Many guys misunderstand the meaning of “being a cool guy”, sometimes being “too cool” actually limits your love life.
However, there’s a difference between showing interest in an attractive way and being NEEDY.
Here’s few things you can show interest in an attractive way.
#1 Praise Her values/interests/passions at suitable times
After you have light FUN with her and you found that you two can vibe pretty well, you are moving to the Screen & Qualifying Stage.
Meaning, you are screening to see if there’s any REAL EMOTIONAL CONNECTION between you two.
The way to do so is to to SCREEN in your mind to evaluate if she worth your time.
“Are we a good fit? Are we a good match?” ,
NOT “how to I impress this girl/ how do I get her to like me?”
Technique: Find out if she has NON-PHYSICAL Traits/qualities you’re looking for by asking strategic questions.
E.g. If you enjoy travelling and you do cherish people who has a spirit of adventure, you can ask her “So where do you like to travel most?”, instead of “do you like to travel”,
this is a POSITIVE ASSUMPTION that she also travels and see if she meets your standards.
After this screening frame,
if she qualifies herself and explains why she also loves that, you can just say “Wow, that’s really adventurous, I like that about you!”
You are relating with her, you APPRECIATE that non physical traits of her.
So you set up the compliment by making her EARN IT, then your compliment will gives her a nice feeling (if you add a little touch)
#2 Be Real, Raw and Open about yourself
Remember: Disclosure is disarming.
When you reveal slowly little unknown things about yourself, you are being COURAGEOUS and BOLD about showing your REAL self to others.
That’s attractive, as long as you don’t overdo it.
When you show your rough edges, your authentic imperfect self, you can easily attract people who are right for you and screen out those judgemental ones who won’t fit for you no matter what you do.
Plus, when you do this, you save so much time and energy going on dates with women who just aren’t compatible with you.
#3 If her first impression wasn’t amazing, but you feel that she has inner qualities that you cherish, consider giving her a second chance.
Sometimes girls may not 100% match your “ideal women” list,
sometimes she had a shitty day when you met her,
sometimes you’re too attractive in her eyes that she feel so nervous on her performance…
But if you are TOO QUICK to decide to NEXT her, you are missing the point of building a new relationship.
Very often, the best long term relationships don’t start with a dizzying high of emotions and happy brain chemicals. It often starts with a slow process.
Sometimes when you first meet her, you might not feel a huge urge to be with her. You might not have a crazy heart beat.
But the more time you spend around each other, things may MAKE SENSE that you two are making progress together and you find out that she’s making you a better person…
…so pay attention to what you feel as time goes by,
and you might be surprised when you have a relationship when you least expect it.