月份: 2019 年 1 月

Bro, not sure if you have notice… we humans actually always create mental images/movies in our head.

We love to daydream, we love to think this and that irregularly, and our thoughts are NOT that linear/logical most of the time.

And that is why I always say the reason people say “i dun know what to say” is because they create filters in their head to STOP saying what they are thinking/feeling.

Now, do you know that you can use the same principle to create outrageous fun adventurous pictures in girls’ mind and get her excited and aroused?

Here what you need to do: Next time you talk to her, try to look for things that she say that you can turn into some crazy ridiculous fun adventures.

E.g. She says she wants to travel to Iceland this summer…

You say “Wow really? I have wanted to visit Iceland for so long…

Damn, you know what? Let’s go home tonight and get every savings we have, and fly to Iceland next week.

We’ll ride horses around golden circle, we’ll dip ourselves in hot springs in Blue Lagoon, we’ll hike along the waterfalls and maybe camp for a night…

…and then sadly I would stop treat you as my friend… because every night you are giving me BAD massage and cooking me BAD food to eat…

we would then argue and I would finally fire you as my personal assistant. Damn, why are you making me hate you again!?”

When you paint vivid mental pictures in her mind, she will either laugh and call you crazy, or she’ll play along with you and continue the ridiculous story.

This is a very powerful way to have playful conversations which paints picture in her head that you two will be together doing stuff in the future.

When you future project and add a teasing takeaway at the end, you will have a lethal attraction weapon to make her want to see you again.  

And when you later invite her out for real activities, don’t you think it’s much easier now after such fantasy? 😉

2 NEW announcements of MTFU’s directions! 😀

Knowing that you are about to break up with someone you’ve been together for a while can be SCARY, because most of us don’t want to make others feel sad or even cry.  

But if you know that your relationship isn’t going anywhere in the future, there are few guidelines you can use to make breakups as peaceful as possible.

#1 Do it in person

Sudden silence/disappearance & stop calling/texting is VERY immature way of breakup kids do, that’s disrespectful to the other person .

So do it in person, have a sincere chat and that will help BOTH of you grow and move on ASAP.

#2 Tell her what you are grateful for in the relationship

If you are conscious about your relationship and have developed it from a healthy foundation, both of you are going to learn A LOT from each other.

So it’s good to APPRECIATE how she has helped you grow as a person, and she has been played an important role in a chapter of your life.

#3 Let her know the logical reason for the breakup

A good breakup should include some thoughtful contemplations on whether the relationship is going anywhere.

So if you think your values/goals/personalities/directions/timing are not COMPATIBLE with each other,

if you two are going different paths, it is a better decision to separate your ways and let each other FLY with freedom.

#4 It is crucial that both of you STOP communicating for a long time.

This is because we must create mental space for each other to eliminate old anchors by each other in order to move on.

A good time frame is if r/p is 2 years, it takes around a year to recover.

You two can still be friends in the future, but that only happen organically if you DELETE/CUT her phone, FB, stuff to provide a clear mental space NOW.

=> Be thankful, be real, own the responsibility, end it if you know it’s not right

We have talked a lot about different ways of building ST in the past,

but today I want to share a little secret that 90% of men don’t know about ST.

And here it is: ST exists naturally between a man and a woman, especially when you are attracted to her.

If you and a hot-enough girl are alone in a room and NO ONE ever knows this, you two are naturally going to fvck.

#1 You probably have been in front of a woman,

and you can feel this electricity that “wow, i like her, i want to sleep with her” feeling, and she makes you aroused.

However, the common mistake is that MOST men will try to make her feel comfortable first, try to shut down that feeling of nervousness, pretend nothing is happening, and then escalate some days later.

#2 Understand this: If you diffuse ST because you feel uncomfortable,

if you try to hide your sexual desire because you feel shameful/wrong to feel that…

…you are only going to make a girl feel uncomfortable to be sexual with you and she will think that you are either gay or a beta pussy.  

If you really want to attract & arouse her, you need to STOP diffusing these ST.

#3 E.g. During conversations, when there is a pause or silence appearing for a few seconds, STOP trying to fill in the blank and say shit.

You should bask in that moment and enjoy those little you-me looking/ feeling each other moment. Those split-second is what connects you two.

#4 So bro, you want more girls?

Understand that ST already exists between the girl you want and you, and ALLOW yourself to bask in those extra second of silence, eye-contact, the look.

If you stop killing those beautiful moments, if you can be comfortable having high energy when social BUT also having slow/seductive/sexual/lower energy when seducing a girl,

then women will flow abundantly to your life!

One of the biggest strengths AND weakness of men is that they think LINEARLY. They always think stuff as ABC or step 1,2,3 and then FINISH.

That is understandable, because most men use LOGIC to operate in the world and naturally think things happen in a step-by-step manner.

But when it comes to attraction/sex/women, logic is the ultimate enemy because love & relationships are all about EMOTIONS.

So sex is not about hugging -> kiss -> tongue -> oral -> penetrate -> finish with man’s orgasm!

But real sex is cyclical／週期性, it is filled with CHAOS and UNCERTAINTIES.

Sometimes you start with oral, sometimes she cums a few times before you, sometimes there are multiple bangs,

but there is NO GUARANTEE that the same thing happens in the next time.

If you want to have great sex, stop aiming for certain goals like orgasms, enjoy being in the moment and FVCK however it feels right.

When you discard the formality, you two will have less stress, and sex will be a lot more pleasurable!

Rmb when I say 拍拖真正的目的 = R/p exist to MAGNIFY human experiences,

and intimate r/p exist to TRIGGER you so that you can GROW into a better human being.

Today I want to add another DEEPER layer: R/p helps us HEAL from our emotional wounds

Sometimes we heal our low self-esteem issues / sexual confidence/ feeling of not good enough,

OR deeper stuff like the toxic shame/guilt we have passed on by our generational family system/ toxic beliefs from societies etc.

R/P heals us most because R/P triggers us MOST emotionally because our partner’s certain emotions “anger/disappointment/breakups”,

which immediately trigger our past abandonment issues and our fear of “not being loved/death”pop up instantly!  

So apart from accepting & loving ourselves,

we also need to invite an intimate partner to give us an accurate mirror of WHO WE ARE and heal more from the hidden wounds.

Q is: Do you have the courage to let a woman enters your heart and closely reflects the truth about you?