見到靚女失控,點放鬆?點解你咁想同女人講心事?

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Q: 話說我係一個啱啱入職既part time, 今日舖頭gathering完後,我同個已經有boyfriend靚女同事搭車返歸,佢問我有冇追緊女仔。

 

我即刻緊張,然後失控,我答佢冇因為唔想再hurt女仔,之後爆自己以前幾賤,又俾d對話佢睇,好似逼佢知我d秘密咁。

==> Needy behavior.

You want to vomit your history to her & get her to know you BECAUSE you want to earn her VALIDATION, LOVE and ACCEPTANCE!

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但我後知後覺feel倒自己錯咗,但我當時控制唔到自己,請問我以後仲應該點同依個女仔溝通好?繼續講心事?定收皮?

 

其實尼個失控既問題我一直都有,平時同普通冇feel既女仔conversation完全冇問題。

 

但當對住有feel,靚女就會緊張,然後失控,我真係好想克服尼個問題!以後遇到緊張既情況下應該點放鬆?同埋可以點解決尼個問題? – Andy

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Being nervous is not a problem, being not in control is.

Solution:

#1 Nervous = Excitement = Same biological response (Adrenaline)

#2 You’re idealizing her, you want her to LIKE you, which is NOT an attractive male attitude.

#3 Deep Breathing = activate parasympathetic nervous system = CALM you down!