Bros, do think that those who have girls/gfs/married now are the Alphas and those who are single are Betas?
Well, if you do, then you have fallen into one the of most common mistakes of understanding sexual dynamics because the terms “Alphas” and “Betas” actually describe the mindset and behaviors of how you interact with women,
NOT whether you have women around (or whether you are a rich famous handsome celebrity who seems to have many girls e.g. Justin Bieber, Prince Harry, Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos).
So to assist you in understanding, I’ll share with you some common qualities a beta guy have so that you know if your current belief system is Alpha or Beta:
– Beta believes in romantic ideas, he always tries to find “his one soulmate” and tries to cling to one girl once he thinks he found her.
– Beta loves to support his chick and sacrifices his self-interest for her. He believes that’s what “real man” do and such sacrifice of self will exchange her love, loyalty and desire for sex.
– Beta wants to be a hero, he wants to “save a girl from her problems”, so he is eager to listen to her shit and help her solve problems
– Beta doesn’t mind to stay platonic friends with hot girls, he continues to give her attention/care in such friendship, he listens to her complaints about her bad bf, the reason is always he secretly hopes that one day “she will choose him”
– Beta has ALWAYS been loyal to girls, even before they start any relationships. He thinks that it’s “not good/unethical” to date multiple girls so he invests all of his energy/time/effort to get one girl at a time because he thinks anything other than monogamy is BAD.
– Beta AUTOMATICALLY respects women just because she is a woman, he does not screen and qualify women to see which women actually DESERVE & EARN his respect.
– Beta believes that open communication is the key to a successful relationship. They believe that women are rational human beings who say “exactly what she means” and disregards her contradictory behaviors. They use LOGIC to determine what she wants, tries to satisfies that, and expects she will then give what he wants.
– Beta believes he needs to “think/talk/behave like a girl” and stands on her side in order to attract her. He believes “rapport/harmony/common interests” with girls make girls interested in them.
– Beta tries to stand out by “I am not like most (bad/superficial) guys” and hopes the girl will choose him.
– Beta doesn’t mind long distance r/ps with girls because he believes that if he can be patient and wait for a girl to come back, the whole thing will be super romantic like a novel, she will be very touched and eventually comes back to him.
– Beta settles in a relationship. He is so scared of being alone/lonely in the future so he quickly clings to the only-girl who expresses interest in him and tries to get into a relationship asap so as to avoid “a potential loss if he doesn’t secure a r/p with her.”
– Whenever there’s conflict clash/arguments between a male and female, beta AUTOMATICALLY tries to shame the man or help defend the woman, (especially if she is hot), without paying attention to the facts of the issue.
So these are 12 common traits of having a beta mindset in regards to women, how many traits have you scored so far?
Now that you are aware of your current belief system, you might need help to eliminate these toxic beta mindset imposed on you by society.
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