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Jun T：Hey Manson, 我想問你既問題就係如何同喺職場上識既女仔相處？我知道你講過唔推薦喺公司亂搞男女關係、搞到自己又搞到人、咁係咪即係對住佢地要保持non sexual? Thanks.
#1 Yes, because if you care about your work or income, screwing with female colleagues only harm you. One, it’s impossible to separate private matters with company matters, any problems in r/p will cause problems at work.
Two, your other male colleagues or bosses are always a threat. Especially if you got a hot colleague, they are going to tease you and bully you at the work level. Your boss is NOT going to promote you as revenge. Too much drama, doesn’t worth it.
#2 Yes, just treat the girls as strictly colleague, nothing more. In fact, don’t even think she’s your friend because she is just a competitor.
You should always get girls elsewhere, most guys resort to female colleagues because they DON’T meet girls outside work. Just let other desperate dudes to chase while you make bigger money and meeting girls outside.
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J: 溝 (吸引)條女時點樣可以係Neediness同暗示對條女有興趣取得平衡?
太needy, 條女會覺得個男仔太低價值太易得到。太non attach, 時間拖太耐唔表示對條女有興趣, 條女又會覺得個男仔對佢無興趣而move on
如果同條女相處時有肢體接觸或增加sexual tension, D女又會唔會sense到個男仔其實暗地裡想溝佢而輸左呢場對弈呢 ? 想知當中點取得平衡
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Good Q. General rule is that you NEVER show interest verbally, but you keep escalating via your actions/behaviors.
E.g. Verbally, you can tease her for being stupid/weak, challenge her for being a boring girl with no passions, tell her why you don’t think you guys are good fit, When escalating joking say that “Hey be nice, you can’t get me on bed with that attitude.”+ takeaway.
But PHYSICALLY, when you’re on the surface NOT showing too much interest, you are getting her to dates, you are ESCALATING – touching her + isolating her + trying to fuck her + flirting with her sometimes.
That’s the kind of communication women enjoy. It’s okay to let girls feel that you’re trying to fuck her AS LONG AS you’re smoothly escalating, BUT also calibrating according to her reactions to see if you need to step back sometime for a while, and try it again.
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Daniel W: 最近同女朋友分咗手，一直以嚟我太focus自己 無乜點去care佢 到最後佢同我講話好大壓力好辛苦 想做返朋友 有feel再做couple
—> Such fucking bullshit excuses lol.
佢為我犧牲咗超多 亦都超愛我 超專一 分手後雙方係嘢講 三日後我有搵返佢 同佢講好多謝佢同我走過呢段旅程 會尊重佢意見 無刻意挽回佢。佢到依家都好嬲我，但佢啲fd話，佢短時間內唔想同我講嘢，會做返朋友，可以fol返佢ig，我想同返佢一齊 點做好
＃1 Damn bro, you actually ARE doing things right. You SHOULD be focusing on yourself, and the fact that she is PISSED that you don’t 挽留佢 means that you ARE doing the right thing.
HOWEVER, what did she specifically do for you? You said she loves you a lot, why did she sacrifice at all? Girls who REALLY love a guy almost always cannot leave him at all.
#2 Her friends are fucking you up. “can follow her Ig” WTF? Sounds that you are begging for that and she PERMITS you to do that?
DO NOT fall into this trap. She and her friends are trying to change the game. You had the upper hand before, but now you are losing. You should not have told her “thank her, respect her stuff”.
#3 If you now chase, you LOSE EVERY attraction point. Keep ignoring her, and let her follow your IG LATER, and IGNORE her friends toxic advice.
If she wants to be your gf, she NEEDS to obey and comply to your rules. Maybe you should pay more attention to her slightly, but DON”T make her your focus.
Keep focusing on yourself, that’s how you attracted her on day 1!