Remember when I said “Men need to first learn to be happy with himself when he is single, before he should embark on a relationship?”
That is true, because most modern men are fvcking needy and can’t take care of themselves.
And women naturally are repelled by these spineless weak nice guys OR purposeless YOLO fvckboys (in the long term).
But after you’ve learnt to be independent, why should we still seek an intimate relationship with someone who arouses you and loves you?
It’s because relationships exist to MAGNIFY human experiences,
and intimate relationship exist to TRIGGER you so that you can GROW into a better human being.
Being a lone wolf, a monk and hiding himself from the world’s temptations is EASY,
but engaging with these temptations/corruptions/ugly dirty shit while maintaining your sanity is HARD.
Being independent is GOOD starting point,
but learning to be INTERDEPENDENT, to work with people and to dive into intimate relationships is what makes you most vulnerable and thus GROW MOST.
Getting into a relationship is NOT just to be happy or feel less lonely,
it is to share your true self, your flaws, your imperfections;
observe WHY you are triggered by your partner’s behaviors;
and HEAL your emotional wounds so that you can truly GROW into a better human being.
So men/women, are you ready to take this challenge?