Do you know that there is a moment during a conversation where women will decide whether YOU are the insecure beta loser, OR the rare alpha guy with true confidence?
Well, if you feel that talking to girls is HARD because you can’t think of enough topics to talk about, the trick I am teaching you will solve your pain forever.
#1 Let me explain: Usually, it is a masculine man’s job to start conversations and give the initial push to talk as long as possible.
However, after a period of time, whether it’s 2-3 mins or 10+ mins, there will appear a critical moment that decides whether YOU or the girl wins the frame of interaction.
This moment is when the topic/conversation is about to die down, and you two can feel that the dead air is happening.
#2 Most guys in such situation will fvck up because they feel pressured to keep talking sth funny/interesting to avoid losing her interest, so they try harder to impress her just to make her STAY longer.
However, if you do that, the underlying subcommunication is that “You are lower status than the girl, so you need to keep performing in order to keep your Queen’s interest”.
Thus, even if you can muster something great to say, a girl subconsciously conclude that you are NOT a truly confident man she wants to sleep with.
#3 But you gotta understand: A conversation is supposed to be a joint effort.
You have already taken the responsibility to get started, but once there’s a vacuum period dead air, it is the girl’s responsibility to carry it forward if she feels like to.
So instead of putting all the pressure on yourself OR thinking “what is the right thing to say next”,
a confident man will NOT care if the conversation can continue UNLESS she is also interested to do, thus he will create opportunities to force her to contribute at least equally.
#4 So what you need to do in such dead air situation is to shut the fvck up, smile and look at her face with a “well, I’m waiting for you to say more interesting thing if you want me” look, and let her fill the silence gap.
Sometimes that pause will end in few seconds, but sometimes longer and you can definitely feel a crazy TENSION building up between you two.
#5 Most of the time, if your eye contact +body language +style are on point, women will fill the silence if they want you.
If not, maybe you can take a look around, take a sip of your drink, and starts to appear losing interest in her.
#6 After all, you won’t be interested in girls who don’t make an effort in talking to you, will you?
Most men don’t have the confidence to look at her calmly in silence, most men don’t dare to give women some chance to chase him.
But if you can handle that tension, if you are confident enough to create space, you will stand out immediately and girls can’t help but to chase you. 🙂