Hey brother, do you think you are a 正直有道德嘅好人? If yes, do you find yourself compelled to say yes and always help others (guys/girls) when they ask?
If yes, you have a nice guy disease because you don’t know how to set boundaries and say no.
#1 Whether it’s people asking you to help them because they know you are free in the weekend…
OR people seeking your advice because they know you are good at sth…
OR a girl wanting sex now but you just don’t feel like fucking her…
If you don’t learn to say no when you don’t want to do sth, if you don’t set boundaries for yourself, you will end up being torn apart by life, making everyone happy, but end up making yourself the most miserable people in life.
#2 Maybe you say, “But I am worried that if I say no, they won’t like me!”
Well, one, we can’t control ppl’s reactions or thoughts, and it’s everyone’s responsibility to take ownership of their emotions…
Second, if saying no once or twice ruins the r/p, maybe such r/p isn’t strong/important enough.
So understand: people who are meant to be in your life will stay, those who aren’t won’t.
If you don’t set boundaries for yourself, you are a weak spineless beta bitch who will NEVER be respected/desired/loved.
#3 So stop saying yes to social activities that you don’t want to go.
Stop staying in a bad first date when you don’t like the girl in front of you.
Stop fucking fat ugly chicks you don’t genuinely like or find sexually desirable.
If things are not a fuck yes, then it is a hell no. And you better utilize your most valuable asset i.e. time/attention on doing things that you genuinely love!
Further Resource: <When I Say No, I Feel Guilty>, to be touched in MTFU Insider