Hey bro, I have received some Qs in the past regarding how to help your fellow bros you care about with dating.
This is very interesting because as you learn more from MTFU about not chasing girls, most of your old friends are still staying in the old traditional way of chasing women.
Maybe they do have some success once for a while, or maybe they even have a GF/SP longer faster than you in the past, but you just know that they are doing things wrong even on the surface they are more “successful” than you.
So, how can we help our friends when you know they are entering a trap?
#1 NEVER try to help someone who doesn’t want to be helped.
When ppl don’t feel enough pain, or are just happy repeating their old habits, their minds are NOT open enough to receive new knowledge.
Anything that contradicts their current beliefs are going to be deleted, that’s called the confirmation bias/確認偏誤。
No matter how hard you try, they are just not going to listen and forcing help can hurt your friend.
“When the student is ready, the teacher will appear”. Don’t help them until they are ready to receive it.
#2 Let your own actions/results speak louder than words.
NEVER point fingers to your friends that what they are doing are WRONG.
Because whenever we directly reject others, they are going to act defensive and they will FIGHT your ideas.
Understand: In their current model of the world, they think what they are doing is right. They are doing “what they think is best” based on what they know from society.
So when you say they are wrong, it feels like telling some religious ppl that God doesn’t exist. They either think you are crazy or speaking alien language.
So just do your own thing and let your results speak for themselves. Whether they decide to join you is up to them, don’t force it.
#3 In conclusion, everyone has their own path/lessons they need to go through.
Give them the freedom to fvck up a relationship,
give them the freedom to experience the pain of breakup or being cheated,
give them the freedom to waste money on girls and get divorced at 50…
When they hit rock bottom and they put up their hand for help, only then should you give them a hand to uplift them.
If you want to save the world, save yourself first and make yourself NOT a liability – health, relationships, wealth !