Sometimes when you meet a girl, things may seem going well.
You guys are having fun, you guys may like each other, and it seems it’s natural to move forward.
However, if you are NOT aware of her past relationships, that could hurt your possibility of getting her commit to a new relationship.
So here’s a few important things you need to discover when dating.
#1 如果佢曾經拍過拖嘅話，你要慢慢發掘佢上一段感情係點解會散咗。
當然唔係叫你first date就即刻問佢關於ex嘅嘢啦，因為頭幾次見面都係集中以have fun為主；
但係如果你發現大家都幾啱玩，係你建立connection／做qualification嘅時候，你就要暗中尋求答案。
當然佢口中嘅原因好多時都只係真相嘅一部分，但係你都至少可以知道佢用乜嘢態度去看待自己嘅Ex，從而觀察佢另一面。
＃2 你要觀察一下，佢仲會唔會將自己Ex嘅嘢保留喺身邊呢？
無論係佢嘅首飾頸鏈，定係戒指耳環，又或者係佢屋企嘅佈置，
如果仍然係充斥住佢嘅Ex送畀佢嘅嘢，咁樣好可能係一種佢仲未能夠完全let go自己嘅Ex嘅徵兆。
當然你並唔需要逼佢即刻抌曬所有對佢嚟講有紀念價值嘅嘢啦；
但係你都可以暗示如果佢想發展新一段感情，佢都係需要放下自己嘅舊回憶，佢先至能夠健康地得到新嘅戀情，跟住你再觀察佢畀咩反應你。
＃3 另外一樣你需要發掘嘅，係睇下邊個同邊個分手。
如果係條女主動話分手嘅話，咁樣好大機會佢係已經對佢嘅Ex無感情／期望；
因為女仔肯主動講分手，好多時都係因為佢已經決定呢段感情唔work，對個男仔已經失去吸引力。
相反，如果係佢嘅Ex主動分手嘅話，咁樣你就要觀察呢條女對佢嘅ex仲有冇一啲好強烈嘅情感出現。
因為如果你講佢嘅ex嘅時候佢變得好emotional嘅話，
你都可以幾清楚佢仲未get over對方，佢都未ready好接受你對佢嘅注意力。
＃4 最後一樣嘢你要知道嘅，就係究竟佢哋散咗幾耐。
因為除非你係一個冷血嘅psychopath，
唔係嘅話對正常人嚟講，『分手』都係會影響到你嘅情緒，而且你係需要一段時間先至能夠治療好自己嘅心靈。
視乎嗰段感情嘅激烈程度同埋雙方嘅成熟度，通常recovery time都係一段感情嘅總時間嘅一半。
即係話如果拍咗拖兩年嘅話，對大部分人嚟講都需要一整年嘅時間先至可以恢復自己嘅心理質素。
咁所以如果對方啱啱分手你就諗住乘虛而入嘅話，雖然你都係有機會利用對方嘅hurt而同你上床；
但係就算對方即刻同你一齊拍拖，佢都只係利用你呢個人去填補佢心靈嘅空虛，而咁樣嘅做法絕對唔係建立健康感情嘅基礎。
Hope the above 4 signs will help you determine if SHE or even YOU are suitable for a relationship.
If you discover that either of you are NOT emotionally ready, then it’s best NOT to start anything new until you two are ready.