I know a lot of you will not like what I say, but sorry not sorry, long distance relationship is NOT a real relationship at all.
Why? Simple.
It’s because there is NO REAL benefits you get from each other apart from texting and facetiming someone just like an old-school pen friend.
I am NOT saying such emotional connection doesn’t feel warm-hearted or sometimes happy, BUT a men-women intimate relationship DOES NOT EXIST if there’s NO SEX involved!
When you have a long d, you (especially men) will start to automatically ASSUME responsibility,
ASSUME that you must be LOYAL to this person for months and years, HOPING THAT one day when she comes back, you two still have the same romantic feeling.
The truth is: You are projecting an idealized image into reality, committing to a person and IGNORING all the real possibilities in front of you.
You don’t go out have fun with your bros because you said you gotta wait for your girl to Facetime you,
you don’t talk to other girls in your school/work/bars/clubs because you think you’re a FAITHFUL good guy who doesn’t cheat,
You don’t even ENJOY LIFE because you think you want to WAIT for the girl to have fun LATER.
In short, you just SACRIFICE YEARS of your life to keep a “soulmate true love” half the planet away, wasting each other’s life even if you guys are sincere and promise to be faithful to each other.
It is even worse than being FZed!
Because you’re accepting all responsibilities of being exclusive with a virtual girl BUT you never get sex or intimacy in person, you don’t even get to see her in life!
So ask yourself: How much opportunities have you limited yourself from experiencing just because of this INVISIBLE pen friend?
How many millions of case studies have you heard that even though the couple meets again, the girl tells you “Sorry, I just don’t have the same feeling like before” and eventually break up?
How many secret stories have you heard that while you think she is also sticking to the promises, you later find out that she actually fvcked another guy 3 months later after she left and has already had a 2-years new relationship!?
If you tell me that “No, actually we meet every 3-6 months for the past 3 years”, well… tell me honestly:
how have you been forbidding yourself from experiencing whatever opportunities – education /work/ sexual/ fun/ family/ personal growth – because you’re committing to an uncertainty?
Is it worth is to CHANGE how you live life just because you HOPE one relationship will happen as you wish in the FUTURE?
Your choice.