingness to have one-night stands, and a greater willingness to have casual sex than women in other age ranges.

So 1/4 men who search for teens also search for moms.

How about GILF? 2 countries showing the highest interest in “granny porn” are Kenya (where young people are encouraged to discuss sexual matters with their grandparents rather than their parents) and UK (where many schoolboy’s first contact with a grown woman occurred when older schoolmarms spanked them).

#3 Bro, you do like slim women instead of fat chicks right? In fact, many sex scientists believe that a woman’s waist-to-hip ratio (0.7) is most appealing.

HOWEVER, data says that for every search for a “skinny” girl, there are three searches for a “fat” girl.  On the Alexa Adult List, there are 504 sites dedicated to heavy ladies, and only 182 to skinny ones.  

Why? It might be because  Many BBW (Big, Beautiful, Women) pornhave low ratio due to their excessive hip size.

But one thing is clear: toothpick-thin model women are rare in male targeted porn.

Q: Do you like play with breasts, legs or ass? Do you know which ONE body part that you’re paying attention to when you watch porn that might make you gay?

We’ll reveal some even more crazy data next time that may shock you!

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